A natural instinctive state of mind deriving from ones circumstances, mood, or relationships with others. Any of the particular feelings that characterize such a state of mind, such as joy, anger, love, hate, horror, etc. Synonyms ◦ feeling - sensation - sentiment - agitation
Rooted from the concept of social intelligence – the ability to understand and relate to people. Ability to understand and manage men and women, boys and girls – to act wisely in human relations (Thorndike) Involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use the information to guide one’s thinking and actions.
Intelligence according to Tenedero is the ability to learn and apply what is learned. EI is the ability to understand and to effectively apply the power of emotions as a source of personal energy and interpersonal synergy. EQ has two essential aspects. Personal Interpersonal
Ability to read one’s own emotions ◦ -- I am excited! Understand the power of these emotions. ◦ -- I am excited because…. .. This ability leads to self-awareness and inner guidance.
Enables one to handle emotions. This ability leads to personal authenticity and resilience. ◦ -- I am excited, but I will not do anything in haste.
Enables one to harness the personal emotional power for a meaningful purpose. One’s own character is built. Personal potentials are gradually brought to actualization. ◦ -- I will use my excitement, or my anger, or my being in love to do something positive.
Using our own emotions as a point of reference. Enables us to reach out to other people, influence positively, and build transformational relationships with them.
Ability to recognize a feeling as it happens. Building block of the next fundamental of emotional intelligence: being able to shake off a bad mood. ◦ - People with greater certainty about their emotions are better pilots of their lives.
Bad as well as good moods spice life and build character. The key is balance. “reframing” – consciously reinterpreting a situation in a more positive light. “cooling down” – example, going for a drive to help you think clearly “exercise” – like taking a long walk to distract yourself.
Requires clear goals and an optimistic, can- do attitude. EXAMPLE: How 2 diff person deal with rejection A (pessimist) – “I’m a failure! I’ll never make a sale.” B (optimist) – “I’m using the wrong approach, I should do it better next time.”
The essence of emotional self-regulation is the ability to delay impulse in the service of a goal. The ability to resist impulse can be developed through practice.
The capacity to know how another person feels is important on the job, in romance and friendship, especially in the family. “THANK YOU” – can leave us feeling dismissed, patronized or genuinely appreciated.