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Relationship building 101
- 3. The Rules: 1.be prepared 2.be genuinely curious 3.put yourself out there
- 5. know your roots what interests you, drives you, gives you purpose/energy
- 7. practice talking about yourself Seattle native, San Antonio-schooled (talk about your culture shock!). Equal love for Shakespeare and country music. Best shows of all time: M*A*S*H and The West Wing. Both w/ Alan Alda. Coincidence?
- 8. my twitter bio @samirluther Missouri-born, LGBT & environmental/public transit advocate, techie desi (South Asian... but via Kenya) with an HR / CSR bent tag lines: “professional homosexual” “career queer”
- 9. what’s in your wallet? Samir Luther samirluther@gmail.com +1-202-495-0950 www.linkedin.com/in/samirluther
- 10. where we • school build • jobs/internships relationships • workshops/seminars/ conferences • volunteering • bars, happy hours • sports • trains, airports, planes • online
- 11. where we build relationships in DC http://dc.linktank.com http://clotureclub.com http://dcist.com/ http://americanprogress.org/events http://www.dcconvention.com/events.aspx
- 12. tips for when you get there • find the bathroom first – hair, nose, teeth, clothes • check your outdoor jacket, bag, umbrella (or leave in a corner you can keep an eye on)
- 13. who are you? HE L LO my name is Samir Luther @samirluther
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- 17. 2: be genuinely curious people love feeling useful/needed
- 18. what do you have in common with the people in this room? find common ground
- 20. be relaxed & authentic minimize negativity make mistakes avoid one-word answers
- 21. answers: more than one word! extend your answers – make them opportunities for hooks hooks = memorable
- 22. exit strategy! • come back to the goals of what you need to accomplish “is there something in specific that you’d like to follow-up?” • excuse yourself – Restroom – “I can’t stay for too much longer and was hoping to meet some of the staff. Why don’t you follow-up with me by e- mail?” • don’t give out your cell phone (try Google Voice)
- 23. 3: put yourself out there and ignore the assholes!!
- 24. tale of a Hill Staffer who happens to be a very good friend of mine
- 25. takeaway: don’t be afraid to ask for something • business card • get coffee or a drink sometime to hear more about you and how you got to where you are? • find out more about that report you’re working on • connect me to your colleague/friend? • would you mind if I added you on Facebook?
- 26. less-awkward second encounters “Hi Alison, I’m Samir – we spoke after your Welcoming Schools presentation at Creating Change last year. Thanks again for your tips on…
- 27. the next-day follow-up email Subject: Follow-Up to GLIFAA Happy Hour Dear Jon: Thank you again for taking the time to speak with me about opportunities in foreign affairs at the GLIFAA Happy Hour last week. You mentioned connecting me to a colleague of yours who might be able to help me find positions to apply to – would you mind providing me with an email introduction? Thanks again, and have a good week. With gratitude, Samir Samir Luther samirluther@gmail.com 202-495-0950 www.facebook.com/samirluther www.linkedin.com/in/samirluther
- 28. should you add/accept? ask your manager for recommendation
- 29. privacy settings are key.
- 31. who’s in your network? super network everyone you know inner circle family, close friends
- 33. thanks! samirluther@gmail.com @samirluther
- 34. Read These • Improve your confidence: http://bit.ly/nw-confidence • Handling second encounters: http://tcrn.ch/nw-greetings • Business card etiquette: http://bit.ly/nw-bizcard