STRATEGY FOR PURSUING SEXUAL PURITY FOR TEENAGERS AND YOUTHS

ORUIKOR GABRIEL JEREMIAH
STRATEGY FOR PURSUING SEXUAL PURITY FOR TEENAGERS AND YOUTHS

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STRATEGY
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STRATEGY FOR
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Content
FOREWORD ....................................................................
DEDICATION ...............................................................
INTRODUCTION
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CHAPTER 1. SEX AND GOD’S PLAN FOR HUMANITY
CHAPTER 2. SEX AND GOD’S PLAN FOR HUMANTY
CHAPTER 3. PRINCIPLES THAT HELP US IDENTIFY
THE DANGERS OF SEXUAL TEMPTATION
CHAPTER 4. YOUTHS AND TEENAGERS SEXUAL
PRESSURES
CHAPTER 5. THE BIOLOGICAL INFLUENCE OF
PREMARITAL SEX ON THE YOUTHS
CHAPTER 6... YOUTHS AND SEXUAL CHALLENGE
CHAPTER 7.CONSEQUENCES OF PREMARITAL SEX

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FOREWORD
It is now a common knowledge that teenagers and
youths of our generation are faced with great
challenges. The development scored safer in the
communication and media industries is not
helping matters. Praise God where iniquity
abound, grace receives a boost, but sin being a
great hindrances to grace must be checkmate;
abounding grace must be given her place.
The creator of all things; the great master designer
God made all things beautiful in order to return
praises unto Himself. He determined the times
and seasons, gave the boundaries of human
habitations. In His love furnished His prime
creation (man) with the manual to run the affairs
of the earth while he oversees all things from the
heavens.
His love covered us from all grounds and gave us
all things freely to enjoy. And in Him all things
consists –and maintains their existence. Sexuality
being part of His fundamental bonding principles
in human co-existence must be fully understood
to be appreciated. The divine and premier
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appreciation; that gives us a balance in seeing it
as good and acceptable and perfect will of God
within the confines of marriage. However where
purpose is not define, abuse automatically is
inevitable. The devil being the lawless one is after
every good intentions of God, and one of the
major areas he resolved to destroy is this prime
institution of God, and that right early. One need
to ask, why has this been the case? Why does he
support and sponsor sexual promiscuity; why is
the devil and his cohorts investing so much in
promoting sexual immorality in the world today.
Many views have been put forward, including total
damage to God’s original purpose for marriage
and pro creation, causing damage and frustration
to couples, thereby discouraging younger
generations from patronizing the institution of
marriage, painting a wrong picture of the Love of
God by reducing it to mere fun and fantasy of
sexuality and lots more. No wonder today there’s
a geometrical rise in divorce among spouse. All of
these could be traced to the lack of proper
trainings and teachings on the values and
blessings of sexual purity during the early ages of
the children.

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This book strategy for pursuing sexual purity for
teenagers and youths, has carefully analyzed how
to resolve this matter. The writer Dr Gabriel
Jeremiah Oruikor, has taken time to research into
the plan and purpose of God through the help of
the Holy Spirit.
In His approach as a seasoned teacher and
passionate lover of children; He unveiled the
merits and the demerits of sexuality, the strategies
he downloaded for the teenagers and youths in
pursuing sexual purity are single as well as
practicable.
He took time out to expound on God’s will or
purpose for sexuality. Acknowledge the obvious
temptations therein; he pointed the teenagers and
youths to the life of Joseph of the bible who
resisted temptations and received a reward of the
crown in the foreign land of Egypt.
He further highlighted the principles that will guide
the younger generation in discerning the obvious
effects of premarital sex. He shared his heart of
love to them by delivering into the biological
influences of pre-marital sex for youths. What a
great lesson, to note that there are hormones that

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are released during sexual activities which have
great effects on the both sexes.
The obedience to divine command to flee the
youthful lust of sexuality with the tremendous
benefits of enjoying a lasting married life
thereafter was a very strong point. In his research
work he detailed the strong effects of bonding in
marriage as a result of sexual purity. He magnified
the Word of God by X-raying the dangers of
multiple sexual partners scientifically. He
concluded the matter by letting the teenagers and
youths have appreciation that bonds are strict at
every sexual meetings and broken when new
ones are entered.
So rather than enjoying the designers purpose
and beauty, multiple sexual relationship
automatically frustrates trust and destroys the
basic fundamental bonding power that sustains
marriage, commitment and spiritual connection
may as well be affected from this. He pointed the
way of escape from sexual immorality by
introducing them to the finished work of the cross
and witness of the Holy Spirit. In his advice,
teenagers need to stay connected and totally lost
in the Holy Spirit. They need to absolutely depend

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upon the work and ministry of the Holy Spirit that
dwells in them; Knowing the truth that their body
is designed for this purpose. (1 corth 6:18-20)
They need to study and feed their minds and heart
on the truth. Avoid all manners of fables and
appearances of sin. They need to be discreet in
selecting friendship above all give themselves to
healthy spiritual fellowship that will challenge
them in making positive changes. They must hold
onto their nature in holiness. He concluded by
pointing them to the consequences of sexual
purity; expanding the words of Paul in Gal 6:7 in a
sweet way, he advised them never to sow any
seed they will not love to harvest. Rather holding
onto the divine strategy for pursuing sexual purity;
which is HOLDING UNTO THE HOLY SPIRIT IN
ALL THINGS AND NEVER LET GO THE
PRESCENCE OF GOD IN THEIR BODY.
Pastor Tony Chuks Okorie.
Missionary Director (Jesus Witness Int’l Mission)

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DEDICATION
I dedicate this book to my Teenagers in
CHILDREN BIBLE AND PRAYER MINISTRY
INTERNATIONAL.

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
My profound gratitude goes to God the Father,
Son and Holy Ghost, the author of my inspiration
and wisdom .
I most gladly appreciate the following peoples: Mr
and Mrs Oruikor Alfred Jeremiah , my biological
parents, they nurtured me with all I need to grow
and be useful to the society today, Pst. (Engr)
Tony Chuks Okorie my spiritual Father and the
Founder of Jesus Witness International Mission
,who has been nurturing me spiritually and
otherwise . His effort in my spiritual upbringing is
the result of this book. Dr Flore Ewane , my soul
partner who stood behind me in times of special
needs and encouragement .
Dr (Mrs) Jeanne-Frances Maduakor the Director
of Abundance Private Schools and Matron of
CBPMI. She is a huge supporter to me both in my
Ministry and personal life . Chief George C
Iboroma the ruler of Ikagak Family , Snr. Ap.
Alfred Oruikor Alfred and Ap. Oruikor Ephraim
my loving Uncles , they are very supportive even
in my education.

