Elderly: How to Manage Your Emotions

Elderly:
How to Take Care of your Emotions!
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Dr. Ravi Samuel / MkW- jfo lSeq,y
Psychotherapist / euksfpfdRld
Published By
Vison Age India & Silver Innings

2 Elderly: How to take care of your emotions!
This book is published by
Vision Age India & Silver Innings
First Print: 2017 September
Printed in India
Copyright © Vision Age India
Not to be sold
Meant for Free Distribution to Elderly
Copyright of the author have been asserted.

Contents
Page No
Elderly and Emotions 04
1. Know your Emotions 06
2. Emotions and You 07
3. Emotions in your Family 08
4. Emotions with our Friends 10
5. Emotions with Relatives 12
6. Emotions and Recreational Activities 13
7. Emotions and Life Style 14
8. Emotions and Physical Health 15
9. Emotions and Life Partner 17
10.Emotions and Physical Difficulties and
Disabilities 19
Conclusion 20

Elderly and Emotions:
Emotions influence the wellbeing of the elderly.
Since they have more time to think and feel;
whatever emotions that are coming in their
minds will affect them intensely. Intense
emotional experiences affect the health; while
positive emotions improve health, while,
negative emotions adversely affect the health. So
it is very important for elderly to know how to
manage their emotions.
There are positive emotions and negative
emotions. There are various emotions which we
can categorize into positive or negative
emotions.
An exhaustive list of emotions have been listed
by Robert Plutchik. This will enable you to
understand the wide spectrum of emotions.

5 Ellderly: How to take care of yoour emotions!

1. Know your Emotions
It is very important that you know about your
emotions, how you experience it and how you
can effectively manage them. Life circumstances
are not entirely under our control, but how we
think, interpret events in life and how we
emotionally react to it, are very much under our
control.
Know how you emotionally react to what and to
what level of intensity.
If you often experience negative emotions when
no negative instances are happening then you
need to manage your emotions differently.
If you keep thinking of all the problems and
negative instances of the past, then you are likely
to experience more intense negative emotions.
If you have problems like irritability, anger, rage
then you might require professional help to
overcome such negative emotions as it can
adversely affect your life.
If you are a happy person and speak lighter
issues then you are likely to attract people
towards you. If you are a person who is highly

emotionally then people may slowly move away
from you as they will not be able to deal with
your negative emotions.
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2. Emotions and You
It is very important to experience positive
emotions on daily basis; you can experience
more of positive emotions by performing some
activities.
Whenever time permits think of all the pleasant
things that happened in your life.
Do things which will give you happiness;
reading, walking, visiting a worship place,
calling up a friend, watching television, going
for a picnic, visiting a relative etc.
Always have someone to share your feelings and
thoughts on a regular basis.
Negative instances and emotions are inevitable;
however repeatedly thinking about it is
something you can avoid. This will reduce the
negative effect of those instances on your
emotions and health.

If you keep reflecting on your positive emotional
experiences, your life will look ‘good’ and on
the contrary if you keep reflecting on your
problems and negative emotional experiences,
your life will look ‘bad’!
If someone keeps arguing with you get
someone’s help to sort out the matter.
Forgive people who did wrong to you – this will
help you to be at peace.
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Do not keep recollecting bad experiences.
Do not get into arguments over trivial matters.
Do not carry vengeance.
Do not carry hatred towards anyone.
Do not plot negative actions towards anyone.
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3. Emotions in your Family
Make efforts to have a short conversation with
everyone in the family.
If someone is not calling, you please make a call
or send a message.

If someone enquires about your health tell them
briefly – do not give all the details.
Make efforts to have friends of your age with
whom you can share everything.
If someone talks nicely do not tell them
everything about yourself and family.
If you are unhappy with anything in the family
talk about it to the concerned person.
Appreciate and encourage people who take care
of you.
Even if it is a small help offer some assistance
for the family.
If you are feeling lonely; learn to share with God
in your prayer.
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Do not wait for others to come and talk.
Do not talk bad about your family members with
maids, relatives and friends.
When you are living with one family please do
not keep talking about another family’s
problems and concerns.
Avoid sharing one family issue with another
family.

