Research and Writing on Parenting Rough Draft
Tyvesia Shingles
Professor Clark
November 19, 2018
Research and Writing on Parenting Rough Draft
Introduction
Parenting is one of the critical practices that adults can do to contribute to society positively. It entails the act of supporting and promoting the social, emotional, intellectual, and physical development of a child from childhood to adulthood. For one to parent; one does not need to be a biological parent of a child, but as long as one is an adult, he/she has the duty of executing parenting tasks to the child. However, some individuals feel that parenting should only be done by the biological parents or guardians directly taking care of children. Of importance and something that almost everybody agrees with is that a society is made up of people and the type of people in a community determined who ethical, moral, and organized that society would be. Good morals and behaviors should be learned first from home which is a small society under the guidance and leadership of parents. It is for this reason that I take the position that it takes good parenting to start, develop, and maintain a healthy family that would make positive contributions to society. This draft shall focus on providing supporting ideas and evidence as well as counter ideas.
Supporting arguments
Children are born in a vulnerable state where they do not know or believe in anything. Parents and guardians taking care of these children are the first people that children get acquainted with and try to learn from them. This means that children naturally develop high trust, confidence, and reliability on the people they perceive as their parents, and it is for this reason that the style of parenting a parent opts to use determines how the child would grow up and the type of person that the child would become in the future. According to Shah, & De Sousa, (2015); parents are responsible for their children and should invest in any way that they believe and feel would benefit the family. The reason is that what a child learns when growing up is the same thing that the child would use in the future and share with the other people that the child will come across. For instance, if a child is taught how to respect other people and the parent is also respectful in all aspect, the child is likely also to be respectful to his/her parents and members of the society. The more reason is that the article claims that whatever a child is given is the same thing that he/she gives back in return.
According to Sinno, Schuette, & Hellriegel, (2017) parenting is of different types and the type of parenting style that a parent opts to use determines the outcome of the child. If a parent makes use of good parenting style, the family and the society will have a good person as a child and as an adult that will positively impact the society. When a parent is too strict and dictates to the child, the style of parenting makes the child develop ...
Research and Writing on Parenting Rough DraftTyvesia Shingle
1. Research and Writing on Parenting Rough Draft
Tyvesia Shingles
Professor Clark
November 19, 2018
Research and Writing on Parenting Rough Draft
Introduction
Parenting is one of the critical practices that adults can do to
contribute to society positively. It entails the act of supporting
and promoting the social, emotional, intellectual, and physical
development of a child from childhood to adulthood. For one to
parent; one does not need to be a biological parent of a child,
but as long as one is an adult, he/she has the duty of executing
parenting tasks to the child. However, some individuals feel that
parenting should only be done by the biological parents or
guardians directly taking care of children. Of importance and
something that almost everybody agrees with is that a society is
made up of people and the type of people in a community
determined who ethical, moral, and organized that society
would be. Good morals and behaviors should be learned first
from home which is a small society under the guidance and
leadership of parents. It is for this reason that I take the
position that it takes good parenting to start, develop, and
maintain a healthy family that would make positive
contributions to society. This draft shall focus on providing
supporting ideas and evidence as well as counter ideas.
2. Supporting arguments
Children are born in a vulnerable state where they do not know
or believe in anything. Parents and guardians taking care of
these children are the first people that children get acquainted
with and try to learn from them. This means that children
naturally develop high trust, confidence, and reliability on the
people they perceive as their parents, and it is for this reason
that the style of parenting a parent opts to use determines how
the child would grow up and the type of person that the child
would become in the future. According to Shah, & De Sousa,
(2015); parents are responsible for their children and should
invest in any way that they believe and feel would benefit the
family. The reason is that what a child learns when growing up
is the same thing that the child would use in the future and
share with the other people that the child will come across. For
instance, if a child is taught how to respect other people and the
parent is also respectful in all aspect, the child is likely also to
be respectful to his/her parents and members of the society. The
more reason is that the article claims that whatever a child is
given is the same thing that he/she gives back in return.