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I am glad to recognize Pst. and Mrs Daniel
Okoh,the G. O of Pillars of fire Ministries, Snr. Ap
and Prophetess Michael Kalu Oko , Rev and
Evang Jehoshaphat Omaka, the G. O of the Good
Shepherd Missions, Pst. Mrs. Mavis Tony
Chukwu, Ap and Pst John Akanu, the G. O of
Divine Grace Church, Bro. Ndukwo Uka Aiuya, Mr
And Mrs Agoh Apollos, the director of God seed
International Schools, Ap. Kingsley Ebere Kalu
Head steward at Fresh Word of life and Faith
Mission International, Bro Izu Alphonsus Opurum,
Mr and Mrs Chike Chinedu ,Henry Okafor and Dr.
Stephen Nwawolo, the DVC Hill City University
Benin , for their supports and love.
I will not fail to recognize my second Father , ASS.
Oruikor Nsan Jeremiah . He is indeed a big
brother to me both in finance and encouragement.
Mr. Maxwell Wisdom, always encouraging me not
to give up and today I am here. Evang.Glory Eke,
Pst. Jacob Chukwu and Pst. Blessing Iheme my
co workers in CBPMI. Pst. Tonybede Ohaeri of
the House of Victory Bible Church, he is a Mentor
indeed to me and has really affected my life with
the gospel of Jesus . Rev. Dr and Pst Godwin
Onwe, the Founder of Christ life Tabernacle.

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He has contributed immernsly to the outcome of
this book. Rev. Dr. Emmanuel Azu, the President
of Christ Evangelical Team, ThankGod Ikor
George my Academic mentor . Mrs . Ikpe Nathan,
the typist of this book and Secretary of CBPMI
Nigeria and Rev. James Okechukwu, the Director
of CBPMI Nigeria, Snr. Ap. George Ikor, Mr.
Moses Oruikor, Mr John Nrioh, Enock Eli, and
Alison Phanuel.
Most importantly , I warmly appreciate all my
Teenagers and Children in CBPMI.

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INTRODUCTION
Timothy 2:22 Flee the evil desires of youth and
pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace,
along with those who call on the Lord out of a
pure heart.
Apostle Paul advised his Son in the Lord, a Youth
to avoid desires that are evil. Any thing we do out
of God’s desired purpose is evil and likewise so is
premarital sex.
Premarital sex is one of the major challenges of
the Youth in God’s service. Sexuality is one of our
creator‘s most beautiful gift given to us by His love.
But this gift is to be used only within marriage as
God intended originally when He gave it to us.
We must recognize and respond to ―sexual
temptation before we go too far.
Hear what the scripture says , ‘’A wise person
foresees evil and takes action to avoid trouble’’.
Prov. 22:3. As Christian Youth , we are suppose
to be wise like our Lord Jesus Christ to discern the
handy work and devices of our adversary the devil
. Just as Jesus resisted temptation when He was
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must not forget that temptations are not new. We
know that our friend Joseph was also tempted in
this issue of sex but he stood his place and
resisted the Satan.
Sexual temptation didn’t start from the new
testament or in our era, but started before we are
given birth to.
Temptation is like a fishing lure that makes a trout
think he is getting his favorite meal, half-truths and
deceptive statements about our sexuality hide the
―hooks that can catch us. Of course, we are
usually more intelligent than fish. Sometimes,
however, we trade the future for the moment. Like
a fish, we are deceived by a lure we don‘t really
understand. But I want to announce to you my
fellow youth, we are not fish in Christ so we
shouldn’t make ourselves available to be preyed
by our enemies. There are a lot to do with our
bodies for Jesus than to be defiled through
uhealthy sex. Sex that doesn’t stem from the right
source is termed unhealthy and it is very
dangerous to our destinies .
Many Youths had been captured and captivated
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uses this as a major arrow to strike us. But I am
charging all the Youths of this time to stand up and
refuse . Enough of deception and lies. I pray that
this book will help the Youth to take their right
stand in JESUS.

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CHAPTER ONE SEX AND GOD’S PLAN FOR
HUMANITY
God is the author of sex and decided it to be only
within marriage . our God knows the best for us
that is why He placed a limit in this matter of sex.
Look at this: ‘’ Nevertheless , to avoid fornication ,
let every Man have his own wife , and let every
woman have her own husband. Let the husband
render unto the wife due benevolence : and
likewise also the wife unto the husband’’. 1Cor7:2-
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The scripture above buttressed two major points
namely , To get married and to render what is due
to each other . The reason of Marriage here is to
avoid fornication . Meaning the couples are only
permitted to render due benevolence to each
other .The due benevolence here is sex. Let us
read Genesis 4:1 ‘’ And Adam knew Eve his wife:
and she conceived and bare Cane ,and said I
have gotten a Man from the Lord’’.
Adam sexed Eve his wife not his friend . So we
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husband and wife . Sex is a gift from God and
must be pure since our God dwells in purity .
Sex outside marriage is an immoral act and
denote disobedience and lack of respect for God’s
commandment.
Friends , sex is satisfactory and enjoying when it
is done in consonant with God’s desire for us.
Most of us have had trouble at times discerning
the will of God. At those times, we’ve wished that
God would just speak audibly, “My will is that you
take the job that you’ve been offered.” Or, “My will
is that you marry Suzy.” “Okay, God, I’ve got it!”
In our text, God plainly states His will for each of
us in one important matter (1 Thess. 4:3 ): “For
this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is,
that you abstain from sexual immorality.” There is
no ambiguity in that: God wants you to be morally
pure. He doesn’t command moral purity to deprive
you of fun, but rather to increase your ultimate
pleasure in Him. At His right hand are pleasures
forever ( Ps. 16:11 ). He designed the sexual
relationship in marriage for our pleasure in Him.
So, any violation of moral purity goes against
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of sexual immorality will hurt God’s name, hurt
you, and hurt others. As the one who created sex,
God tells us in His word both how sex can bless
us and how it can harm us. He clearly stated His
will that we abstain from sexual immorality.
But it’s safe to say that we live in a world where
sexual temptation is more readily accessible than
at any other time in history. When I was a
Teenqger, it wasn’t nearly as easy to view
pornography as it is now. Then, you had to
deliberately search it out, often in sleazy stores
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CHAPTER TWO SEX AND GOD’S PLAN
FOR HUMANTY
Admittedly , God will is the perfect one for us.
Every believers should know that God made sex
and not Man . So it is under His control and
directions.
When you buy a particular instrument there is
always the manufacturer’s manual . This
contained the instructions and precautions about
the item purchased. It is not negotiable and must
be followed if you want it durable. But when
neglected, is a problem. The same is applicable
with sex . God made it and gave us the manual,
so must be followed. Let us see the view of
Apostle Paul for sexual purity .
Paul’s commandments for sexual purity were as
countercultural in that day as they are in ours. His
message is crystal clear: God’s will is for His
people to be sexually pure by knowing Him and by
the power of the Holy Spirit. That is God’s manual
for sex.
God Manual for sexual purity as inspired
through Apostle Paul 1Thessalonians 4:3-8