Avoid discussions and topics which are
controversial.
Avoid thinking negatively about the family that
is taking care of you!
Avoid glorifying other people when a family is
taking care of you!
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4. Emotions with your Friends
It is very important to have friends whatever be
your age group. Your friends can be of any age
group; someone with whom you can share your
deepest secrets and joyful events. If you have
friends, then you need to find ways and means
through which you can frequently interact with
them.
It is very important to share your thoughts,
emotions and your interpretation of events with
at least a friend.
As much as you wish to talk you also need to
listen to your friends.
Dedicate time for your friends – any relationship
requires communication.

Try to do something together with your friend or
friends; board games, group meetings, picnic etc.
Try to know the likes and dislikes of your
friends; talk and behave accordingly.
Advice your friends but do not expect them to
behave as you request them.
Try to have as many friends as possible; that
way can know many things in life.
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Do not force your point of view.
Do not argue with your friends
If you feel there are few areas which lead to
arguments avoid them.
Do not criticise about your friend’s family and
other friends.
Do not always keep talking about your problems
with friends. Consciously make efforts to talk
about interesting aspects of life.
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5. Emotions with Relatives
After your immediate family members, the
people close to you are your relatives. In every
family, there will be people who relate to the
sick, elderly and the infirm. Keep in contact
with such relatives and whenever possible try to
meet them over coffee or meal.
Telephone, Whats App, SMS, and email are very
convenient ways of reaching out to people. Try
to learn using modern gadgets and keep in touch.
Try to be helpful to others whenever possible.
Only if you have that tendency to help, others
will also feel the need to help you when you are
in a problem.
Since family dynamics are quite complex do not
get into the politics of the family issues.
Always try to be neutral when it comes to
relative’s family problems.
There can be shortcomings in relationships;
accept people along with their shortcomings.
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Avoid telling one family member what you
heard from another family member.

Do not criticize or praise one relative to another
relative.
If possible avoid financial transactions; in the
long run, it can cause confusion.
If possible avoid visiting every day or calling up
every day.
Do not spend long hours in another person’s
house.
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6. Emotions and Recreational Activities
Recreational activities are very important to take
your mind off your concerns and to be
entertained. It can be a movie, outing, reading a
book or magazine or even chatting with friends.
It is not a sin to expect recreational activities as
elderly. So, do not hesitate to actively participate
in recreational activities.
Try to take part in active recreational activities;
going out to public places, playing a sport, going
trekking etc.

Try to develop friendship with people who can
accommodate you when they are doing some
active recreational activities.
Do not limit yourself by saying ‘I will not be
able to do it’; physically make efforts.
Participating in physical activities will improve
your overall health.
Do not always be tuned to passive recreational
activities; sitting and watching television,
watching movie, playing cards, board gamesetc.
Do not be over enthusiastic and try things which
you are not used to doing! Ex: Diving, trekking
long distance, playing for long hours!
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7. Emotions and Life Style
The way we live is very important for our well-
being; there is lot of difference between
surviving and living. Life style does not mean
leading a lavish and expensive life style. It is the
way one leads his or her life; the time you get
up, the time you eat, the time you go to sleep,

the kind of dress you wear, the kind of places
you visit etc.
Try to maintain a healthy life style; going to bed
at a particular time and getting up from bed,
eating regularly, having pleasant conversation
with people.
Begin your day with very pleasant and positive
thoughts, being mindful of the abilities and
health that you enjoy and not brood about the ill-
health you are suffering.
Focus on leading an active and healthy life style.
Your life style should make you look forward to
the day’s activities.
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Do not aspire to lead a life of your dreams, but
enjoy the life that you are leading at present.
Do not aspire for a life style which is beyond
your financial capabilities.
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8. Emotions and Physical Health
Physical health enables a person to perform the
day’s activities and influences the well-being of
the elderly. After the age of 65 years, the health

can vary each day depending on the climate, the
food they consume, how they are taken care by
those around and external environment. Being
mentally disturbed about some past event or
some person can affect the health of the person.
Managing your emotions well, contributes to
your physical health! That should be a good
motivation to lead a stress-free life.
Try to contribute to your physical health by
being following a diet chart, doing exercise and
avoiding negativity in the mind.
Try to spend as less time as possible in sitting
and lying down position during the day.
Between the choice of sitting comfortably and
walking with efforts; choose walking!
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Do not over strain doing physical exercises to
enjoy good health.
Do not use any substances that can affect your
health; smoking, drinking, having cool drinks
etc.

