Parenting-Styles-and-Its-Outcomes

1. PARENTING STYLES AND ITS
OUTCOMES

2. God Longs for a partnership with parents
'Behold, I stand at
the door and knock;
if anyone hears My
voice and opens the
door, I will come in
to him and will dine
with him, and he
with Me.
- Revelation 3:20

3. What is your definition for parenting?
We know that the way
children are parented
when they are young
influences the type of
people they become.
Why?
A Kentucky father of a teenage boy says his hardest job
is getting his son to realize that “no” is a complete
answer.
 the rearing of children:
the methods, techniques, etc.,
used or required in the rearing of
children

4. What responsibilities do parents have for their children?
Parents to Be God's Representatives
“Every family in the home life should be a
church, a beautiful symbol of the church of
God in heaven. If parents realized their
responsibilities to their children, they would
not under any circumstances scold and fret
at them. This is not the kind of education
any child should have. Many, many children
have learned to be faultfinding, fretful,
scolding, passionate children, because they
were allowed to be passionate at home.
Parents are to consider that they are in the
place of God to their children, to encourage
every right principle and repress every
wrong thought. “ E.G. White CG p. 480

5. Take our parenting style quiz to see what kind of parent you are
1 . Your son hits another child at basket ball practice. You would...
a) get mad and tell the other boy to hit him back
b) ignore them and just let them fight or play
c) tell him that it is not right to hit people, make him apologize, and take
away a privilege if this is a repeat offense
2. Your son and his friends have made a big mess in your playroom and now
want to go play outside. You would...
a) yell at them and make them clean up
b) let them go out and clean up yourself
c) help them clean up by making a game out of who can pick up the most
toys
3. If your pre-teen daughter wants to rent an R rated movie that her friends
have all watched, you would...
a) get angry and tell her she can't rent any movies
b) let her watch it
c) say no and help her find a more age appropriate movie

6. 4. Your daughter is putting off going to bed because she says that she wants
something to eat, and you...
a) get mad and make her go to bed hungry
b) let her eat whatever she wants
c) let her have a nutritious snack, but tell her that she will have to start eating
more at dinner so that she isn't hungry at bedtime
5. When your kids don't do their chores you...
a) get mad, yell and make them do them right away
b) do them yourself
c) give them a helpful reminder that they need to be responsible and do their
chores
6. When your kids whine and have tantrums you...
a) get mad and send them to their rooms
b) give in to stop the whining
c) don't give in and afterwards explain better ways that they can express their
frustrations

7. 7. If your kids get in trouble, you...
a) get mad and yell or spank them
b) don't do much of anything
c) discipline them and later explain better choices they could have made so they don't
get in trouble again
8. Your son wants a new toy at the grocery store, so you...
a) get mad and tell him he can't have any new toys
b) buy it so that he doesn't have a tantrum
c) tell him no, but explain that you will bring him back to buy it when he saves enough
of his allowance
9. If your preschool age daughter has a nightmare and wakes you up, you would...
a) get mad at her for waking you up and tell her to go back to bed
b) let her go back to sleep wherever she wants
c) comfort her and help her go back to sleep once she calms down
10. The main goal of parenting and discipline is to...
a) get your kids to listen to you no matter what
b) make sure everyone is happy and doing whatever they want
c) teach your children why your rules are important and help them learn to make good
choices on their own

8. Add up your score:
There are 3 types of parenting style – the
authoritarian, the permissive , and the
democratic.
1. Add all letter A’s = Authoritarian Parent
2. Add all letter B’s= Permissive Parent
3. Add all letter C’s= Democratic Parent
The letter for which you have the highest
score is your parenting style.

9. Types of Parenting Styles and Outcomes
Most parent can be
classified into three main
types by the style in
which they guide their
children.
As we discuss each
parenting style, think
about where your own
parenting style fits most
appropriately. How can
one be a good parent?

10. Authoritarian:
Limits without Freedom
Definition:
 Parents’ word is law, parents
have absolute control.
 Misconduct is punished
 Affection and praise are rarely
give
 Parents try to control children's’
behavior and attitudes
 They value unquestioned
obedience
 Children are told what to do,
how to do it, and where to do it,
and when to do it.

11. Outcomes of Authoritarian Style
•Obedient
•Distrustful
•Discontent
•Withdrawn
•Unhappy
•Hostile
•Not High Achievers
•Often Rebel
Children from authoritarian
homes are so strictly
controlled, either by
punishment or guilt, that
they are often prevented
from making a conscious
choice about particular
behavior because they are
overly concerned about
what their parents will do.

