Part 2 of a Part 5 Project: Our Divorce Webinar helps parents understand their option to Mediate, Litigate or Collaborate.

2. A FEW DISCLAIMERS
• THIS WEBINAR IS MEANT TO SPREAD THE VISION AND MISSION OF KIDS FIRST PARENTS SECOND, A 501
C(3) NON PROFIT ORGANIZATION
• THIS WEBINAR IS NOT INTENDED TO BE OFFERING LEGAL ADVICE.
• WE WANT YOU TO SEEK LEGAL ADVICE FROM A FAMILY LAW ATTORNEY IN YOUR AREA

3. NARRATED BY
MATT SOSSI • FAMILY LAW ATTORNEY: STATE OF TEXAS 1992-2015
• CERTIFIED FAMILY LAW MEDIATOR
• AMICUS ATTORNEY
• AD LITEM ATTORNEY
• COLLABORATIVE TRAINED
• IN TRAINING: TRANSFORMATIVE MEDIATION
EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF
KIDS FIRST PARENTS
SECOND

4. LITIGATE, MEDIATE, OR COLLABORATE?
LITIGATE
JUSTICE AT THE COURTHOUSE
MEDIATE
LOOKING FOR SOLUTIONS
COLLABORATE
CREATING SOLUTIONS

5. WHY YOU NEED TO CARE
COST
HIGH COST OF LITIGATION
CONFLICT CHILDREN

6. WHY DO WE HAVE LITIGATION?
RESOLVE
CASE SETTLED IN A COURTROOM
RESTORE
COMPENSATE
REMOVE
ALLOW PARTIES TO SEPARATE AND MOVE ON

7. HISTORY OF LITIGATION
WHEN THE DIVORCE BOOM
HIT
LITIGATION WAS THE ONLY
CONFLICT MODEL

8. LITIGATING FAMILY LAW CASES LED TO…
OVERCROWDING DOCKETS
CASES NEVER ENDED
HIGH FINANCIAL COST
HARD TIME SUSTAINING LITIGATION
CONFLICT AND KIDS
CONFLICT HURTS KIDS

9. IN THE 1970’S: WE WELCOME MEDIATION!
90% RATE SUCCESS

10. IN 1988: COLLABORATIVE MODEL

11. DO I
MEDIATE, LITIGATE OR COLLABORATE?
LITIGATE
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MEDIATE
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COLLABORATE
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12. SOMETIMES ITS NOT EASY…
•LITIGATION MAY BE ONLY
OPTION
• EMERGENCY, DRUG USE
• FAMILY VIOLENCE
• POWER, CONTROL ISSUES
• UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS…..

13. LITIGATE BEFORE YOU MEDIATE…
SEEK SETTLEMENT BY EXERCISING
POWER
POSITIONING
POSTURING

14. CHOOSING LITIGATION
DOMINO REACTION END OF COMMUNICATION
YOU SAID WHAT ABOUT ME?
CONFLICT AND KIDS
CONFLICT HURTS KIDS
DIDN’T I SAY THAT BEFORE?

15. MEDIATION
REDUCED DOCKETS
CASES RESOLVED
LOWERED COST
LESS DEBT
LESSENED CONFLICT
YOUR KIDS SAY THANK YOU!

16. MEDIATION
INTENT TO END DISPUTE
HOW DO WE GET TO A MIDDLE GROUND?
HELP OF A MEDIATOR CONFLICT MANAGEMENT
KNOW HOW TO RESOLVE FUTURE CONFLICT

17. IF 90% OF CASES SETTLE AT MEDIATION
•WHAT AM I DOING LITIGATING
MY DIVORCE CASE?

18. CONSIDER COLLABORATIVE
SOLVING PROBLEMS TEAM BASED APPROACH BETTER FUTURE?
DON’T WORRY KIDS
MOM AND DAD HAVE THIS FIGURED OUT!

19. BASIC APPROACH
SHARE GOALS
GATHER INFORMATION
BRAINSTORM OPTIONS
EVALUATE AND DECIDE
RESOLUTION

20. STOP AND THINK
•TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE
• THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP YOU WILL TAKE IS WHETHER YOU’LL
LITIGATE, MEDIATE OR COLLABORATE

21. CHOICE AND CONSEQUENCE JACKPOT
LITIGATION MEDIATION COLLABORATIVE

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