Part of a study I did on mental functioning for human resources / hiring and talent management. Focuses on dissociation, structural breaks in identity and trauma and psychosis. Also biographic indicators to look for in healthy biographies.

1. Models on Attachment, Schizoid Splitting,
Dissociation and DID formation

2. Extending the Model of
Dissociation

3. Starting Point – Ego States and ANPs
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An ego state for Berne is ‘a system of feelings
accompanied by related set of behaviour patterns.’ All
children come into the world with such ego states
switching.
An identity or self forms via the feedback we get from the
external on who we are and how we have to behave. We
act in fragments and moods / ego states and combine how
we shall act in all circumstances to be one self.
If bad things happen, an ego state can store a specific
event and hold it. With the rest of the mind being
dissociated from the event. And creating a dissociative
barrier.
For some, different ego states and moods are triggered by
some events and create a completely different functioning.
For example, the individual is anxious around girls and is
triggered into an anxious ego state and then is not able to
talk to girls.
The issue typically is related to disorganized attachment
where the parental ego state dynamic and emotional
binding / attachment is not supporting the ego integration.
https://www.dis-sos.com/the-difference-between-ego-states-and-dissociative-parts/
https://www.inluckcounselingllc.com/ego-states-therapy
In Ego State Language, there are three kinds of ego
states:
1) Vaded States
– Trauma holders that need healing
2) Conflicted States
– They are in conclict with each other
and require the host to decide on which action to take
3) Retro States
– Once worked, but no longer are adapted and need
re-learning.
In the theory of structural dissociation by Pierre Janet
calls different ego states “Fragements” or Eps and sees
some Eps become centers of personality formation called
ANPs.
Post-Structural writers in the intersection of psychology, culture and power
such as Jacques Lacan and Michael Faeucault reason about the human
being as generally bing fragmented and the one self being a delusion.
1) Specialized ANP Egos
- “The Working Adult”
- “The Party Animal”
2) Interfering EP reacitons
- Panick Attacks
- Violent and Paranoid defenses
Legal theory and the concept of social / object relations requires one
entity or subject, however You can not commit the crime as “murderer”
and then be left free as “father”. The legal construct needs the fiction and
social forces and relationships require the stability fiction of the self.
The key question now is one of suffering. And the suffering comes into
play when alters do have strict amnesia barriers – hence the person
does not know what the other alter did – and there is no means of
controlling the alter’s behaviour and it does substantially impact the
ability to function in day to day life.

4. When bad things happen – Dissocation
A traumatic experience is when a person experiences a
rift between what is happening – and the normal brain
functioning – and what it wants to experience.
The term trauma means that some external event that a
person experiences is emotionally distressing in an
extreme form.
https://www.dis-sos.com/the-difference-between-ego-states-and-dissociative-parts/
https://www.inluckcounselingllc.com/ego-states-therapy
The most important thing here is that there is a splitting
happen where the original source of pain – the traumatic
event – is routed to a split of fragment of the self, which is
then pushed away using amnesia.
Finally, if the person goes through many recurring traumatic experiences
that have leading triggers, e.g. emotions that emerge before the trauma
which can be used to anchor an ego-state, the person will switch into that
ego states to collect the trauma.
A dissociation is typically what happens here. The
connection between the sensational experience (the
image, the smell, the feeling, the nerve signals) and the
cognitive process is separated. The brain no longer
integrates the flows that create the holistic experience
which then would need to be repressed. Instead if
fractures and dissociated.
For example, a person may completely dissociate from
the moment and look on itself as if the body that is burning
is not at all itself but a body that it is not part of. This is
called “depersonalization”.
Or the “pain” of the body burning may be felt, but it is not
experienced as painful, because it does not feel real. In a
“derealization”.
Anyone suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder
(PTSD) has such a fragment split off. And the fragment will
remain in amnesia until it can be re-integrated and healed.
If such traumatic events occur over and over again and
more such fragments exist, type 2 PTSD emerges. The
split-off fragments do not re-integrate and can affect and
interact with the person and cause serious distress and
modifications in behaviour.
In this way, separate EPs or fragments can become full blown
personalities that are activated to experience and interact in a specific
environment that is particularly traumatic.
=>
Escape extreme loneliness
and abandonment with feel
escape to fantasy land
=>
Overwrite burning pain
with colorful delusions and
hallucinations
=>
Overwrite feeling of being
weak with superiority
complex and self-image
In this process, two ego states are locked in a tandom mode. Where one
ego-state (and associated emotion) is the trauma holder, and one ego-state
(and emotion) is the fantasy holder. So each ANP is having at least on EP
associated to form a joint-experience where the EP takes in the pain signal
and the memory thereof, and the ANP is holding the persona that
experiences the activity.

