Seven Lessons in Personal
Marketing I Learned From
Pickup Artists
Alan Stevens
nerdhiveindustries.com
Contact Me
Slides: speakerdeck.com/alanstevens
Email/IM: alanstevens@gmail.com
Website: halanstevens.com
Twitter: @alanste...
http://bit.ly/euAAJD
The seduction
community is an
ad-hoc collection
of men that try to
trick women into
having sexual
int...
Men are just ugly
women you don’t
want to sleep with.
Mystery
All sales is nothing
more than making
friends.
Shane Pearlman
Who are these
Pickup Artists?
mysterypua.net
Mystery
doubleyourdating.com
David DeAngelo
(Eben Pagan)
myspace.com/neilstrauss
Neil Strauss
rsdnation.com
Tyler Durden
artofattraction.com
Lance Mason
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7...
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7...
Nature has not designed
you for the world in
which you now live.
Mystery
Beware of Your
Lizard Brain
http://www.flickr.com/photos/aknock/4511438903/
Karl Rohnke’s CSP Model
Comfort Zone
Stretch Zone
Panic Zone
Mystery
Confidence is not the goal.
Competence is.
We miss 100% of the
shots we don’t take.
Wayne Gretsky
They
can’t
eat
you.
Bob Parsons
http://www.flickr.com/photos/darwinbell/536974319/
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/my-misc-pics/5157196374/
http://www.flickr.com/photos/icandyartstudio/800171450/
http://www.flickr.com/photos/sfllaw/639442917/
Your primary goal must
be your own enjoyment.
Jeanne Martinet
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7...
Frames
13 year olds
Bette Davis
Kid Sister
Underwear
The Host
http://www.flickr.com/photos/trojanguy/3259035554/
OMG,
an exercise!
flickr.com/photos/dougcoulter/3839242262
Are you
chasing
butterflies?
http://www.flickr.com/photos/lordcuauhtli/2180205334/
http://www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/4693959409/
Your purpose in any
mingling situation is to
have fun.
Jeanne Martinet
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7...
Give people
insight
into
themselves
Enter a set at the same or
slightly higher energy as the
people in the group.
Neil Strauss
Reach
people
at an
emotional
level
Seek rapport
not approval
rap·port /raˈpôr/
Noun:
A close and harmonious relationship in
which the people or groups concerned
understand each other'...
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7...
Talking is the only
means you have of
conveying your
personality
Speak slowly,
with pauses
and enthusiasm
Consider Joining Toastmasters
www.toastmasters.org
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/avlxyz/2435646997/
Practice your mingling on
the socially challenged.
Jeanne Martinet
Get into a talkative
mood and practice
talking to everyone.
Mystery
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7...
I. Avatar
II. Story
Be yourself
but be your best self.
Style
http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Peacock_Milwaukee_County_Zoo.jpg
http://www.flickr.com/photos/betsyweber/5355040879/in/set-72157625823025718
Story Topics
• Did something fun with a girl
• Did something you weren’t supposed to
and got away with it
• Had something ...
doubleyoursalesnow.com
WARNING
Source: Pragmatic Thinking and Learning
Dreyfus Model of Skills Acquisition
http://www.flickr.com/photos/hubmedia/2141860216/
Resources
Game On
www.gameondvd.com
http://www.flickr.com/photos/sred/433674856/
The “N” Word
Networking is
doing favors for
other people
Merlin Mann
Thanks For Listening!
Slides: speakerdeck.com/alanstevens
Email/IM: alanstevens@gmail.com
Website: halanstevens.com
Twitte...
Seven Lessons in Personal Marketing I Learned From Pickup Artists
Seven Lessons in Personal Marketing I Learned From Pickup Artists
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  1. 1. Seven Lessons in Personal Marketing I Learned From Pickup Artists Alan Stevens
  2. 2. nerdhiveindustries.com
  3. 3. Contact Me Slides: speakerdeck.com/alanstevens Email/IM: alanstevens@gmail.com Website: halanstevens.com Twitter: @alanstevens
  4. 4. http://bit.ly/euAAJD The seduction community is an ad-hoc collection of men that try to trick women into having sexual intercourse with them. Merlin Mann
  5. 5. Men are just ugly women you don’t want to sleep with. Mystery
  6. 6. All sales is nothing more than making friends. Shane Pearlman
  7. 7. Who are these Pickup Artists?
