This document contains summaries of three life experiences: 1. The author was born in Casablanca in 1931 to Czech parents and lived in Prague until 1968 when she and her brother left Czechoslovakia and lived in the Netherlands. In 1981 she married a Canadian man who had recently murdered his first wife. 2. In 2014 the author's mother spent Christmas with her family but was then murdered by her husband in January 2015. The author learned of her mother's death from her stepbrother. 3. The author has worked for Europol in The Hague since 2007. She contacted victim support services in both the Netherlands and Canada regarding her stepfather who was sentenced to life in prison for murdering her mother.