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An Ally's Guide to Talking About Terminology
1. AN ALLY’S GUIDE TO
TERMINOLOGY
Talking About LGBT People & Equality
2. INTRODUCTION
The words we use to talk about lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people and issues can have a powerful impact
on our conversations. The right words can help open people’s hearts and minds, while others can create distance or confusion.
For example, the abbreviation “LGBT” is commonly used within the movement for lesbian, gay, bi and transgender equality,
but it can be confusing and alienating to people who don’t understand what it means (for many media and mainstream
audiences, the term gay and transgender is more accessible without being overwhelming).
Designed for new allies who want to support LGBT Americans but often face an array of confusing terminology and language,
this short guide offers an overview of essential vocabulary, terms to avoid, and a few key messages for talking about various
issues. The Talking About LGBT Issues series, available online at www.lgbtmap.org/talking-about-lgbt-issues-series and
www.glaad.org/talkingabout, provides additional recommendations and resources.
GAY, LESBIAN & BI
Terms to Use Usage Examples Terms to Avoid Explanation
• gay (adj.) “gay people” • “homosexual” Gay is an adjective, not a noun; it is sometimes used
• lesbian (n. or adj.) • “same-sex” as a shorthand term encompassing gay, lesbian
“gay man/men”
and bi sexual orientations (though not transgender
• bi (adj.) “lesbian couple” • “gay” (n.) (as in, “He people or gender identity). Also, while many lesbians
• bisexual (adj., if is a gay.”) may identify as gay, the term lesbian(s) is clearer
“bi men and women”
needed on first when talking only about a woman or women.
reference for “He is gay.” / ”She is a
Anti-gay activists often use words like “homosexual”
clarity) lesbian.” / “He is bi.”
to stigmatize gay people by reducing their lives to
purely sexual terms.
• being gay “She talked about • “homosexuality” Talking about a person’s “homosexuality” can, in
being gay.” • “lesbianism” some cases, reduce the life of that person to purely
sexual terms. Talk about being gay instead.
• “That’s so gay.” (a
hurtful slur) The term “lesbianism” is considered pejorative.
• orientation “a person’s • “sexual preference” The term “sexual preference” is used by anti-gay
• sexual orientation orientation” • “gay lifestyle” activists to suggest that being gay is a choice, and
(on first reference, therefore can be changed or “cured.” Similarly, the
“Sexual orientation • “homosexual
if needed for term “gay lifestyle” is used to stigmatize gay people
can be a complex lifestyle”
clarity) and suggest that their lives should be viewed only
topic. A person’s
orientation is…”
• “same-sex through a sexual lens. Just as one would not talk
attractions” about a “straight lifestyle,” don’t talk about a “gay
• “sexual identity” lifestyle.”
• gay and transgender “laws that protect • “LGBT” (when talk- Reference sexual orientation and gender identity
• lesbian, gay, gay and transgender ing with those who when talking about issues pertaining to both. (See
bisexual and people” are unfamiliar with Transgender on the next page for more information.)
transgender (if the issues or not
The abbreviation “LGBT” can be confusing and
needed for clarity) yet supportive)
alienating for those who are unfamiliar with the
issues or not yet supportive—though it is essential
when talking to LGBT and strongly supportive
audiences. Use the term that allows your audience
to stay focused on the message without creating
confusion about your intended meaning.
• openly gay “She is openly lesbian.” • “admitted he was The term “admitted” suggests prior deception or that
/ “He is openly bi.” gay” being gay is shameful.
3. TRANSGENDER
The term transgender refers to people whose gender identity (the sense of gender that every person feels inside) or gender
expression is different from the sex that was assigned to them at birth. At some point in their lives, transgender people
decide they must live their lives as the gender they have always known themselves to be, and often transition to living as
that gender.
Terms to Use Usage Examples Terms to Avoid Explanation
• transgender (adj.) “transgender person” • “transgendered” Transgender is an adjective, not a noun. Be careful
• “a transgender” (n.) not to call someone “a transgender.” Do not add an
“transgender
unnecessary “-ed” to the term (“transgendered”),
advocate” • “transgenders” (n.) which connotes a condition of some kind. Never
“transgender • “transvestite” use the term “transvestite” to describe a transgender
inclusion” person.
• “tranny”
The shorthand trans is often used within the LGBT
community, but may not be understood by general
audiences.
