4. 1 2 3
MODULE OBJECTIVES
At the end of this module your are expected to...
discuss an understanding of
teen-age relationship,
including the acceptable and
unacceptable expression of
attraction;
express ways of showing
attraction, love and
commitment and
identify ways to become
responsible in a relationship.
5. Relationship - a relation between people - a state of
connectedness between people (especially an
emotional connection)
Personal relationships – this is the type of
relationship which is closely associated with a
person and which can only have meaning to this
person. It involves a degree of commitment to
another person
7. teenage relationship
You become more involved in your
relationships that make you psychologically
attached with significant people, allowing
yourself to share sensitive and private
topics about yourself.
9. friendship
Friendship is a form of relationship
between two or more people. It means
being with others and not just thinking
about yourself. It is during adolescent
that you make time for friends and even
hang out with them.
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Three types of
ACQUAINTANCES COMPANIONS INTIMATES or BEST
FRIENDS
FRIENDSHIP
You join only once in a while
or occasionally such as fellow
members of a choir or school
organizations.
You share same interests
through regular interactions
such as team mates in a
basketball
You give and receive opinions
and support
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two types of
CLIQUE CROWD
peer groups
Composed of smaller members
(4 to 6) and is exclusive to peers
who share the same interests.
A larger peer group
composed of 10-20
members who share
similar social activities
such as parties
12. friendship
According to study:
1. Among girls, having friends as a
source of social support is more
common, compared with boys.
2. Girls are more expressive than boys
and usually show their intimacy by
talking about their personal matters.
13. Relationship - a relation between people - a state of
connectedness between people (especially an
emotional connection)
Personal relationships – this is the type of
relationship which is closely associated with a
person and which can only have meaning to this
person. It involves a degree of commitment to
another person
14. What is Attachment?
Attachment theory is a concept in developmental
psychology that concerns the importance of
"attachment" in regards to personal development.
Specifically, it makes the claim that the ability for an
individual to form an emotional and physical
"attachment" to another person gives a sense of
stability and security necessary to take risks, branch
out, and grow and develop as a personality.
15. When the primary caregiver most of the time
is present and available and meet all the
emotional needs of an infant. An infant who
grow-up to this kind of attachment may grou
up to have more secure and stable
relationship.
Secure
attachment
THE THREE ATTACHMENT
STYLES AD
DEFINED BY Larsen et al., 2008
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16. When the primary caregiver is cold and
detached, and even responsive to child's
needs. the child senses the rejection and this
often leads to premature detachment and self-
reliance. A person who experienced this kind of
attachment in infancy and childhood may
experience unstable relationship in the future.
Avoidant
attachment
2.
THE THREE ATTACHMENT
STYLES AD DEFINED BY
Larsen et al., 2008
17. When the primary caregiver is not consistent in terms
of presence and meeting child's emotional needs.
Often a person who experienced this style of
attachment in childhood may have develop
separation anxiety with a loved one, or may have
mixed feelings between hesitancy and commitment
when entering into meaningful relationship.
Anxious-ambivalent
attachment
THE THREE ATTACHMENT
STYLES AD DEFINED BY
Larsen et al., 2008
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19. Driven by sex hormones; testosterone
estrogen These hormones affects both sexes.
• Lust
20. is described as the love struck phase,
which involves neurotransmitters in the brain
such as dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin.
This is the stage when a person loses sleep and
appetite over someone, and swoons while daydreaming of this
special person. It also involves our unconscious assessment of
another's person genes through their physical appearance .
2. Attraction
21. when the couple in love decides to continue
with the relationship, they enter the
attachment stage where long-lasting
commitment are exchanged, and may lead to
raising family.
3. Attachment
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23. According to Feist & Rosenberg, there are three components of love
such as intimacy, commitment and passion.
1. Intimacy (liking)
As defined Reis et al., as the lovely moment
when someone understands and validates
you. John Joseph Powell defined intimacy as
an absolute human certainty that no one can
know his own beauty or perceived a sense of
his own worth until it has been reflected back
to him in the mirror of another loving and
caring human being.
24. 2. Commitment
Is the act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by
agreements made with another person, entity, or
cause, and where the values of integrity and respect
serve as a guide to one's behavior and thinking.
According to Feist & Rosenberg, there are three components of love
such as intimacy, commitment and passion.
