My sister wants to get engaged or married this year and hopes that I will be married first so she does not feel like a barrier. I want to fulfill my role as the oldest sibling and set a good example by getting married at the same time as others in my community. However, I am okay if my sister gets married first as she deserves it. I am mostly concerned about disappointing my parents and making them feel they failed to raise me properly as an unmarried woman of my age, as their friends' children are already married with grandchildren.