This document is a book proposal for a memoir titled "Living Safely and Loved...After the Abuse" by Eva Anderson. The proposal provides an overview of the book, which details the author's experience with different forms of abuse in a relationship and aims to educate and provide hope to other abuse victims. It outlines the marketing plan, including targeting organizations that help domestic violence victims. The proposal also includes biographical information about the author and summaries of the planned 12 chapters, which will cover topics like signs of abuse, the author's personal journey of healing, and resources for victims.

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Living
Safely and
Loved
…. After the Abuse
By Eva Anderson
25,739 words
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Book Proposal
By Eva Anderson
PO Box 712
East Hartford CT 06108
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/evelyn-
anderson-55bb80b0
evensmore@aol.com
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Overview
Abuse to women in America from they mates is at epidemic proportion. Many go unreported,
invisble and unreal to the public and yet 8 million real victims a year report being abused. The
media fills our homes every day with the hidden problem by means of news and talk shows.
Many new shelters go up evdery year unable still to keep up with the demand. Verbal and
physiological abuse leads to the more violent types.
Those interested in this book include women who are victims and men who abuse too.
Readers include those who wish to stop the violence, ministers who wish to help families and
they flocks, doctors who wish to help the injured patient, abuse centers who wish to provide
shelter and education plus a way out.
We must continue to educate one another about this national epidemic and one effective way
is by the sale of this book. The aim is to heal the writer and second to find solutions and
courage for the victims who read this book. It answers questions for the general public to better
understand this chronic and acute problem.
Marketing Plan
There are a number of special places for this book, Pandora's Box in the market place. This
book can be read at leisure while shedding a tear or it can educate and bring inspiring hope
and solutions for organizations and individuals. Since the book deals with a growing issue,
many organizations would love to make this book available to the 8 million women who report
these crimes in US.
 Law Enforcement - domestic violence programs
 Continued education at college and high school with teen violence
 Television and radio shows on crime and abuse
 Articles on true stories in women magazines
 Lecture workshops and book signings at book stores
 Made for TV based on authors real life account
The author, Evelyn Anderson is an experienced lecturer and plans to devote a great deal of
time to further the sale of the book by personal experiences, workshops and book signings.
She will make sure she is avaible for any promotional activities scheduled by the publishers
and promoters.

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About the Author
They is no degree or education more important than experience itself. If we can understand
and learn through our own real life experiences then we can have insight and be wise. In turn
share to others what we learn.
Eva Anderson suffered emotional abuse her entire life. She did not even have a self, a healthy
self until her thirties. Now in her first book she reveals her three years of experience of every
form of abuse. Eva is a sweet self-sufficient, independent beautiful person yet still suffered
abuse. See will take you through the emotional, psychological, spiritual, verbal, and financial
abuse that can lead to more serious crimes. When your abuser is a con-man, manipulator and
deceiver, he can and will fool everyone even professionals. These are the hardest nuts to
crack. Eva has learned that abusers are weak for it provides them with a fix or addiction to feed
on. We must become smarter and more powerful in a positive way. Abusers spend time
gathering information, creating situations, obsessing, controlling and liking to be the center of
attention. Now I conceived a child due to rape by my ex-boyfriend and wish to dedicate my love
to educate him.
Evelyn took up the pen in 1991 with journal writing and poetry writing as a healing tool. She
speaks from the heart that is why her moves the reader to do something they would otherwise
not do to help themselves. She was born in Miami Florida and was raised as an only child. She
has resided in Connecticut since 1970's and lived with her beloved cat Miko for fifteen years.
He father was a genius and college professor her mother a seamstress. She has spoken at
businesses for stress management and is a self-made entrepreneur.
Table of Contents
Dedication and Introduction
Chapter One: A Ray of Hope
Chapter Two: The Many Faces of Abuse

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Chapter Three: Reflections of Inner Peace
Chapter Four: Men Behaving Badly
Chapter Five: Taking Care of Yourself
Chapter Six: My Daily Meditations
Chapter Seven: Jim's Crimes of the Heart
Chapter Eight: Spiritual Abuse
Chapter Nine: In a Court of Law
Chapter Ten: Signs to Look for
Chapter Eleven: Recognizing Abuse
Chapter Twelve: Resources of Sources
Dedication and Introduction
It covers to whom the book was written and the fact that all names kin the book have been
changed to protect the privacy of all involved. The introduction describes the reason the book
was written. Outline of three things a victim can do to protect themselves and how later
chapters go more into that subject. This section is to reassure victims not to believe everything
they hear from the abusers and to let go of the self-blame. Reassures them are no alone. It
tells of the importance of prevention. It describes healthy verses unhealthy relationships. The
poem, "Long Ago and Far Away" shows how we need to self-love ourselves first. Under the
heading “Our Healthy Needs", we see how unhealthy thoughts are created and how society
influences family values.
Chapter One
A Ray of Hope
In a creative and intimate way, her words in the chapter reflect on her painful past from the
more positive present. Giving the bible account of Job as an example we see painful
endurance being rewarded by God. Also she shares a letter she wrote in therapy that has
become over the years a self-fulfilling prophecy. Everything I wanted for myself has come true