12. Permissive:
Freedom without limits
Definition:
 Parents allow their children to do
their own thing.
 Little respect for order and
routine.
 Parents make few demands on
children.
 Impatience is hidden.
 Discipline is lax
 Parents are resources rather than
standard makers
 Rarely punish
 Non controlling, non-demanding
 Usually warm
 Children walk all over the parents

13. Outcome of Permissive Parenting
•Aggressive
•Least self—reliant
•Least self-controlled
•Least exploratory
•Most unhappy
Children from
permissive homes
receive so little guidance
that they often become
uncertain and anxious
about whether they are
doing the right thing.

14. Democratic:
Freedom within limits
 Definition:
 Middle ground between the two
above
 Stress freedom along with rights of
others and responsibilities of all
 Parents set limits and enforce rules
 Willing to listen receptively to
child’s requests and questions.
 Both loves and limits
 Children contribute to discussion
of issues and make some of their
own decisions
 Exert firm control when necessary,
but explain reasoning behind it.
 Respect children’s interest,
opinions, unique personalities.
 Loving, consistent, demanding
 Combine control with
encouragement
 Reasonable expectations and
realistic standards.

15. Outcomes of Democratic Style
•Happy
•Mostly self-reliant
•Mostly self-controlled
•Content, friendly, generous
•Cooperative
•High-achiever’
•Less likely to be seriously
disruptive or delinquent
Children whose parents
expect them to perform well,
to fulfill commitments, and
to participate actively in
family duties, as well as
family fun, learn how to
formulate goals. They also
experience the satisfaction
that comes from meeting
responsibilities and
achieving success.

16. Ways to foster a child's self-esteem
Provide more
successes than
failures for the
child.
Give them
freedom to fail
with acceptance.
Give lots of
encouragement.
Give
unconditional
love.
Allow
independence.
Eliminate the
negative. Do not set
standards
unreasonably
high.
Avoid
ridicule.

17. Ways to foster a child's self-esteem
Be available.
Give your children
responsibility
Be a good role
model.
Take their ideas,
emotions and
feelings seriously.
Help your child
develop talents
Set Limits
Allow exploration and
encourage questions.

18. Top 6 Child Discipline Techniques to Try
As any parent with more than
one child or child care provider
can attest, what works in terms
of a disciplinary approach for
one child may not work as well
with another. With differences
in how kids react to discipline
also comes an increased
likelihood for parents to be less-
than-consistent in their
approach.

19. Here are techniques to try:
1. Consistency is Key
Since everyone has a different parenting/caregiver style, it's not
practical to say all discipline should be consistent all the time. Do
try, however, to instill consistent rules, approaches, and even
goals and rewards each day. Kids can find change or
inconsistencies confusing, and may test limits or boundaries to
see how far they can go with different adults.
2. Seek Out the 'Why' of Misbehavior
When Johnny throws a cup and its contents spill on the carpet, a
disciplinary consequence SHOULD be rendered. But if you take
time to seek out the "why" to the behavior rather than just the
action itself, you might be closer to figuring out your child's
problem.

20. 3. Avoid Power Battles
Choose your battles very carefully, but once
you've picked a battle then a parent/adult
MUST win. Always. Only address those issues
that are truly important (safety is always a key
battle) and let some things go. If possible,
offer choices while still setting reasonable
limits.
4. Emphasize and Praise Good Behavior
If the behavior won't cause harm, then an
effective disciplinary approach often involves
praising good behavior and rewarding it
through hugs, high-fives or special activities ,
while ignoring bad behavior. This is easier
said than done, but a child will learn that
good actions result in more positive attention
and praise while bad behavior gains her
nothing.

21. 5. Keep Yourself Cool
Kids often enjoy seeing a rise out of an adult;
blowing your top can be interesting to watch
and kids sometimes see your loss of control
as a victory for them. Keep calm and in
control, and if necessary, tell your child
you're taking a brief "time out" to assess the
situation and appropriate consequence
before taking action. Kids will often take
advantage of a frazzled, mad, or emotional
adult; don't give them this opportunity.
6. Seek Out Discipline Supporters
When someone else is watching your child,
be sure to communicate discipline style and
request the caregiver adopt a similar fashion.
Likewise, if you do not believe in a certain
approach (like spanking or a time-out chair),
be sure to indicate that to a babysitter or
early education teacher as well.

22. Summary
One of the most important
things to remember as a
parent is to be yourself. You
can only use those methods
with which you feel
comfortable. A child can
spot a fake a mile away.
Children know if you mean
what you say or if it is just
another threat. So select the
methods that you believe in,
that you feel comfortable
with, and then be consistent.
Unless the LORD builds the
house, its builders labor in
vain. Unless the LORD
watches over the city, the
watchmen stand guard in
vain. Psalm 127:1

23. The End