5. Simple Facts
❑ Dissociation and Psychotic Behaviour are basic
functions of our brain and are very normal.
❑ There are four modes of developing separate
identity structures that are used regularly to cope
with life and adapting to new situations
a) Introjection
b) Ego States
c) Structural Dissociation
❑ There are key differences in how to work with these
features and how they interfere in the development
a) Pre-Natal : Pre-Natal disturbances in ego-
state formation and integration create the
pre-disposition for structural dissociation
and Ego-Structures that open strategies such
as schizoid core and narcissistic defensives.
These damages are very difficult to heal later
on
b) Post-Natal Attachments: Depending on the
predispotion, post-natal and early childhood
trauma can lead to structural dissociations.
The literature on ritual abuse shows the role
of attachment theory in the formation of
split off identities and creation of shell hosts.
c) Later in Life: Later in life, high stress and
trauma and substance abuse can trigger
CPTSD and other PTSD features that can lead
to the activation of Ego-State Splitting and
structural Dissociations
❑ Attachment theory and regulation: A key element of
mood and emotional regulation in humans is the
formation of stable psycho-biological bondings with
other people that prevent the individual from needing a
schizoid / narcissistic personality structure.
→ Individuals who can rely on bonds and
relationships to regulate their own emotions
and manage their integrated sense of self and
belonging do not require strong narcissistic
defenses and therefore have a stronger core
self
→ Individuals without such bonds require the
creation of dual-self models that requires
them to create a fantasy wold they can
control that serves their emotional needs.
This inner “false self” that serves these needs
can not tolerate others in conflict with the
fantasy. It therefore reduces others to objects
❑ External bonding for self-regulation forces ego-states to
converge into a consistent state: If the person starts to
experience latent states and states transition into
different ego states, the stability of the relationships
require the individual to present as a consistent
individual. This make believe game forces the latent ego-
states to converge in values, traits and behaviours and
forces to have all ego-states behave as one, which
reduces the question on what the self actually is.
The narcisstic can create a false-self fantasy narrative
that fits the ego-state needs (e.g. now I am loving
partner, tomorrow I am selfish playboy) and that fantasy
can be used to credible engage with the world and bind
with objects confirming its reality (narcissistic supply).
The reality testing allows the narcissistic core in the
different ego-states to re-invent itself and chase new
dreams and ventures. But the fantasy requires
confirmation or it may conflict with the object feedback
of other ego states and the fantasy may collapse.
❑ Latent State and Ego-State: The formation of structural
disintegration as a learned trait can work like this:
a) Latent States: We constantly are in latent states and
keep switching states. If we are unaware of it and we
are stabilized in our behaviour by external
expectations, all states will need to learn the same
things and traits. And hence we are one in all states.
Latent state theory in psychology merely is a tool to
account for different behaviours depending on the
situation of the controlled experience and the state the
person is in. So it means something different, but it also
fits the concept of instable ego states before they
become stable and identifyale “ego” states
B) Ego Sates: If we are learning to recognize different
states and we start learning different things and
beliefs in these states, these latent states become
ego states with distinct features.
C) Multiple Personas: If we are able to switch these
ego states and use them for different tasks, we call
this still very natural and simply are adapted to
multiple worlds. The partner at home. The boss at
work. The soft boy in the affair.
D) If we also start to forget and become so distinct in the
personas that we need to forget – the rapist at night,
the mafia murderer at work, the loving father at home
- we might start to dissociate and obtain amnesia and
head towards structural dissociation. So the
dissociative barriers create the true issue.
❑ Control or no control: People with personality disorders do
not feel in control of what is happening around them and
the things they need to do to survive. This is when an
activity and trait becomes an experience of a trauma and
we start to feel like victims rather than people in control.
This is when multiple personas with different skills and
partial and wanted amnesia is becoming a disorder where
we are maybe not even in control of the switching
behaviour.
Dissociation and Ego-State Communication

