How do you react to conflict
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The document discusses different approaches to handling conflict with friends: the Turtle avoids confrontation and withdraws; the Teddy Bear suppresses their own views to keep peace; the Shark aggressively tries to prove others wrong and assert control; the Fox compromises to maintain the friendship; the Owl cooperatively problem solves to find a mutually agreeable solution where all parties' needs are met.
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