To grieve like a man is to grieve differently than a woman. It is not an option of better, worse, or less suitable, it’s just that a man’s way of grieving is different. Since it is different it is often confusing to others and can result in unwarranted isolation. “While women tend to react to the loss of a loved one as abandonment, men perceive it as losing part of themselves, as if severing an arm or leg.” (Learning to Live Through Loss)
This document discusses the various emotional stages that a person and their family go through when dealing with a terminal cancer diagnosis. It provides personal accounts of the mother of the author going through these stages as her gastric cancer progressed. The main stages discussed are shock and denial, fear/anger/sorrow, bargaining, and acceptance. It emphasizes the importance of emotional support for the patient and family, noting that what patients need most is companionship and a listening ear, not just words. It also discusses ensuring the patient's comfort and respecting their spiritual beliefs during end-of-life.
This document provides guidance for those caring for a loved one who is nearing the end of life. It outlines three stages of the journey: preparing for death, understanding death, and what comes after death. When preparing for death, it discusses palliative care, hospice, signs that death is near, and making final arrangements. To help understand death, it explores the emotions of grief, common feelings people experience, and suggestions for processing loss. Finally, it offers information on what occurs after a death and resources available through the veterans home.
This document is a collection of essays and stories by Michael Keever. It begins by introducing the author and acknowledging that as an internet blogger, his credibility may be questioned. The first story describes how the author used to be arrogant and self-absorbed, only caring about himself. He realized the irony that while living only for his own gratification, his life was in God's hands. The story then describes how the author was diagnosed with cancer and a brain tumor after his mother passed away from cancer. This tragedy and diagnosis led to a period of clarity and spiritual growth for the author.
A story of recovery from personal hurts, habits, and hang-ups. Also, the journey of a codependent wife dealing with her husband's addiction to prescription painkillers. Recovering from the grief of his death.
Whilst researching this story, and specifically the Aboriginal component, I learnt that a story finds a teller and it will not rest until the story is told. This story agitated until it was told.
The story is fictitious, as are the characters. Yet the characters are real in the sense that they represent our strengths and weaknesses, fears and insecurities. The messages are also real and will support all who listen to them.
The character Weishka is real, as the back pages reflect.
When I was chosen to tell this story, it changed my life, as I was not allowed to write it without living the concepts – I have had to live the lessons I wrote about. This has not been easy, but is has been worth it.
Pat Grayson 2016
pat@heartspacebooks.com
shan@heartspacebooks.com
shan@heartspacebooks.com
As the years went by, months followed and now almost days nearing to be sharing with you my long-awaited Memoir. Here is another glimpse to this engaging story of resilience, hope and Mental health self-help resource on its way soon. Stay tuned!
The document discusses how the media can help reduce violence in society by raising awareness of issues. It provides examples of how media coverage of landmines in Angola and the war in Bosnia put pressure on governments and donors to take action. While the media reports on acts of violence, it argues this does not inherently cause more violence but rather draws attention to problems to motivate positive responses. It rejects the idea that media coverage would cause people to commit violence themselves, saying most people can control violent impulses.
This document discusses the various emotional stages that a person and their family go through when dealing with a terminal cancer diagnosis. It provides personal accounts of the mother of the author going through these stages as her gastric cancer progressed. The main stages discussed are shock and denial, fear/anger/sorrow, bargaining, and acceptance. It emphasizes the importance of emotional support for the patient and family, noting that what patients need most is companionship and a listening ear, not just words. It also discusses ensuring the patient's comfort and respecting their spiritual beliefs during end-of-life.
This document provides guidance for those caring for a loved one who is nearing the end of life. It outlines three stages of the journey: preparing for death, understanding death, and what comes after death. When preparing for death, it discusses palliative care, hospice, signs that death is near, and making final arrangements. To help understand death, it explores the emotions of grief, common feelings people experience, and suggestions for processing loss. Finally, it offers information on what occurs after a death and resources available through the veterans home.
This document is a collection of essays and stories by Michael Keever. It begins by introducing the author and acknowledging that as an internet blogger, his credibility may be questioned. The first story describes how the author used to be arrogant and self-absorbed, only caring about himself. He realized the irony that while living only for his own gratification, his life was in God's hands. The story then describes how the author was diagnosed with cancer and a brain tumor after his mother passed away from cancer. This tragedy and diagnosis led to a period of clarity and spiritual growth for the author.
A story of recovery from personal hurts, habits, and hang-ups. Also, the journey of a codependent wife dealing with her husband's addiction to prescription painkillers. Recovering from the grief of his death.
Whilst researching this story, and specifically the Aboriginal component, I learnt that a story finds a teller and it will not rest until the story is told. This story agitated until it was told.
The story is fictitious, as are the characters. Yet the characters are real in the sense that they represent our strengths and weaknesses, fears and insecurities. The messages are also real and will support all who listen to them.
The character Weishka is real, as the back pages reflect.
When I was chosen to tell this story, it changed my life, as I was not allowed to write it without living the concepts – I have had to live the lessons I wrote about. This has not been easy, but is has been worth it.
Pat Grayson 2016
pat@heartspacebooks.com
shan@heartspacebooks.com
shan@heartspacebooks.com
As the years went by, months followed and now almost days nearing to be sharing with you my long-awaited Memoir. Here is another glimpse to this engaging story of resilience, hope and Mental health self-help resource on its way soon. Stay tuned!
The document discusses how the media can help reduce violence in society by raising awareness of issues. It provides examples of how media coverage of landmines in Angola and the war in Bosnia put pressure on governments and donors to take action. While the media reports on acts of violence, it argues this does not inherently cause more violence but rather draws attention to problems to motivate positive responses. It rejects the idea that media coverage would cause people to commit violence themselves, saying most people can control violent impulses.
Sue Frederick Bridges to Heaven Media Proposal 2013Sue Frederick
This breakout book from Best-Selling Author and Intuitive Sue Frederick, Bridges to Heaven shows you the path to healing life's toughest emotion: Grief
Death is not the end. In fact your loved ones who have passed are watching you, helping you, and healing you - though you may not know it...
This case report describes a patient with a 37-year history of temporal lobe epilepsy who experienced seizure-related experiential responses that he misattributed as real traumatic memories from his childhood. These vivid "memories" were actually illusory experiences that occurred during seizure onset, as described in previous literature. However, unlike most patients, he was unaware of their illusory nature and believed them to be true memories. His severe psychological reaction to the perceived recovery of these traumatic memories met criteria for posttraumatic stress disorder, representing the first report of PTSD caused by the misattribution of seizure-related mental states.
Illustrations, humor, poetry and quotations vol 2GLENN PEASE
This document contains a collection of short quotations, poems, stories and advice on various topics such as alcohol, animals, attitudes, and apologizing. Some key points:
- Several historical figures like Edison, Taft and Lincoln advocated abstaining from alcohol, comparing it to putting sand in delicate machinery.
- A Marine Corps safety officer developed the slogan "He who comes forth with a fifth on the Fourth may not come forth on the fifth" to discourage drinking over a holiday weekend.
- Attitude is likened to the position of an airplane - a good attitude can help one succeed while a bad attitude leads to poor performance, just as the position of a plane affects its flight.
This document is an interview transcript between the author and several of his family members about his mother's breast cancer diagnosis and treatment. It provides insights into how each family member reacted emotionally upon learning the news. The author's father was the first to be told by the mother and supported her through initial fear and scans. The grandmother accepted it quickly but became upset shopping for wigs. The aunt was very nervous waiting with the grandmother for biopsy results. Overall, the document examines the variable emotional experiences of different family members in relation to the mother's illness.