6. Malfunctioning of our Consciousness - Dissociation and Psychosis with Adaptive Consciousness
Expansion Contraction
Polarity of Consciousness:
Our consciousness moves from being highly expanded
and being all wise and being one with everything.
To focusing and concentrating on one little tiny thing
until it vanishes and disappears for a second.
Islands and Bubbles of small Dreams of Mind
❑ Our consciousness hence is always zooming in and out
of the universe and what it can focus on.
❑ In an ideal state, it adapts to the situation in a perfect
way and gives us the “zoom” and focus we need to
function
❑ And it operates in a way to provide us a consistent
experience of the world that allows us to create a
concept of “self” and “being in the world”
Dissociation is at the core of everything
❑ When we focus on writing a sentence, we may forget
the noises around us and focus only on the paper in
front of us and the writing we do.
❑ At the same time, when we are in a dinner party
situation and our mind refuses to acknowledge the
situation and we “zone out” into our mind and
everything is blurry and we start to hear voices, we
are strongly dissociated
❑ When we hear voices, our consciousness does simply
not filter out the urges and signals from the EPs
Structural Dissociation and Psychosis
❑ “Dissociation”
If our ability to dissociate in a way that we adapt to
the situation is impaired, we might call this an actual
dissociation, derealization, depersonalization or even
a psychotic break. If we experience this often, we call
it a mental illness.
❑ “Breakdown of Self” and “Ego States” (Link)
Now if our ability to adapt to situations depends on
the state that we are in and the states are separate,
their switching behaviour hard to control, and their
residency as “front” strong enough to form own
identities and experiences, we call this dissociative
identities and talk about multiple personalities.
Namely, we have a combination of different
dissociations / consciousness changes that may be
adapted or maldapted to the situation, and they come
in bundles around specific states that are
independent from the environment. The key here is
non-adaptive latent states.
“Psychosis and Schizophrenia”
❑ Finally, when identity fragments and inner urges
become so dominant in interfering with our mind
when it is de fact dissociating and maladapting to a
situation, we may have a dream like state where the
urge manifests in beliefs, hallucinations and so forth,
which we would define as psychotic behaviour.
❑ And if the fragment (EPs) are constantly in
communication with an ANP/Host which is in a
delirium / maladapted dissociation state, then this
may manifest as permanently hearing voices as a
specific alter and would classify as Schizophrenia.
❑ The overall affect and ability to somatically feel the
emotions seems to be very low among the
schizophrenic, allowing the consciousness to adapt
poorly only
Dissociative Identities, Ego States and Introjections
❑ We humans learn via Mimicry. If we like someone and
start imitating them a lot, we start to create a mental
copy of that person which is called an introjection.
Introjections help us in bonding, as we are adapting to
what we like about the other and to what we have to
do to be liked by the other. We learn the relationship
by being a new identity with this person.
These introjections can be taken out of the closet in
different situations as adaptive behavioural patterns
and can be considered distinct “personalities” or
“personas”
❑ Ego States are more about the fact that we as humans
are able to shift in overall states that are distinct and
recurring and somewhat stable so they can hold
specific experiences and learn specific traits.
If we start to learn to manage these ego states and
can trigger them into hosting, we can have one for
extreme physical fitness and endurance like
marathons; one for extreme caretaking and family;
and one for work and competitive labouring for
example.
Ego-States are typically not having barriers and may
or mayn ot be controlled in the switching.
❑ Dissociative identities use the features of introjection
and ego states by building a strong introjection and
encapsulating it in a specific ego state that then can
hold specific skills and information that is then
“dissociated” or separated from other parts of the
identity. Thereby creating multiple personalities.
Some of which hold trauma.

7. Basic Theory of Dissociation
Permanency and Agency of
❑ Ego-States and DIs are permanent
Ego-States once reasonably separated are meant to
remain as such and form useful personalities we use
to deal with situations in life. We do not necessarily
consider them different personalities but different
“personas” or masks that we wear to engage with life.
❑ The moment these ego states include amnesia and it
becomes harder to control their hosting and control
behaviour, we deeper we go into dissociative
identities. Dissociative identities are full personalities
that we consider and understand as such and they are
also trying to survive and are there to be permanent.
❑ Introjections are not permanent however and are
adapting to the situation and learning over time and
can be evoked easily via narratives and associations
and memory and then can be updated and trained.
Roles and Functions
❑ It is easy to label any uncommon features here as a
personality disorder, but in reality all these functions
are adaptation and defense strategies that enable
survival of the individual in specific environments.
❑ It is true for us that we collect introjects to combine
them into an identity and use the capability and
identity to choose passages in life. The mechanism
allows slowly transitioning into new skills and adapted
environments.
❑ The ego-states allow us to adapt even faster – e.g.
psychopathic behaviour in banking – and resolve the
conflict with our identity and values later on.
Summary model 1
❑ Our consciousness likely interacts not directly with
the universe, but with a filtered perception of the
universe. We can call a filtered perception as a
dissociative perception and it happens on Layer I.
❑ In an ideal world, the dissociative perception is
adapted and hence not delirious.
❑ On Level II our consciousness is “zooming in” in a
consistent and adaptive way to the perception coming
in from Layer I.
❑ When Layer I does not function, we are not focused
and able to see the right things. We are in delirium. If
layer II is not working, we are in a psychotic tunnel.
Being unable to understand what to do in our state of
mind with the perception that is not adaptive.
❑ Now, our Layer II consciousness is tied to the identity
that is currently hosting. The identity is not only fed
by Layer I primary signals. But also is fed signals from
Layer 1 parallel subconscious layer fragment (Eps).
❑ If the Layer II functions and is adaptive, it will
integrate the EP signals as urgens or tendencies or
interfering elements of the experience of Layer 1
primary signals. If Layer II does not function, the EP
signals might get enmeshed into Layer 1 signals, and
transform into parts of´that signals, therey presenting
as voices, hallucinations. Which may confuse the
Layer II adaptive processes further and increase
psychosis.
❑ The big question now is how fragement bundles can
take the role of separate identities and add another
layer.
Roles and Functions II
❑ The dissociative identity is a step further where the
experience is so dramatic that it would materially
alter our functioning in all other ego states. So we
need to have amnesia and isolate the experience in
order to function unaffectedly in the other states.
❑ The therapy model explains also the original functions
of the splitting behaviour (S.A.R.I. Model)
❑ S Safety and Stabilization: The splitting of trauma
or the reduction of action skills in a ego state can
help focus the individual in the situation and
provides stability and safety in the situation
without affecting the functioning in other non-
extreme situations
❑ A Accessing : Dissociative identities are
somewhat frozen in time and conserve the
original trauma and thereby also provide access
to the original issue later for processing and
integration into the host.
❑ R Resolving and Restabilization :The goal of the
freezing and adapting to the trauma clearly
serves the purpose later analysis and processing.
❑ I Integration and Identity : The key here is later
to process the situation, reduce its risk, solve the
relational conflicts coming out of it, and to help
sense making for the re-integration into the core
identity of who the person i.s

