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Margaret martin 2009 Annual Statistics Launch


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Margaret Martin, Director, presents the Women's Aid main findings from the 2009 Annual Statistics Report.

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Margaret martin 2009 Annual Statistics Launch

  1. 1. Women’s Aid Annual Statistics 2009 Margaret Martin Director Women’s Aid
  2. 4. Types of Abuse <ul><li>Emotional Abuse: </li></ul><ul><li>Women having their mobile phone logs checked and text messages read. </li></ul><ul><li>Women’s property being destroyed including cars, furniture and home. </li></ul><ul><li>Not letting her out of his sight. </li></ul><ul><li>Physical Abuse: </li></ul><ul><li>Women being punched and slapped. </li></ul><ul><li>Being stabbed with knives or broken glass. </li></ul><ul><li>Being kicked in the face. </li></ul><ul><li>Women being spat at and urinated on. </li></ul>
  3. 5. Types of Abuse <ul><li>Sexual Abuse: </li></ul><ul><li>Raping her in front of the children. </li></ul><ul><li>Women being told it is their duty to have sex with the abuser. </li></ul><ul><li>Strangling her during sex. </li></ul><ul><li>335 incidents of rape reported to Women’s Aid in 2009. </li></ul><ul><li>Financial Abuse: </li></ul><ul><li>Taking all of the woman’s bank cards and emptying joint accounts. </li></ul><ul><li>Denying women money for food for themselves and their children and money to pay household bills. </li></ul><ul><li>Non-payment or erratic payment of child maintenance. </li></ul>
  4. 6. <ul><li>Martine is married to John. Their first child Aoife was born just over a year ago. </li></ul><ul><li>John has strong views on contraception and didn’t want Martine to go back on the pill after Aoife was born. </li></ul><ul><li>Their second child Michael was born about eight weeks ago. Martine describes coming home. </li></ul>
  5. 7. <ul><li>“ When I arrived home with Michael, the place was in a mess. The first night John went out with friends to ‘wet’ Michael’s head. I found it really hard to go up and down the stairs to lift Aoife out of her cot because it was so deep and it really hurt my wound. </li></ul><ul><li>When John came home I told him this and that I thought I would need some more help, he went off on one and told me that I was bone lazy. I told him the midwives told me that I shouldn’t be lifting anything heavier than the baby for six weeks and he just exclaimed ‘bloody women’ ”. </li></ul>
  6. 8. <ul><li>Martine arranged for her sister to come and stay for a few nights to help her. John wasn’t happy with this and he was really rude to her sister and didn’t speak to Martine while she stayed. </li></ul><ul><li>“ At night in bed he would just talk out loud and say things like I have a wife who is bone lazy, she is a really bad mother, she won’t even lift her own daughter for a cuddle. </li></ul><ul><li>It was so upsetting to hear all these things and not to be talked to, when I tried to talk to him he would just turn away from me.” </li></ul>
  7. 9. <ul><li>John accompanied Martine to her six week check up and refused to leave her alone with her GP. </li></ul><ul><li>“ That day when we got home John started shouting at me, he pulled me into the kitchen by the arm and slammed the door shut, I had Michael in my arms and I was very scared. I turned my back to him to shield myself and the baby. He came flying around in front of me so fast I nearly dropped Michael. I could hear Aoife outside the door crying and calling me, it was so horrible”. </li></ul>
  8. 10. <ul><li>Orla met Colm shortly after she began her 3 rd year in college. She was doing really well and enjoying a good social life along with her studies. </li></ul><ul><li>They dated for a few months but Orla didn’t want a serious relationship unlike Colm. </li></ul>
  9. 11. <ul><li>“ He would call or text me several times a day and would often be there waiting for me outside classes to go and have lunch or coffee. He didn’t really want to go out with groups and always said that he preferred it when it was ‘just the two of us’”. </li></ul><ul><li>One incident when Orla spoke to an old school friend, a guy, really scared her. </li></ul><ul><li>… .when we were alone he grabbed me by the hair and started dragging me along the street shouting insulting names at me. He said that I had made a fool of him. </li></ul>
  10. 12. <ul><li>I saw clearly just how possessive and controlling he was and realised that there was no way I wanted to be in a relationship with this man”. </li></ul><ul><li>Orla finished the relationship but it didn’t end there. </li></ul><ul><li>“ then the phone calls started: sometimes Colm would be really upset saying he loved me and he was sorry but more and more the messages he left were angry, accusing me of things, threatening.” </li></ul>
  11. 13. <ul><li>“ What had been several texts a day became an avalanche and it came to the point that I felt sick every time I heard the buzz of the mobile because I knew it was probably him. </li></ul><ul><li>Apart form the calls I was becoming alarmed by the fact that Colm always seemed to know where I was going, who I was seeing, what I was doing. I found myself looking over my shoulder all the time and unable to focus… Was he cyber-stalking me?” </li></ul>