Final semester group project on Attachment Theory.

1. Attachment Theory and Improving Relationships Danielle Cooper, Nicole Fleming, Kirsten Rowland, and Tracey Wright

2. overview I. Overview of Attachment Theory (Bowlby, 1973, 1980; Feeney & Noller, 1990; Hazan & Shaver, 1987; Fraley, 2004) II. Attachment Assessment (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991) III. The Four Attachment Styles IV. Role-Play Workshop

3. Attachment styles Secure Anxious-preoccupied Dismissive-avoidant Fearful-avoidant

4. Secure Style A - “It is easy for me to become emotionally close to others. I am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me. I don’t worry about being alone or having others not accept me.” (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991)

5. Secure Low avoidance, low anxiety (Fraley, 2004) Children experienced caregivers who were nurturing and caring (Egeci, 2006) Shows more initiated levels of self-disclosure (Egeci, 2006) Has positive views of themselves and others (Bippus, 2003)

6. Assessment dimensions

7. Anxious-Preoccupied Style C - “I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I am uncomfortable being without close relationships, but I sometimes worry that others don’t value me as much as I value them.” (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991)

8. Anxious-Preoccupied Low, avoidance, high anxiety (Fraley, 2004) May not feel loved completely; Easily frustrated or angered when attachment needs unmet (Fraley, 2004). Negative childhood experiences (Simpson, Winterheld, Rholes & Orina,2007) More responsive to emotional care-giving(Simpson, Winterheld, Rholes & Orina,2007) Strongly motivated to experience "felt“ security (Simpson, Collins, Tran, Haydon, 2007) Expressed dependence and desire for commitment in relationships (Feeney & Noller, 1990)

9. Assessment dimensions

10. Dismissive-Avoidant Style D - “I am comfortable without close emotional relationships. It is very important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient, and I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me.” (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991)

11. Dismissive-Avoidant Low anxiety, high avoidance (Fraley, 2004) Children experienced caregivers as unreliable and unresponsive (Stackert & Bursik, 2002) Personal insecurities influence how they perceive others (Vicary & Fraley, 2009)

12. Assessment dimensions

13. Fearful-avoidant Style B -“I am uncomfortable getting close to others. I want emotionally close relationships, but I find it difficult to trust others completely, or to depend on them. I worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close to others.” (Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991)

14. Fearful-Avoidant High anxiety, high avoidance (Fraley, 2004) Children experience caregivers who were distant or absent (Mallinckrodt, Coble, & Gantt, 1995) See themselves and others negatively (Woodhouse, Schlosser, Crook, Ligiero, & Gelso, 2003) Tends to minimize closeness in order to avoid rejection (Woodhouse, Schlosser, Crook, Ligiero, & Gelso, 2003)

15. Assessment dimensions

16. Secure & insecure Attachment Video Examples Couple’s Therapy 45 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8F-CCC5Y7yI&feature=PlayList&p=131E06DC6C82CABF&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=46 Therapy Session 34 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iBM-kDUGs7I&feature=PlayList&p=131E06DC6C82CABF&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=34

17. Dating studyby witcher & Kanoy Peace College students: N=113 Completed surveys on relationship experiences Couples videotaped discussing conflicting situations Three variables showed a significant correlation: commitment, violence, and dyadic adjustment

18. Dating Study, continued Data Set – ANOVA Commitment F(3,109) = 15.42, p<.001 Violence F(3,109) = 5.79, p<.001 Dyadic Adjustment F(3, 109) = 3.99, p<.01

19. Dating study Tablecommitment

20. Dating Study TableViolence

21. Dating Study TableDyadic adjustment

22. ImprovingRelationships:Health Relationships can contribute to things like stress, depression, loss of self-esteem or confidence, and even physical illness (Schoebi, 2008) Partners health can have lasting consequences on their relationship, as well as physical and psychological well-being (Schoebi, 2008) Married and cohabitating partners will resemble each other in health status, either positive or negatively (Monden, 2007) When people are in a strong, committed relationship they stop engaging in risky behavior and take better care of their physical and mental health (Monden, 2007)

23. Improving relationships: Couple’s Therapy Focus one specific aspect leads to greater changes (Doss, Yeow, Sevier, et. al., 2005). Individual cognitions greatly influence how emotions and behavioral interactions are expressed within relationships (Carrere, Buehlman, Gottman, et. al., 2000). Distressed couples are more likely to remember negative events vs. positive events (Carrere, Buehlman, Gottman, et. al., 2000). Therapists use a unique set of skills to help couples effectively deal with conflict within their relationships (Gottman, 1998, 1999).

24. Improving Relationships: Stress Some stress is necessary in life Unmanaged chronic stress can have negative effects on physical and psychological health of an individual (Cohen, Gunthert, Farrehi, & Tolpin, 2006). Ways to Cope with Stress (Christopher, Christopher, & Shure, 2008) Exercise Yoga Meditation Qigong Mindfulness

25. Improving relationships: emotional stability Simpson, Collins, Tran & Traydon, 2007 Secure Remain confident, responsive, and available Build greater intimacy Insecure Look for self-affirming strategies Suppress urges to self-regulate or internalize problems Avoidant Stress-relieving techniques Obtain and maintain interpersonal autonomy and control Anxious Avoid emotion-focused coping strategies Achieve greater “felt” security

26. Improving Relationships Conflict resolution Positive and Negative strategies Accommodate (I Lose, You Win) Avoid (I Lose, You Lose) Compromise (We Both Lose, We Both Win) Compete (I Win, You Lose) Collaborate (I Win, You Win) Use of “I” statements Communication

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