Christian In A Secular America Aug. 9thmrjlbillett
This document summarizes a Sunday school lesson discussing issues around physician assisted suicide and euthanasia. It provides biblical perspectives against euthanasia, physician assisted suicide, and abortion as forms of murder that usurp God's authority over life and death. It also discusses differing Christian perspectives on capital punishment. Examples of euthanasia and suicide in the Bible and modern society are presented, as well as legal issues around physician assisted suicide in the US. The document advocates that all human life is sacred and of equal worth from a biblical perspective.
New Book Encourages Couples to Celebrates Life Even When One of Them Has a Te...flashnewsrelease
The personal narrative of Don’t Stop Believing: Our Journey with Cancer, by Kasey Crawford Kellem is a remarkable memoir that shares her personal struggle, unconditional love for her husband Craig, and their losing battle against prostate cancer.
This document provides an autobiographical summary of Dr. Mark Vonnegut's lifelong experience with mental illness and his journey to becoming a physician. It describes his three psychotic breaks in early adulthood, treatment, and focus on writing which helped his recovery. It outlines his acceptance to medical school later in life, another breakdown, and realization that willpower alone does not determine recovery. Through treating patients and his own experiences, he now advocates for greater understanding and prevention of mental illness.
The document provides information about funeral traditions and practices in the Philippines. It discusses how Filipinos hold wakes called "lamay" where the cleaned and embalmed corpse is displayed. It describes the traditional dressing of deceased men and common casket decorations. It also details post-death mourning periods including a nine-day novena of prayers, a 40-day mourning period where family wears a black pin, and anniversary commemorations. The role of the embalmer in preparing bodies for viewing is highlighted.
Forest View Breakfast and Learn 12-10-2014Elena Bridges
This document discusses a meeting focused on best practices for collaboration between rural mental health providers and the VA to meet the mental health needs of returning veterans in Michigan. It provides an overview of PTSD and TBI, including history, DSM-V criteria, symptoms, comorbidity, assessment tools, and treatment approaches. The objectives are to review the history and diagnosis of PTSD/TBI, explain assessment and case management skills, and discuss networking to strengthen veterans' services in Michigan.
This article discusses the importance of addressing patients' spiritual health but notes that nurses often avoid discussions of spirituality and religion due to confusion between the two concepts and concerns about offending patients. The author argues that spirituality is an essential part of human existence that is different for everyone, while religion refers to organized belief systems, and nurses should discuss spirituality without pushing religious beliefs. Two studies found that the majority of patients want spiritual discussions but around half did not receive them. The author advocates developing skills to discuss spirituality respectfully in order to help patients find strength.
This document is a journal containing essays on the theme of "The Future." It includes an introduction describing how generations view the future through the lens of both hopes and fears inherited from the past. The journal contains 16 student essays exploring various perspectives on the future, including views on topics like climate change, technology, career plans, and more speculative scenarios. The introduction provides context on the range of topics and outlooks represented in the collected works.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross identified 5 stages of grief that people experience with death and loss: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Her stages were influential but overly simplistic, as people do not always experience the stages in order or at all. John Worden proposed 4 tasks of mourning: accepting the reality of loss, experiencing grief, adjusting to life without the deceased, and withdrawing emotional energy to reinvest in new relationships. Completing these tasks helps resolve grief, though the process typically takes a year or more.
No one’s been more influential than John Weeks in advocating for integrative health and health creation as the standard of care. View (and share!) this stunning 68-page eBook and discover what John’s colleagues—the leading lights of integrative health and medicine—have to say about his incalculable contributions to the field.
מוטי משיח על הטיפול בקנאביס רפואי בקרב הסובלים מפוסט טראומהמוטי משיח
מצגת באנגלית מאת דוקטור מוטי משיח העוסקת ביעילות הטיפול בקנאביס רפואי אצל אנשים אשר סובלים מפוסט טראומה.
A presentation by Dr. Moti Messiah talking about medical efficacy of medical marijuana in people who suffer from PTSD.
Kevin Wolf & Rachel Rolnick Holocaust Integration ProjectTzvi Pittinsky
The document describes two stories of Jews finding hope and celebrating Purim while imprisoned in Nazi concentration camps during the Holocaust. In one story, a prisoner dressed as a king and proclaimed the death sentence of Haman, bringing joy to the prisoners. In the second story, a prisoner was able to locate a copy of the Megillah and have a minyan recite it, providing hope and happiness during their imprisonment. Both stories show how Jews were able to maintain aspects of their faith and traditions even during immense suffering.
School Thy Feelings, O My Brother by Thomas S. MonsonThomas S. Monson
The document is a talk given by President Thomas S. Monson to members of the priesthood. In 3 sentences:
President Monson counsels members of the priesthood to choose to refrain from anger, as anger is destructive and not of God. He tells the story of a couple whose marriage was destroyed by anger, which caused the husband to injure their child during an argument. President Monson testifies that with choice, it is possible to not become angry and instead have the Spirit, encouraging the priesthood holders to make that choice.
This document provides an overview and reviews of the book "A Love Like This" by Kahlen Aymes, which is the third book in "The Remembrance Trilogy". The summary describes how Ryan and Julia's marriage is tested when Ryan feels guilty after saving a coworker who was injured saving his life, and grows closer to her, threatening his relationship with Julia. The reviews praise the book for its emotional depth and exploration of Ryan and Julia's relationship under strain.
A brief message discussing the peace our Saviors gospel can bring into our lives based on the a famous hymn, "Master, the Tempest Is Raging."
Whether the wrath of the storm-tossed sea
Or demons or men or whatever it be,
No waters can swallow the ship where lies
The Master of ocean and earth and skies.
They all shall sweetly obey thy will:
Peace, be still.
The Enneagram and Centering Prayer: Tools to Uncover and Transform Shadow Qua...David Grinstead, MA
The Enneagram and Centering Prayer are explored as tools for transformation of the Shadow Archetype. An attempt is made to demonstrate that the Enneagram can be used to uncover shadow qualities of personal unconscious motivations and deeply rooted influences and prejudices of a dysfunctional nature. Through the consistent practice of Center Prayer (over an extended period of time) these dysfunctional qualities are brought into full consciousness and transformed into positive motivations, influences, attitudes, and behaviors. Existing literature, the author’s personal journey, and independent research assist in demonstrating the effectiveness of these powerful tools.
This document discusses job analysis, strategic planning, and human resource planning. It defines key terms like job analysis, job, and position. It describes the purposes of conducting a job analysis, including for staffing, training, performance appraisal, compensation, and legal compliance. It outlines different job analysis methods and how to develop job descriptions and specifications. It also covers strategic planning, human resource planning, forecasting human resource needs and availability, and addressing surpluses or shortages of workers.
Sue Frederick Bridges to Heaven Media Proposal 2013Sue Frederick
This breakout book from Best-Selling Author and Intuitive Sue Frederick, Bridges to Heaven shows you the path to healing life's toughest emotion: Grief
Death is not the end. In fact your loved ones who have passed are watching you, helping you, and healing you - though you may not know it...