Always use a transgender person’s chosen name. Also,
a person who identifies as a certain gender should
be referred to using pronouns consistent with that
gender. When it isn’t possible to ask what pronoun
a person would prefer, use the pronoun that is
consistent with the person’s appearance and gender
expression.
• gender identity “Everyone should • “sexual identity” Not everyone who is transgender identifies that
• gender expression be treated fairly, (the correct term is way; many transgender people simply identify as
regardless of gender gender identity) male or female. Also, note that gender identity (one’s
identity or expression.” • “transgender iden- internal sense of gender) and gender expression (how
tity” (use gender a person outwardly expresses their gender) are not
identity to refer to interchangeable terms.
a person’s internal
sense of gender)
• transition “She began • “sex change” Transition is the accurate term that does not fixate
transitioning last year.” • “sex-change on surgeries, which many transgender people do
operation” not or cannot undergo. Terms like “pre-op” or “post-
op” unnecessarily fixate on a person’s anatomy and
• “pre-operative” / should be avoided.
“post-operative”
• “pre-op” / ”post-op”
4. OVERVIEW: TALKING ABOUT EQUALITY FOR LGBT PEOPLE
Effective conversations about LGBT issues frame those issues in authentic, emotionally compelling ways that resonate with
people’s values.
When conversations about equality are rooted in the common ground we share, it’s difficult to cast LGBT people as being
“other,” “different” or “not like me.” It also makes it more difficult for Americans to ignore or dismiss the harms and injustices
that LGBT people face.
When talking about equality for LGBT people:
• Use the language of common values, beliefs, hopes and dreams.
• Make it about people and their stories, not policies.
• Remind people that LGBT people are everyday Americans who live ordinary lives. Gay and transgender people are
neighbors, coworkers and friends who also walk the dog, mow the lawn, shop for groceries, etc.
For example: “This is about everyday Americans who want the same chance as everyone else to pursue health and happiness, earn
a living, be safe in their communities, serve their country, and take care of the ones they love.”
For more information, see Talking About LGBT Issues: Overall Approaches, available at www.lgbtmap.org and www.glaad.org.
Terms to Use Usage Examples Terms to Avoid Explanation
• fairly and equally “Everyone should be • “rights” “Rights” language is generally unpersuasive with
• fairness and treated fairly and • “civil rights” most audiences, and civil rights comparisons can be
equality equally.” especially alienating to African Americans.
• “gay rights”
“She supports fairness
and equality.”
• intolerance “This is the kind of • “hate” / “haters” / Avoid highly charged, argumentative terms like
• rejection exclusion and intoler- “hatred” “hate” and “bigotry,” which are likely to alienate
ance that divides our • “bigot” / ”bigots” / people. Instead, use language that is measured and
• exclusion community.” relatable to create empathy and a sense of how
“bigotry”
• unfairness
“Rejection by one’s
rejecting attitudes and actions hurt LGBT people.
• “prejudice”
• hurtfulness family can be the most
hurtful of all.”
• anti-gay activists “the hurtful rhetoric of • “religious extremists/ Avoid language that unfairly paints an entire
• far-right activists anti-gay activists” extremism” religious tradition or denomination as being anti-
• “anti-gay Christians” gay or extremist.
5. TALKING ABOUT MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIP RECOGNITION
In conversations about marriage for gay and lesbian couples, it is important to:
• Focus on the values of marriage and what marriage is about: loving, committed couples who want to make a lifelong
promise to take care of and be responsible for each other, always.
• Use stories to illustrate how the denial of marriage hurts gay couples and makes it harder for loving, committed
couples to take care of and be responsible for each other.
• Talk about the importance of being the type of person who cares about others and who opposes putting committed
gay couples in harm’s way, which is what happens when they are denied the ability to marry.
• Avoid getting distracted by opponents’ rhetoric (such as misleading claims about “redefining marriage” or the notion
that gay people are a “threat to marriage”) by keeping a clear focus on the values of marriage and how the denial of
marriage hurts gay couples.
For more information, see Talking About Marriage & Relationship Recognition, available at www.lgbtmap.org and
www.glaad.org.
