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X3 family session 4

  1. 1. X3 Rock Your FamilyJanuary 14
  2. 2. X3 Rock Your Family Session 4: Iʼm the Parent... ...dealing with teenagersJanuary 14
  3. 3. Ten Commandments of Rock Your FamilyJanuary 14
  4. 4. Ten Commandments of Rock Your Family • Commandment #1: I am the parent and you are notJanuary 14
  5. 5. Ten Commandments of Rock Your Family • Commandment #1: I am the parent and you are not • What does it look like to train/instruct and build a relationship with your teenagers?January 14
  6. 6. I Am The ParentJanuary 14
  7. 7. I Am The Parent • At 13, teens become addicted to freedomJanuary 14
  8. 8. I Am The Parent • At 13, teens become addicted to freedom • They are becoming adultsJanuary 14
  9. 9. I Am The Parent • At 13, teens become addicted to freedom • They are becoming adults • We should expect them to pull awayJanuary 14
  10. 10. I Am The Parent • At 13, teens become addicted to freedom • They are becoming adults • We should expect them to pull away • They have toJanuary 14
  11. 11. I Am The ParentJanuary 14
  12. 12. I Am The Parent • Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against itJanuary 14
  13. 13. I Am The Parent • Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it • Allow them freedom to choose their valuesJanuary 14
  14. 14. I Am The Parent • Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it • Allow them freedom to choose their values • This creates tensionJanuary 14
  15. 15. I Am The Parent • Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it • Allow them freedom to choose their values • This creates tension • Engage with themJanuary 14
  16. 16. I Am The ParentJanuary 14
  17. 17. I Am The Parent • This is the age when you start asking tons of questionsJanuary 14
  18. 18. I Am The Parent • This is the age when you start asking tons of questions • With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion”January 14
  19. 19. I Am The Parent • This is the age when you start asking tons of questions • With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion” • You enter their worldJanuary 14
  20. 20. I Am The Parent • This is the age when you start asking tons of questions • With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion” • You enter their world • To engage with them means to pursue themJanuary 14
  21. 21. I Am The ParentJanuary 14
  22. 22. I Am The Parent • If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your daughtersJanuary 14
  23. 23. I Am The Parent • If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your daughters • A way to cultivate a relationship with your teen is to listenJanuary 14
  24. 24. I Am The ParentJanuary 14
  25. 25. I Am The Parent • Get them to talkJanuary 14
  26. 26. I Am The Parent • Get them to talk • Donʼt judge their answersJanuary 14
  27. 27. I Am The Parent • Get them to talk • Donʼt judge their answers • Donʼt critique or complainJanuary 14
  28. 28. I Am The Parent • Get them to talk • Donʼt judge their answers • Donʼt critique or complain • The key is to build the relationshipJanuary 14
  29. 29. HomeworkJanuary 14
  30. 30. Homework • Go to your teen and apologizeJanuary 14
  31. 31. Homework • Go to your teen and apologize • Write down three ways you can engage with your teenJanuary 14

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