This case report describes a patient with a 37-year history of temporal lobe epilepsy who experienced seizure-related experiential responses that he misattributed as real traumatic memories from his childhood. These vivid "memories" were actually illusory experiences that occurred during seizure onset, as described in previous literature. However, unlike most patients, he was unaware of their illusory nature and believed them to be true memories. His severe psychological reaction to the perceived recovery of these traumatic memories met criteria for posttraumatic stress disorder, representing the first report of PTSD caused by the misattribution of seizure-related mental states.
Illustrations, humor, poetry and quotations vol 2GLENN PEASE
This document contains a collection of short quotations, poems, stories and advice on various topics such as alcohol, animals, attitudes, and apologizing. Some key points:
- Several historical figures like Edison, Taft and Lincoln advocated abstaining from alcohol, comparing it to putting sand in delicate machinery.
- A Marine Corps safety officer developed the slogan "He who comes forth with a fifth on the Fourth may not come forth on the fifth" to discourage drinking over a holiday weekend.
- Attitude is likened to the position of an airplane - a good attitude can help one succeed while a bad attitude leads to poor performance, just as the position of a plane affects its flight.
This document is an interview transcript between the author and several of his family members about his mother's breast cancer diagnosis and treatment. It provides insights into how each family member reacted emotionally upon learning the news. The author's father was the first to be told by the mother and supported her through initial fear and scans. The grandmother accepted it quickly but became upset shopping for wigs. The aunt was very nervous waiting with the grandmother for biopsy results. Overall, the document examines the variable emotional experiences of different family members in relation to the mother's illness.
Christian In A Secular America Aug. 9thmrjlbillett
This document summarizes a Sunday school lesson discussing issues around physician assisted suicide and euthanasia. It provides biblical perspectives against euthanasia, physician assisted suicide, and abortion as forms of murder that usurp God's authority over life and death. It also discusses differing Christian perspectives on capital punishment. Examples of euthanasia and suicide in the Bible and modern society are presented, as well as legal issues around physician assisted suicide in the US. The document advocates that all human life is sacred and of equal worth from a biblical perspective.
New Book Encourages Couples to Celebrates Life Even When One of Them Has a Te...flashnewsrelease
The personal narrative of Don’t Stop Believing: Our Journey with Cancer, by Kasey Crawford Kellem is a remarkable memoir that shares her personal struggle, unconditional love for her husband Craig, and their losing battle against prostate cancer.
This document provides an autobiographical summary of Dr. Mark Vonnegut's lifelong experience with mental illness and his journey to becoming a physician. It describes his three psychotic breaks in early adulthood, treatment, and focus on writing which helped his recovery. It outlines his acceptance to medical school later in life, another breakdown, and realization that willpower alone does not determine recovery. Through treating patients and his own experiences, he now advocates for greater understanding and prevention of mental illness.
The document provides information about funeral traditions and practices in the Philippines. It discusses how Filipinos hold wakes called "lamay" where the cleaned and embalmed corpse is displayed. It describes the traditional dressing of deceased men and common casket decorations. It also details post-death mourning periods including a nine-day novena of prayers, a 40-day mourning period where family wears a black pin, and anniversary commemorations. The role of the embalmer in preparing bodies for viewing is highlighted.
Forest View Breakfast and Learn 12-10-2014Elena Bridges
This document discusses a meeting focused on best practices for collaboration between rural mental health providers and the VA to meet the mental health needs of returning veterans in Michigan. It provides an overview of PTSD and TBI, including history, DSM-V criteria, symptoms, comorbidity, assessment tools, and treatment approaches. The objectives are to review the history and diagnosis of PTSD/TBI, explain assessment and case management skills, and discuss networking to strengthen veterans' services in Michigan.
This article discusses the importance of addressing patients' spiritual health but notes that nurses often avoid discussions of spirituality and religion due to confusion between the two concepts and concerns about offending patients. The author argues that spirituality is an essential part of human existence that is different for everyone, while religion refers to organized belief systems, and nurses should discuss spirituality without pushing religious beliefs. Two studies found that the majority of patients want spiritual discussions but around half did not receive them. The author advocates developing skills to discuss spirituality respectfully in order to help patients find strength.
This document is a journal containing essays on the theme of "The Future." It includes an introduction describing how generations view the future through the lens of both hopes and fears inherited from the past. The journal contains 16 student essays exploring various perspectives on the future, including views on topics like climate change, technology, career plans, and more speculative scenarios. The introduction provides context on the range of topics and outlooks represented in the collected works.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross identified 5 stages of grief that people experience with death and loss: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Her stages were influential but overly simplistic, as people do not always experience the stages in order or at all. John Worden proposed 4 tasks of mourning: accepting the reality of loss, experiencing grief, adjusting to life without the deceased, and withdrawing emotional energy to reinvest in new relationships. Completing these tasks helps resolve grief, though the process typically takes a year or more.
No one’s been more influential than John Weeks in advocating for integrative health and health creation as the standard of care. View (and share!) this stunning 68-page eBook and discover what John’s colleagues—the leading lights of integrative health and medicine—have to say about his incalculable contributions to the field.
מוטי משיח על הטיפול בקנאביס רפואי בקרב הסובלים מפוסט טראומהמוטי משיח
מצגת באנגלית מאת דוקטור מוטי משיח העוסקת ביעילות הטיפול בקנאביס רפואי אצל אנשים אשר סובלים מפוסט טראומה.
A presentation by Dr. Moti Messiah talking about medical efficacy of medical marijuana in people who suffer from PTSD.
Kevin Wolf & Rachel Rolnick Holocaust Integration ProjectTzvi Pittinsky
The document describes two stories of Jews finding hope and celebrating Purim while imprisoned in Nazi concentration camps during the Holocaust. In one story, a prisoner dressed as a king and proclaimed the death sentence of Haman, bringing joy to the prisoners. In the second story, a prisoner was able to locate a copy of the Megillah and have a minyan recite it, providing hope and happiness during their imprisonment. Both stories show how Jews were able to maintain aspects of their faith and traditions even during immense suffering.
School Thy Feelings, O My Brother by Thomas S. MonsonThomas S. Monson
The document is a talk given by President Thomas S. Monson to members of the priesthood. In 3 sentences:
President Monson counsels members of the priesthood to choose to refrain from anger, as anger is destructive and not of God. He tells the story of a couple whose marriage was destroyed by anger, which caused the husband to injure their child during an argument. President Monson testifies that with choice, it is possible to not become angry and instead have the Spirit, encouraging the priesthood holders to make that choice.
This document provides an overview and reviews of the book "A Love Like This" by Kahlen Aymes, which is the third book in "The Remembrance Trilogy". The summary describes how Ryan and Julia's marriage is tested when Ryan feels guilty after saving a coworker who was injured saving his life, and grows closer to her, threatening his relationship with Julia. The reviews praise the book for its emotional depth and exploration of Ryan and Julia's relationship under strain.
A brief message discussing the peace our Saviors gospel can bring into our lives based on the a famous hymn, "Master, the Tempest Is Raging."
Whether the wrath of the storm-tossed sea
Or demons or men or whatever it be,
No waters can swallow the ship where lies
The Master of ocean and earth and skies.
They all shall sweetly obey thy will:
Peace, be still.
The Enneagram and Centering Prayer: Tools to Uncover and Transform Shadow Qua...David Grinstead, MA
The Enneagram and Centering Prayer are explored as tools for transformation of the Shadow Archetype. An attempt is made to demonstrate that the Enneagram can be used to uncover shadow qualities of personal unconscious motivations and deeply rooted influences and prejudices of a dysfunctional nature. Through the consistent practice of Center Prayer (over an extended period of time) these dysfunctional qualities are brought into full consciousness and transformed into positive motivations, influences, attitudes, and behaviors. Existing literature, the author’s personal journey, and independent research assist in demonstrating the effectiveness of these powerful tools.