If your doctor has given a prescription follow it
stringently! Do not adjust the dosage to save
money.
Do not take medicines which are not prescribed
by your doctor!
Have a good General Physician who can spend
time with you and guide you appropriately.
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9. Emotions and Life Partner
Life partner is the person who stays with you all
the time and probably takes care of you. Show
respect and love towards the person. Only by
showing love giving care, you can receive love
and care from your partner.
Try to know as much about your partner’s
health, likes, dislikes, aspirations, wishes etc.
Try to play a supportive role in your partner’s
activities.
Help your partner in whatever possible manner
Show companionship and unconditional
acceptance.

Understand your partner’s physical needs and try
to be understanding.
Appreciate your partner for all that they have
contributed to your life.
Instead of criticising your partner fortheir
mistakes, praise them for their good deeds; at
least they will feel good and show compassion to
you.
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Do not ridicule or make fun of your partner’s
family.
Do not have the habit of abusing each other
periodically.
Do not shout in momentary anger and regret for
it all through your life!
Constantly finding fault will only irritate the
other person and bring a distance in the
relationship.
Do not bring old conflicts into the present and
argue about it.
Do not talk degradingly about your partner’s
parents – it can hurt them deeply.

10. Emotions and Physical Difficulties and
Disabilities.
Ageing starts from the moment when we are
born. In the process of ageing we gain few
capabilities we also lose capabilities. A young
boy can run, but a middle-aged man cannot run,
a middle-aged man can climb stairs but an
elderly person can climb with difficulty.
It is normal to be emotionally affected by
inability or disability. It is very important to
always focus on your abilities than your
disabilities. Negative emotional reaction to
your inabilities and disabilities can lead to
exaggerated difficulties and memory loss.
Try to do things which reflect your abilities.
Try to reduce actions which reflect your
inabilities but do not stop them.
Find ways of compensating for the inability; if
you are not able to walk long distance walk for
short distance and take a break.
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Always consult a doctor or a physiotherapist
about your physical abilities and disabilities. For
some muscle problems, you should not strain
those muscles, unknowingly if you keep working
out thinking that it will improve then, it can
cause more damage!
Do not compare your disabilities and other
physical problems with that of those in your age!
Conclusion:
Life will consist of both positive and negative
experiences. How we react to these experiences
determines what we are going to have more!
What we feel about life depends on how we
think about the present, future and past. Living
in the past, thinking of all the negative
experiences, will only adversely affect your
mental and physical health. If you are focused on
the future, the efforts towards improving would
reduce and your mind can develop anxiety. If
you live in the present your efforts would be
focused towards enjoying what you have at
present!

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vius fopkj Fkksius dh dksf'k'k ugha djsaA
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pk;&dkWQh ;k Hkkstu ds uke ij muls
feyus&tqyus dh dksf'k'k djsaA
yksxksa ls laidZ ds fy, VsyhQksu] OgkV~l,si]
,l,e,l vkSj bZesy vR;ar lqfo/kktud lk/ku
gSaA vk/kqfud midj.kksa dk bLrseky djuk lh[ksa
vkSj yksxksa ls laidZ cuk;saA
;FkklaHko] nwljksa dh enn djus dk ç;kl djsaA
tc vkiesa enn dh ço`fÙk gksxh] rks nwljs Hkh
vkidh leL;kvksa esa enn djus ds fy, çsfjr
gksaxsA
pw¡fd] ifjokj dh xfr'khyrk dkQh tfVy gksrh
gS] ikfjokfjd eqíksa dh jktuhfr esa ugha my>saA
fj'rsnkj ds ifjokj dh leL;kvksa ds çfr ges'kk
fu"i{k jgus dh dksf'k'k djsaA

