This document provides advice for dealing with an overdramatic person who won't stop complaining. It recommends listening without fueling their drama, asking positive questions to shift the focus from problems to solutions, being blunt if they refuse to set goals or take responsibility, and not apologizing if the friendship ends as a result of confronting their behavior. The overall message is how to have a difficult conversation to help the person move from only complaining to taking constructive actions.

1. Yo listen up because I’m going to
show you guys how to get through a
conversation with someone who is
way overdramatic and won’t stop
complaining
By: carryonmywaywardwholock
(with advice I got from a pal)

2. Make sure they know you are available
to listen
As much as you don’t want to, you should still
be there for them because you’re probably their
friend and you don’t want to be seen as the jerk
in this situation okay?

3. Try not to say anything that will fuel
their drama and don’t argue with
them.
If they’re complaining about not getting into
university and that university = a future and a
future = not being homeless so no university =
being homeless…
Don’t argue with them about that. That fuels
their drama.

4. Ask positive questions.
In the last example I used someone complaining about not
getting into university. Let’s keep going with that example.
Ask questions that should spark positive answers.
“What are you going to do to make sure you go to
university?”
“If you don’t get accepted this year, what are you going to do
about it?”
“What will you do to make sure you get a job and won’t be
homeless?”
These questions should get the person thinking about goals
they can set for themselves and solutions to their problems.

5. MOVE THE CONVERSATION AWAY
FROM “WOE IS ME” TO “WHAT CAN
WE DO ABOUT THIS?”
Less complaining, more action!

6. Don’t take it personally if they blame
you or insult you.
Yes, it hurts, especially if it comes from your best
friend. But don’t take it personally, because in
the long run, if they’re willing to admit they
were wrong, they will thank you.
If you end up losing this friend, good. You don’t
need to be friends with someone who sucks the
energy out of you.

7. What if the person simply will not set
goals and refuses to do anything?
Then it is time to be blunt with them. Tell them that what they
are saying is overdramatic, childish, ridiculous, not productive,
etc.
However do it in a way that isn’t too mean, like don’t swear at
them or punch them in the face afterwards. It’s tough love,
you’re telling them this because they need to hear it, not
because you feel like insulting them.
For example,
(I had to send this to a friend):

8. The person will probably stop talking
to you after this.
When this happens, all you can do is be patient
and wait.
In case you’re wondering, you don’t have to
apologize for anything. That would be wrong,
especially if you haven’t said anything wrong.

9. The end
If you need anymore help, feel free to shoot me
a message in my inbox, I’ll be sure to read it and
get back to you.
I hope you learned something from this!
-carryonmywaywardwholock