Eleven tips to build your succesfull body language

1. Andre J. VonkMBA
ELEVEN TIPS TO BUILD YOUR
BODY LANGUAGE SKILLS

2. Remember:
Ourbrainrelieson snap judgementsto categorizeanother
personand predictwhethertheyare;
*Trustworthy
*Threatening
*Competent
*Likeable
*Valuable
PREAMBLE

3. Hereare :
ELEVEN TIPS TO BUILD YOUR BODY LANGUAGE SKILLS

4. No: 1
Leaningback toomuch:
“You comeofflazyor arrogant”
Leaningforward:
“Can seemaggressive, aimfora neutralposture”

5. No: 2
Breakingeyecontact toosoon:
“Can makeyou seemuntrustworthyor overlynervous.
Holdeyecontactsa split secondlonger, especially
duringa handshake”.
Lookingup or lookingaround:
“Is a naturalcue thatsomeonein lyingor not
beingthemselves. Tryto holdsteadyeyecontact”.

6. No: 3
Noddingtoomuch:
“Can makeyou look likea bobbleheaddoll!
Even ifyou agreeswhat’sbeingsaid, nodonce
and thentryto remainstill”.

7. No: 4
Choppingor pointingwith yourhands:
“Feelsaggressive”.
Fidgeting:
“Instantlytelegraphshownervousyou are.
Avoidbothat all costs”.

8. No: 5
Crossingyourarms:
“Makesyou look defensive, especiallywhen
you’reansweringquestions. Tryto keep your
arms at yoursides”.

9. No: 6
Holding yourhands behindyourback
(or firmlyin yourpockets:)
“Can look rigidand stiff. Aimfora natural,
hand at yoursidesposture”.
Standing with hands on hips:
“Is anaggressiveposture. Likea birdor a dog
puffingthemselvesup to look bigger”.

10. No: 7
Staring:
“Can beinterpretedas aggressive.
Thereis a fine linebetweenholding
someone’sgazeand staring themdown”.

11. No: 8
Failingto smile:
“Can makepeopleuncomfortable, and wonder
ifyou reallywant to bethere. Go fora genuine
smileespeciallywhenmeeting someone
forthe firsttime”.

12. No: 9
Steppingback whenyou’reaskingfora decision:
“Conveysfearor uncertainty. Stand yourground,
or even takea slightstep forwardwith conviction”.

13. No: 10
Steeplingyourfingersor holdings palmsup:
“Lookslikea beggingpositionand conveys
weakness”.

14. No: 11
Checkingyourphoneor watch:
“Saysyou want to besomewhereelse.
Plus it’sjustbad manners”.

15. Sowhatshouldyou do?
“Aimforgoodposturein a
neutralposition, whethersittingor standing”.
CONCLUSION

16. Stand with yourarms at yoursides, and sit
with themat yoursidesor with yourhands
in yourlap.
Payattention, sothatyou naturallyhold
eyecontact, smileand beyourself”.
CONCLUSION “CONTINUED”

17. Andre J. VonkMBA
If you discover you have a particular problem
with one or more of the tips on the list, practice
by yourself with a mirror or with a friend who
can remind you every time you do it, untill you
become aware of the bad habit yourself.
CONCLUSION “CONTINUED”