This document discusses job analysis, strategic planning, and human resource planning. It defines key terms like job analysis, job, and position. It describes the purposes of conducting a job analysis, including for staffing, training, performance appraisal, compensation, and legal compliance. It outlines different job analysis methods and how to develop job descriptions and specifications. It also covers strategic planning, human resource planning, forecasting human resource needs and availability, and addressing surpluses or shortages of workers.
Responsible Corporate Problem Solving - a Siemens case study | IEEE Internat...Isaac Newton Acquah
Abstract of paper: A high maturity in corporate problem solving is a competitive advantage. Companies seek to use
the wisdom of the crowd they have internally. One approach is to enable the employees to publish
a so-called Urgent Request. For a quick and high-quality response it is helpful to distribute such an
Urgent Request either to a high number of employees (broadcasting) or to target the message to
those employees which have the highest probability to answer (target messaging). The first
approach usually causes crowd fatigue. Therefore we focus on the target messaging approach and
demonstrate how this more responsible usage of notifications can reduce the number of
notifications by an order of magnitude with almost no loss of the response rate. This paper presents
the real-life data of the semantic target messaging algorithm of TechnoWeb, a Siemens-internal
social media platform for corporate problem solving.
Abraham Maslow's psychology focused on human nature and needs. He believed humans have innate needs and capacities that drive them towards self-actualization. As lower needs are met, higher needs emerge. When inner needs are suppressed, it causes unhappiness and problems. Maslow identified two types of self-actualized people - those without transcendent experiences (Theory Y) and those who had transcendent peak experiences that changed their worldview (Theory Z). Peak experiences provide benefits like increased happiness, creativity, and perception of reality. B-cognition describes improved behaviors and views of self and others after peak experiences.
O documento discute a função de compras em empresas, incluindo seus objetivos de obter suprimentos contínuos, comprar materiais aos menores preços possíveis, e manter boas relações com fornecedores. Também descreve a organização do setor de compras e suas atividades como pesquisa de fornecedores e aquisição de materiais.
The document discusses the benefits of exercise for mental health. Regular physical activity can help reduce anxiety and depression and improve mood and cognitive function. Exercise causes chemical changes in the brain that may help protect against mental illness and improve symptoms.
Using a case study (the client’s name and other personal details have been altered for identity protection) as an example, this paper provides an overview of how I design and assist a client with a treatment regimen that uses a mixture/combination of clinical hypnotherapy, life coaching, and spiritual counseling/direction.
A Contrast of the Mystical Elements of Buddism, Taoism, Judaism, and Christia...David Grinstead, MA
There are certain general characteristics of mysticism that are shared by Buddhism, Taoism, Judaism, and Christianity. This common ground is a unifying principle that positions the Divine in the midst of all genuine mystical experiences.
The document provides information on several education sector construction projects completed by Jerram Falkus Construction Ltd. It includes brief summaries of six projects, including their location, client, contract value, scope of work, and other key details, such as duration and architect. The projects involve new school buildings, extensions, refurbishments, and conversions to improve and expand education facilities.
This document contains a list of technical terms including table, queries, form, report, switchboard, and macro. It appears to be an outline or table of contents for a technical document related to databases, data analysis, or business software. The terms suggest it will cover topics like working with database tables, writing queries to extract and analyze data, creating forms and reports to view and present information, and using macros to automate tasks.
I will present five major ideas from Judaism which I can assimilate with my primary Christian spiritual-religious world view and implement into my life.
What is Healing: At What Level of Human Existence Does Healing Begin?David Grinstead, MA
At what level of human existence does healing begin? "There is no sharp line of line of demarcation between the religious, spiritual, emotional, and physical—between the body and the psyche." (Morton Kelsey, Healing and Christianity, 232)
The document discusses the various emotional stages that cancer patients and their families typically go through from diagnosis to death. It begins by providing context about the author's mother's cancer diagnosis and metastatic spread. It then outlines the main stages identified by psychologists: shock and denial, fear/anger/sorrow, bargaining, acceptance and peace. Personal anecdotes from the author's experience with their mother's illness are shared to illustrate each stage. The document emphasizes showing compassion through presence, listening without judgment, and offering practical help to patients.
This document summarizes a study on Vietnam veterans healing from PTSD in western North Carolina. The author conducted interviews and participant observation after taking a previous class with veterans and their therapist, Dr. Bruce Kelly, that used creative writing for therapy. While the writing class ended, the author was able to interview one veteran, Lester, who described his PTSD symptoms like numbness, flashbacks, and relationship issues. The standardized PTSD diagnosis fails to capture how symptoms present differently in individuals, like Lester getting fired for avoiding trauma reminders or Butch struggling to express gratitude for a thank you quilt due to loss of interest in things.
This newsletter provides advice for caregivers on using humor to help those they serve cope with difficult situations. It discusses how different cultures and religions use humor as a spiritual tool to help people survive hardships. The newsletter recommends that caregivers allow themselves humor and joy to balance their emotionally heavy work. Laughter is not disloyal to those who have passed away and can help people reconstruct their lives. Appropriate humor at funerals can help mourners celebrate the life of the deceased and facilitate their grieving process.
Ben wilson using poetry in psychotherapy (idsaid) doneWilliam Kritsonis
This document discusses using poetry in psychotherapy. It provides examples of poems in six categories - general, love, abuse, death, depression, and violence - to illustrate how poetry can reveal a client's feelings and thoughts. The summaries also examine how poetry is ingrained in society and can be a helpful therapeutic tool for free expression. Specific poems are analyzed to demonstrate insights they may provide into a client's state of mind or potential areas for the therapist to explore further.
‘Loss and Grief’: Emotional Experiences by Terminally Ill PatientsZulfiquer Ahmed Amin
A concept developed by Kubler Ross to identify the emotional responses of the terminally ill patients or their near relatives. Idea, is to adopt appropriate behavior to handle these sensitive situations.
Attending-to-the-Silence-Attending to the Silence_ The Birth and life of a Po...Elya Steinberg
This document summarizes Dr. Elya Steinberg's experience growing up as a second-generation Holocaust survivor in Israel. She struggled to reconcile living in the present with the shadows of the Holocaust passed down from her mother. This led her to pursue psychotherapy. Later, she started a group called "Attending to the Silence" for descendants of Holocaust victims, perpetrators, and bystanders. The group aims to help process intergenerational trauma from all sides to build a better future.
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NEVER GIVING UP IN THE FACE OF ADVERSITYPeter Adamis
A Greek-Australian veteran writes about his diagnosis and treatment for B-Cell Non Hodgkinson Lymphoma at the Olivia Newton-John Cancer Wellness Centre. He discusses the support he received from medical staff and others. Though initially taking a positive outlook, he later struggles emotionally and reaches out to an ex-military friend for support. He finds encouragement from remembering a Rudyard Kipling poem and connecting with others who have faced similar challenges.
