4. con·flict
/ˈkänˌflikt /
A conflict is a struggle between people which
may be physical, or between conflicting ideas.
Conflicts can either be within one person, or
they can involve several people or groups.
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6. • Past history/personality issues
• Different values and guiding principles
• Different perceptions or positions on the issue
• Lack of clarity
What Causes Conflict?
20. Competing
Competing is effective:
o When quick decisive action is needed
o When unpopular action must be taken on important
issues
o When the issue is vital and the right course is clear
o To protect against people who take advantage of
noncompetitive behavior
22. Accommodating
Accommodating is effective:
o When you are wrong, learning is important, or
demonstrating reasonableness is critical
o When creating goodwill is paramount
o When harmony is important
24. Avoiding
Avoiding is effective:
o When the issue is relatively trivial
o When you know you can’t be satisfied
o When the costs of conflict outweigh the benefits of
resolution
o To allow time to “cool off”
o When others can resolve the issue more effectively
26. Collaborating
Collaborating is effective:
o When it’s important that both sides be integrated
o When you want to learn and fully understand others’
views
o To merge different perspectives and insights
o To work though hard feelings that have interfered
with interpersonal relationships
28. Compromising
Compromising is effective:
o When goals are less important than avoiding the
disruption caused by more assertive conflict resolution
styles
o When people have equal power and commitment to
mutually exclusive goals
o To quickly reach a solution
o When it’s important to reach a win-win for all involved
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30. Key Takeaways
When you are aware of your influencing style,
you can adapt your style to be a more effective
negotiator.
By being more aware of our ‘default approach’,
we can learn to choose the most appropriate
approach for the situation.
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33. Conflict = Effective Teams
Conflict is actually normal and healthy. Conflict is a vital
ingredient to organizational success.
The most effective teams are those in which members
feel safe enough to disagree with one another. A
culture where dissent is allowed, or even encouraged,
can spur innovation, diversity of thought and better
decision-making.
34. Remember!
• Utilize your communication skills
• Be aware of your Behavioral Communication
Style and how it relates to your influencing
style (TKI), how can you adapt?
• Be self-aware
• Trust is vital when it comes to conflict
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38. Resources
How to Resolve Workplace Conflicts
Tamara Lytle, SHRM article. July 13, 2015.
The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, A Leadership Fable
Patrick Lencioni, Jossey-Bass, 2002.
The Table Group, https://www.tablegroup.com
39. Resources
The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
https://kilmanndiagnostics.com
Workplace Conflict and How Businesses Can Harness It to Thrive
CPP Inc. Global Human Capital Report, 2008.
Crucial Conversations, Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High
Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler.
McGraw-Hill, 2002.
Editor's Notes
Types of conflict – person vs person, person vs nature, person vs self, person vs society
One of the most comprehensive studies ever done on the issue, "Workplace Conflict and How Businesses Can Harness It to Thrive," by CPP Inc. in its Global Human Capital Report, found that in 2008, U.S. employees spent approximately 2.1 hours per week involved in conflict (as defined as "any workplace disagreement that disrupts the flow of work"). That translated into over $300 billion in paid hours or the equivalent of nearly 400 million workdays.
When asked what you would do if facing conflict in the workplace: 53% will delay responding
Teams that are lacking on trust are incapable of engaging in unfiltered, passionate debate about key issues, causing situations where team conflict can easily turn into veiled discussions and back channel comments. In a work setting where team members do not openly air their opinions, inferior decisions are the result.
All great relationships, the ones that last over time, require productive conflict in order to grow. This is true in marriage, parenthood, friendship, and certainly business. Teams that engage in productive conflict know that the only purpose is to produce the best possible solution in the shortest period of time. They discuss and resolve issues more quickly and completely than others, and they emerge from heated debates with no residual feelings or collateral damage, but with an eagerness and readiness to take on the next important issue. Healthy conflict is actually a time saver.
Posturing = behavior that is intended to impress or mislead.
Productive conflict is the equivalent of a strenuous workout for the team – it builds strength and resilience, and leads to success. Remind yourself that when in conflict that it is healthy and necessary.
Thomas-Kilmann Instrument assesses an individual’s typical behavior in conflict situations and describes it along 2 dimensions: Assertiveness and Cooperativeness.
Competing – the goal is to win.
Avoiding – the goal is to delay. If you remember, earlier we saw the stat that 53% of people use this method. When faced with a conflict, they delay the response.
Accommodating – the goal is to yield
Collaborating – the goal is mutual participation
Compromising – the goal is to find middle ground
My way or the highway!
It would be my pleasure.
I’ll think about it tomorrow.
Two heads are better than one!
Let’s make a deal.
The most appropriate approach to give us the results we want in a particular context. It promotes the idea that different strategies work better in different situations.
A great book to read to help with conflict management is Crucial Conversations – Here are some tips they recommend when it comes to conflict. Use Crucial Conversation skills!