8. Examples of Dissociative Thinking in Normal People
Low Empathy Disturbance
If the overall healthy Layer II is always well adapted and
overall functioning, it may still be that the fragment EP A
is constantly coupled with Layer II perception of the
world. And even if Layer I perception is well-adapted, EP
A may override the emotional bonding with the situation
and reality testing on the emotional communication
layer.
Such as, that EP A is a fragment that prevented pain from
the emotional layer to enter the consciousnessness.
The person would I this case perceive reality quite
accurate and would be able to function. But may have no
other theory of the other person beyond the other
person being an object of complex interaction. Not
recoginizing the sameness of the other human to itself,
but seeing the other human more as a robot or automata
that competes in the world and requires interaction to
get results.
This type of dissociation that seems to be common
among “low empathy” personality disorders, drastically
hinders the quality and intrinsic uniqueness of inter-
human relations and inter-animal relations and lead to
disturbed binding on this layer.
Animals might bark at a man with good intentions.
People might consider a person as cold and non-
receptive to their needs. And plants might neither be
watered or cared for sufficiently, being considered
physical artefacts, nor might they get the affection
needed to fully bloom in a n indoor environment. Much
to the amusement and wonderment of the owner.
And so forth.
Problems in Executive Function in Autism
A maladaptive sensory system such as in ADHD and an
overally easily excited nervous system such as in anxiety
disorders or some forms of autism, may lead to a
constant overshooting of nervous system signals in very
basic decision making situations where making a decision
under incomplete information may have minor implicit
drawbacks.
In such cases, the echo of the subconscious evaluations
of options may lead to a complex and hard to decipher
mix of emotions that are becoming overwhelming in the
decision making process and hinder the actual act of
making a decision, thereby rendering the executive
function of the individual useless in the situation. It may
have to be split off into an EP to not connect to the
consciousness at all times.
This can add to experiences of maladaptiveness that are
hard to regulate away via Layer I or Layer II
consciousness shifts and hence increase anxiety and
decision phobia / freezing in the moment. And lead up to
even meltdowns and shutdowns.
The key here is the malfunctioning of Layer I filtering
apparatus to an abnormal nervous system functioning
outside of scope of the regulatory apparatus which
exceeds the capacity of Layer II functions to regulate the
situational adaptation.
The situation is not considered psychotic or delusional,
but the individual is simply overwhelmed.
Similar issues in the interaction of Layer II and I
regulation is the malfunctioning of the nervous system to
stress builtups in pure ADHD that requires the individual
to regulate via activities.

9. Psychodynamic development of
Mental Disintegration:
Failed emotional synchronization
in secure stabilizing attachments.

10. “Failed Integration induces Mental Dysintegration”
Maternal Attachment
& Ego Formation
Family System
& Milieu Integration
Family Integration Friends Integration
Peer System
& Identity Formation
Safe Ego Safe Self
Self Integration
Self-Discovery
& Limits and Beliefs
Individual
Social Integration
World Discovery
& Exploring life model
Identity
1 2 3 4
1 Ego Formation Success:
▪ Very stable and safe core forms
▪ Deep intimate connection and co-regulation
▪ Delayed gratification, trust, reality testing
▪ A safe place as a fall back / support
Failure:
▪ Attachment Pain / Cry - Isolation
▪ No fallback, trust, no “peer” to explore
▪ Life is dangerous
▪ High risk of co-dependency, dissociation
and psychotic defenses
2 Self Formation Success:
▪ Adapts traits and behaviour of family well
▪ Family system is adapted to society
▪ Functional skills and support for exploration
▪ Family can help resolve conflict, issues
Failure:
▪ Ego formation issues prevent learning
▪ Family system is toxic and maladapted
▪ No support system and ongoing failure
3 Individual Success:
▪ Stable deep friendships formed by child
▪ Existence in between family and friends
▪ Learns new traits, succeeds in the world
▪ Explores own desires, values, goals
Failure:
▪ Peer rejection or false peers
▪ Bullied and abused instead of loved
▪ Defense Systems evolve (narcissism, psychosis)
▪ Maladaptation and paranoia increases
4 Identity Success:
▪ Skills, likes, talents form the “identity 1” (career)
▪ Peers, identification and care form “identity 2”(group)
▪ Skills and regulation desires form “identity 3” (partner)
▪ Individual starts to mature into the world
Failure:
▪ Identities form but maladapted to reality
▪ Person is “pushed” into life stages and alienated
Failure Type “Loner”:
▪ Increased isolation and psychotic defenses
▪ Needs to mask and adapt but feels empty and robotic
▪ Ongoing jealous and negative feedback of existence
Failure Type “Anti-Social”
▪ Masking ability becomes better and person is adapted
▪ Still feels empty and robotic, but turns this into opportunity
▪ Develops dark triad defenses (narci, marchia, psychopathic)
Stabilization
Family Creation
& Foundation stabilizaton
Parent
5
Social Expression
Community Integration
& Expression of Will
Citizen
6
5 Parent Success:
▪ Stabilizes into a harmonious family environment
▪ Both parents jointly dissolve disputes and trauma
▪ Healthy environment emerges for the child
▪ All challenges faced well and together for growth
Failure:
▪ Very likely to lead to complete collapse of own parents,
friendships, partnerships and career and entering psychotic
nirvana in both loner and anti-social types
▪ Loner now starts to struggle with functioning and needs therapy
▪ Anti-Social survivor type turns aggression into milestones and
external achievements as compensation for internal disintegration
4 Citizen Success:
▪ Person now integrates with community for child and better world
▪ Also has time now to invest into structural improvements
▪ Politics and civic activity and giving back is key
Failure - Loner
▪ Secluded and increasingly higher need of accommodation
▪ Becomes bitter and isolated and deals with psychological issues
Failure - Compensator
▪ Has now turned into a successful manipulative monster
▪ Very likely has compensated with tropy partner and social life
▪ Remains unsatiated and turns more aggressive and mischievous,
likely seeking sadistic and other traits
Note: Each life stage failing can lead to powerful emotional
dysregulation and trauma experiences which increasingly
decompose, disaggregate, dissociate and put into psychotic
state the individual. Hence the disintegration process is hand
in hand with structural dissociation and psychotic
experiences.

