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5. WHAT IS EMPATHY?
The ability to:
1.) recognize and understand another’s
emotions without feeling those
emotions yourself (known Affective
Empathy)
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2.) the ability to take another’s
perspective and see the world from
their shoes (known asTheory of Mind
or Cognitive Empathy)
7. WHY EMPATHY?
Organizations that incorporate into their thinking, planning, and doing the
empathic connection that generates employee empowerment experience such
far-reaching results as the following, cited in the Collins and Fisher research:
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45% lower costs
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250% improvement in productivity
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100% increase in revenues and profits
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50% cut in accidents, absenteeism, and sickness
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3.42 to 18.50 times increase in the general stock market value
Source: Miyashiro, Jerry Colonna Marie R. (2011-10-01).The Empathy Factor:Your Competitive Advantage for Personal,
Team, and Business Success (p. 29). Independent Publishers Group. Kindle Edition.
8. Elements of Workplace
Culture & Sub-Culture:
• Power/Control
• Authority vs. Power
• Transparency
• Sense ofTrust
• Gender Differences/Roles
• Diversity
• Unwritten Rules
• Stories/narratives
• Organizational Habits
• Traditions
• Growth
• Shared Reality
• Mission
• Teamwork
• Policy/Procedures
• Play/mandatory overtime
• Engagement/Sense of
Connection
• Communication
• Workplace Bullying
• Roles and Relationships
24. EMPATHY BASED CULTURE
•Wellness
•Shared Identity/
Mission
•Accountability
•Strength Based
Support
•Transparency/Open
Communication
•Rules/Policies
•Gratitude
25. The Four-Step Model of NVC
Connection Fight, Flight, Freeze
O Make clear Observations Make evaluations
F true feelings Share thoughts
N Express universal needs Give strategies
R Make actionable & present requests Make Demands
27. CONNECTION:
“The energy that exists between people when they
feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and
receive without judgment; and when they derive
sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
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~ Brene Brown, PhD, L.M.S.W.
The Gifts of Imperfection
30. THE FOUR D’S OF DISCONNECTION
•Diagnosing: Telling people “what” they are rather
than “what” we need.
•Deserve Language: Who is right, wrong, good, bad
and who deserves to be rewarded or punished.
•Denying Choice/Responsibility: blaming others for
our feelings, obscuring choice by saying,“I had to”
or “You have to” – inducing guilt and/or shame.
•Demanding: threatening, bribing, bullying –inducing
fear of punishment or promise of reward.
32. SAYING IT WITH NVC:
Honest expression Giving empathy
Observation When I see… Observation When you see …
Feeling I feel… Feeling Are you feeling
Need Because I need… Need Because you
Request
Would you be
willing to…
Request Would you like
33. THREE MODES OF LISTENING: 1) FIX IT!
Approach Sounds like this…
Advising “I think you should …” “Why don’t you …”
One upping “That’s nothing; wait till you hear what happened to me!”
Educating
“You'll know better next time” - “What did you learn from that?” - “That’s not a
feeling.”
Consoling
“It wasn’t your fault; you did the best you could.” - “Why would anyone do that
to you?”
Story telling
“That reminds me of the time…” - “I know what you mean, it’s just like when
…”
Shutting down “Cheer up. Don’t feel so bad.” - “On the bright side, you still have …”
Sympathizing “Oh, you poor thing…”“That’s horrible.”
Interrogating “When did this happen?” “Who was it?”
Explaining “I would have called but…”
Correcting “That’s not how it happened.”“You mean last week."
34. Approach Sounds like this…
Competition
“You’re WRONG!” and “I am RIGHT” and even if I am not
“right” I am going to prove “You are wrong” anyway…
Revenge
“You don’t know what you are talking about”
“Does anyone have any intelligent questions”
“I’ll teach you to question my authority”
Silence to remain
safe
***Crickets Chirping***
Three Modes of Listening: 2) Defense/Compete
35. Three Modes of Listening: 3) Empathy
Presence
Silent
Empathy
Understanding
Needs
Language
(OFNR)
36. SAYING IT WITH NVC:
Honest expression Giving empathy
Observation When I see… Observation When you see …
Feeling I feel… Feeling Are you feeling
Need Because I need… Need Because you
Request
Would you be
willing to…
Request Would you like
37. The Four Choices to Responding
Fight or Flight/
External Control
Connection
Blame others Blame self Hear my needs
Connection with
Other’s Needs
Fight Flight Honesty Empathy
Power over Power under Power with Power with