  8. 8. mysterypua.net Mystery
  9. 9. doubleyourdating.com David DeAngelo (Eben Pagan)
  10. 10. myspace.com/neilstrauss Neil Strauss
  11. 11. rsdnation.com Tyler Durden
  12. 12. artofattraction.com Lance Mason
  13. 13. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers 2.Lean Back 3.Prepare your mental frame 4.Provide Value 5.Talk to groups 6.Get warmed up 7.Have a plan
  14. 14. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers 2.Lean Back 3.Prepare your mental frame 4.Provide Value 5.Talk to groups 6.Get warmed up 7.Have a plan
  15. 15. Nature has not designed you for the world in which you now live. Mystery
  16. 16. Beware of Your Lizard Brain http://www.flickr.com/photos/aknock/4511438903/
  17. 17. Karl Rohnke’s CSP Model Comfort Zone Stretch Zone Panic Zone
  18. 18. Mystery Confidence is not the goal. Competence is.
  19. 19. We miss 100% of the shots we don’t take. Wayne Gretsky
  20. 20. They can’t eat you. Bob Parsons http://www.flickr.com/photos/darwinbell/536974319/
  21. 21. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers 2.Lean Back 3.Prepare your mental frame 4.Provide Value 5.Talk to groups 6.Get warmed up 7.Have a plan
  22. 22. http://www.flickr.com/photos/my-misc-pics/5157196374/
  23. 23. http://www.flickr.com/photos/icandyartstudio/800171450/
  24. 24. http://www.flickr.com/photos/sfllaw/639442917/
  25. 25. Your primary goal must be your own enjoyment. Jeanne Martinet
  26. 26. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers 2.Lean Back 3.Prepare your mental frame 4.Provide Value 5.Talk to groups 6.Get warmed up 7.Have a plan
  27. 27. Frames 13 year olds Bette Davis Kid Sister Underwear The Host http://www.flickr.com/photos/trojanguy/3259035554/
  28. 28. OMG, an exercise!
  29. 29. flickr.com/photos/dougcoulter/3839242262 Are you chasing butterflies?
  30. 30. http://www.flickr.com/photos/lordcuauhtli/2180205334/
  31. 31. http://www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/4693959409/
  32. 32. Your purpose in any mingling situation is to have fun. Jeanne Martinet
  33. 33. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers 2.Lean Back 3.Prepare your mental frame 4.Provide Value 5.Talk to groups 6.Get warmed up 7.Have a plan
  34. 34. Give people insight into themselves
  35. 35. Enter a set at the same or slightly higher energy as the people in the group. Neil Strauss
  36. 36. Reach people at an emotional level
  37. 37. Seek rapport not approval
  38. 38. rap·port /raˈpôr/ Noun: A close and harmonious relationship in which the people or groups concerned understand each other's feelings or ideas and communicate well.
  39. 39. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers 2.Lean Back 3.Prepare your mental frame 4.Provide Value 5.Talk to groups 6.Get warmed up 7.Have a plan
  40. 40. Talking is the only means you have of conveying your personality
  41. 41. Speak slowly, with pauses and enthusiasm
  42. 42. Consider Joining Toastmasters www.toastmasters.org
  43. 43. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers 2.Lean Back 3.Prepare your mental frame 4.Provide Value 5.Talk to groups 6.Get warmed up 7.Have a plan
  44. 44. http://www.flickr.com/photos/avlxyz/2435646997/
  45. 45. Practice your mingling on the socially challenged. Jeanne Martinet
  46. 46. Get into a talkative mood and practice talking to everyone. Mystery
  47. 47. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers 2.Lean Back 3.Prepare your mental frame 4.Provide Value 5.Talk to groups 6.Get warmed up 7.Have a plan
  48. 48. I. Avatar II. Story
  49. 49. Be yourself but be your best self. Style
  50. 50. http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Peacock_Milwaukee_County_Zoo.jpg
  51. 51. http://www.flickr.com/photos/betsyweber/5355040879/in/set-72157625823025718
  52. 52. Story Topics • Did something fun with a girl • Did something you weren’t supposed to and got away with it • Had something funny/scary/exciting happen on a trip • Took charge of a situation • Stood up to someone for someone else • Organized something exciting • Had someone’s back • Got out of an awkward situation • Did something nice for someone • Did something spontaneous • Accomplished something you are proud of • Saw something funny/scary/exciting Source: venusianarts.com
  53. 53. doubleyoursalesnow.com
  54. 54. WARNING
  55. 55. Source: Pragmatic Thinking and Learning Dreyfus Model of Skills Acquisition
  56. 56. http://www.flickr.com/photos/hubmedia/2141860216/
  57. 57. Resources
  58. 58. Game On www.gameondvd.com
  59. 59. http://www.flickr.com/photos/sred/433674856/
  60. 60. The “N” Word
  61. 61. Networking is doing favors for other people Merlin Mann
  62. 62. Thanks For Listening! Slides: speakerdeck.com/alanstevens Email/IM: alanstevens@gmail.com Website: halanstevens.com Twitter: @alanstevens

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