25. 3. Passion
Passion is the intense state of being that
drives and consumes a person to pursue
interest, a vision, or a person. in terms of
romantic love, passion connotes sexual
attraction, as well as intimacy.
According to Feist & Rosenberg, there are three components of love
such as intimacy, commitment and passion.
Editor's Notes
1. That type of relationship is unique from other person.
-nothing can replace you in that relationship for example in mother-child relationship
2. What makes it personal is because the degree of commitment you have to that person, for example, God. They feel so connected to God.
3. To be committed is to sacrifice for other to satisfied
BUT WHAT INFLUENCES MY CAPABILITIES TO ESTABLISH PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?
Intimate relationship is characterize by self-disclosure and your capacity to trust others.
You become more open to others by expressing what you think or feel; you may even share your secrets.
You associate yourself with friends who care about you, with people who listen and promise to guard your secrets and accept and understand you in a special way.
There are some teenagers explore different types of relationships, including romantic relationships.
Thus, they may get romantically involved relationships beginning with friendships.
At this stage, friendship is characterized by more mutually satisfying relationship of caring and sharing.
You are more loyally to your friends and become more critical about your friendship. You spend more time with your peers.
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2.Boys show their intimacy in non verbal ways. Boys tend to get together for certain events or to compete (ex. Sports) whereas girls tend to get together to have binding moments through emotional sharing where they talk about their crush, their happy moments, their frustrations, and even their dreams.
Girls tend to easily trust others., they are easily affected by threats or relationship problems and are more sensitie to rejection issues.
1. That type of relationship is unique from other person.
-nothing can replace you in that relationship for example in mother-child relationship
2. What makes it personal is because the degree of commitment you have to that person, for example, God. They feel so connected to God.
3. To be committed is to sacrifice for other to satisfied
BUT WHAT INFLUENCES MY CAPABILITIES TO ESTABLISH PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?
FIRST MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP IS WITH MOTHER OR CAREGIVER
Parents have huge role to build a relationship or else
If a child feels did not feel secure with their parents, pano pa sila magtitiwala?
Secure attachment is classified by children who show some distress when their caregiver leaves but are able to compose themselves and do something knowing that their caregiver will return. Children with secure attachment feel protected by their caregivers, and they know that they can depend on them to return.
Example: kung okay parents mo, ganun ka rin
Avoidant Attachment- Parents of children with an avoidant/anxious attachment tend to be emotionally unavailable or unresponsive to them a good deal of the time. They disregard or ignore their children's needs, and can be especially rejecting when their child is hurt or sick.
Example: they don’t feel at home with their family at home.
Mixed feelings. He doesn’t know kung secure siya sa parents kung mahal pa siya because of inconsistency
Anxious-ambivalent attachment is when the infant feels separation anxiety when separated from the caregiver and does not feel reassured when the caregiver returns to the infant. Anxious- avoidant attachment is when the infant avoids their parents. Disorganized attachment is when there is a lack of attachment behavior.
While love is complicated and can’t simply be reduced to three biological brain states, there are clear neurochemical processes that do contribute to feelings of love. While not called ‘love’, the desire to mate with a specific individual is not limited to humans, but exists across many species. The drive to find a mate, bond, and reproduce is called the ‘attraction system’. This system is made up of three fundamental pathways -- lust, attraction and attachment – which occur in both birds and mammals (including humans).
Your behavior is highly biological. There are changes in your body that you experience when you are being attracted to someone. That extends to next stage… attraction
We are Not only affected by hormones but also by chemical messengers of brain that is called neurotransmitters.
Dopamine-pleasure,
Falling in love or in love, is biologically rewarding in perspective of biology
Attachment- Attachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another across time and space
Intimacy is described as the feelings of closeness and attachment to one another. This tends to strengthen the tight bond that is shared between those two individuals. Additionally, having a sense of intimacy helps create the feeling of being at ease with one another, in the sense that the two parties are mutual in their feelings.
Intimacy is primarily defined as something of a personal or private nature; familiarity.[3]
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Passion can be associated with either physical arousal or emotional stimulation. Passion is defined in three ways:
A strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something[3]
A strong feeling (such as anger) that causes people to act in a dangerous way
Strong sexual or romantic feeling for someone