According to Sinno, Schuette, & Hellriegel, (2017) parenting is
of different types and the type of parenting style that a parent
opts to use determines the outcome of the child. If a parent
makes use of good parenting style, the family and the society
will have a good person as a child and as an adult that will
positively impact the society. When a parent is too strict and
dictates to the child, the style of parenting makes the child
develop a negative attitude. Moreover, children are also human,
and they appreciate being heard, when dictatorship type of
parenting is applied, it causes more harm to the child than good
(Carbines, Dickinson, & McKenzie-Green, 2017). It is even
more hazardous when the parent adopts and uses the ignorant
style of parenting because the child is left to do what he/she
3. desired to lead to irresponsible decisions. Permissive style
though it allows communication to take place but also denies
the parent the chance to apply balanced power (Bartholomeu et
al., 2016). Permissive style of parenting is not an advisable
style that parents should rely on because children can only be
shaped through the parent's power over their child being felt in
the right way. Listening to the children without making the right
move might not have any impact, and the child might never
learn.
However, the authoritative style of parent is the best that
parents should learn and apply (Rezai Niaraki, & Rahimi, 2013).
The reason is that it allows open communication to take place
and expectations are set to clear which the children are aware
and informed on how to achieve them. It is also a style that
allows punishment to be applied where due and also ample
support and encouragement from the parent which children need
for stable and reliable growth to be realized (Bartholomeu et al.,
2016). Moreover, it is the open communication and application
of true parental power that enables the children to learn the
vital social skills that further helps in eliminating levels of
vulnerability and children learn how to become independent and
defend themselves.
Counter perspective
There are people in society who do not agree that good
parenting is all that is required to build and sustain a healthy
family that would eventually make a positive contribution to
society. An example of these people is Gelber, & Isen, (2011);
who claims that the investment that parents’ make in their
children’s life has nothing to do with what children do or
becomes in the future. In the article, the author claims that the
life of a person from childhood to adulthood is surrounded by a
lot of other factors from where the child can learn and opt to
emulate. The author gives an example of a situation where the
4. parent is a religious person and makes use of the best parenting
styles and is always there for his/her children to offer any
support needed. Upon the children joining higher learning
institution, the child is carried away by peer pressure and
befriends other children who introduce the child to drugs and
unethical behaviors like alcoholism and smoking (Gelber, &
Isen, 2011). Eventually, the child ends up becoming an immoral
person who terrorizes and threatens people in the society while
at the parents played their role effectively. Thus, the author
concludes that parents can play their role in the way they know
how but it is the decision that the child makes when growing up
or as an adult on what he/she wants to become that determines
the type of person that the family and society will have.
According to Rezai Niaraki, & Rahimi, (2013); it is not a must
for a person to go through parenting for the child to become a
reasonable person in society. The author provides examples of
situations where parents die during childbirth or others are born
in the streets where parenting is a hard thing to execute. There
are many cases of children who have no parenting experience,
and they have become essential and renowned members of the
society for their good deeds. Hence, the author claims that if
society can be a role model as a whole, parenting has no impact
on the life of a child whatsoever. Moreover, Carrillo et al.,
(2016); claims that some parents have lousy living habits, for
instance prostituting, alcoholism, and drug addiction and
despite their behavior, they give birth to children who gradually
learn and feel that their parents are not morally upright. Without
the help of their parents they follow a different route and
become better members of society than their parents.
Conclusion
Parenting is a good thing that parents should take pride in while
executing. It is a role that grants a person a free chance to
5. develop and make another generation, and the parent has the
opportunity of determining the kind of future generation that the
world will have. Parents are the closest people that children
have whether biological or adopted, and the information and
example that the parents share with the children have a high
chance of determining how and what the child would grow to
become. Parenting is the only thing that provides the child with
all the necessities that would enable the child to grow and
become a responsible member of society.
Nevertheless, it all depends on the amount of investment that
the parent of the person taking care of the child is willing to
invest. Limited or no investment on parenting would affect the
child negatively as well as the society, and a good investment
leads to a positive impact of the child. Thus, if society needs
good families and members, it is crucial to improving parenting
to form a solid and reliable foundation in children. It is of
importance to note that there are opinions that have been raised
that do not support the supported claim. Some people have
raised objections against the idea of parenting being an overall
pillar that determines the kind of a person that the child would
grow up to become. There is substantial evidence provided for
instance, a child being brought up in the right manner only to
become an irresponsible, immoral, and evil person that is
considered a threat by the family and the society. It is essential
in the future to research and understands the various possible
factors that affect a child growing up apart from parenting to
understand the overall concept of the factors that play a role in
developing a personality.
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