1. Seven Lessons in Personal
Marketing I Learned From
Pickup Artists
Alan Stevens

2. nerdhiveindustries.com

3. Contact Me
Slides: speakerdeck.com/alanstevens
Email/IM: alanstevens@gmail.com
Website: halanstevens.com
Twitter: @alanstevens

4. http://bit.ly/euAAJD
The seduction
community is an
ad-hoc collection
of men that try to
trick women into
having sexual
intercourse with
them.
Merlin Mann

5. Men are just ugly
women you don’t
want to sleep with.
Mystery

6. All sales is nothing
more than making
friends.
Shane Pearlman

7. Who are these
Pickup Artists?

8. mysterypua.net
Mystery

9. doubleyourdating.com
David DeAngelo
(Eben Pagan)

10. myspace.com/neilstrauss
Neil Strauss

11. rsdnation.com
Tyler Durden

12. artofattraction.com
Lance Mason

13. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7.Have a plan

14. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7.Have a plan

15. Nature has not designed
you for the world in
which you now live.
Mystery

16. Beware of Your
Lizard Brain
http://www.flickr.com/photos/aknock/4511438903/

18. Karl Rohnke’s CSP Model
Comfort Zone
Stretch Zone
Panic Zone

19. Mystery
Confidence is not the goal.
Competence is.

20. We miss 100% of the
shots we don’t take.
Wayne Gretsky

21. They
can’t
eat
you.
Bob Parsons
http://www.flickr.com/photos/darwinbell/536974319/

22. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7.Have a plan

23. http://www.flickr.com/photos/my-misc-pics/5157196374/

24. http://www.flickr.com/photos/icandyartstudio/800171450/

25. http://www.flickr.com/photos/sfllaw/639442917/

26. Your primary goal must
be your own enjoyment.
Jeanne Martinet

27. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7.Have a plan

28. Frames
13 year olds
Bette Davis
Kid Sister
Underwear
The Host
http://www.flickr.com/photos/trojanguy/3259035554/

29. OMG,
an exercise!

30. flickr.com/photos/dougcoulter/3839242262
Are you
chasing
butterflies?

31. http://www.flickr.com/photos/lordcuauhtli/2180205334/

32. http://www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/4693959409/

33. Your purpose in any
mingling situation is to
have fun.
Jeanne Martinet

34. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7.Have a plan

35. Give people
insight
into
themselves

36. Enter a set at the same or
slightly higher energy as the
people in the group.
Neil Strauss

37. Reach
people
at an
emotional
level

38. Seek rapport
not approval

39. rap·port /raˈpôr/
Noun:
A close and harmonious relationship in
which the people or groups concerned
understand each other's feelings or
ideas and communicate well.

40. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7.Have a plan

41. Talking is the only
means you have of
conveying your
personality

43. Speak slowly,
with pauses
and enthusiasm

44. Consider Joining Toastmasters
www.toastmasters.org

45. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7.Have a plan

46. http://www.flickr.com/photos/avlxyz/2435646997/

47. Practice your mingling on
the socially challenged.
Jeanne Martinet

48. Get into a talkative
mood and practice
talking to everyone.
Mystery

49. 1. It’s OK to talk to strangers
2.Lean Back
3.Prepare your mental frame
4.Provide Value
5.Talk to groups
6.Get warmed up
7.Have a plan

50. I. Avatar
II. Story

51. Be yourself
but be your best self.
Style

52. http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Peacock_Milwaukee_County_Zoo.jpg

53. http://www.flickr.com/photos/betsyweber/5355040879/in/set-72157625823025718

54. Story Topics
• Did something fun with a girl
• Did something you weren’t supposed to
and got away with it
• Had something funny/scary/exciting
happen on a trip
• Took charge of a situation
• Stood up to someone for someone else
• Organized something exciting
• Had someone’s back
• Got out of an awkward situation
• Did something nice for someone
• Did something spontaneous
• Accomplished something you are proud of
• Saw something funny/scary/exciting
Source: venusianarts.com

55. doubleyoursalesnow.com

56. WARNING

57. Source: Pragmatic Thinking and Learning
Dreyfus Model of Skills Acquisition

58. http://www.flickr.com/photos/hubmedia/2141860216/

59. Resources

63. Game On
www.gameondvd.com

64. http://www.flickr.com/photos/sred/433674856/

65. The “N” Word

66. Networking is
doing favors for
other people
Merlin Mann

67. Thanks For Listening!
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