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Giving thought in advance to how you will respond may help you to be prepared for any eventuality. Here are ten suggestions of things to consider as you, as a parent, confront the college acceptance ...

Giving thought in advance to how you will respond may help you to be prepared for any eventuality. Here are ten suggestions of things to consider as you, as a parent, confront the college acceptance – or rejection letters.

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    College Acceptance or Rejection Letter- Ten Ways Parents Can Help Students Cope College Acceptance or Rejection Letter- Ten Ways Parents Can Help Students Cope Presentation Transcript

    • College Acceptance orRejection Letters Ten Ways Parents Can Help Students Cope Don’t go to College without us….
    • The wait is over…The wait is over. The envelope may be fat, orthin, or the news may have come via e-mail. However it has arrived, your high schoolstudent has received word from his chosencolleges about whether he has beenaccepted, waitlisted, or rejected. It is adefining moment for most students.Giving thought in advance to how you willrespond may help you to be prepared for anyeventuality. Here are ten suggestions of thingsto consider as you, as a parent, confront thecollege acceptance – or rejection letters.
    • College Acceptance or Rejection Letters – How Parents Can Help Students Cope 1. Remember that this is your student’s process, not yours. As parents, we often become so involved in the college application process that it feels as though the victory – or rejection – is ours. We can’t help empathizing with our student, but we need to maintain some distance. Take a breath. Step back.
    • College Acceptance or Rejection Letters – How Parents Can Help Students Cope 2. Mute your reactions and follow your student’s lead. Whatever you feel, try to subdue your reactions at first. Let your student have the first moment – whether she is elated or devastated. Validate whatever she is feeling. Even an acceptance letter may provoke a mixed reaction. It may not be from a first-choice school. It may suddenly make the whole process very real. Wait to see how your student reacts and take your cue from her.
    • College Acceptance or Rejection Letters – How Parents Can Help Students Cope 3. Celebrate every acceptance. Even if this is an acceptance from a last-choice college, it is an acknowledgement of your student’s abilities and it is an accomplishment. Cheer for this moment. Try not to let any moment feel second- rate. 4. Stay calm and hold your tongue. Don’t panic. There are always alternatives. Don’t vent. This won’t help your student.
    • College Acceptance or Rejection Letters – How Parents Can Help Students Cope 5. Be a sounding board and ask probing questions. When your student is ready, be there to listen. He may want to share his feelings – or he may not. She may want to consider her options with you – or she may need to deal with decisions on her own. Be available if needed. Ask questions that will help him consider options and factors to be considered. Give him food for thought.
    • College Acceptance or Rejection Letters – How Parents Can Help Students Cope 6. Try to be extra sensitive and take time. Don’t try to talk to your student right away. Give her time to process the information – good or bad. Remember that your student may be feeling particularly vulnerable right now. The college application process is inextricably linked with many students’ self esteem. Your student may feel very exposed right now, and aware of the public nature of this acceptance or rejection. He may now be feeling the pressure to make a final decision.
    • College Acceptance or Rejection Letters – How Parents Can Help Students Cope 7. Let your student decide how to share the news with others. This is her moment. Resist the temptation to spread the word. Let her decide how and when she will tell others what she has heard.
    • College Acceptance or Rejection Letters – How Parents Can Help Students Cope 8. Recognize that you can’t shield your student from this moment. Although, as parents, we always want to make things better for our children, your student must come to his own terms with the news he receives. As difficult as this time may be, this is one of many steps toward independence and maturity that your child will face in the coming years.
    • College Acceptance or Rejection Letters – How Parents Can Help Students Cope 9. Help your student consider the next steps. Should he attend an Accepted Student Day or other college event to help make a decision? Will he need to consider financial aid factors before deciding? Does he need to revisit the campus to consider the “chemistry” of the school once again?
    • College Acceptance or Rejection Letters – How Parents Can Help Students Cope 10. Give the process time. Once your student receives her acceptance – and possibly rejection – letters, she will need to make some decisions. The ball will be in her court once again. She will need to put things in perspective. She will need to deal with her emotions. This may take some time. She will eventually need to make choices and take action, but she may not be ready immediately. Respect her need for processing time.
    • You have questions, we have answers! College Parents of America and get more tips and advice on: What is my role as a college parent; How should I communicate with my college student; How to avoid becoming a helicopter parent; and Much More…For more information, please contact us the following ways: www.CollegeParents.org 888-761-6702