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1. God’s will is for His people to be sexually
pure or holy :
As believers, we are under obligation to walk and
please God by obeying. His commandments.
Now, Paul specifically zeroes in on the need for
sexual purity or holiness:
A. Holiness is the very nature of God in purity of
purpose. It is an inherent nature only found in God.
It is the nature of the new creature (2Corinth 5:17)
to be conformed to God’s image or nature.
Holiness means to be set apart unto God, who
called us out of darkness into His light.
“Sanctification” (NASB) means “holiness.” To be
holy is to be set apart from this evil world unto
God. Paul repeats the word three times in our text
for emphasis (verses 3, 4, & 7). In verse 7, Paul
links sanctification with our salvation:
“For God has not called us for the purpose of
impurity, but in sanctification.” God’s calling
refers to His effectual call to salvation. He took
the initiative to rescue us from His judgment
and wrath by sending His own Son to bear the
penalty that we deserve. But now, having been
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commands us to be holy, even as He is holy (1
Pet. 1:14-16 ).
The Bible uses “sanctification” or “sanctify” in
three senses: First, there is positional
sanctification. Every believer is set apart in
Christ ( 1 Cor. 1:2; 6:11 ;
Heb. 0:14). Second, there is progressive
sanctification, the process by which we become
holy in all our behavior (1 Pet. 1:14-15 ). Third,
someday we all will achieve perfect sanctification,
when Jesus returns and we will be like Him, with
all traces of sin removed (1John 3:1-3 ).
Dr. Ryrie used to illustrate this by a little girl with a
lollipop. She wants it all for herself, but she sees
her friend coming and is afraid that she will have
to give it to her. So, she licks it all over. Now it is
“positionally sanctified.” It belongs totally to her.
Then she begins appropriating that lollipop for
herself as she progressively licks it. Finally, it will
be totally “conformed” to her, when she finishes it.
In our text, verse 7 may be referring to our
positional sanctification. God has called us in the
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But in verses 3 & 4, Paul is referring to our growth
in holiness, which as we saw last time, comes
from walking daily with the Lord. Specifically, here
Paul focuses on sexual purity:
B. Holiness means abstaining from sexual
immorality.
The Greek word ( porneia ) refers to any kind of
sexual relation outside of heterosexual marriage.
This includes sex before marriage, adultery,
homosexuality, incest, prostitution, or bestiality . 1
Cor. 6:9-11 ; 1 Tim. 1:9-11 ). Paul is not calling us
to moderation of our sexual impulses, but to total
abstinence outside of the marriage bond. As he
wrote (Eph. 5:3-5 ):
But immorality or any impurity or greed must not
even be named among you, as is proper among
saints; and there must be no filthiness and silly
talk, or coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but
rather giving of thanks. For this you know with
certainty, that no immoral or impure person or
covetous man, who is an idolater, has an
inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.
As Jesus made clear, sexual immorality begins on
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with lust is to commit adultery with her in your
heart (Matt. 5:27 ). He also said (Mark 7:21-23 ),
For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed
the evil thoughts, fornications, thefts, murders,
adulteries, deeds of coveting and wickedness, as
well as deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride and
foolishness. All these evil things proceed from
within and defile the man.
So to win the battle for sexual purity, you must
control your thought life, which requires controlling
what goes into your mind. You cannot look at
sensuous movies or TV shows or internet content
and be morally pure. You can’t avoid looking at all
the sensuously dressed women who parade
around in our culture, but you can avoid the
second look. And, you can immediately redirect
your thoughts by following Romans 13:14 : “But
put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no
provision for the flesh in regard to its lusts.”
But, to do that requires control:
C.Holiness in the sexual realm requires
self-control.
In verses 4 & 5, Paul explains what he means by
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you know how to possess his own vessel in
sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion, like
the Gentiles who do not know God.” The problem
is, Paul’s explanation is not exactly clear!
There are two main views: Some argue that
“possess his own vessel” should be translated,
“acquire his own vessel,” where “vessel” refers to
a wife. Many godly Bible scholars hold to this view.
The Greek verb as used elsewhere in the New
Testament means “to acquire,” not to “possess” or
“control.” This would line up with 1Corinthians7:9,
where Paul teaches that if you lack self-control,
you should marry rather than burn with lust. When
Paul says that a Christian should “possess his
own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in
lustful passion,” he means that rather than basing
marriage primarily on sexual attraction, as we
often see in the Hollywood crowd, there should be
a sanctity about the married relationship. It
portrays the exclusive love that exists between
Christ and His church (Eph. 5:22-33 ). Thus
marriage should be held in honor and the marriage
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The second view is that “vessel” refers to a
person’s body and that “possess” has the
meaning of “controlling, gaining mastery over, or
keeping.” The verb can have that nuance.
1-2 Thessalonians. Paul’s other uses of “vessel”
refer to persons or their bodies (e.g. Rom. 9:21-22
; 2 Cor. 4:7 ; 2 Tim. 2:21 ). So Paul was exhorting
not only the men (as the first view would imply),
but both men and women to control their bodies
by restricting sexual activity to one’s marriage
partner (1 Cor. 6:15-7:9 ). I lean toward this view.
But both views require self-control in the sexual
realm and Paul taught both views elsewhere. God
gave heterosexual marriage as the legitimate
place for sexual relations. And, whether single or
married, both men and women need to control
sexual lust, beginning on the thought level. We
must guard our thought life and put a huge fence
around our marriages as sacred. You may think
that no one knows what you’re thinking or looking
at, and that as long as you don’t get physically
involved with a woman or man who is not your
spouse, no one will get hurt. But that’s fallacious
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you can’t be close to Him while you’re entertaining
sinful lust. Second, looking at porn or looking
lustfully at women is like tolerating cracks in a dam
beneath the water level. No one can see them but
if they’re not fixed, eventually the dam will collapse
and there will be a lot of damage.
That leads to the second point:
2. Sexual sin among God’s people always
causes damage.
A. Sexual sin hurts God’s name: God is holy
and He is identified with His people. When
professing Christians engage in sexual
immorality, it drags God’s holy name through the
mud in the eyes of the watching world. This is
