1. X3pure Series: Chapter 6
Sexuality & Sexual Misuse
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2. Sexual Misuse
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3. Sexual Misuse
• Sexual abuse is about what happens
to you, but sexual misuse is about
what you do to yourself
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4. Obedience & Lies
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5. Obedience & Lies
• Obeying God 100%
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6. Obedience & Lies
• Obeying God 100%
• You can live with 99.9% of the truth
but that fraction of a lie can destroy
you
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7. Obedience & Lies
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8. Obedience & Lies
• “Because I love him I should give
myself to him”
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9. Obedience & Lies
• “Because I love him I should give
myself to him”
• Self-manipulation and rationalization
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10. Obedience & Lies
• “Because I love him I should give
myself to him”
• Self-manipulation and rationalization
• “A little obedience isn’t total
disobedience”
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11. Commandments,
Principles & Preferences
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12. Commandments,
Principles & Preferences
• Commandments:
The 10 Commandments
(clearly taught)
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13. Commandments,
Principles & Preferences
• Commandments:
The 10 Commandments
(clearly taught)
• Principles: Drinking wine
(no clear commandment)
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14. Commandments,
Principles & Preferences
• Commandments:
The 10 Commandments
(clearly taught)
• Principles: Drinking wine
(no clear commandment)
• Preferences: Wearing skirts
(not mentioned in Scripture)
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15. Commandments,
Principles & Preferences
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16. Commandments,
Principles & Preferences
• We’re preaching preferences as
commandments and we’ve gotten
away from preaching commandments
at all
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17. Commandments,
Principles & Preferences
• We’re preaching preferences as
commandments and we’ve gotten
away from preaching commandments
at all
• Commandment against adultery
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18. Commandments,
Principles & Preferences
• We’re preaching preferences as
commandments and we’ve gotten
away from preaching commandments
at all
• Commandment against adultery
• There is no reason we should be
able to rationalize having sex before
marriage
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19. Restoring Sexuality
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20. Restoring Sexuality
• Ruth & Esther
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21. Restoring Sexuality
• Ruth & Esther
• Esther spent 12 months in
preparation for her king (Esther 2:12-13)
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22. Restoring Sexuality
• Ruth & Esther
• Esther spent 12 months in
preparation for her king (Esther 2:12-13)
• Physical, spiritual and emotional
preparation
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23. Restoring Sexuality
• Ruth & Esther
• Esther spent 12 months in
preparation for her king (Esther 2:12-13)
• Physical, spiritual and emotional
preparation
• Once we open the door to sex, God
never intended for it to be closed
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24. Restoring Sexuality
• Ruth & Esther
• Esther spent 12 months in
preparation for her king (Esther 2:12-13)
• Physical, spiritual and emotional
preparation
• Once we open the door to sex, God
never intended for it to be closed
• To have to start and stop as a result
of disobedience is one of the greatest
consequences
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25. Spiritual Fruit
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26. Spiritual Fruit
• A tree is known by its fruit (Matthew 12:33)
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27. Spiritual Fruit
• A tree is known by its fruit (Matthew 12:33)
• Faithfulness, self-control, long-suffering
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28. Spiritual Fruit
• A tree is known by its fruit (Matthew 12:33)
• Faithfulness, self-control, long-suffering
• Faithfulness to God until he brings
your covenant partner to you
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29. Spiritual Fruit
• A tree is known by its fruit (Matthew 12:33)
• Faithfulness, self-control, long-suffering
• Faithfulness to God until he brings
your covenant partner to you
• Self-control: Deliverance is just
operating in foresight
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30. Spiritual Fruit
• A tree is known by its fruit (Matthew 12:33)
• Faithfulness, self-control, long-suffering
• Faithfulness to God until he brings
your covenant partner to you
• Self-control: Deliverance is just
operating in foresight
• Long-suffering: Patience with the
process
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31. Giving & Taking
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32. Giving & Taking
• Sex outside of God’s plan doesn’t
give us anything, it just takes
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33. Giving & Taking
• Sex outside of God’s plan doesn’t
give us anything, it just takes
• The enemy comes to steal kill and
destroy (John 10:10)
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34. Giving & Taking
• Sex outside of God’s plan doesn’t
give us anything, it just takes
• The enemy comes to steal kill and
destroy (John 10:10)
• Giving your virginity
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35. Giving & Taking
• Sex outside of God’s plan doesn’t
give us anything, it just takes
• The enemy comes to steal kill and
destroy (John 10:10)
• Giving your virginity
• The enemy can counterfeit a gift and
a gift can become a curse
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36. Balancing Crowns
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37. Balancing Crowns
• Queens Cannot Balance Crowns on
Their Back
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38. Balancing Crowns
• Queens Cannot Balance Crowns on
Their Back
• Do not give what’s holy to the dogs,
do not cast your pearls before swine
(Matthew 7:6)
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39. Balancing Crowns
• Queens Cannot Balance Crowns on
Their Back
• Do not give what’s holy to the dogs,
do not cast your pearls before swine
(Matthew 7:6)
• A man should have to work to gain
access to our royalty
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40. Death
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41. Death
• Desire leads to sin, which then
grows and brings death (James 1:4-16)
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42. Death
• Desire leads to sin, which then
grows and brings death (James 1:4-16)
• Death of friendships
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43. Death
• Desire leads to sin, which then
grows and brings death (James 1:4-16)
• Death of friendships
• Death of children
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44. Death
• Desire leads to sin, which then
grows and brings death (James 1:4-16)
• Death of friendships
• Death of children
• Death of time
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45. Death
• Desire leads to sin, which then
grows and brings death (James 1:4-16)
• Death of friendships
• Death of children
• Death of time
• Are your sexual choices leading to
life or to death?
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46. Safe Sex
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47. Safe Sex
• Safe sex = abstinence?
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48. Safe Sex
• Safe sex = abstinence?
• Safe sex = marriage
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49. Safe Sex
• Safe sex = abstinence?
• Safe sex = marriage
• Safe living as a single person is
abstinence
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50. Safe Sex
• Safe sex = abstinence?
• Safe sex = marriage
• Safe living as a single person is
abstinence
• Safe People, Henry Cloud & John
Townsend
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51. Safe Sex
• Safe sex = abstinence?
• Safe sex = marriage
• Safe living as a single person is
abstinence
• Safe People, Henry Cloud & John
Townsend
• Love yourself enough to want to wait
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52. Liberty
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53. Liberty
• Do not use liberty for the flesh but
through love to serve one another
(Galatians 5:13)
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54. Liberty
• Do not use liberty for the flesh but
through love to serve one another
(Galatians 5:13)
• A guy will respect you more if you
wait
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55. Liberty
• Do not use liberty for the flesh but
through love to serve one another
(Galatians 5:13)
• A guy will respect you more if you
wait
• God is wooing us back to him
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56. Liberty
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57. Liberty
• The freedom God gives us is so that
we can love and serve
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58. Liberty
• The freedom God gives us is so that
we can love and serve
• Love is patient (1 Corinthians 13:4)
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59. Liberty
• The freedom God gives us is so that
we can love and serve
• Love is patient (1 Corinthians 13:4)
• True freedom in waiting
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