Seven Lessons in Personal Marketing I Learned From Pickup Artists

Seven Lessons in Personal Marketing I Learned From Pickup Artists
Alan Stevens

Source: mysterypua.net

Source: doubleyourdating.com

Source: myspace.com/neilstrauss

Source: rsdnation.com

Source: artofattraction.com

“Men are just ugly women you don’t want to sleep with.”
Mystery

It’s OK to talk to strangers
Lean Back
Prepare your mental frame
Provide Value
Talk to groups
Get warmed up
Have a plan

“All sales is nothing more than making friends.”
Shane Pearlman

Lean Back
Provide Value
Talk to groups
Get warmed up
Have a plan

“Nature has not designed you for the world in which you now live.”
Mystery

Source: Pragmatic Thinking and Learning

http://www.flickr.com/photos/aknock/4511438903/

Karl Rohnke’s CSP Model

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Challenge_vs_skill.jpg

“Confidence is not the goal. Competence is.”
Mystery

“We miss 100% of the shots we don’t take”
Wayne Gretsky

“They can’t eat you.”
Bob Parsons
http://www.flickr.com/photos/darwinbell/536974319/

Lean Back
Provide Value
Talk to groups
Get warmed up
Have a plan

http://www.flickr.com/photos/my-misc-pics/5157196374/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/sfllaw/639442917/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/icandyartstudio/800171450/

“Your primary goal must be your own enjoyment.”
Jeanne Martinet

Lean Back
Provide Value
Talk to groups
Get warmed up
Have a plan

Frames
13 year olds
Bette Davis
Kid Sister
Underwear
The Host
http://www.flickr.com/photos/trojanguy/3259035554/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/dougcoulter/3839242262/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/lordcuauhtli/2180205334/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/4693959409/

“Your purpose in any mingling situation is to have fun.”
Jeanne Martinet

Lean Back
Provide Value
Talk to groups
Get warmed up
Have a plan

“Enter a set at the same or slightly higher energy as the people in the group.”
Neil Strauss

Reach people at an emotional level.

Seek rapport not approval.

Give people insight into themselves.

Lean Back
Provide Value
Talk to groups
Get warmed up
Have a plan

Talking is the only means you have of conveying your personality.

Speak slowly, with pauses and enthusiasm.

Toastmasters

Lean Back
Provide Value
Talk to groups
Get warmed up
Have a plan

http://www.flickr.com/photos/avlxyz/2435646997/

“Practice your mingling on the socially challenged.”
Jeanne Martinet

“Get into a talkative mood and practice talking to everyone.”
Mystery

Lean Back
Provide Value
Talk to groups
Get warmed up
Have a plan

Avatar
Story
Background

Be yourself but be your best self.

Story Topics
Did something fun with a girl
Did something you weren’t supposed to and got away with it
Had something funny/scary/exciting happen on a trip
Took charge of a situation
Stood up to someone for someone else
Organized something exciting
Had someone’s back
Got out of an awkward situation
Did something nice for someone
Did something spontaneous
Accomplished something you are proud of
Saw something funny/scary/exciting
Source: venusianarts.com

Source: doubleyoursalesnow.com

http://www.flickr.com/photos/hermes-/2037061305/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/hubmedia/2141860216/

Resources

http://www.gameondvd.com/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/sred/433674856/

“Networking is doing favors for other people”
Merlin Mann

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