11. Vaknin Model on the (dis)integrated self

12. Pre-Birth
Post-
Birth 1st Year
1st Year
Care Taking
2nd Year
Individuation
3rd Year
Exploration
The Primal Wound (Pre-/Postnatal Attachment)
Vaknin Individuation – Failed Ego Development
Primary School
Rejection
Puberty Peer
Rejection
University
Class Rejection
Career
Power Rejection
Vaknin Peer Rejection – Escape to Grandiose Fantasy
Reason
▪ Race
▪ Class
▪ Hygiene
▪ Disability
Reason
▪ Identity
▪ Behaviour
▪ Disability
▪ Attractiveness
▪ Social Skills
Reason
▪ Identity
▪ Background
▪ Wealth
▪ Discipline
▪ Habits
▪ Health
Reason
▪ Position
▪ Fit
▪ Submission
▪ Acceptance
▪ Positivity
▪ Motivation
▪ Volition
Parental Narcissism Permanent objectification and ownership by parent / enmeshment
Stages of Narcissistic and Cluster B Type Development
Primal Wound - Primary Wound = Core Attachment wound via Abandonment that destroys feeling “safe” and “home” in this world
- Pranatal = Any insecurity in the woumb that affects the safety of the connection of mother and child. E.g. trauma and abuse incl. substances, mental and physical
- Post-Natal = Any short-term disruption of the bond s.a. being put in incubator (early born) or otherwise separated from mother (e.g. operations, health checks)
- 1st Year = Important synchronization of child which is still “part” of mother is disrupted. Includes when mother has to work or is not attentative (e.g. on sleep meds)
Vaknin Individuation - At some point, child realizes it is separate entity from mother and has to define itself as separate.
- Ideal = Child is accepted as separate entity with its needs separate from parents, and parents take care of it as it learns to express itself as separate.
- Bad = Child is not accepted as separate entity and has to adapt to needs of parents to survive and is thereby succumbed as object to parents desires
= Child is showered with love and does not have to acquire any skills to agree on and negotiate its needs being met (super-selfish narcissistic child)
Vaknin Peer Rejection - Child is unable as individual to fit in and is rejected and given signals “I am bad”. But child has to say “I am good”. And hence “others are bad”.
- Ideal = Child is accepted and develops healthy relationships in which it learns new strategies and forms safe attachments for both short- and long-term
- Bad = Rejection creates a fantasy world and the grandiosity required and emotional/empathy disconnect that opens the Narcissitic traits.
From there, it is a question of strategy acquisition if the person becomes narcissistic or also creates psychopathic and sociopatic traits.
Child groomed into becoming narcissistic supply
of the parent. Enabling them in their “extreme” fantasy.