especially true when Christian leaders are caught
in sin. The world mocks and shrugs off the claims
of the gospel as a joke. It gives occasion to the
enemies of the Lord to blaspheme ( 2 Sam. 12:14
).
B. Sexual sin hurts the sinner himself:
Contrary to what is often said, all sin is not the
same. Paul says that the immoral man sins
against his own body ( 1 Cor. 6:18 ). Those who
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women, dishonor their bodies and “receive in their
own persons the due penalty of their error” ( Rom.
1:24-27 ). God’s moral laws are like the traffic
laws: you can disobey them for a while and
perhaps get where you want to go faster. But
sooner or later, you’ll come around a curve too
fast, hit a pole, and suffer the consequences.
God’s laws are designed by the wise Creator to
protect us.
C. Sexual sin hurts many others: This is
probably what Paul means when he says ( 1
Thess. 4:6 ), “and that no man transgress and
defraud his brother in the matter….” To have
sexual relations with another man’s wife or
another woman’s husband is to transgress against
the innocent spouse and defraud him or her. To
violate an unmarried woman is to hurt her and to
defraud her future husband of her virginity. Implicit
in the word “defraud” (related to the word for
“greed”) is that sexual sin is inherently selfish.
You’re taking advantage of the other person for
your own pleasure or benefit. You may rationalize
it by saying that it was by mutual agreement and
for mutual pleasure. But you’re deceiving yourself.
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sin hurts them by robbing them of your godly
example. It hurts other church members by
damaging the reputation of Christians in the
community. As David’s sin with Bathsheba shows,
he paid an awful price with his family and with his
kingdom for a night of sinful pleasure. But Paul
ups the ante:
3. God will bring judgment on those who are
sexually impure: Paul adds (1 Thess. 4:6 b),
“because the Lord is the avenger in all these
things, just as we also told you before and
solemnly warned you.” Then in verse 8, he adds
the warning, “So, he who rejects this is not
rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy
Spirit to you.” This reminds me of the severe
warning in Hebrews 10:26-31 : For if we go on
sinning willfully after receiving the knowledge of
the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for
sins, but a terrifying expectation of judgment and
the fury of a fire which will consume the
adversaries. Anyone who has set aside the Law of
Moses dies without mercy on the testimony of two
or three witnesses. How much severer
punishment do you think he will deserve who has
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regarded as unclean the blood of the covenant by
which he was sanctified, and has insulted the
Spirit of grace? For we know Him who said,
“Vengeance is Mine, I will repay.” And again, “The
Lord will judge His people.” It is a terrifying thing
to fall into the hands of the living God.
Hebrews 13:4 also warns, “Marriage is to be held
in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to
be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers
God will judge.” Perhaps you’re wondering, “I
thought that Christians were totally forgiven. I
thought that we were under grace. But that doesn’t
sound very gracious!”
If a genuine Christian falls into these sins and
repents, God will forgive his sin, but He may not
remove the consequences (as with David’s sin).
But if someone professes to be a Christian, but
habitually engages in sexual immorality, he may
be deceived in calling himself a Christian. The
Bible repeatedly warns that the sexually immoral
will not inherit the kingdom of God ( 1 Cor. 6:9 ;
Gal. 5:19-21 ; Eph. 5:3-6 ). These strong warnings
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immorality. But, true Christians will be miserable
when they sin and cannot continue in sin (1John
3:9 ).
To reject God’s clear warnings indicates that the
person does not truly know Him. So, how, then
can a Christian be sexually pure?
4. To be sexually pure, you must know God
and walk by the power of His indwelling Holy
Spirit : More could be added for a comprehensive
strategy against sexual sin, but here Paul
mentions these two things:
A. To be sexually pure, you must know God:
Paul contrasts Christian sexual purity with “the
Gentiles who do not know God” ( 1 Thess. 4:5 ).
To be a true Christian means that you have come
to know God through Jesus Christ (John 17:3 ;
Gal. 4:9 ). In
2 Thessalonians 1:8 , Paul says that when the
Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven, He will deal
“out retribution to those who do not know God and
to those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord
Jesus.” In Romans 1 , those whom God gives over
to suffer the consequences of their sin knew about
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creation, but they suppress the truth in
unrighteousness and do not honor God as God or
give thanks. He goes on to add (Rom. 3:18 ),
“There is no fear of God before their eyes.” If
we truly know God, we fear Him, hate evil, and
turn away from sin ( Job 28:28 ; Ps. 97:10 ; Ps.
111:10 ; Prov. 1:7; 9:10 ).
B. To be sexually pure, you must walk by the
power of His indwelling Holy Spirit:
Paul mentions (v. 8) in passing (indicating that he
also taught them this truth) that God “gives His
Holy Spirit to you.” He uses a Greek construction
that emphasizes “Holy” (literally, “His Spirit, the
Holy One”). In Galatians 5:16 , Paul writes, “But I
say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out
the desire of the flesh.” He goes on to enumerate
some of those sinful desires, which include
immorality, impurity, and sensuality. He adds that
one fruit of the Holy Spirit is self-control. So a daily
step-by-step walk of dependence on the
indwelling Holy Spirit is the key to resisting sexual
temptation and developing sexual purity. There
are several aspects of this to keep in mind: First,
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When you think about the fact that you deserved
God’s judgment, but He chose you and called you
to salvation and gave you His Holy Spirit to live in
you, it will make you hate your sin and turn from it.
Second, the Holy Spirit is holy ! As the eternal third
person of the trinity, He is the one of whom the
angels cover their faces in His presence as they
say (Isa. 6:3), “Holy, holy, holy is the Lord of
hosts, the whole earth is full of His glory.” He
is light and in Him is no darkness at all (1John 1:5
). His eyes are too pure to approve evil (Hab. 1:13
).
Peter exhorts (1 Pet. 1:14-16 ), “As obedient
children, do not be conformed to the former lusts
which were yours in your ignorance, but like the
Holy One who called you, be holy yourselves also
in all your behavior; because it is written, ‘You
shall be holy, for I am holy.’”
Third, this Holy Spirit dwells in you. If you think
about that when you’re tempted to click on that
porn site or entertain lustful thoughts about a
woman, you would immediately cut off your hand
or pluck out your eye (Matt. 5:27-30 ). As David
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[Crossway], ed. by John Piper & Justin Taylor, p.
105), “The only way you ever sin is by suppressing
God, by forgetting, by tuning out his voice,
