Effectiveness means getting things accomplished. It means dealing with reality and thinking accurately. This lecture lays a foundation for effective thinking and being.

1. Effectiveness
John Bielinski, Jr. MS, PAC

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3. 1. Habit 1:
Be Proactive
2. Habit 2:
Begin With The
End in Mind
3. Habit 3:
First Things First
4. Habit 7:
Sharpen the Saw

4. 1. Habit 1: Own Your Life
2. Habit 2: Goals
3. Habit 3: Priorities
4. Habit 7: Care for
Yourself

5. Be
Brutally
Honest
“Stockdale Paradox”
Yet
Have
Faith

6. What controls
your life?

7. Where in your life
are you a victim?

8. I own
my life!
Every
aspect
of my

9. Half Full or Have
Empty?
It’s about action… did you get a
result or not?

10. How Do You Wake Up?

11. Luke 10:25-37

12. Good Samaritan
Study• Princeton University Divinity School
–Low hurry 63%
–Medium hurry 45%
–High hurry 10%
• Conclusion:
“Ethics become a luxury as the speed of our lives increases”
Darley, J. M., and Batson, C.D., "From Jerusalem to Jericho” JPSP, 1973, 27, 100-108.

14. Change One Letter
Gote
Locus of
Control

15. • When ever you think the problem is
OUT THERE  that IS the
problem!
• Accept it (& quit whining about it) or fix it!
Bottom Line
If you don’t like you life… fix it!

16. 1. Habit 1: Own Your Life
2. Habit 2: Goals
3. Habit 3: Priorities
4. Habit 7: Care for
Yourself

17. “What
road
do I
take?”

18. Look at Your Four
Intelligences
• PQ: Health and Fitness
• IQ: What do you want
to learn?
• SQ: How do you want to
grow in connection to your
creator?
• EQ: “Know thyself”

19. EQ
Self Management
Social
Management*
Empathy
Motivation

22. Likeability
“Cast-A”
• C=COMPLIMENTS
• A=ATTRACTIVE
• S=SIMILARITY
• T=TEAM
• A=ASSOCIATIONS

23. How Our Brain Works…
• RAS ---think of buying a car
How Our Brains Works Regarding Goals

24. SMART
Goals•S = Specific
•M = Measurable
•A = Achievable
•R = Relevant
•T = Time Stamped

25. The Secret is
Commitment
• Journal them!
Inner Guide
80% Mindfulness

26. 1. Habit 1: Own Your Life
2. Habit 2: Goals
3. Habit 3: Priorities
4. Habit 7: Care for
Yourself

27. • Meaning of life?
What’s Important?
How do we figure that out?

28. What’s Your Priority?
Health &
Faith

29. Richard Branson
“How do you
become more
productive?”
“Work Out”
“4 hours of
additional
productivity
per day”
Richard Branson

31. Spiritual Connection
Faith vs
Fear?

32. David Mustaine
1983

33. 25 Million

34. 180 Million

35. 1962Pete Best

36. “I’m happier than I would have been with the

37. “Why is this
happening
me?”toFOR

38. 1. Habit 1: Own Your Life
2. Habit 2: Goals
3. Habit 3: Priorities
4. Habit 7: Care for
Yourself

39. Where
Is
Your
Focus?

40. Watch your
coffee…

42. The quality of my life = The quality of my states

43. How Do I Change My
Emotional State?
•Focus
•Physiology
•Reciprocity

44. Focus
Influenc
e
Concer
n

46. Perspective

47. ?

48. “Real solutions
will emerge
Care for Yourself
when the questions
become more
important than the
answers”

49. Empowering
Questions
• “What would a wise man do?”
• “What lesson am I to learn?”
• “Where’s God’s blessing in this?”

50. We control our
focus by asking
questions!
&extraordinar
y empowering

51. Change Your Emotional
State
•Focus
•Physiology
•Reciprocity

52. Physiology

54. Change Your Emotional
State
•Focus
•Physiology
•Reciprocity

55. Matthew 7:12
“Do on to others
what you would
have them do
to you”

58. Good Luck and God
Bless!
John@CME4Life.com
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