13. Pre-Birth
Post-
Birth 1st Year
1st Year
Care Taking
2nd Year
Individuation
3rd Year
Exploration
Primary School
Stage
Early Teen
Stage
Undergrad
Stage
Career Start
Stage
Late Teen
Stage
Post Grad
Stage
Critical Development
Stages of the Child - Timeline
Pre-School
Friends
6 - 10 Year
Exploration
10 - 15 Year
Exploration
15 - 19 Year
Exploration
19 - 22 Year
Exploration
22 - 27 Year
Exploration
22 - 27 Year
Exploration
1
Basic bonding, play, spending
time together, exploring together
2
Forced Friendship, First comparison,
“behaving” together, solving together
(1) Playground Dynamics – Popular or Outsider
(2) My Group / Your Group / Their Group
3
Girls and Boys, Attraction, Liking, Adoration
Popularity, Dominance, Leadership
(1) Forming groups based on liking and behaviour
(2) Class, Status, Intelligence, Looks and “differences”
4
From Dating to Relationships and Affection
Interests, Identity, Competition, Resources
(1) Social Organization and Competition
(2) Power Dynamics and Popularity and Networks
Discover the “other”
Forming Groups
Discovering Identity
Forging Bonds
1 2 3 4
5
Expand Horizon, Test your Limits, Find Your Identity, Create a Peer
Group, Forge Powerful Bonds, and Prepare four your life
6
Become excellent at what you are doing and prepare your life
for success. Find a partner and plan the future together.
(1) Getting serious and fully intimate with someone like you
(2) Doing joint strategy and tactics to forge a family in society
7
Enter the workforce and start with the grind up the social
hierarchy process while making your name and position
(1) This is about executing the vision and overcoming obstacles
(2) Getting behind enough
Testing the Limits
Taking Positions
Enter the Path
5 6 7
Prepare to
Sette Down
27 - 35 Year
Exploration
8
A B C D
A
B
C
D
Synchronization of hormones, blood
pressure, biorhythm and strong “bond”
(Source: The Primal Wound)
Prenatal Bonding
In the first year after birth, the biorhythms
and biochemical bonding remains in tact and
mother and child are in complete synch to
develop a sense of security for the child in the
worl
Post-Natal Bonding
A disconnection or separation after birth
that interrupts the Post-Natal Bond in C
which can range up to the full year is creating
a core attachment wound where ethe child is
abandoned.
Individuation
As the biological synchronization disappears, the
child has to build its self and start to interact with
the mother and parents as external selfs that can
take care of its need. The “individuation” state is
crucial to develop object-relations and self.
In this stage, the child learns that it can communicate
its needs and that its caregivers will try to give in and
support it if reasonable. In broken contracts, the child
suppresses its needs (pleaser) or is overserverd (narc).
This stage is important to form reasonable bonds with
other children in Stage (1) when entering pre-school
Abandonment
Wound (optional)
8
As two humans try to master life together, before getting children, they
will both have to grieve their autonomy and learn to get closer on intimacy.
(1) Explore and grief the losses of past selfs and integrate all selfs with the partner
(2) Get deeply to know each other and form a union through trial and tribulation
Exploring true
Intimacy
Accept the
Settlement
35 - 45 Year
Exploration
9
Abandonment and Attachment Wounding takes this timeline to be fully realized and healed.
The unfolding narcissistic and ego wounds are slowly evolving and unfolding with our life journey and never fully can be healed.
Our Journey starts outside of our family as we explore and create and destroy external relations to people as agents of our family system.

14. Critical Development
Stages of the Child - Timeline
Prepare to
Sette Down
27 - 35 Year
Exploration
8
Be Settled
Down
30 - 45 Year
Exploration
9
9 The partner often is not perfect, the relationship
will take its toll with children and career. The career
will not be perfect. Even the children will have obvious
strengths and weaknesses that now are a factual reality.
Accepting the own
Settlement
(a) Can all accept that this is now the reality of their life?
(b) Who wants to escaoe into new career, new family, affairs?
(c) Is it fine that the social status achieved is the one remaining?
A Already in stage 9, but even more so in stage A, the parents
are confronted with their own limitations as well as the steady
decline of their own parents and increasingly becoming aware
of their own death being a reality.
Growth &
Decline
(a) Can we juggle the needs of children, family and parents?
(b) Can we accept our own flaws and that of our parents as we grow our children?
(c) Can we accept that we are dying while taking care of our paretns who remind us
and who are imperfect and who need us even more?
Growth and
Decline in One
35 - 50 Year
Exploration
A
B While some families fall apart and others remain stuck in their
inner conflicts and karmas. Some others master stage A quite well,
the parents are taken care off, the peace is achieved, and the children
become more independent. Time to define the “golden years”
The New
Adventures
(a) How do we relate ourselves to our peers? Are we still “in it”
(b) Do we still have hope to have a life or are we drowned in sorrow?
(c) Is it fine that the social status achieved is the one remaining?
C Finally heading for divorce, doing that sail turn, going to that Retreat
in Papa New Guinny. Or having cancer, heart attacks, meltdowns,
troublesome children and all those others things. Before death, this
golden or dogshit brown era comes.
Tragedy &
Aspirations
(a) Can we still grow and love and enjoy life together? How much autonomy?
(b) We have broken so many bonds. What about our lagest bonds?
(c) What truly happens when we are sick and needy.
To New
Adventures
45- 55 Year
Exploration
B
Tragegy and
Aspirations
50- 70 Year
Exploration
B
While psychopathy ends at some point in time,
narcissism just fades into isolation
In stage 2 of his life, the narcissist explores the limits that he
has and holds on to a burning desire to be express itself.
In almost all cases the narcissist discards or sheds its old self
and leaves family and friends behind to live his own life.
As death and
functioning
finally decline,
all humans learn
their own
lessons of
humility at the
end.