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Running Head: Unit V
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Running Head: Unit V
Unit V Reflection Paper
My Vocation
I have been blessed with the gift of effective counseling, especially on social psychological problems. This gift is based on my quick ability to build trust with people and initiate open and free conversations with people. This way, I can easily let people open up and share what they are going through. In me, I bear the gifts of love and kindness. I have always been concerned about the mental health of others, especially those in psychological situations that have limited their abilities in life. I have an ingrained commitment towards reaching them and attempting to extricate them from these life-limiting conditions. I have always done this since my early years in school basing this commitment on the biblical teachings in Proverbs 31:8-9 that, as Christians, we should speak up for the rights of the poor and defend their rights.
I am passionate about seeing people who regain their smiles again after mentally and spiritually bruising battles. This life is full of challenges, evils, and obstacles that impede man's happiness and fulfillment. Many individuals have indelible memories that prevent them from achieving happiness and being socially productive in the course of supporting others. I have, therefore, many times taken it upon myself to help these people overcome these challenges and revert to their healthy lives. Studies have revealed that the most significant potential limiting situations are those of bitterness, anger, regret, anxiety, rivalry, and even self-doubts (Wachholtz & Fitch, 2018). These factors cause shame, negative and self-destructive energy, and low energy and zeal to perform tasks and responsibilities.
My greatest joy has been in seeing people regain their strength and reverting to their desired positive courses. According to the South African bishop Desmond Tutu, all human beings are born with the innate desire to do well and help others (Best et al., 2015). Therefore, I have found self-fulfillment not only in helping people recover from unfavorable circumstances but also in seeing them realize their positive missions in this world and embarking on them. These people have become part of my life, and I thank God because their success stories have always provided so much comfort, that I have always found spiritual renewal every morning.
I believe I have been called to help people overcome all forms of psychological torture. The calling demands that I put all possible efforts to liberate these people, including doing advocacy communication, speaking truth to authorities about the emotional suffering people, and even taking the initiative to do psychotherapy to these people. A divine calling provides one with the zeal and energy to serve and renews this commitment in the face of whatever adversity (Panchuk, 2018). This calling has helped me overcome many hurdles that have come.
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Running Head: Unit V
Unit V Reflection Paper
My Vocation
I have been blessed with the gift of effective counseling, especially on social psychological problems. This gift is based on my quick ability to build trust with people and initiate open and free conversations with people. This way, I can easily let people open up and share what they are going through. In me, I bear the gifts of love and kindness. I have always been concerned about the mental health of others, especially those in psychological situations that have limited their abilities in life. I have an ingrained commitment towards reaching them and attempting to extricate them from these life-limiting conditions. I have always done this since my early years in school basing this commitment on the biblical teachings in Proverbs 31:8-9 that, as Christians, we should speak up for the rights of the poor and defend their rights.
I am passionate about seeing people who regain their smiles again after mentally and spiritually bruising battles. This life is full of challenges, evils, and obstacles that impede man's happiness and fulfillment. Many individuals have indelible memories that prevent them from achieving happiness and being socially productive in the course of supporting others. I have, therefore, many times taken it upon myself to help these people overcome these challenges and revert to their healthy lives. Studies have revealed that the most significant potential limiting situations are those of bitterness, anger, regret, anxiety, rivalry, and even self-doubts (Wachholtz & Fitch, 2018). These factors cause shame, negative and self-destructive energy, and low energy and zeal to perform tasks and responsibilities.
My greatest joy has been in seeing people regain their strength and reverting to their desired positive courses. According to the South African bishop Desmond Tutu, all human beings are born with the innate desire to do well and help others (Best et al., 2015). Therefore, I have found self-fulfillment not only in helping people recover from unfavorable circumstances but also in seeing them realize their positive missions in this world and embarking on them. These people have become part of my life, and I thank God because their success stories have always provided so much comfort, that I have always found spiritual renewal every morning.
I believe I have been called to help people overcome all forms of psychological torture. The calling demands that I put all possible efforts to liberate these people, including doing advocacy communication, speaking truth to authorities about the emotional suffering people, and even taking the initiative to do psychotherapy to these people. A divine calling provides one with the zeal and energy to serve and renews this commitment in the face of whatever adversity (Panchuk, 2018). This calling has helped me overcome many hurdles that have come.
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Grief Psychology: A Masculine Way of Grieving
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Grief Psychology: A Masculine Way of Grieving
NorthCentral University
October 2007
Author Note
David Grinstead is now in private practice at www.livealife.biz and at Alamance
Community College.
Correspondence concerning this article should be addressed to David Grinstead,
Department of Continuing Education, Alamance Community College, P.O. Box 8000, Graham,
NC 27253-8000. Contact: dcgrinstead879@access.alamancecc.edu.
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While growing up as a young boy on a rural southern farm, elders told me that if bitten by
a snapping turtle it would not let go of me until it thundered. Remembrance gave me pause for
thought causing me to be extra cautious while catching and transporting snapping
turtles—snapping turtle soup was an ethnic southern delight. This activity usually took place on
hot and dry summer days that often turned into weeks, even month long clusters of hot and dry
summer days. Based on popular folklore such was not a good time to be bitten by a snapping
turtle especially if had to wait for a thunderstorm before the turtle would let go.
To endure bereavement and encounter grief is comparable to being bitten by the proverbial
snapping turtle that holds on for what seems like an eternity. Endings and beginnings (minor or
major) are a consistent fact of life and my personal experience of immersion in American culture
did not prepare me for such events. I learned how to grieve the hard way by attending the life
school of severe bereavement hard knocks and inevitabilities. My collective experiences of
bereavement and grief have felt like I was a hard back wooden chair that was repetitively being
painted with hard enamel paint soon followed by a forced stripping and refurbishing via being
dipped multiple times in a vat of harsh chemicals followed by intense scraping with steel wool,
steel blades, a screw driver and vigorous serious sandpapering.
The way of bereavement and grieving teaches us of “the mysteries of life and its many
difficulties and surprises.” (Metz, p. 1) This means that at some level “we are all survivors”
(Despelder & Strickland, p. 267) of many different types of deaths--some small and some big--and
all survivors have passed through the stages of grief that ultimately lead to recovery. When
conceptualizing the idea that there are definable stages of grief it must be recognized that, such is a
fluid analytical construct that varies in degree (wide and narrow) according to the dictates of each
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individual‘s uniqueness. “Nevertheless, most studies indicate that grief follows a generally
consistent pattern.” (Despelder & Strickland, p. 272)
An initial impression is the implication that grieving progresses sequentially in a linear
fluid fashion from stage one, to stage two, etc. until the entire process is finished. However, such
is rarely the bereavement experience and this holds true for my own grief experiences. In reality a
person can experience different stages simultaneously or move forward and backward repetitively
and maybe even skip multiple stages at any given time during the journey to recovery. Intensity
and duration also vary with different stages appearing and disappearing randomly without any way
of predicting future reoccurrences. (Despelder & Strickland)
Variance of expert opinion states that there may be as many as five stages of grief or as few
as three stages.
According to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross…people go through five different stages in
their feelings and reactions towards a death. Denial is the first stage. The
second stage often is anger. The third stage is bargaining. Next comes
depression. As we emerge from…depression, we begin the fifth
stage--acceptance. (Seibert, Drolet & Fetro, p. 73)
From their experience in family practice, two physicians describe definable stages of
grief: (1) shock, numbness, disbelief; (2) painful longing and preoccupation with
memories and mental images; (3) resolution and resumption of ordinary life
activities. (Gorman & Southard, p. 309)
My experience(s) of grief recovery--depending on the life event--has sometimes seemed to go
through five stages and at other times as few as three stages.
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During my 57 years of life, I have been through five major ending and beginning scenarios.
