Let's Talk Mental Health: Experiential Language & Support Scripts
1. LET’S TALK ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH
Art Doler - @arthurdoler
EXPERIENTIAL LANGUAGE
Experiential language:
Focuses on what’s happeningto an individual
Describes and delineates
Based on personal truth of the individual
Emotional
Can encourage self-directed action and self-responsibility
DEALING WITH CRISIS
Get the facts.ASK.
o Don’t assumesomeone is safe.
o Don’t assumesomeone is not safe.
If you have a clear,unambiguous statement of intent to causeharmto self or others, CALL FOR HELP.
RULE 0
The end goal is notto solve or fix anything.
SCRIPTS
ASKING SCRIPT
“I could really usesome support. Can you please[helpful action here]?”
OR
“I don’t know if you knew this, but I deal with (or am havingproblems with) [a specific kind of experience]. You’ve
been helpful to me in the past; would it be okay in the future if ask you to [actionable thing] when [event happens]”
OFFERING SCRIPT
“I noticed that [behavioral observation here].
Can we talk about it?”
THEN
“Do you think you could use[action here]? Can I help providethat?”
2. EXPLANATION SCRIPT
“When [event happens], I [sometimes, often, always] feel like [insert feelings here]. To cope with that, I [insert
behavior here].”
CHECK-IN SCRIPT
“Hey, how areyou doing?”
INTERACTION TYPES
TYPE IA – JORDAN ASKS TAYLOR FOR FUTURE SUPPORT
Ideally, Jordan:
Is clear and directin both what they’re asking Taylor to do, and when they’re askingTaylor to do it
Ideally, Taylor:
Doesn’t problem-solve
Doesn’t promiseanythingthey’re uncomfortable doing
TYPE IIB- JORDAN IS IN CRISIS AND ASKS TAYLOR FOR SUPPORT
Ideally, Jordan:
Will ask for whatever they need right now, as specifically as possible
Will explain thatthey need to leave if they feel likethey need to exit the situation
Ideally, Taylor:
Remains calm
Doesn’t take Jordan’s leavingas an insult
TYPE IIA - JORDAN OFFERS FUTURE SUPPORT TO TAYLOR
Ideally, Jordan:
Accepts a “No” answer gracefully (and doesn’t take itpersonally)
Keeps their judgements and opinion out of it
Ideally, Taylor:
Will only talk abouttheir mental state if they want to
Will provideclear guidancefor what Jordan can do
TYPE IIB- TAYLOR IS IN CRISIS AND JORDAN OFFERS SUPPORT
Ideally, Jordan:
Will keep their judgements and opinion out of it
3. Will followthe safety guidelines,unless they’ve prearranged a support responsewith Taylor
Ideally, Taylor:
Will behonest about what they need, even if it’s nothing
Won’t assumethey’re being a waste of Jordan’s time
TYPE III -TAYLOR EXPLAINING TO JORDAN WHAT THEY FEEL
Ideally, Jordan:
Will listen respectfully
Won’t problem-solve
Ideally, Taylor:
Will avoid blamingor ranting
Won’t apologizefor their feelings
TYPE IV - TAYLOR CHECKING IN WITH JORDAN
Ideally, Jordan:
Will answer as with much depth as they feel comfortable – includingnotat all
Ideally, Taylor:
Will legitimately careabouthow Jordan is doing
Will consider settingup a check-in scheduleor recurringappointment with Jordan
TYPE V - JORDAN AND TAYLOR TALKING LIKE NORMAL HUMANS
Talk with people likethey area fellowhuman being who has varied attributes and interests!
RESOURCES
OSMI – osmihelp.org
Largest nonprofit dedicated to mental health in tech
Annual survey
Free guidebooks for employees and HR
WRAP – http://mentalhealthrecovery.com/wrap-is/
Workbook for helpingdiscover your states of mind, and discoveringwhatsupportyou need when
Mental Health First Aid - mentalhealthfirstaid.org
Largest nonprofit dedicated to mental health in tech
Annual survey
Guidebooks for employees and HR
4. Mental Health America - mentalhealthamerica.net
Self-screeningtools for potential mental health issues
Excellent collection of other resources to learn aboutand deal with diagnoses
National SuicidePrevention Hotline - suicidepreventionlifeline.org
OR 1-800-273-8255
Self-screeningtools for potential mental health issues
Excellent collection of other resources to learn aboutand deal with diagnoses