fj'rksa esa deh gks ldrh gS( fj'rksa esa yksxksa dks
mudh detksfj;ksa ds lkFk ;Fkkoor Lohdkj djsaA
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ifjokj esa fdlh ,d dh lquh ckr dks nwljs
lnL; dks crkus ls cpsaA
fdlh ,d laca/kh dh f'kdk;r ;k ç'kalk nwljs
laca/kh ls ugha djsaA
#i;ksa&iSlksa ds ysu&nsu ds ;FkklaHko cpus dk
ç;kl djsa] D;ksafd vkxs py dj blls xM+cM+ gks
ldrh gSA
fdlh ds ;gk¡ jkst tkus ;k jkst dkWy djus ls
;FkklaHko ijgst djsaA
fdlh nwljs O;fDr ds ?kj esa T;knk oDr ugha
fcrk;saA
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6- Hkkouk,¡ ,oa euksjatd xfrfof/k;k¡
eu ls Çprkvksa dks nwj djus vkSj [kq'kfetkth ds
fy, euksjatd xfrfof/k;ksa esa 'kkfey gksuk vR;ar
vko';d gSA vki flusek ns[kus] ckgj
?kweus&fQjus] fdrkc ;k if=dk i<+us ;k fQj
nksLrksa ls ckrphr djus tSls dke dj ldrs gSaA

cqtqxZ ds :Ik esa euksjatd xfrfof/k;ksa esa 'kkfey
gksuk dksbZ xyr ckr ugha gSA blfy, euksjatd
xfrfof/k;ksa esa Hkkx ysus esa tjk Hkh ladksp ugha
djsaA
lfØ; euksjatd xfrfof/k;ksa] lkoZtfud txgksa ij
tkus] dksbZ [ksy [ksyus] VªsÇdx vkfn esa Hkkx ysus
dk ç;kl djsaA
lfØ; euksjatd xfrfof/k;ksa esa vkidks 'kkfey
djus okys ykskxksa ds lkFk nksLrh c<+k;saA
^eq>ls ;g ugha gks ldsxk*] ,slh ekufldrk dk
f'kdkj ugha cusa('kkjhfjd rkSj ij dksf'k'k djsaA
'kkjhfjd xfrfof/k;ksa esa Hkkx ysa] blls vkidk
lexz LokLF; vPNk cusxkA
ges'kk cSBs&Bkys euksjatu] tSls fd Vsyhfotu
ns[kuk] flusek ns[kuk] rk'k [ksyuk] cksMZ xsEl
[ksyuk vkfn&vkfn dh vknr ugha MkysaA
vf/kd mRlkgh ugha cus] ubZ phtsa djus dk ç;kl
djsa] tSls fd MkbÇox] yach nwjh rd iSny pyuk]
T;knk nsj rd [ksyuk!
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7- Hkkouk,¡ ,oa thou'kSyh
gekjh ranqLrh ds fy, gekjs jgu&lgu dk rjhdk
cgqr ek;us j[krs gSA thus vkSj thou;kiu esa
dkQh varj gksrk gSA thou'kSyh dk vFkZ 'kkunkj
vkSj [kpÊyk thou ugha gksrkA bldk vfHkçk;
thus dk <ax gS] vki dc tkxrs gSa] dc [kkrs gSa]
dc lksrs gSa] dSls diM+s igurs gSa] dSlh txgksa ij
tkrs gSa] vkfn&vkfnA
,d LoLFk thou 'kSyh dk;e j[kus dh dksf'k'k
djsa] fuf'pr le; ij lksuk vkSj txuk] fu;fer
le; ij Hkkstu djuk] yksxksa ds lkFk g¡lh&[kq'kh
ckrphr djukA
vius fnu dh 'kq#vkr vPNs vkSj ldkjkRed
fopkjksa ls djsa] [kqn dks LoLFk ,oa [kq'k gksus dk
/;ku djsa u fd viuh ijs'kkfu;ksa ds ckjs esa lkspus
dkA
lfØ; ,oa LoLFk thou 'kSyh viukus ij Qksdl
djsaA vkidh thou'kSyh ,slh gksuh pkfg, ftlls
fd vki fnu Hkj ds fØ;kdykiksa ds çfr vk'kkoku
jg ldsaA

