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1. CODEPENDENCY
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2. What Is Codependency?
The Merriam Webster’s online dictionary defines codependency as:
“A psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is
controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a
pathological condition.”
In other words, codependency is a disorder of selflessness, passivity,
and personal powerlessness.
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3. Codependency Signs
1. You take on others’ responsibilities while ignoring how you feel.
2. You compromise your needs for relationships at the expense of your
happiness.
3. You feel triggered when your partner is upset or angry.
4. You struggle with setting and maintaining boundaries.
5. You struggle with saying no.
6. You constantly seek approval and validation from others.
7. You apologize a lot, even when you did nothing wrong.
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INTERDEPENDENCY VS. CODEPENDENCY
There is a balanced give and take.
Both people support each other’s
growth and independence.
Both people are free to be their own
separate, independent person.
Interdependency Codependency
One person does most of the giving and
receives little in return.
Enabling is disguised as help, which
creates dependency.
There’s enmeshment and very weak
emotional boundaries.

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Common Negative Beliefs Codependents Share
“I have no value on my own therefore I shouldn’t exist for myself.”
“My value comes from the people who agree to stay by my side in exchange for my
dedication to them.”
“I must be constantly present in the lives of the people who are important to me in
order to ensure prominent place in their lives.”
“The only thing that matters is having people’s affection and acceptance, in
exchange I’m willing to give my love and help without any reservations if required.”
“I have to fill you with love, if I don't, you will abandon me.”

6. Can you heal from codependency?
Although the negative beliefs we have about ourselves and the
world may seem permanent, as humans, we have remarkable
transformative potential.
We are capable of healing and rising above the seemingly
indisputable impact of our childhood.
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