While I was in college and serving as the associate pastor of a United Methodist Church, I had a
major melt down that ended my first marriage and ministerial career while taking me through the
five stages as outlined by Dr. Kubler-Ross.
Something…happened to me the second year of college. There were forces deep
within me which drove me and manhandled my psyche, driving me to the
edge of insanity. The terrible headaches, nights of insomnia, floating
anxiety, panic attacks, bouts of depression, thoughts of suicide, and feelings
of never being completely in control had been with me for years and were
now gaining the upper hand. I was driven to do things for reasons which
were beyond anyone’s understanding. It was hard for me to face the truth
of the real me. That external veneer that everyone else saw blinded them to
the fears and raging going on inside of me. Accompanying these
confusions were illnesses such as heart palpitations, a stomach ulcer, and
many strange body aches. I was 21 and my best friend and constant
companion was a bottle of Maalox. Disillusioned with my health, my life,
the church, and my marriage, I entered treatment as an outpatient at the
local mental health center. The psychologist…told me I was an anxious
neurotic and borderline schizophrenic. Three months after entering
treatment…I left Jackie…soon…I resigned my position as associate
pastor…I resigned my license to preach. There was a death wish in the back
of my mind…I no longer cared…parties, booze, drugs…occupied my free
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time. My former religious career was nonexistent, and it seemed
impossible for me to get or keep a decent job. My subsequent recovery
and restoration was a protracted process which took place over several
years independent of any further institutional medical care. It was a
journey which, for the most part, I made alone… (Grinstead, pg. 24, 25, 26,
27, 30)
My first born son after becoming involved with illegal drugs and gang banging dropped out
of high school and lived for several years on the streets. Many mornings I would get the local
newspaper and immediately turn to the obituaries and public notices of arrests. If his name was
not listed on either, then I knew that he was probably still alive. Eventually his lifestyle resulted
in a prison sentence. This is how I expressed my sentiments of that experience which took me
took me through the five stages of grieving:
I feel a great loss, another major piece of me died today. I long to recover and
hold close memories of by gone days of chess, Stratego, and BB guns in the
back yard shooting galley of old Star Wars figurines. His first step I saw at
eleven months. Together we did most everything. He was my personal
“turkey”, his mom always objected to that term. Beside his bed at night I
often kneeled and prayed the Lord’s Prayer, sometimes with him and
sometimes without while he slept. Bible books I bought to use in pointing
the direction of his feet. My blood, my life’s blood, is tied so tightly to my
first born son. At age six, unable to speak his name and badly stuttering,
my heart hurt for him, my soul ached for him. He was L.D. labeled, a sad
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faced child seeking a way to connect, disruptive and unruly.
Who understood? Who didn’t try to reach out and reel Nat in? Nat
remains disruptive and unruly--24 years long my heart, my very soul has
held him close and tight. Now I must willingly thrust my hand into my
chest ripping out that which remains within my heart and soul of long
unfulfilled dreams and hopes for my first born son. I resign myself to
Nat’s possible, seemingly predestined (maybe even self-chosen) death in
prison. I would gladly trade my life for his, but this is an option denied.
(Grinstead, A Man In Waiting)
My middle son, Aaron (now 25, married, and granddaughter soon to born), choose a life
path that resulted in a positive grief experience for me that embodied the three stage model. Soon
after graduation from high school, he joined the US Marines at the beginning of the present Iraq
conflict. This was my externalized response to the internalized grief experience I felt while
attending his graduation ceremony from boot camp.
So deep! No shallowness of grief in these bones do I feel. My God! The burden
of sorrow do I carry for heavy on my heart it is. My middle son chosen to
embody the warrior archetype, a member at large of the chivalrous Knights
of the mythic Round Table, sworn to rescue and defend the defenseless,
damsels in distress, orphans homeless they be, the lame, the weak, the old
and the innocent. All I can do is just weep! A universal weep this is as I
contemplate all those who know and share the lives of such gallant heroes
and heroines on either side of this mindless conflict. (Grinstead, A Man in
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Waiting)
Over the course of 20 plus years, my second wife became increasingly angry and abusive
to our children and me (emotional, verbal, and physical). Her behaviors resulted in me having her
arrested for assault, taking out a restraining order, and almost losing her medical license when
investigated for child abuse. It was her refusal to take her prescribed medication for two
clinically diagnosed personality disorders (paranoid and explosive anger) and stalking of my
female clients that finalized my decision to get a divorce.
Aware that divorce for any reason results in a major grief experience, an experience that I
wanted to get through quickly, I created and used rituals that did exactly that. While attending
graduate school I took a class in mythology where I learned how rituals could bring closure and
significantly reduce recovery time for those who grieve. For many years, I had struggled to
stabilize our situation and save the marriage. During this time, I moved back and forth repeatedly
through the first four stages of the five-stage model. It was only when I finalized my decision to
proceed with the divorce and implemented the rituals that I was able to move into stage five and
make peace with the reality of the situation through acceptance. And this is how I put that
experience of finalization into words:
Now a party of one I soon to be. Not by desire, but by forced choice. Looking
not backward to dreams trashed and burned, forward I walk treading lightly
one step at a time applying that which I have learned one line at a time.
Imaging shows this journey of one to be a big time step into the
unknown…seen as a lone raft adrift at sea…as a lone hiker striding across
uncharted barren desert sands. Regardless how seen, it is an unexplored
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landscape that looms ahead of me. (Grinstead, A Man in Waiting)
April of 2003 a new woman came into my life and February of 2004 we were engaged and
she joined my hypnotherapy and life coaching practice as an equal partner. I will refer to her as J.
Two months following our engagement she was unexpectedly diagnosed with a pineal cyst/tumor
that required immediate removal. Without going into a lot of personal detail I will allow her
written words to define the context of her and our joint reality:
This past year has been challenging and wonderful. So much to say and so little time.
I am happy, my life has purpose. David and I will soon be dating a year. April
28th and we have been engaged since the weekend before Valentine day. He has
made me so happy--he loves me and accepts me…we talk all the time, we are best
friends and lovers, we are partners in all things. I ask myself where was he all my
life? But at age 50 and now 51 I will grab this happiness… Now I am facing brain
surgery. Facing the fact that I may die but I am not afraid. I feel it will be O.K.
either way…I want to live…my life is so rich. I have found healthy love at last.
(Grinstead, A Man in Waiting)
My mutual attitudes and feelings for J. I expressed this way:
Who is this woman standing before me with hand stretched out? Her right
hand extended reaching out to me. It is a gentle hand that she gives to me.
Yet frozen in time and space I seem to be for ‘till now it is a hand 53+ years
unknown to me. I reach and this hand of gentleness I take into mine. Yet
worthy, am I worthy of such graceful exchange? It is also a kind heart she
offers to me. And eyes of compassion that penetrate seeking insight to
understand me. A mere mortal I am, just clay given life by the breath of
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God having passed by. Yet she! She is so much more than this mortal I
perceive myself to be. Our eyes meet and stumped into a stupor I am and
the owner of my heart she now is.
