1. Chapter 9
In the “Mood” for
Porn
Jake Larson
Teaching Pastor, Arcade Church, Sacramento, CA
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2. I. What are Moods?
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3. I. What are Moods?
– Starbucks
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4. I. What are Moods?
– Starbucks
– What are moods ?
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5. I. What are Moods?
– Starbucks
– What are moods ?
– This internal alarm…
– The “Starbucks” mood
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6. I. What are Moods?
– Starbucks
– What are moods ?
– This internal alarm…
– The “Starbucks” mood
– Seems to be only one response
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7. I. What are moods?
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8. I. What are moods?
– They are triggers – internal ones that
move us to do something
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9. I. What are moods?
– They are triggers – internal ones that
move us to do something
– Moods often times trigger us to do
something we don’t want to do
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10. I. What are moods?
– They are triggers – internal ones that
move us to do something
– Moods often times trigger us to do
something we don’t want to do
– A “TRIGGER” is something that takes you
from one thing to another
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11. I. What are moods?
– They are triggers – internal ones that
move us to do something
– Moods often times trigger us to do
something we don’t want to do
– A “TRIGGER” is something that takes you
from one thing to another
– Things are normal one minute, then the
next, you are not doing well
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12. II. What moods trigger you?
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13. II. What moods trigger you?
– Stress / papers / too much to do
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14. II. What moods trigger you?
– Stress / papers / too much to do
– Sometimes a mood is created by a
pattern of behavior – like your “weekend
routine” drink, sex, etc.
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15. II. What moods trigger you?
– Stress / papers / too much to do
– Sometimes a mood is created by a
pattern of behavior – like your “weekend
routine” drink, sex, etc.
– You most likely are not “in the mood for
pornography” every moment of every day
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16. II. What moods trigger you?
– Stress / papers / too much to do
– Sometimes a mood is created by a
pattern of behavior – like your “weekend
routine” drink, sex, etc.
– You most likely are not “in the mood for
pornography” every moment of every day
– The goal is to be able to identify them
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17. III. Why do moods trigger us?
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18. III. Why do moods trigger us?
– To pursue Godliness is to pursue
adversity.
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19. III. Why do moods trigger us?
– To pursue Godliness is to pursue
adversity.
– Ephesians 6:16
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20. III. Why do moods trigger us?
– To pursue Godliness is to pursue
adversity.
– Ephesians 6:16
– You are in a battle!
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21. III. Why do moods trigger us?
– To pursue Godliness is to pursue
adversity.
– Ephesians 6:16
– You are in a battle!
Moods affect your RESPONSE to
temptation!
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22. IV. Cycle of temptation
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23. IV. Cycle of temptation
– Stimulation
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24. IV. Cycle of temptation
– Stimulation
– Entertainment
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25. IV. Cycle of temptation
– Stimulation
– Entertainment
– Action
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26. IV. Cycle of temptation
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27. IV. Cycle of temptation
1. STIMULATION:
– The first look
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28. IV. Cycle of temptation
1. STIMULATION:
– The first look
– The thought of sitting down and what you
could do online
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29. IV. Cycle of temptation
1. STIMULATION:
– The first look
– The thought of sitting down and what you
could do online
– Going in the door at your girlfriends--then
shutting the door behind you
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30. IV. Cycle of temptation
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31. IV. Cycle of temptation
2. ENTERTAINMENT:
– I might be interested
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32. IV. Cycle of temptation
2. ENTERTAINMENT:
– I might be interested
– Letting the thought in
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33. IV. Cycle of temptation
2. ENTERTAINMENT:
– I might be interested
– Letting the thought in
– You have “opened the door” for the salesman
and are now talking to him
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34. IV. Cycle of temptation
2. ENTERTAINMENT:
– I might be interested
– Letting the thought in
– You have “opened the door” for the salesman
and are now talking to him
– Entertaining the idea can create a kind of “porn
fog” – where you are in this mental state where
you don’t think straight
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35. IV. Cycle of temptation
2. ENTERTAINMENT:
– I might be interested
– Letting the thought in
– You have “opened the door” for the salesman
and are now talking to him
– Entertaining the idea can create a kind of “porn
fog” – where you are in this mental state where
you don’t think straight
– You begin to do things you never thought you
would do – cross boundaries you never thought
you would cross
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36. IV. Cycle of temptation
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37. IV. Cycle of temptation
3. ACTION:
– Relapse
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38. IV. Cycle of temptation
3. ACTION:
– Relapse
– Acting on the temptation
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39. IV. Cycle of temptation
3. ACTION:
– Relapse
– Acting on the temptation
– Using pornography – or doing something else
that is against your sobriety statement
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40. IV. Cycle of temptation
3. ACTION:
– Relapse
– Acting on the temptation
– Using pornography – or doing something else
that is against your sobriety statement
I understand. I know what this is like. BUT I
KNOW THAT I WAS NOT DESIGNED FOR THIS.
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41. IV. Cycle of temptation
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42. IV. Cycle of temptation
Summary:
• God designed “stimulation” –
“entertainment” – “action”
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43. IV. Cycle of temptation
Summary:
• God designed “stimulation” –
“entertainment” – “action”
• But it was designed to take place inside
a marriage relationship
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44. IV. Cycle of temptation
Summary:
• God designed “stimulation” –
“entertainment” – “action”
• But it was designed to take place inside
a marriage relationship
• Don’t be tricked into thinking that it
doesn’t matter who or what is at the
“end” of the cycle
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45. V. Do Something
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46. V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep
falling into the same temptations
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47. V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep
falling into the same temptations
– Deciding in advance that you are not going to
put yourself in situations that cause you to go
through this cycle
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48. V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep
falling into the same temptations
– Deciding in advance that you are not going to
put yourself in situations that cause you to go
through this cycle
– But don’t set boundaries that are just about
“not looking at porn”
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49. V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep
falling into the same temptations
– Deciding in advance that you are not going to
put yourself in situations that cause you to go
through this cycle
– But don’t set boundaries that are just about
“not looking at porn”
• Don’t go “searching” – feeling your way around
the “edges” of the porn
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50. V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep
falling into the same temptations
– Deciding in advance that you are not going to
put yourself in situations that cause you to go
through this cycle
– But don’t set boundaries that are just about
“not looking at porn”
• Don’t go “searching” – feeling your way around
the “edges” of the porn
• Example, “I can look at Maxim, but not Hustler”
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51. V. Do Something
– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep
falling into the same temptations
– Deciding in advance that you are not going to
put yourself in situations that cause you to go
through this cycle
– But don’t set boundaries that are just about
“not looking at porn”
• Don’t go “searching” – feeling your way around
the “edges” of the porn
• Example, “I can look at Maxim, but not Hustler”
– Set boundaries that are more about what you
will do – PURSUE GOD
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52. Just a little porn is not OK
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53. END – Chapter 9 –
In the “Mood” for Porn
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