The document discusses three scenarios where drug testing a child could be considered proactive parenting rather than snooping: 1. For proactive parents wanting to deter drug use, telling the child about regular and random drug tests can help the child avoid peer pressure situations by being accountable to drug tests. 2. For suspicious parents seeing signs of potential drug use, secret drug tests without telling the child can provide honest answers to confirm or ease suspicions. 3. For parents of a confirmed former drug user allowing the child to return home, secret drug tests can give reassurance the household remains drug-free as expected by enforcing consequences if the child uses drugs again.

1. 3 Ways Drug Testing Your Child is Considered to be
Pro-Active Parenting, Not Snooping
Are you worried about “snooping?” Your current situation has brought you
to these pages about conducting secret drug tests on your child. There is a
lot of popular press that calls home-based drug testing “snooping.” I’m here
to tell you that you can choose to tell your child or not tell your child about
your drug testing activities. It’s a personal decision and it should reflect on
your family needs, not the popular opinion of others. Using the following
scenarios, we make suggestions regarding the effectiveness of telling or not
telling your child about your drug-testing activities.
1: you are a pro-active parent and you want to deter your child from using
drugs. In this scenario it’s most effective to tell your child that you will
conduct regular and random drug tests. Have an open discussion.
Download, print and sign our free Family Contract For Prevention
(http://secretdrugtest.com/new/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/Family_Contract-
Prevention.doc). This family contract is a Word document that you can
modify to meet your needs or use it as it is. Many kids appreciate the
parental involvement and find it easier to avoid bad situations by saying,
“No, I can’t do that because I get drug-tested when I get home.” An ounce of
prevention is worth a pound of cure.

2. 2: you are a suspicious parent who is seeing signs of potential drug use in
your child and you want to do something about it. Your suspicions are so
strong that you are beginning to worry throughout the day and night. You
wish you could get answers to confirm your questions about whether your
child is using drugs. For this scenario, we suggest that you use the Secret
Drug Tests that we sell at secretdrugtest.com and don’t tell your child.
In the scenario of being suspicious about potential drug use, you want to be
able to conduct the drug tests in secret because you want honest answers. If
your child is using drugs, he or she will not be open and honest about this
activity. Secret drug testing will give you instant, accurate answers.
If you get a drug-present result, you should begin planning how to handle
your next steps. Read both parent guides from DrugFree.org, which is an
authoritative site dedicated to drug-free kids and homes. Visit them to
download their two helpful guides on intervention and treatment to help
you prepare for an effective conversation that leads to getting the help you
and your child need. These guides will help you become educated not only
about the signs and symptoms of drug use but also regarding effective
action steps for getting help.
If you get a drug-not-present result, you may or may not be convinced at
the findings based on your observations and situation. If you think your
child is using drugs, you may want to continue conducting secret drug
testing at more regular intervals to get an accurate picture of your child’s
potential drug usage.

3. 3: is a scenario of empowerment and hope for the parent of a child who is a
confirmed drug user or a former drug user. The secret drug testing will give
the parent accurate answers as to whether the child is remaining drug-free
as promised. For parents who have already endured the consequences of
living with a drug addicted child, you know the living nightmare this
causes. If your child is drug-free and you wish to allow him/her to return to
your home to live, you can conduct secret drug testing to know for sure that
your home is indeed drug-free. Secret drug testing will give you some peace
of mind when allowing a known drug-addicted child to return to living in
the household either during or after completion of a drug rehabilitation
program.
We recommend three steps for the parents involved in this scenario to
regain a sense of comfort and assurance that the household will remain
drug-free. This first step involves having an open and honest discussion
with the child and the family who lives within the household. This
discussion will result in a clear understanding of family expectations as well
as a clear statement of the consequences if the child returns to drug-using
activities. The second step is to sign a family contract to solidify this
conversation. Download the free Family Contract for Remaining Drug
Free (http://secretdrugtest.com/new/wp-content/
uploads/2012/08/Family_Contract-Prevention.doc) and modify it or use
it as is. The family contract includes all of the details of the agreement and
the consequences. The effective family contract is agreed to and signed by
the parent(s) and the child who has vowed to remain drug-free.
Additionally, it is useful to ask all family members to sign the contract and
make a commitment to be of assistance to the family. Ask for additional
commitment from extended family members as well. This improves the
effectiveness of the contract. The third phase of providing peace and the
assurance of a drug-free household in a formerly drug-using household
involves conducting drug testing. This drug testing should be both regular
and random so the drug tests accurately reflect whether this household is
indeed drug-free, as expected. It is your house, not your child’s. If you want
to live in a drug-free household, it is within your rights to do so. Children
are “invited guests” and if they choose to return to drug-use, the privilege of
living under your roof can be revoked.