liuksa dh nqfu;k dh pkgr dk f'kdkj ugha cusa]
cfYd vius orZeku thou dk vkuan mBk;saA
viuh vkÆFkd {kerkvksa ds nk;js esa thou dh
[kqf'k;k¡ ikus dk ç;kl djsaA
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8- Hkkouk,¡ ,oa 'kkjhfjd LokLF;
'kkjhfjd LokLF; ls O;fDr dh nSfud xfrfof/k;ksa
dk lapkyu vkSj cqtqxks± dh ranq#Lrh çHkkfor gksrh
gSaA 65 o"kZ dh vk;q ds ckn nSfud LokLF;
tyok;q] vkgkj] ns[kHkky] ckgjh okrkoj.k vkfn
ds vuqlkj cnyrk jgrk gSA vrhr dh dqN
?kVukvksa ;k O;fDr dks ysdj ekufld :i ls
O;fFkr jgus ls O;fDr ds LokLF; ij cqjk vlj
gksrk gSA
Hkkoukvksa ij mfpr fu;a=.k ls vkidk 'kkjhfjd
LokLF; vPNk jgrk gSA blls ruko&eqDr thou
thus esa dkQh enn feyrh gSA
,d vkgkj rkfydk dk ikyu djds] O;k;ke
djds vkSj eu ls udkjkRedrk dks nwj djds vki
viuk 'kkjhfjd LokLF; dk;e j[k ldrs gSaA

fnu esa ;FkklaHko de&ls&de le; cSBs ;k ysVs
jgsaA
vkjke ls cSBs jgus ds ctk, FkksM+k d"V mBkdj
Hkh pyuk&fQjuk ges'kk ykHknk;d gksrk gSA
vPNs LokLF; ds fy, {kerk ls vf/kd 'kkjhfjd
O;k;ke ugha djsaA
LokLF; ij cqjk vlj Mkyus okys inkFkks±] tSls fd
flxjsV] 'kjkc] dksYM ÇMªDl vkfn dk ç;ksx ugha
djsaA
;fn vkids MkWDVj us dksbZ fizfLØI'ku fn;k gS] rks
mldk l[rh ls ikyu djsaA iSls cpkus ds fy;s
[kqjkd ls le>kSrk ugha djsaA
MkWDVj dh lykg ds cxSj nokvksa dk lsou ugha
djsaA
,d vPNs MkWDVj ls laidZ cuk;sa tks Ik;kZIr le;
nsdj vkidk mfpr ekxZn'kZu dj ldsA
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9- Hkkouk,¡ ,oa thou lkFkh
thou lkFkh@lafxuh og O;fDr gS tks ges'kk
vkids lkFk jgrk@jgrh gS vkSj laHkor% ogh

vkidh ns[kHkky djrk@djrh gSA vki tc
Lusgiw.kZ ns[kHkky djsaxs rHkh vkidks Hkh vius
thoulkFkh ls Lusg vkSj ns[kHkky feysxhA
vius thoulkFkh ds LokLF;] ilan] ukilan]
vkdka{kkvksa] bPNkvksa dks vf/kdkf/kd le>us dk
ç;kl djsaA
vius thoulkFkh ds dk;Zdykiksa esa lg;ksx djsaA
gj laHko rjhds ls vius thoulkFkh dh lgk;rk
djsaA
lkgp;Z vkSj fcuk 'krZ Lohd`fr dh Hkkouk çnÆ'kr
djsaA
vius thoulkFkh dh HkkSfrd vko';drkvksa vkSj
mudh Hkkoukvksa dks le>us dk ç;kl djsaA
vkids thou esa vius thoulkFkh ds ;ksxnku dh
ç'kalk djsaA
xyfr;ksa ds fy, vius thoulkFkh ij f>M+dus ds
ctk,] muds vPNs dke dh ç'kalk djsa]
de&ls&de mUgsa vPNk rks yxsxk vkSj vkids
çfr mudk Lusg c<+sxkA
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vius thou lkFkh ds ifjokj dk e[kkSy ugha
mM+k;saA
vDlj ,d&nwljs ds lkFk xkyh&xykSt dh vknr
ls ckt vk;saA
{kf.kd vkos'k esa fpYyk;sa ugha] gks ldrk gS
vkidks thou Hkj bldk iNrkok djuk iM+s!
ges'kk xyfr;k¡ fudkyus ls nwljs O;fDr dks dsoy
[kh> gh gksxh vkSj fj'rksa esa nwjh c<+sxhA
orZeku cgl esa iqjkuh ckrksa dks ugha ?klhVsa vkSj
mlds ckjs esa cgl ugha djsaA
vius thoulkFkh ds ekrk&firk ds fo"k; esa
viekutud Hkk"kk dk ç;ksx ugha djsa & blls
muds fny dks xgjh pksV igq¡p ldrh gSA
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10- Hkkouk,¡ vkSj 'kkjhfjd dfBukb;k¡ ,oa
v{kerk,¡
gekjs tUe ds lkFk gh mez c<+us dh çfØ;k vkjaHk
gks tkrh gSA mez c<+us dh çfØ;k esa ge dqN
{kerk,¡ çkIr djrs gSa rks dqN {kerk,¡ [kksrs Hkh
tkrs gSaA ,d toku yM+dk nkSM+ ldrk gS] fdUrq
,d çkS<+ vkneh ughaA ,d çkS<+ vkneh lhf<+;k¡

