Thalith Nasir MS Capstone Presentation, Human Computer Interaction/design May 11, 2010 Indiana University-Bloomingon My Masters Thesis presentation on how to mediate and foster intimacy in the mundane. Intro by my advisor, Prof Shaowen Bardzell.

1. [You + Me] finding intimacy in the mundane thalithnasir advised by shaowenbardzell

3. Dates

4. Dates

5. Birthdays

6. Anniversaries

7. Conflict

8. Conflict

9. What about the rest of the time?

18. Honey, how was your day?

19. Uhhh…nothing happened.

20. We think of lifetimes as mostly the exceptional and sorrows. Marriage we remember as the children,vacations, and emergencies. The uncommon parts. “Highlights and Interstices” by Jack Gilbert

21. We think of lifetimes as mostly the exceptional and sorrows. Marriage we remember as the children,vacations, and emergencies. The uncommon parts.But the best is often when nothing is happening.The way a mother picks up the child almost withoutnoticing and carries her across Waller Streetwhile talking with the other woman. What if shecould keep all of that? “Highlights and Interstices” by Jack Gilbert

22. We think of lifetimes as mostly the exceptional and sorrows. Marriage we remember as the children,vacations, and emergencies. The uncommon parts.But the best is often when nothing is happening.The way a mother picks up the child almost withoutnoticing and carries her across Waller Streetwhile talking with the other woman. What if shecould keep all of that? Our lives happen betweenthe memorable. I have lost two thousand habitualbreakfasts with Michiko. What I miss most abouther is that commonplace I can no longer remember. “Highlights and Interstices” by Jack Gilbert

23. <the sine wave of life>

24. <the sine wave of life>

25. <the sine wave of life>

26. The mundane a tool for mediating intimacy

27. Elaine and Patrick

28. Why photography?

29. Jamie livingstone Photo of the Day

38. Buster benson 8:36pm

43. What if?

45. a concept

46. A concept

47. A concept

48. A concept

49. autoethnography my experiences

51. “Weirdly, seeing your empty soup bowl was one of the more intimatemoments of our relationship.”

53. What I learned my experiences

54. What I learned

55. What I learned 3 prompts

56. What I learned 3 prompts

57. What I learned 2 prompts

58. The evaluation

59. The evaluation 5 couples

60. The evaluation

61. The evaluation 2 prompts

62. The evaluation 2 weeks

63. The evaluation

64. The evaluation 72 images

65. The evaluation 2 surveys

66. Analysis lets tie it in

68. Non-verbal communication Register, Henley 1992

70. Self Disclosure, Expressive acts Vetere, Gibbs 2005

71. Reciprocity (Vetere, Gibbs 2005; Bardzell, et al 2010)

73. Self Disclosure, Expressive Vetere, Gibbs 2005

75. I really like that [he] used interesting pictures to make me happy and cheer me up after I told him that I was not having a great time. It's much more interesting and thoughtful than to just say "I'm sorry" or "Cheer up".

76. Emotional (Vetere, Gibbs 2005)

78. I only really got to see a computer and a conference table, but it was cool to have some sense of where she spends 20 hours a week.

79. Self-Disclosure (Vetere, Gibbs et al 2005)

81. Destiny & Surprise (Register, Henley 1992),

82. Destiny & Surprise (Register, Henley 1992),

83. When I began to take pictures without being prompted, I began noticing things in the world that she would like and actually having the thought "I can share this with [her]"

84. When I began to take pictures without being prompted, I began noticing things in the world that she would like and actually having the thought "I can share this with [her]" Behavior Change

85. When I began to take pictures without being prompted, I began noticing things in the world that she would like and actually having the thought "I can share this with [her]" Awareness

86. When I began to take pictures without being prompted, I began noticing things in the world that she would like and actually having the thought "I can share this with [her]" Presence in Absence (Vetere, Gibbs et al 2005)

87. I'm always curious about whether people are the same personality when they're with me as when I'm not there… I mean they could shed their skin and turn into a lizard when you're not around. Trust/Commitment Vetere, Gibbs 2005

88. I'm always curious about whether people are the same personality when they're with me as when I'm not there… I mean they could shed their skin and turn into a lizard when you're not around. I feel like I learned that his personality is very similar when I'm not there, which is very comforting. I'm even more trusting of who he is and I feel even more secure in our relationship. Trust/Commitment Vetere, Gibbs 2005

89. I'm always curious about whether people are the same personality when they're with me as when I'm not there… I mean they could shed their skin and turn into a lizard when you're not around. I feel like I learned that his personality is very similar when I'm not there, which is very comforting. I'm even more trusting of who he is and I feel even more secure in our relationship. Trust/Commitment Transformation Register, Henley 1992

90. Summary of studies

91. Summary of studies Emotional Awareness Self-disclosure Destiny & Surprise Behavior Change Reciprocity Trust Expressive Acts

92. Key principles Where do we go from here?

93. Reflection Randomness Intimacy in the Mundane An Audience of One

94. Reflection Randomness Intimacy in the Mundane An Audience of One

95. Reflection Randomness Intimacy in the Mundane An Audience of One

96. Reflection Randomness Intimacy in the Mundane An Audience of One

97. Future directions Where do we go from here?

98. A request

99. A request thalith@gmail.com

100. Thank you Binaebi Emily James “Natasha” “Zubair”, “Lilly” “Bill” Abhi Jaclyn Xuan Burr The Design Club HCI/d Cohort Shaowen Rachel Marty Erik, Eli Moe Casey Matt Obrakta

101. Image credits http://www.flickr.com/photos/bengoode/485365403/sizes/l/in/set-72157600201445020/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/wa-j/2550472538/sizes/l/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/mon_oeil/2262300204/sizes/o/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/jay_que/2649304833/sizes/l/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/smilekerry/3224201623/sizes/l/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/markjsebastian/2347290530/sizes/l/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/viriyincy/4141948052/sizes/l/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/simonmiller/169060848/sizes/o/ http://www.theyoungestcandidate.com/main/Portals/0/twitter_logo.png

102. Questions