For three months following her surgery, I was her primary caregiver while continuing my
other roles as an entrepreneur and single parent. We did not know that full recovery time for brain
surgery often takes as long as 24 months. The recovery experience was tougher than either one of
us expected. The doctors failed to forewarn us of the rare, yet nonetheless, serious complications
that sometimes come with her type of brain surgery. We were unprepared for the unforeseen
consequences that ultimately dismantled the positive life and relationship we had built prior to
surgery. The multiple trips to the hospital emergency room and the complications that came in
repetitive waves all seemed unending: extreme anger, outbursts, wide mood swings, weeping,
short-term memory loss, loss of taste, loss of affect, sensory overload, feeling of total
hopelessness, loss of coordination and motor control and permanent personality changes. After
four weeks into her recovery, this was how I was feeling:
Drip drop tired from head to toe, where did all my life force go? Marks above my
eye left to right declare exhaustion from body to absolute depths of soul.
To my journey of Jen others are aware as with raised eyebrows scan me
they do, acknowledging obvious energy drain. Shallow knowing with
eyes that surface scan for to ache of soul they do not know what the Jen
knows. It is here that exhaustion reigns. All that I am I seem to have
poured into a bottomless hole. Flat on back catatonic I lifeless stare
punching holes into starless overcast sky…and the buzzards circle
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overhead. (Grinstead, A Man in Waiting)
The day prior to leaving for the hospital we purchased two trees and ritually transplanted
them into special oversized clay pots. It was J.’s idea and she explained to me how the ritual
signified our soulful relationship and that if she were to die during surgery I was to take the trees to
WoodSong (my home) and plant them close beside each other as a reminder of our eternal love.
That first night in the hospital, prior to surgery, she requested that all family members leave
the room so that we could have some private time. Then she presented me with her personal
favorite portrait--named “woman and man”--(she is a regionally popular painter) that I was to keep
in memory of her if she died. Otherwise, she would re-hang it over the master bedroom bed upon
a successful surgery. We then hugged, cried, laughed and prayed together. I remained overnight
and slept in the recliner beside of her hospital bed. The next morning I accompanied her into
surgery and kissed her good-bye. Four hours later I was there when they rolled her into intensive
care and recovery (I had special access as a hospital chaplain) and remained until she regained
consciousness. For the next three days I rarely left her side. And a week later she was released
unto my care.
Four months into recovery, J. told me bluntly that she no longer was in love with me. Her
telling me was confusing because it took place during what I thought was a moment of closeness
and intimacy. Consciously I demised her statement, but the next morning the reality hit me full
force and I went into stage one experiencing “shock and numbness, feelings of being stunned, as
well as of disbelief.” (Despelder & Strickland, p. 273) I walked outside to the yard, my knees
collapsed from under me, and I buried my face into the ground and weep loudly and profusely.
For the next two years we gallantly struggled to restore what had been forever lost. The
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post-surgical J. was in many ways 180 degrees other than the pre-surgical J., especially in
personality, values, and goals. She never did come to love me again and ultimately decided that
she did not even like me. It was like trying to put Humpty Dumpty back together, we just could
not manage it even under the best of circumstances be it personal or business. Throughout this
time I would sometimes regress into stage one, however; generally, I remained in stage two. I
experienced “anxiety, apathy, and pining” for the pre-surgical J. as “feelings of disbelief” gave
“way to the realization that there will be no reprieve” and I yearned “intensely for the” J. who had
mysteriously died in surgery and was replaced by what appeared to be a clone that did not love me.
(Despelder & Strickland, p. 273)
The continuing estrangement undid us and we officially ended our engagement July 2006
and the business partnership November 2006. I surrendered all rights to the corporation to her,
and June 2007 I resigned my college teaching position, said good-bye to my Tai Chi students and
relocated back to WoodSong permanently--125 miles distant. Now I am teaching at another
college and my private practice and Tai Chi classes are steadily gaining in momentum. J. is in
graduate school and completing a hospital internship as an oncology mental health counselor.
She continues to practice as a hypnotist and life coach. On rare occasions, we communicate via
email or phone at non-personal and shallow levels.
The two trees that we ritually planted in special clay pots the day prior to J.’s surgery
remained unplanted for two years. At that time, the pot containing the tree that symbolized J. had
broken and was held loosely together by a rope wrapped around it. The tree was almost dead.
The tree symbolizing me had continued to thrive in an unbroken pot. The month we ended our
engagement we planted the trees a good distance apart in her yard. When I last saw them, my tree
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was still thriving and the J. tree was equally healthy and doing well.
Over three years it has been since I started the grieving process that began when J. told me
of her lack of love for me. It now almost a year since we completely ended our personal/business
partnership. In addition, six months since I resigned a satisfying teaching position in order to
relocate back to my former home I had left three years earlier. All of this gave me much to grieve
as I mourned the loss of a way of life, my students and clients and the relationship with J.. Since
June, I have been primarily in stage three where I have slowly regained “resolution and resumption
of ordinary life activities.“ (Gorman & Southard, p. 309) Moreover, just in the past several weeks
I feel that I have completed stage three and moved into recovery.
This has been a particularly tough journey for me, which I have been through almost
entirely alone. How can I explain to anyone without coming across as an insensitive shallow
male who left his mate due to some unexpected medical complications? How do I explain that it
is as if my mate had died and there was no body, funeral or supportive network of mutual family
and friends to aid in bringing closure? Much less, what was I to do about the clone that looked
like my mate, acted like someone entirely different, and did not value me while coming across as
entirely indifferent. I recall a scene from the movie The Pursuit of Happiness where the father
and his son are homeless and on the street so they go to a woman's shelter for assistance. They are
turned away because such specialized services are not available to men with the implication being
that men are culturally expected to handle such crises alone.
Regardless of their circumstances, the toughening of most boys begins early in life.
Our predominant American male self-image is tough, strong, and cool…
numerous studies show that boys generally receive fewer demonstrative
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acts of affection than girls do from their mothers, who also wean boys
earlier. Boys are touched and talked to less, and are more likely than girls
to be held facing outward, toward the world and other people.
Coincidentally, boys cry more during infancy. Girl toddlers get a quicker
and more positive response when crying for help or complaining of a minor
injury than boys. Boys, however, are generally pushed toward
independence, even to the point of isolation. (Kipnis, p. 25)
Besides, to grieve like a man is to grieve differently than a woman. It is not an option of
better, worse, or less suitable, it’s just that a man’s way of grieving is different. Since it is
different it is often confusing to others and can result in unwarranted isolation. “While women
tend to react to the loss of a loved one as abandonment, men perceive it as losing part of
themselves, as if severing an arm or leg.” (Learning to Live Through Loss)
No one had a clue what I was experiencing as I always maintained control of my emotions.
Even when sharing my experience with the closest of friends and immediate family members (all
who knew even the minutest details) I kept my emotions in check and remained stoic throughout.
“Many men find it difficult to show their grief around others. Friends and family may think ‘He’s
over it’ when, in fact, he is still hurting.” (Learning to Live Through Loss) My emotional
breakdowns and they were many and often, always took place alone and in private.
To fix it for J. is what I had wanted to do. To take action and move beyond the
overwhelming sense of failure from being unable to control the outcome and redirect J.’s recovery
to what was supposed to have happened. That is what I obsessed with doing. I was unable as a
caregiver to prevent what occurred and to protect J. from the continuing negative outcomes. I felt
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like I had truly lost my life partner and soul-mate to death.
The truth about men who lose their significant other is much different than generally
perceived and the myths about grieving men abound. Some truths about grieving men are:
Men do feel lonely, even if they act strong. Loneliness, grief, and the pressures of
running a household create very real crisis for men. People don’t contact
widowers as frequently as widows, even though the widower’s need for
companionship is often greater. Sometimes people don’t know what to say.