15. Pierre Janet - Structural
Dissociation and
Identity Disruption

16. Action Systems
Are slowly developed as the child growth and the neural
pathways are built in the attempt to adapt to the social
environment and community it lives in. Mostly supported by
the primary attachment
Regulatory Functions
xxx
▪ As the individual enters the world in the seeking of growth, exploration and goals, it will use play and exploration to form new identities in its approach to adapting.
▪ It will be more successful in integrating well into the new worlds and forming “sexual” bonds if it is well adjusted in attachment, defense and caretaking.
▪ If the features in are malfunctioning, it will not succeed in exploration and will need grandiose defenses to operate in these environment (schizoid, narcissistic)
▪ If the individual fails to retain any stable attachment and “fallback” or home, it will collapse completely and will use many failing identities to adapt incorrectly to many crowds
1
2
2
First 1 – 3
years
Till Age
12
10 – 27
Teens
Care-Taking
Exploration
Play
Attack & Defense - Protector
Sexual
Attachment / Extern. Protection and Regulation ▪ Secure handling of proximity and distance
▪ Approach/Connect and Autonomy/Disconnect
▪ Individuate from mother and become “self”
▪ Set boundaries and respect the “other”
▪ Trust the other and be trusted by the other
▪ Give and take and allow space and individuality
▪ Learn to be creative and test the other
▪ Grow together, go through ups and downs
▪ Venture out alone into foreign lands with pain
▪ Make mistakes, learn from mistakes, grow
▪ Turn a stranger into a secure attachment
▪ Fuse and melt and play and explore and care-take
1
2
Fuse
into
individual
identity
by
age
of
10
Identity
focuses
on
life
plan
Individuation
fuses
defense
systems
into
on
ID
Life
as
one
Personality
Calibrate
and
Navigate
Through
Life
Stable
identity
Social Interaction
▪ Needed for health and regulation of the psyche
▪ Includes appeasement and relations forming
Dad
Mom
Mom
Structural Dissociation Model
Energy Management (Sleep, Food, Shit, Breathe)
AttachmentFigures
/ Guiding Role Models

17. Attack & Defense - Protector
Attachment Life / Death
Schizoid Core
The Core of the Child is rejected.
This is so painful that the child dies.
The pain is dissociated into an EP
And hence the core of the Self is Empty
It / the EP
occasionally talks to the host and says:
“I am dead. You are worthless. Rejected”.
Kid
Mother
Failed Individuation
Feelings
Instincts
Desires
Boundary
Seen Needs
Supported Self
Caretaker
Child Learning is
ignored and neglected
“Dead Mother”
“Narcisstic Mother”
“Abusive Mother” → Maladaptation and Learning
of Bad Strategies in Social
(Pleaser, Angry Kid, Fighter)
→ To Receive conditional Love
→ Learning Masking and Psycho-
pathy
Play
Abuse leads to traits and
behaviour that are not adaptive
Kid Mother
Sex Play Explore
→ Child tries to escape mother
→ Child tries to replace mother
→ Child becomes schizoid and
grandiose and runs and is
restless to seek safety
The schizoid core is a feature that
opens us for fantasy and creating
the world.
Whereas the healthy core is about
adaptation, reality testing and finding
a way to fit into the social hierarchy.
The descriptive tradition began in 1925 with the description of observable
schizoid behaviors by Ernst Kretschmer. He organized those into three groups of
characteristics:
1.Unsociability, quietness, reservedness, seriousness and eccentricity.
2.Timidity, shyness with feelings, sensitivity, nervousness, excitability, fond of nature, books.
3.Pliability, kindliness, honesty, indifference, silence and cold emotional attitudes
Failed Evolution of Action System Integration

18. Personas
Feelings
Instincts
Desires
Kid
Mother
Expresses
via EPs
EPs interfere
with Personas
Try to Adapt
Traumas
Dissociate
Alters Form
As everyone interferes,
issues become apparent,
functioning decreases,
healing need sets in
System becomes self-aware
Life as an attempt to integrate the self and to adapt to the society
in stable communities and form your own family
Capitalism takes care of Physiology
and Safety. It is our job to find love
and Esteem
Child is separate
from the mother
and from its own
core.

19. Exploration
Attack & Defense - Protector
Play
Sexual
Care-Taker
Attachment
ANP 1- Peter ANP 2- Charlie ANP 3- Carla
+ Anger
- Empathy
- Maths
+ Anger
EP inserts Anger into Carla
when she loves someone
EP makes sure Charlie
is not good at math,
but he likes kissing girls
While Peter is good in
daily tasks and can stand
up for himself, he is unable
to show empathy to his
girlfriend
Somehow, when Charlie
plays with his friends,
EP gets very angry.
How Eps intere into adapted personalities
Peter is asexual and unable to
attach and take care.
Playboy Charlie is impulsive, irresponsible
and unable to focus on work.
When Carla falls in love, she does so hard.
She forgets work and sex and cares for people.
Each ANP only has limited access to the Action Systems.