Terms to Use Usage Examples Terms to Avoid Explanation
• marriage “Excluding loving, com- • “gay marriage” Gay couples and straight couples want to marry for
• exclusion from mitted gay couples • “same-sex marriage” similar reasons, and they seek to join the institution
marriage from marriage makes of marriage as it currently exists. Just as it would
it harder for them to be inappropriate to call the marriage of two older
• denial of marriage take care of and be adults “elder marriage,” it is inappropriate to call the
responsible for each marriage of a lesbian or gay couple “gay marriage” or
other.” “same-sex marriage.” If additional clarity is needed,
use marriage for gay (or gay and lesbian) couples.
Also, while the term “marriage equality” can be
helpful when talking with those who are supportive
of marriage for gay and lesbian couples, it can
create confusion and barriers to understanding for
other audiences. When possible, simply talk about
marriage, without qualifiers or modifiers.
• love, commitment, “Marriage is about • “marriage rights” There is sometimes a misperception that gay couples
responsibility, love, commitment, • “marriage benefits” only marry for “rights” and “benefits.” To avoid
promise responsibility, and a this, focus on the values of love, commitment and
• taking care of the lifelong promise two responsibility that gay couples bring to marriage,
one you love people make to take and the importance of a couple being able to take
care of each other care of and be there for each other.
and be there for each
Also, focus on how gay and straight couples alike
other, always.”
share similar hopes and dreams for marriage. But
instead of taking shortcuts by using phrases like
“exactly the same” or “just the same,” spend time
exploring the common ground and values (like
commitment, responsibility and love) that we share.
Note: These approaches for talking about marriage can also be helpful in talking about other forms of relationship recognition, such as
domestic partnerships or civil unions. However, note that in many states that allow domestic partnerships, gay couples have been barred
from a dying partner’s bedside and denied the ability to say goodbye to the person they love. That just doesn’t happen when a couple is
married, and it’s one of the reasons why marriage matters to gay and straight couples alike.
6. TALKING ABOUT NON-DISCRIMINATION LAWS
When talking about non-discrimination laws that protect LGBT people from being unjustly fired from their jobs, remind
people of our common, shared values:
• Fair and equal treatment, for everyone (“All residents should be treated fairly and equally by the laws of our city/state.”)
• The importance of hard work and the chance to earn a living (“All hardworking people in our city/state, including gay and
transgender people, should have the chance to earn a living and provide for themselves and their families. Nobody should have
to live in fear that they can be legally fired for reasons that have nothing to do with their job performance.”)
For more information, see Talking About Inclusive Employment Protections and Talking About Transgender-Inclusive Non-
Discrimination Laws, available at www.lgbtmap.org and www.glaad.org.
Terms to Use Usage Examples Terms to Avoid Explanation
• employment/ “This law protects high- • “rights” Talking about “rights” in this context can make
workplace/housing performing workers • “employment/ people think about opponents’ false claims about
protections from being unfairly housing rights” “special rights.” It can also make people resistant to
fired just because the idea of non-discrimination protections.
they’re gay or trans-
gender.”
• treating people “All residents of our • “fighting There is a difference between referring to non-
fairly and equally state should be treated discrimination” discrimination laws (a term that accurately describes
fairly and equally.” these kinds of laws) and talking about “fighting
discrimination,” which is generally unpersuasive and
can lead to polarized, partisan reactions.
TALKING ABOUT OPEN MILITARY SERVICE
When talking about open military service:
• Focus on how open military service—and ending the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell ban—supports a strong national defense.
• Talk about the shared values that open military service—and military service itself—embodies.
For the latest updates on the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, visit Servicemembers Legal Defense Network (www.sldn.org).
For more information, see Talking About Ending Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, available at www.lgbtmap.org and www.glaad.org.
Terms to Use Usage Examples Terms to Avoid Explanation
• open military “Strong majorities of • “gays in the military” The term “soldiers” applies only to personnel serving
service (or open Americans support • “soldiers” (when in the U.S. Army. Use service members, troops,
service) open military service broadly referring to personnel or military personnel to describe those
• gay (or gay and for gay and lesbian the troops) serving throughout our nation’s armed forces.
lesbian) service personnel.”
Also, note that Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell and its repeal do
members/troops/ not apply to transgender people, who remain barred
personnel from service by other regulations.
• service, duty, “Open military service • “rights” In conversations about military service, talk about
courage, sacrifice, is about serving one’s • “equality” the ideas and ideals that Americans associate with
patriotism, honor, country with honor our nation’s armed forces. Don’t talk about “rights”
integrity and integrity.” in conversations about open military service, which
is really about service, duty, courage, sacrifice,
patriotism, honor and integrity.