p<+ ldrk gS] ysfdu ,d cqtqxZ dks lhf<+;k¡ p<+us
esa dfBukbZ gks ldrh gSA
v{kerk ;k v'kDrrk ls HkkoukRed :Ik ls
çHkkfor gksuk lkekU; ckr gSA blfy, v'kDrrkvksa
ds cnys ges'kk viuh {kerkvksa ij /;ku dsfUær
djuk vR;ar vko';d gSA viuh v{kerkvksa ,oa
v'kDrrkvksa ds çfr udkjkRed HkkoukRed
çfrfØ;k ds QyLo:Ik dfBub;k¡ c<+ tkrh gSa
vkSj Lej.k'kfDr detksj gksrh gSA
viuh {kerkvksa dks mtkxj djus okys dke djus
dk ç;kl djsaA
viuh v{kerkvksa dks mtkxj djus okys dke de
djsa] ysfdu can ugha djsaA
v{kerkvksa dh HkjikbZ djus okys rjhds fudkysa(
vxj vki T;knk nwj rd iSny ugha py ldrs
rks #d&#d dj FkksM+h&FkksM+h nwj Vgyk djsaA
viuh 'kkjhfjd {kerkvksa ,oa v'kDrrkvksa ds ckjs
esa fdlh MkWDVj ;k euksfpfdRld ls ijke'kZ djrs
jgsaA vxj ekalisf'k;ksa dh dksbZ leL;k gS rks
ukle>h esa mUgsa etcwr djus ds fy, mu ij
vuko';d tksj ugha nsaA blls ykHk ds ctk,
T;knk gkfu dks ldrh gSA

vius vk;qoxZ ds nwljs yksxksa dh 'kkjhfjd
leL;kvksa ls viuh v'kDrrkvksa dh rqyuk ugha
djsaA
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fu"d"kZ %
thou ldkjkRed ,oa udkjkRed] nksuksa rjg ds
vuqHkoksa dk laxe gSA bu vuqHkoksa ds çfr gekjh
çfrfØ;k djus dk rjhdk gh r; djrk gS fd
buesa o`f) gksxh ;k deh! thou ds çfr gekjk
n`f"Vdks.k] orZeku] Hkfo"; vkSj Hkwr ds çfr gekjs
n`f"Vdks.k ij fuHkZj djrk gSA vrhr esa thus]
udkjkRed vuqHkoksa ij lksprs jgus ls ekufld
,oa 'kkjhfjd LokLF; ij cqjk vlj gh gksxkA
vxj vki Hkfo"; ij gh Qksdl djrs jgsaxs rks
lq/kkj dh dksf'k'ksa detksj gks tk;saxh vkSj eu esa
Çprk iSnk gksxhA vxj vki orZeku esa thrs gSa rks
vkidk /;ku] vkids ikl vHkh tks dqN gS mlds
lkFk vkuan çkIr djus ij dsfUær jgsxkA

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