switching channels, and listening to other voices.”
Fourth, remember that your sin grieves the Holy
Spirit (Eph. 4:30 ). “Grieve” is an emotional
loveword. When you sin against someone who
loves you, that person grieves. To sin against the
Holy Spirit who sealed you for the day of
redemption is to grieve the God who gave His Son
to save you.
CHAPTER THREE
PRINCIPLES THAT HELP US IDENTIFY THE
DANGERS OF SEXUAL TEMPTATION
See, this sex issue is very powerful and requires
technical skills to be totally abstinence or void of
impure aspect of it.
There is a passage in the Holy Bible that is very
focused on our subject here:
―Finally then brethren, we urge and exhort in the
Lord Jesus that you should abound more and
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to walk and to please God; for you know what
commandments we gave you through the Lord
Jesus. For this is the will of God, your
sanctification; that you should abstain from sexual
immorality; that each of you should know to
possess his own vessel in sanctification and
honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who
do not know God; that no one should take
advantage of and defraud his brother in this
matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all
such, as we also forewarned you and testified. For
God did not call us to uncleanness but in holiness.
Therefore, he who rejects this does not reject
man, but God, who has also given us His Holy
Spirit. (1 Thess 4:1-8)
These words are just as timely and important
today as they were in the first century.
The following points should serve s our principles
regarding to sexual purity:
1.GOD‟S WORD IS GIVING US WHAT IS
THE BEST FOR US
No one understands us better than God who
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No one is in a better position to see the longterm
implications of sexual choices. ―You know what
commandment we gave you through the Lord
Jesus (v. 2).
―For this is the will of God your sanctification (v.3)
and (v.8). St. Paul said ―he who rejects this does
not reject man, but God. Therefore, we cannot
dismiss sections of the bible we do not agree with.
We cannot reject what God commanded us to do
for the sake of our goodness without rejecting God
Himself.
2. GOD WANTS TO PROTECT US NOT TO
SPOIL OUR PLEASURE:
In 1 Thess. 4:3 St. Paul said ―This is the will of
God … that you should abstain from sexual
immorality.
The Greek word translated: ―sexual immorality‖
is pomeia, which St. Paul uses to refer to the full
range of unhealthy sexual behaviour outside of
the one-man-with one woman marriage
relationship. Sexual immorality, therefore,
includes premarital relationships. Adultery,
homosexual acts, prostitution, incest, rape
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20 lists a wide variety of sexual acts that violate
God‘s intent for our sexual expression.) Why does
God place these limitations on us? Again, we need
to keep in mind that our creator‘s boundaries are
for our protection not to spoil our pleasure.
3. SEXUAL INTIMACY IS A BEAUTIFUL
PART OF MARRIAGE
St. Paul spoke of using our bodies in ways that are
honourable and will please the Lord (1Thess 4:4)
The relationship between husband and wife
provides opportunity for the fulfillment of sexual
desires.
In fact, St. Paul said that a husband and wife owe
it to each other to fulfill their partner‘s needs (1Cor.
7:1-9).
In the original creation account, God stated His
intent for a man and woman to leave their parents
and join together as ―one flesh (Gen. 2:24). This
―one flesh relationship was designed to involve
physical and spiritual intimacy within the safety of
a commitment to each other. (Mt. 19:5-6).
4. WE CANNOT AFFORD TO LOOK AT
CULTURE IN ORDER TO EXAMINE THE
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St. Paul said that we cannot use our bodies ―in
passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know
God. 1 Thess. 4:5 Our culture, since it has
forsaken God‘s wisdom for gods of convenient
excuses and immediate personal gratification,
cannot give us healthy guidance for sexual
behavior.
Our culture has become obsessed with a blind
pursuit of sexual pleasure. This unbridled attitude
toward sexual expression has not satisfied
anyone.
The more you feed it, the more it craves.
5. A HEART BLINDED BY SEXUAL DESIRE
IS EVIL:
St. Paul warned about a heart blinded by sexual
desire. (1 Thess. 4:5) Our Lord Jesus taught us
that sexuality is first and foremost a matter of the
heart (Mt. 5: 27-30).
When our hearts are corrupted with sexual desire
then everything else gets corrupted in our life.
―Keep your heart with all diligence for out of it
spring the issues of life. Prov. 4:23. Similarly the
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thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts,
false witness, blasphemies… Matt. 15:19
6. A PERSON CAN LIVE HAPPILY
WITHOUT SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP:
St. Paul wrote in 1 Thess 4:1-6 that the important
values are pleasing God, treating our bodies with
honor and not taking advantage of others. If we
pursue sexual pleasure as the path to happiness,
we will be disappointed. Instead of finding
satisfaction, we are more likely to become
addicted to enslaving passions and practices.
King Solomon, for example, became a dissatisfied
and unhappy man, even though he had many
wives and many women he used as sexual
partners.
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CHAPTER FOUR YOUTHS AND
TEENAGERS SEXUAL PRESSURES
we always hear from many of our youths
regarding their suffering from sexual pressures
and its impact on their lives, I will like to focus on
the factors affecting thesepressures.
“Or do you not know that your body is the
temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom
you have from God, and you are not your
own?” 1 Cor. 6:19).
We often hear the repeated cries of young people
asking: ―Why does God allow us to suffer these
sexual pressures? Is He not the one who created
in us the sexual instinct? Are these impulses that
we feel not normal? How can God then ask us to
postpone this form of expression? We find it hard
to resist the insistent demands of desire, and
sometimes a man thinks of marriage as a way of
escape and a release of this energy!
In order to explain this issue fully, we have to
discuss and assess some of the concepts
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FUNDAMENTAL TRUTHS
(1) In man, in contrast to animals, it is not
enough to mature sexually in order to lead a
normal life: this must be accompanied by
psychological maturity. Thus, sexual maturity can
be defined as the maturation of both physical and
psychological sexuality. God’s divine wisdom in
this is that the purpose of human sexuality in
general is to prepare the individual for family life.
physical maturity is not enough to assume its
responsibilities and burdens.
(2) Physical sexual maturity takes place a
number of years before psychological sexual
maturity. The reason is that psychological sexual
maturity does not happen suddenly but requires
constant and repeated interaction with others
through which the individual gradually goes out of
himself to learn how to give to and make sacrifices
for others, forgoing some of his personal needs for
the sake of others. This goes hand in hand with
understating his own inner sexual feelings on the