Even couples who had been friends before the death may stop inviting the
widower to their homes. Awkwardness becomes a social barrier. Sexual
frustration may be a concern. Yet many men feel guilty about needing
sexual release, as if they were ‘cheating’ on their dead spouses. (Learning to
Live Through Loss)
Stuck in stage two, I was angry, frustrated, anxious, and lack luster in most aspects of my
living and I wanted to rejoin the land of the living. I desired to be refilled with the positive
emotions (joy, gratitude, compassion, patience, etc.) and attitudes with which I had lost touch. To
expedite forward momentum and move from stage two into stage three, I started using the services
of Mary Phyllis Horn in November of 2006. She is an ordained minister, hypnotherapist, and
shamanic practitioner and has been counseling since 1985 and doing shamanic healing/divination
since 1994. Her credentials and experience align well with my own training and professional
activities. (The Center for Living Light)
Professionally and personally I know that hypnosis can be up to ten times more effective
than traditional psychotherapy for treating certain issues such as bereavement, forgiveness, false
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guilt mitigation, worry, restlessness, sadness and sleeplessness. My transpersonal training and
orientation embraces shamanistic practices that are used for soul retrieval and parts recovery and I
felt that I was in need of some major parts recovery therapy. Our sessions focused on forgiveness,
compassion, reframing past traumas/memories linked to the current situation, letting go of the
past, chakra attunement, ending a relationship, preparing for change, and self-health. Mary
Phyllis’s efforts assisted my getting unstuck from stage two and moving into stage three and
ultimately into recovery.
Throughout this entire grief journey, I remained physically active, socially involved, and
educationally progressive. It was a hard act and often I had to consciously force myself do these
things because all I really wanted was to withdraw from society and all reminders of my perceived
disastrous choices and decisions. However, I did not allow myself to date or even think about
dating until by happenstance in late February 2007 I encountered a woman who insisted that in
spite of my prolonged and stubborn standoffishness she was going to get to know me and become
a supportive friend. With much patience, compassion, light heartedness, understanding,
creativity, empathy, and perseverance she helped hasten my movement through and out of stage
three to recovery. Her continued encouragement empowered me to immerse myself in outdoor
and other activities that used to be a mainstay of my life prior to the J. experience such as travel,
biking, kayaking, hiking, fishing, and camping. Her gentle ways and companionship have helped
open a fresh pathway for my soul to find life anew. She is a dear friend and companion along the
way.
Though professionally I work with both genders my primary interests are in applied male
psychology and male spirituality. The vast majority of my students are male. For a man coming
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to me for bereavement and grief alleviation I would recommend a similar, though personally
tailored, path to recovery using spiritual counseling, motivation life coaching, relaxation therapy,
active imagination, dream work, meditation, Tai Chi, centering-prayer, hypnosis, volunteerism,
and lots of mindless physical activities. I would also teach him to be patient and compassionate
with himself.
Research resources for the use of hypnosis are available through the National Guild of
Hypnotists at www.ngh.net. Suggested hypnosis scripts for the treatment of bereavement and
grief can be found in various hypnotherapist desk references and on line at
www.hypnoticworld.com. Spiritual Counseling resources are available through Spiritual
Directors International at http://www.sdiworld.org.
My experiences as an associate hospital chaplain have produced many encounters with
death with upwards to as many as five occurrences within a two-hour period. Such has never
hindered my ability or desire to work with the terminally ill and their families. However, I do not
have the stamina needed to be a fulltime hospital chaplain. I would soon burnout. As a
hypnotist, I have used hypnosis to treat terminally ill clients for chronic pain relief, forgiveness,
restlessness, sleeplessness, feelings of hopelessness, and to prepare ultimately for a positive death
experience. When using spiritual counseling I teach the use of meditation, dream work, guided
prayer, centering prayer, and some Buddhist techniques such as the practice of mindfulness.
Moreover, my personal values make my practice inclusive for all seeking peace, healing, and
restoration to any level of wholeness in soul, mind, and/or body. Hanging at the entrance door to
my client waiting room is a personal quote that embodies the essence of my private practice,
philosophy and efforts to bring healing and wholeness to all my students and clients.
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A space! A special place! Out of reach of regular means, techniques long go
turned sacred cows. Historical ways of doing things not meant to heal
those outside the main stream. How many? Many seek The Way, only to
be turned away dragging and pushing broken bodies, minds and spirits
along litter covered and barren cultural by-ways. A space! A special
space! The essence of One will make this space a very special place for
those of us who stand, lean, sit and lay outside the main stream. Cultural
oddities embracing the Light finding healing for broken bodies, minds and
spirits. We will find our way to this space! A very special place!
(Grinstead, A Man in Waiting)
What are some of my personal values that can create counter-transference when dealing
with clients on issues such as death and dying? Surely, it is my laid-back attitude regarding death
and the death experience as a whole. My philosophy is that in order to live life fully and without
reservation, one must proactively embrace death and pull it close. Death and life are but opposite
sides of the same coin. Here are two personal poems reflective of this attitude.
Entombed! How else do I describe this event? Struck down early in life, angry and
defiant to the very end. Though I never knew this young man, just a
momentary intro at best, I am spiritual kin to his step-mother who was so
close to him. Is this where they bring you? Is this event what it means to
die? Oppressing this atmosphere! No movement of air! Die! Hell?
The audience are the dead. The deceased--I have no empathy--it is those
attending this affair that are to be mourned for they are the living dead.
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Here to remember the one passed on is not the essence of the mystery. The
fear of this mystery brings us here, hiding our faces in tears for the one that
we should not mourn. Oppressive this atmosphere for it embodies all the
lies of this illusion called life. Only those having moved through and
beyond the state of the living dead are ones to be carried beyond this
mystery called life…call death. (Grinstead, A Man in Waiting)
You…YES…You! The it thing hanging way out back, way out there behind the
broken recesses of our minds. I’ve always known you, it’s the others who
pretend. There is no shadow behind each and every light. But you and
me! We’ve always been close friends…at-a-distance friends the kind of
friends that know without looking to see. Now…you and me…we are
dance partners too, up close and very personal dance partners. Pull you
closer than breath itself in this tight embrace I do. In this tight embrace I
embrace you full on and eye ball to empty eye socket, I look you straight on
and sweat I profusely do. I sweat and let it pour. And dance! We get it on!
It is a very hot tango we dance and it is center stage. I know you are the hot
exotic lover that turned me on to life. (Grinstead, A Man in Waiting)
When dealing with clients and issues of death and dying, I consciously remove this
personal attitude from the context of our sessions and move with compassion into their frame of
mind and being. This is a cornerstone of the transpersonal orientation, the reality of stepping into
another person’s experience and walking the proverbial moccasin mile with them. Detached
analytical observance is not a transpersonal modality or model of treatment.
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The middle path of moderation in all things is how I will continue to meet the challenge of
staying centered personally and professionally while dealing with death and loss in a mindful
manner and remaining in the moment.
If a life is to be lived wisely a person will find contentment. People can enjoy the
gifts from the universe and forget what they don’t possess. Because people
value their existence they need not travel far. There may be planes and
cars, but these are not a person’s path. There may be telephones and
computers but these are diversions from the path. You can enjoy eating,
spending time with friends and family, taking walks and planting a garden,
enjoying life in the community. Even though distractions are always
available with promises of forgetfulness of loss, you may find contentment
with going on, finding peace in everyday living. (Metz, p. 161)
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