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Hard truths
The document discusses hard truths that parents need to accept when dealing with children, especially those in the juvenile justice system. It advises that children act in their own interests, not the parents', and that seeking control will backfire. Parents are also warned against seeing themselves as victims of their children or trying to live out dreams through their children. No guarantees exist for what treatment or programs will work, and a one-size-fits-all parenting approach is outdated. The document encourages parents to reflect on which truths make them most defensive as needing the most work. It was written by Victoria Kamm, a parent advocate.
Hard truths
- 1. Hard Truths Steps OnThe Road To (Their) Recovery Victoria Kamm Wildly Passionate Parent Advocate
- 2. My Child IsNot Against Me We take everything personally. The fact is our kids are simply for themselves.
- 3. Control Success The more controlI seek the less successful I will be. It only causes my kid to be less controlled.
- 4. I Am NotA Victim So many of us have been victimized by our children. Shame on them. Being a victim is something we do to ourselves. Shame on us.
- 5. My Dreams Aren’tMy Child’s Dreams Even when they sound alike. The last thing your kids need to hear is they aren’t fulfilling your dreams.
- 6. Nothing Is AGuarantee When you’re looking for a silver bullet anything will do: Treatment, therapy, a specialized court program, tough love. It leaves out the buy-in from your kids.
- 7. That’s How IWas Raised Raise your kids like you were raised? Ain’t nobody got time for that! Our kids are raised in a vastly different world. You may not like it but you will have to deal with it.
- 8. Feeling Defensive? If anyof these hard truths make you feel defensive pay close attention. They are the ones you most need to work on.
- 9. Victoria Kamm I ama Wildly Passionate Parent Advocate for parents of kids in the Juvenile Justice system. I speak, write and facilitate groups to help parents make it through a very difficult time. Want to know more? Email victoria@victoriakamm.com Call 567.225.0877 Monday through Friday.