20. Boundaries
& Integrity
Connection
& Intimacy
Self-Efficacy
and Experience
Belonging
and Acceptance
1
2
3
4
Care-Taker
Exploration
Play
Attack & Defense
Sexual
Attachment
Healthy Individuals:
❑ Develop each of these systems
in their maturation and individuation
and social integration journey
❑ They are well-adapted by being in
healthy environments where all these
can be used and formed healthily
❑ Their parents and interactions help
them form skills in a healthy way
❑ All systems are always able to access
at all times all systems = Full Executive
Function
Maturation of Action Systems
Successful Integration in Healthy Individuals

21. Belonging
and Acceptance
Self Image
Boundaries
& Integrity
Connection
& Intimacy
Self-Efficacy
and Experience
1
2
3
4
Ident
ity
Place
Body
Persona A – The Original
T
r
a
i
t
Belonging
and Acceptance
Self Image
Boundaries
& Integrity
Connection
& Intimacy
Self-Efficacy
and Experience
1
2
3
4
Ident
ity
Place
Body
Persona B – The Ideal Self
Belonging
and Acceptance
Self Image
Boundaries
& Integrity
Connection
& Intimacy
Self-Efficacy
and Experience
1
2
3
4
Ident
ity
Place
Body
Persona C – The Punisher
❑ Openly Narcistic and Machiavelistic
❑ Psychopathic and Sadistic
❑ Angry and judging and attacking
❑ Impulsive, fearless and competitive
❑ Communal and `Pleasing
❑ Empathetic and Benevolent
❑ Happy, helping and non-judgemental
❑ Controlled, cooperative, Composed
T
R
A
I
T
S
P
E
R
S
O
N
❑ “Toni”
❑ Childish and Introverted
❑ Goofy and Giggling
❑ “Rogue”
❑ Gothic and Blood Thirsty
❑ Piercing eye and strong posture
T
R
A
I
T
S
P
E
R
S
O
N
Rogue
Toni
Characters split off to
❑ adapt the identity to the situation
(retain grandiose self fantasy)
❑ Capsule “bad traits” in a safe space,
to avoid “all traits in one identity”
(“control of self to control environment”)
❑ Idea is to control the self in the specific
environment to prevent spill-overs
(“moral dilemma”)

22. Characters re-unite and merge
❑ In their time of formation and where they
were needed and used, split personalities felt
like a natural skin and normal
❑ Rogue was indeed successful at fighting of the
aggressive environment and allowed the system
to survive
❑ But when the environment changed, Rogue ran
into problems. The suppressed part of the host
took over again and pushed Rogue into the sub-
conscious.
Persona A – The Original
T
r
a
i
t
❑ Openly Narcistic and Machiavelistic
❑ Psychopathic and Sadistic
❑ Angry and judging and attacking
❑ Impulsive, fearless and competitive
❑ Communal and `Pleasing
❑ Empathetic and Benevolent
❑ Happy, helping and non-judgemental
❑ Controlled, cooperative, Composed
T
R
A
I
T
S
P
E
R
S
O
N
❑ “Toni”
❑ Childish and Introverted
❑ Goofy and Giggling
❑ “Rogue”
❑ Gothic and Blood Thirsty
❑ Piercing eye and strong posture
T
R
A
I
T
S
P
E
R
S
O
N
Tony Time
Rogue Time
Joshua Host Life
Identities are formed in the course of one’s life.
Later on, if not integrated, they come back into
a life where they no longer belong.
P
E
R
S
O
N
❑ “Survivor Joshua”
❑ A bit of everything
❑ Overall balanced in anxiety,
aggression and ability to love
T
R
A
I
T
S
❑ “Suriver Joshua”
❑ A bit of everything
❑ Overall balanced in anxiety,
aggression and ability to love

23. Attachment and Emotional Regulation

24. Integrated Model of Attachment and Nonverbal Behaviour for Reality Testing and Shaping
https://www.mdpi.com/2076-3425/13/6/884#

25. Integrated Model of Attachment and Nonverbal Behaviour for Reality Testing and Shaping
1 Situation Selection
❑ Milieu and Lifestyle
❑ Spaces and Transitlines
❑ Relationships and Position
a. Ensuring you are in the right place.
b. Ensuring you are avoding the wrong place / time.
2 Situation Modication
❑ Reframe, Defuse, Set Boundaries
❑ Assert, Reject, Cooperatte, Agree
❑ Turn losses into wins
a. Defining the dominant interpretation of the situation.
b. Handling and leading the dynamic of the situation
3 Situation Control
❑ Reality-Testing and Adaptation
❑ No interference from anxiety and distraction
❑ Proper execution of the situation
a. Adapt emotions, mind, vision and focus to the situation
b. Play the proper situational play and stay on point
4 Situation Outcome
❑ Result confirms reality testing and skills (efficacy)
❑ Relationship and Situation under control (confidence)
❑ Overall outcome fits into community (acceptance)
a. Final Result is as expected or reasonably so
b. Confirmation of the reality model and approach
❑ No emotional / attachment based filtering
❑ No psychosis or schizoid distortion
❑ Turn losses into wins