The document introduces the concept of being a "Single Dad Superman" and the challenges of juggling work, family, and personal life without balance. It states that balance is a myth and instead advocates being "present" by focusing on what is happening in the current moment rather than being distracted by thoughts of the past or future. Being present allows one to access their "super powers" and live more happily and successfully in each moment.

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Introduction
Y
ou just never seem to have the time.
But you are a Single Dad Superman.
You are not a new superhero; the title is
more like a job description. You have the job, you
have your kids, you have the job again, and no time
for anything else. You are going nuts. How does one
do it? Even Clark Kent had to work, though I wonder
if Kal-El (Superman’s real, Kryptonian name) could
handle being a single father. How do you juggle work,
family, and home, and then find time for yourself?
Impossible?
It doesn’t have to be.
I am here to tell you that you can work in the job,
the family, and have time for your own full and rich
life. In fact, you need to work yourself in or you will
implode—financially, emotionally, and spiritually.
What good is that to your family? Do you really
want your kids to be asking, “Daddy, why are you

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lying in the corner whimpering like a dog?” Not a
good image. This state of being “overwhelmed” is the
kryptonite of every Superhero Dad out there.
What about balance? Why not live a balanced life?
There are dozens of books that promote life-work
balance, but it’s all smoke and mirrors.
Balance is a myth.
If there were balance between you, your kids, your
job, your health, your love life, and God, you would be
at the gym two hours a day, picking up kids every day
after school, and working only one hundred and eighty
minutes a day. There is no balance in the amount of
time between your superhero duties.
It has nothing to do with time.
It is 100 percent about being present. Being
“present” is the way you access your super powers.
You have no fear when you are present; you flow with
life, let go of the past, and become strong from the
abundance you attract and project. You even begin to
have a type of X-ray vision; you find yourself able to
see your future with increasing clarity. However, to
clarify what I mean by being present, I want to share
with you an experience I participated in a few years
ago called the Landmark Forum.
The Landmark Forum is a unique teaching
organization that helps us see what makes us blind.
Fun, exciting, and collaborative, the Landmark Forum
is not a lecture, motivational technique, or therapy,
but a powerful, accelerated learning experience. It
is guided dialogue between the instructor and the

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participants.
ItwasnotuntilItookaclassattheLandmarkForum
that I realized it is not success that makes you happy,
but rather happiness that makes you successful. It
creates a focus that allows you to do what you thought
impossible.
But perhaps more than anything else I learned
through participation was what the Landmark Forum
taught me about being present. To get a sense for what
I mean by this, I’m going to ask you to participate in a
short exercise. I want you to set this book down for just
a second and close your eyes. If you are not in a quiet
space, try to find one. If that is not possible, perhaps
come back to this when there is quiet available.
Simply close your eyes and breath in and out
slowly through your nose. As you are doing this,
make yourself aware of your body. Get to know the
feeling you are experiencing in your extremities, in
your core, in your neck and back, and in your head.
Notice if there are any pains or discomforts. Continue
breathing in and out slowly for a few more seconds.
Then open your eyes. Notice everything around
you. Notice the sounds and colors. Notice the smells
and the temperature.
This comes very close to what I mean by being
present. When you are present there is a focus that
you ordinarily may not have because you’re constantly
thinking about things. You may be wondering how
you are going to perform at work today, or perhaps
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the babysitter. All of these thoughts are important,
no less, but they can serve as distractions. When our
minds are preoccupied with other things that are not
in our current view, we are not focusing on what is
right in front of us. In order to be present in our lives
we have to learn to reduce that chatter in our minds
and turn our focus back to what is going on right in
front of us at any give time. If you are on a date with
a woman, you want to be present with her—instead
of preoccupied with worries or concerns. When you
are with your kids, you want to be present to all the
wonderful things they are doing and saying, not
thinking about how you are going to make your sales
quotas. And, when you are at work, you want to be
present at work, not thinking about last night’s outing
with the boys.
So,beingpresentisreallyaboutlivinginthepresent,
moment by moment. It is only when we live in the
moment that we can truly discover the happiness that
lives inside us. It is only then that we can unearth the
passion that is just waiting to see the light of day. It is
that passion for life that will affect every aspect of your
life, if you are so willing to let that happen.
Ihavebuiltuponthatsimpleideaofbeingpresentby
adding a few ingredients that will assure you are always
living from a place where you can positively affect the
lives of your coworkers and clients, your family and
offspring, and even your intimate relationships. It is a
recipe for success that I like to call the PACT.