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mental, emotional, social, and spiritual maturation
can also be achieved, for they all contribute to
psychological maturity, which takes a long time,
extending from childhood through adolescence to
adulthood.
(3) Sometimes psychological sexual maturity is
appreciably delayed in spite of an individual‘s
attaining adulthood. This is probably due to the
delay in emotional development because the
individual‘s emotions remain childish.
He pities and indulges himself, and does not want
to expend it on behalf of others; he prefers to
gratify it by giving it all the pleasures it desires
without thinking of making others happy.
Psychological sexual growth takes another path.
Instead of sexual energy being expended in order
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the pleasure that accompanies sexual activity to
gratify itself (the ―I taking from the ―other). No
doubt, this leads to a delay in the achievement of
psychological sexual maturity.
(4) When sexual energy is restricted within the
bounds of the ego, man’s sexual life consists of
consumption instead of being a life of giving love,
whether before or after marriage. Before marriage,
his attitude to the opposite sex is sensual; that is,
he sees the other as something to be possessed
for self gratification.
After marriage,the same attitude prevails and his/
her partner is a means of finding pleasure (not an
end in him/herself), a means he/she exploited for
his/her own purposes. Marriage is neither an
escape from sexual difficulties nor a solution to the
sexual pressures that young people are subject to,
unless the sexual hardships serve to lead to the
individual‘s maturity, making him fit for the
sacrificing life of marriage. Then marriage is not
merely a release from sexual pressures but
becomes an extension of the life of love- a giving
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of assuming the responsibilities of marriage and a
family.
THE CONCEPT OF SEXUAL HARDSHIP:
Sexual hardship is a state of psychological and
physical disturbance that begins with the onset of
puberty when the sexual hormones first explode
bringing with them emotions and feelings for the
opposite sex. There are many mood swings and in
general there is a special inclination towards the
opposite sex, oftentimes changing into sensual
desire that soon converts the ―other‖ from a
person to be loved and lived with into a mere body
for selfish gratification.
This results in a conflict (difficulties or hardships)
within the young person, a conflict between two
desires:
(1) The first desire is to unite with the other
which can only be attained through sanctified
marriage. This needs to be sublimated towards the
love of others and not be limited to one particular
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which an individual is united to others intellectually
and spiritually through social life and the church.
(2) The second desire is to possess and use the
other’s body as something to be enjoyed. This
conflicts with the desire to unite with the other.
If an individual is inclined towards the first desire,
he becomes spiritually and emotionally mature,
that is, real love matures and leads to his
developing a stable personality. On the other
hand, if he tends towards the second desire, he
remains emotionally childish, and continues to
burn.
Sexual hardship is thus linked with the normal
growth of the individual and through it, he can
adapt to the numerous physical, intellectual, and
emotional changes that he undergoes as well as
the changes that result from his relationship with
others (social development). When we realize that
the formation of the personality needs difficulties,
the hardship of going beyond self, we soon realize
that sexual maturation, if it takes the right path, will
give great impetus to the development of the
personality and will contribute to its stability, its
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necessary for psychological and character
maturity on condition that these difficulties are
exploited in a healthy way, that is, on the condition
that the energy engendered by the hardship is
deflected from the ego and directed to love of and
openness to others.
HOW TO COPE WITH SEXUAL DIFFICULTIES
We must not interpret the expression ―sexual
difficulties‖ to mean the painful psychological
pressures that tear a person apart. Rather, we
must understand it to refer to a symptom of a
distress that afflicts a soul that seeks growth and
maturity.
This depends on the way we cope with sexual
difficulties, for we could find release through
selfish gratification and thus pervert our sexual
energy from the love for which God had designed
it and thus delay psychological maturity. We could
also put our sexual life on the path of real love and
thus grow psychologically.
Personality thus matures and becomes integrated.
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and out of love for Him. Thus we achieve
continuous spiritual growth.
Oftentimes, young people deal with sexual
stresses in such a way as to hinder their healthy
psychological development when they try to find
release in self-induced arousal or through
adultery.
These are failed and futile attempts to relieve that
intensity of the stresses. If we, however, bear the
hardship, attempting to go out of ourselves,
seeking true love, and depending on the power of
the Holy Spirit, we will discover that the difficulties
are gradually alleviated to the extent that we
gradually attain psychological maturity and a
balanced personality. Thus, the difficulties
gradually diminish opening up the way for genuine
love to flower in our hearts.
These difficulties which young people experience
are part of a normal process through which all who
have matured, have passed. They are necessary
for the building of love for and relations with others.
Young people will find themselves faced with the
option of choosing to be imprisoned in self or to
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Selflessness is a prerequisite of maturation. This
can be attained through the refusal to wasted
sexual energy outside the framework of love or to
treat the opposite sex lightly by changing them into
mere bodies from which pleasure is derived. The
highest human values are esteem for members of
the opposite sex and a respect for
their freedom as well as serving the needy and
making sacrifices for them.
Doubtless, all these help in escaping from the
domination of the ―ego and in growing in love,
giving, and sacrificing. Without all these, there can
be no genuinely Christina marriage. A person can
only reach perfect love, ―agape , if the spirit of
true love, that is the Holy Spirit, is poured into his
heart and comes to dwell within our temples (1Cor.
6:19) and works in our depths. We have to obey
God with all our hearts and offer sincere
repentance, and we will enjoy the Christian love
that transforms the hardship into a power for
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DELAYED MARRIAGE AND SEXUAL
DIFFICULTIES
Young People are subject to sexual pressures
because sexual feelings for the opposite sex
develop before they reach the age of marriage.
Hormones from the sexual glands begin to flow
before the age of fifteen whereas twenty-five to
