1. Teach our kids their identity
I too felt depressed and sad after red “Be sensitive to children‟s feelings” (Monday
Star, June 4) written by Ng ShuTsung. Whoever read the news would feel that children‟s
lifestyle nowadays is totally differ from those days. It‟s not same anymore and we are the
parents should not compare our living style in our sweet old days with our children‟s
currents modern days.
I still remember the word expressed by my father when the very first day he send
me to school and told the teacher “do whatever necessary and make him study.” The
words are just like license to my teacher to screw my friends and me with their old hard
method to correct our mistake. Yes, that is good enough for those days because we don‟t
even know what was „children psychology‟. Now student‟s psychology already became a
part of the component in our teacher training colleges in our country. Teachers always
urged by the Ministry of Education to use the psychology method to overcome children‟s
problem in school rather disciplinary action.
As Mr. Ng said suicide is preventable “illness” and sometime the cure can be a
simple solution. It just we are the adult how we can understand the child‟s problem and
find a suitable solution to help them ease their life style. As addition to say parental role is
more vital and important to curb these kind of grievous incidents from threatening our
society anymore.
As I mentioned early, children‟s lifestyle nowadays not same anymore like our days,
but the psychological method use by our parents or maybe our old timers are most
effective and brought the total system of social or community to most stable situation.
Parents in our time always teach us the religious value in our life by bringing yourself to
the temple, church or mosque. Children got to learn about the religious value and the
important these values must apply in our life. In those days, even though parents some
time had to used the hard way to correct our mistake, but the next moment they shows
their care and show their love by their action. Our grand parents too from time to time
stressed the important of the cultural values should nurture in the young children‟s heart
so that the next generation would know the best way to continue their life.
Everything changes to become more challengeable and most parents as well want
their children success in their future. More and more pressure were given by the parents
towards their kids in academic excel and their carrier as well. But what is most important to
do is teach our kids to become more stable in their psychological condition. Giving them
such luxurious life is not a good answer to build the inner strength of the children. Parents
should spend more time with the children doesn‟t matter they still in kids level or in college.
They still need us to build their identity.
Giving them enough opportunity to build their good character also very essence and
ultimate method should take by parents. Having talk with them would give them a way to
express and share their problems in their daily life. We, parents shouldn‟t let them solve
their problem their own way because their still note matured enough to value their problem
and find difficult to solve their dilemma. Our life becomes meaningless when our children
cannot success in there. So, it‟s our part to take proper prevention to build strong and
good character among our children and I feel like not fare to give this job to the teachers.
Academically teachers know better our kids but deep in their heart we parents know them
better. Yes, we, the parents are the first teacher, the first facilitator and as counsellor too
for our kids. If we can play our role effectively we can build very strong young generation
to face their future in bravely and confidently. Lets we move from now to guide and teach
our kids become more strong and brave.
Selvam Narayanasamy
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