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Under the heading of "Dance of Life", it describes positive feelings with the illustration of a
dance. Music has more meaning, she stops dancing, just long enough to reflect on the past as
a learning tool. She continues to dance with eyes closed in complete trust. She refers to hope
as a ray of sunshine, a rainbow at the end of the storm and a light at the end of a tunnel. This
chapter is to lift and inspire the reader that there is hope amidst the darkness of abuse. There
is a way out.
Chapter Two
The Many Faces of Abuse
It is the intention to explain four common types of abuse. Answering questions such as, how is
an abuser created? The beginning of a two and a half year journey into this abusive
relationship is told. From the day she and him met to their engagement, with all the warning
signs there, yet overlooked. It goes into his past relationship and why starting a family became
an obsession with him. Under the heading, "To Love and be Loved", it discusses her birth and
upbringing in a dysfunctional American family. It starts by telling of my mother’s attempt to be a
single parent along with all the hardships. She realizes later how possessive and controlling
her mother was. How her affection and over protectiveness was mistaken for love. Abuse has
many sugar coated faces and an innocent child only knows what they are taught.
Chapter Three
Reflections on Inner Peace
How do we create inner peace? This chapter goes into some common misconceptions and
unproven methods. Describing society’s addiction to work and pleasures and what we need to
heal for love and acceptance. Under the heading, "Love, Innocence and Birth", it speaks about
our lost innocence. She writes how her mother created her views today. Her anger from the
hurt that was suppressed She stared to recall but never being believed and needing the trust
faith and right kind of love to heal and be whole again.
Chapter Four
Men Behaving Badly
This chapter shows how stress can drive some men crazy. Five main factors can be blamed on
they behavior;

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1. Brain chemistry
2. Childhood Upbringing
3. External and Internal stress overload
4. Chemical Abuse
5. Health Abuse
A man has to want to change and we cannot do that for them. Can we predict which man will
become abusive? My personal experiences with Jim and his early behavior gives hints. Even
his positive qualities had bad motives. No one would have guessed he would become a
abuser, by his qualities alone.
Chapter Five
Best Ways to take Care of You
Advice and tips what to do. Affirmations that are life changing are given here. Samples of
affirmations and how to make your own. Plus many steps to reinforce positive change for you.
Chapter Six
My Daily Meditation
Taken directly from the author’s diary. Her events and feeling are recorded for all to read. Her
pen was her only friends left alone by people because of fear, therapy was out of reach
financially and being a single mom was hard enough without abuse.
Chapter Seven
Jim's Crimes of the Heart
His many letters tried to convince me to trust him. Recorded in this chapter are my feelings,
thoughts and beliefs about him. Entries of his destructive plans of crimes against me.
Some of his crimes included:
1. Slander
2. Harassment

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3. Stealing and framing
4. Lying
5. Hiring others to do a Hit on me
6. Property damage
Two years with twenty-one events occurred in this courtship that spelled danger. My pregnancy
from him was due to rape and the courts rewarded the rapist with custody. I felt that was a
reward for his crime and a sentence on my child of learning from a criminal. At age of forty my
womb was now closed my only my heir to carry on my family name is now gone. Was I to visit
my child since my life was at a daily risk?
Chapter Eight
Spiritual Abuse
My religion was a big part of my life. It was the only family I knew since I was the last surviving
member of my family. Well, he followed his victim into the religion and tried to study to prove he
was serious. He fooled them on a vacation with his older son from another marriage He raped
me again and told our Elders I had sex before marriage so I would be dis-fellowshiped. So I
withdrew from everyone to save my life after threats were made to brothers of the faith. He
wanted no man to marry me……
Chapter Nine
In a Court of Law
Issued were protective orders to no avail plus many other crimes in past he waits for a few
years when it is erased and taken out of the files. His best friend was a cop who took
paperwork to prove my case out of the police files and threw them away on court day. I was
never informed of the court days as they were always changed and postponed. There was no
where I could be supported and helped. Now I can help others what to watch out for and get
out before it is too late.
Chapter Ten
Signs to Look For

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Here is a list of signs to look for:
1. He cannot see or feel your thoughts and feelings
2. He wants to be always in control
3. He takes away your freedom, cars, keys etc
4. In the beginning he buys gifts and tells you everything you want to hear
5. Later he speaks bad about you behind your back
6. Manipulates everyone to cover his lies
7. Has addictions to pacify his imbalance of the brain
Does ADHD or other mental conditions lead to Crime?
The eleven qualities that lead to crime and that can lead to six very dangerous situations.
Chapter Eleven
Recognizing Abuse
What is Abuse? What feeling does the victim have? Twenty Traits are discussed. Stop the bad
cycle by recognizing the different stages of the crime. Patterns of a criminal mind that leads to
abuse:
Cycles of Abuse are described in detail
Chapter Twelve
Solutions Worksheet
Tips and exercises to do plus things you can do to protect yourself.
IN Conclusion Crime reports are discussed
Sources of Resources

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