thirty is generally the age of marriage, and that is
often delayed because of complicated social and
economic factors.
It is clear that the age of marriage is increasing as
a result of economic and social pressures, thus
prolonging the period before marriage and this
entails psychological and sexual distress.
In rural societies, for instance, young people often
marry as soon as the signs of physical maturity
appear. Social conditions in the countryside are
different fromurban areas since there are no
housing crises, no elaborate arrangements, and
no specileads to the frequency of early marriage
and to the incompatibility of the immature spouses
who most probably have not attained sufficient
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of sexual energy, for the marriage of
immatureyoung people will lead to other kinds of
marital problems that can most often be
complicated.
Many mistakenly believe that the marriage of a
profligate will guarantee his reformation and his
virtue. It is as though they have diverted him from
playing fast and loose within a socially rejected
context to playing fast and loose in a socially
acceptable context. A licentious youth is unstable
and emotionally immature. That is why a mature
love is important for young people prior to
marriage so that they can give their wedded
partners love generously.
We can therefore ascertain that marriage at an
older age gives the individual a greater opportunity
to achieve a fully developed personality that is
socially,emotionally, and spiritually mature, on the
condition that young people make the most of this
time to develop their intellect, establish good
relationships with others, and grow spiritually.
It is evident that the age at which marriage takes
place is not as important as the degree of maturity
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If marriage is delayed, this gives him a greater
chance to become mature; assuming he makes
the most of this opportunity. However, economic
factors still exert a lot of pressure and we need to
devise new ways of supporting young people at
the beginning of their family lives through projects,
long-term loans, and new job opportunities for our
youth who aspire to an honourable future.
CHAPTER FIVE THE BIOLOGICAL
INFLUENCE OF PREMARITAL SEX ON THE
YOUTHS
First let’s start by understanding this: we can’t stop
our bodies from doing what they were created to
do. What were they created to do? Bond. We were
created to connect with another human being in
such a way that we would become one unit,
together, for life. Why does this happen? Because
our hormones cause us to glue, so-to-speak, with
our partner. No amount of consent or informed
decision making can change that. There’s a
bonding that occurs that supersedes a mere skin-
to-skin connection. Scientifically, we know that sex
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emotionally, and physically, especially when we
do it over and over again. How does this happen?
Quite simply, any kind of sexual activity that takes
place releases chemicals in our brains. For
women, it is primarily the hormone oxytocin , and
for men it is vasopressin. Oxytocin allows a
woman to bond to the most significant people in
her life. It eases stress, creating feelings of calm
and closeness, which leads to increased trust. It
also causes her to want to nurture and protect the
one she’s bonded to. Vasopressin is very similar
to oxytocin, except that it is primarily released in
the brain of men. This hormone causes a man to
bond to a woman during intimate contact. Some
call it the “commitment hormone” or “monogamy
molecule”. This hormone generates a desire for
commitment and rouses loyalty. It inspires a
protective sense over one’s mate, and can create
a “jealous” tendency. There is a third set of
hormones called endorphins released during
sexual activities, and they affect both genders.
Endorphins are what we call happy hormones .
They are highly addictive and cause us to want to
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these hormones are values-neutral.3 Whether it’s
a one-time encounter or a lifelong commitment, we
bond the same way. It also crystallizes these
emotional memories in our minds, making these
encounters and experiences difficult to forget.
Now, in a marriage, these hormones are extremely
motivating and helpful. God, in His infinite wisdom,
knew that some days marriage would get hard. He
knew we would need some help choosing each
other day after day, over and over again. He knew
that some days we wouldn’t like our spouse very
much. We would argue. Bills would come in.
Babies would get sick. In-laws would come to
town. Emergencies would happen. Stress would
overshadow the relationship. So, He installed an
over-ride system (hormones) that would cause us
to stick together through thick and thin, in good
times and bad, for richer or for poorer, in sickness
and in health. It would cause us to feel devoted,
loyal, possessive, and willing to endure trials to
keep what belongs to us. What an intelligent
Designer we have. So, what happens when we
have multiple sexual partners? Scientifically, we
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bond. When we’re ready for that new, serious
relationship or marriage, something is missing that
prevents us from fully bonding; we don’t feel that
connected or committed. Our feelings may seem
to diminish. When we see someone else a little
more exciting, more appealing, more perfect for
us, we’re ready to move on in a heartbeat. The
condition of being “crazy in love” suddenly
disappears. We may say we don’t feel all that
excited anymore. We may even lose faith in falling
in love again. This is why it is important to protect
our purity; spirit, soul, and body. We must
understand that ability to be pure and save
ourselves is not just a religious ideal. It’s not just
about giving your valuable v-card to someone.
That’s not the point. The point is to keep our
stickiness intact so that when we find the right
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CHAPTER SIX YOUTHS AND SEXUAL
CHALLENGE
“For God did not call us to uncleanness…”1 Thess
4:7 The major problem that faces a Youth now is
sexual immorality. It is a major issue among
Christian Youth. A problem cannot be solved until
its root is identified and cut off.
Partial solutions for problems do not help. You
always need to go to the roots of the problem and
solve it from there. Let me give an example:
If a water pipe under your kitchen sink leaks, what
would you do? Some of the unrealistic solutions
are: put a bucket under it, ask the TV repair man
for advice, try to fix it with a Band-Aid, ignore it, file
a lawsuit against the pipe maker … etc. All these
are unrealistic solutions. In this subject of ours, we
will talk about realistic solutions. St. Paul pointed
us in the right direction when he wrote ―For God
did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness.
Therefore he who rejects Him does not reject man,
but God, who has also given us His Holy Spirit (1
Thess 4:7-8). So this statement has two parts:
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Let us discuss these two parts:
(B) Realistic Answers for Youth Sexual Problems
(1) Remember your calling and purpose
(a) We have been set free from slavery to sin
(Rom. 6:19-23)
Why would we voluntarily choose to live in
bondage to self-destructive behaviour?
(b) We must remember our goal in life and keep
in mind how that goal should affect our behaviour.
St. Paul wrote ―Therefore, we also, since we are
surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let
us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so
easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance
the race that is set before us. Looking into Jesus,
the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy
that was set before Him endured the cross,
despising the shame, and has sat down at the right
hand of the throne of God. (Heb. 12:1-2) From
these verses, we can come up with four helpful
reminders:
Sin weighs down, so throw it off.
Sin ensnares, so watch out for traps.
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on. The Lord Jesus referred to us as salt
and light in the world (Mt. 5:13-16).
Salt that becomes contaminated is worthless; a
lamp that is hidden under a bowl cannot give light.
We are to be different from the world (1 Jn.
2:1517). Although we must live among non-
believers, we must not adopt the world‘s view of
life and sexuality.
A recognition of God‘s full goal for our lives can
help us to see temptations and sexual purity in the
light of light.
(2) Remember who lives in You
God ―has also given us His Holy Spirit‖ 1 Th. 4:8
The Holy Spirit is the Sanctifier. He is the One who
applies the work of Christ to our lives by working
in us to bring us to full conformity and the image of
Christ. Our bodies are the dwelling place of the
spirit of God(1Cor. 6:19). Please read 1Cor.
6‖1520. Not only does the Spirit give us spiritual
life when we are born again (Jn. 3), but He also
works to conform us to the likeness of Christ. We
need the help of the Holy Spirit if we are to break
the grip of lust, run from temptation, experience
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He is our Divine helper (Jn. 14:16-17; 16: 7-14) But
how do we experience the help and strength of the
Holy Spirit?
(a) We must actively cooperate with God‘s spirit.
We cannot be passive.Please read Romans 6:11-
13 (b) We must choose to side with God and do
what is right. We must reject Satan‘s lies about
finding sexual fulfillment.
(c) God‘s Spirit will begin to work in us when we
realize our desperate need of Him. That is what
true faith is all about. Just as we received the gift
of salvation by faith, so now we must continue to
live by faith in dependence on the Spirit (Gal.
3:23); 5:16; Col. 2:6). When we exercise faith and
give our bodies to God (Rom. 6:13), the Holy Spirit
works in us to produce purity and the kind of life
that pleases the Lord. St. Paul said
―Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the
lust of the flesh Gal. 5:16
CHAPTER SEVEN
CONSEQUENCES OF PREMARITAL SEX
“Because the Lord is the avenger of all such
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St. Paul mentioned two major effects of
misdirected sexual desire in his letter to the
Thessalonians ― That no one should take
advantage of and defraud his brother in this
matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all
such, as we also forewarned you and testified 1
Thess 4:6 Therefore, there are two big reasons to
avoid all forms of sexual sin.
(1) It produces victims.
(2) It invites God‘s retribution and judgment.
(1) Sexual sins produces victims:
Proverbs 5 through 7 describe several ways
sexual immortality victimizes people. It produces
death (5:5), loss of honor (v.9), regret (v. 1113),
misplaced loyalty (v.15-20) and it reduces a
person‘s value to that of a piece of bread (6:26).
The Bible gives many examples. King David‘s sin
with Bathsheba is as memorable as it is heart
breaking. Her sexual disobedience produced
several victims: David himself, as he became
trapped in his own guilt, Bathsheba, as she was
taken from her husband, Uriah, Bathsheba’s
husband, as he was killed by David‘s orders; the
baby, who died, and the Lord, as the heathen used
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So, if we choose to sin there will be evil results:
guilt, pretrial, aggressiveness, becoming bad
examples to put shame on the name of God … and
many other bad results.
(2) Sexual sin invites God‟s judgment:
St. Paul wrote in 1 Thess 4:6 that ―the Lord is the
avenger when people are victimized by immorality.
So, God does not take our sin lightly. He sees
clearly the damage that we are doing to ourselves
and to one another.
Let us give some examples to show how God
deals with those who commit immoral acts:
(a) In the aftermath of his sin with Bathsheba, even
though the Lord forgave David when he repented,
judgment still followed (2 Sam. 11- 12). God said
that during David‘s rule the nation would always
be at war, his own family would rebel against him,
his wives would be taken and defiled, and the child
who was conceived through the adultery would die
(2 Sam. 12:9-14). This does not mean that this is
always how God judges adultery, but in David‘s
case, perhaps because of his leadership role, the
Lord took this course of action. (b) Most of us
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whose citizens were notoriously immoral. God
destroyed them with fire (Gen. 19) (c) Remember
God‘s great blessings to Joseph in prison and after
his release (Gen. 39-50) as he resisted temptation
because he feared God.
(d) St. Paul wrote to Timothy that a person who
wants to be used to serve God must be purified.
(2 Tim 2:21).
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SUMMARY
1. We must be careful. We should develop a
futuristic look forward sexual desire. We could be
attracted, tempted and then lose a lot. So do not
start. 2. Change your energy from sexual desires
and try something else. Why not more sports and
hobbies…etc?
3. Happiness is not achieved through satisfying
sexual desires. Instead the reverse is true, i.e.
misery is the result.
4. We must follow good behaviour to please
God, to protect the name of God‘s family and help
those whom we care about not hurt them.
5. We must keep ourselves pure to be useful to
serve God and to protect our future happiness.
6. God‘s rules are for our best interest. Sex in
the wrong setting produces pain.
7. God made you as a sexual person (Gen.
1:27). Recognize sexual desire as a wonderful
Godgiven fact of life. But also realize that how you
respond to sexual desire shows whether you have
chosen to follow God‘s route to fulfillment or your
own (Gal. 5:16-19). 8. Take steps to change your
thought of life (Ps. 119:11). Remember that when

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the Lord Jesus faced temptations He chose to call
on the words of Scripture (Mt. 4:1-11).
9. Ask for and rely on God‘s help (Mt. 6:13).
(7) Do not put yourself in situations where you
know temptation will be great. Do not ever plan on
sinning or making it easy to fall (Rom. 13:14). If
you want to get rid of excessive food substances
or free your system to active the digestive organs
again you don’t need purging but just embark on
fruit fasting. You stop eating food for 2 days and
all you will eat is different kinds of fruit. You may
do it once in every month. This helps your body to
active antioxidants that fight against free radicals.
By doing this monthly you will stay healthy.

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