Grief:Death Doula Support presentation.pptx

How to survive a loss.
How to be close to those
who are grieving.
Memo about LOSSES, DEATH and GRIEF
https://laurabella.pro/
2023

To grieve is to experience difficult emotions about a loss,
including various difficult feelings - sadness, grief, loss or
disappointment, depression, anger, despair, rage, etc.
• Loss of a person as a result of death
• Loss of connections (for example, divorce, separation, abrupt distancing from
friendships or family relationships, etc.)
• Loss of a home or valuable material possessions
• Loss of the capacity to take part in important events, especially ones that cannot be
postponed or remembered later (eg, graduations, funerals, weddings, intramural
studies, etc.)
• Loss of freedom and being ejected from one's country
• Physical decline or incapacity
TYPES OF LOSS

THE FIRST THREE DAYS ARE A SHOCK!
It is crucial that the individual gets
support and affection from family,
friends, and volunteers at this time, as
well as time and space to express his/her
feelings, emotions, express sorrow and
regret over the incident.

3
days
9
days
40
days
1 year
1 year
DATES IN GRIEF THAT ARE SIGNIFICANT AND CHALLENGING :

● The active period of grief often lasts for a year. Yet everyone has a
unique life.
● Although a year may seem like a long time, preparing yourself for it
will allow you to experience sorrow to the utmost.
● This does not exclude out the eventual cessation of grieving.
BURNING'S ACUTE PHASE LASTS 4-6 WEEKS.

STAGES OF GRIEVING
DENIAL
The fact of loss
The
significance of
loss
Irreversibility
of loss

SIGNS OF BURNING
Physical
suffering
Absorption of an
image from the
past event
Feeling guilty
Aggressive-hostile
reactions

IDENTITIES OF THE GRIEF MANIFESTATION
renunciation stealth
unexpectedness irregularity

5 PHASES / STAGES OF GRIEF
Denial/isolation
Anger phase
"Deal" phase
Depression
Permission

WHO SHOULD BE AROUND?
It will be challenging to deal with your emotions and sentiments alone after
the loss of a loved one. It's crucial to ask for assistance from those who can
at this trying time.
Family and close
friends.
Group support.
Experts in
psychology.
Organisations
for grieving
people.

WHAT TO AVOID SAYING TO A PERSON WHO IS FEELING LOSS PAIN?
"I know
how hard it
is for you"
"You need to
be stronger"
"You have
to deal with
it"
"Look at the
positive
side"
"You've cried
enough"
It is preferable to listen to and encourage someone who is grieving, demonstrating
empathy and compassion, rather than to judge him against others, provide counsel, or
set a time limit on when their pain may surface.
It's important to realise that sometimes the finest form of support for someone going
through grief is simply being silent. Nonetheless, there are several things you really
shouldn't say to someone who is mourning, including:

HOW TO SUPPORT SOMEONE THROUGH LOSS
To be near Do not leave alone,
take care of them
To help concentrate
on the body, rather
than thoughts
Encourage
conversation,
ask, listen
Create an
atmosphere
of presence
and understanding
Give an opportunity
to cry without
trying to console
Gradually involve
the person
experiencing loss
in everyday
activities

hand in
hand
hold
hands
stroke,
caress
embrace
hand on
shoulder
● However, the type of body contact depends on the person and your
level of intimacy and proximity with them..
● If there is a chance to assist with home duties, that would be
wonderful. Grieving people lack the willpower to manage their lives.
TOUCH MAY BE A SUITABLE WAY
TO SHOW AFFECTION AND ATTENTION.

GENERAL PRINCIPLES OF HELPING A CHILD
IN GRIEF:
Be with the child,
maintain emotional and
physical contact with
him/her, be attentive to
their condition and
wishes
Answer all of the
questions and
inquiries honestly,
truthfully and as
objectively as you
can.
Be patient with
negative aspects of
behavior
Be receptive to the
child's feelings and
share your own with
them in a way that is
appropriate while
maintaining the
boundaries.

BE THERE WITHOUT LABELS OR JUDGMENTS.
CREATE A SAFE PHYSICAL SPACE TO
EXPERIENCE GRIEF.
Be in mourning for
the person, not for
yourself!
Talk about them and
their feelings.
Talk about yourself -
only when asked!

If you have the means, try to support those who are mourning.
In order to recover your power if sadness killed you, you must
first go through your own pain and regain your strength.
Important!
Help yourself first and only then
help others.

Help to re-enter life, plan for the future.
Come play with the kids.Invite for a walk,for tea,talk
Create space for life and communication.
Come help with the household.
HELP AT THE RECOVERY STAGE

TO BE ALWAYS NEARBY OR TO LEAVE?
It can be scary and difficult for someone just to fall asleep
and wake up alone, and the rest of the time they need to be
alone with themselves.
Be
there if
you can
I can stay if you
are scared.
Is it better to
leave you?
If a person is mourning and finds it tough and
frightening, you shouldn't leave them alone.
You can simply ask if they need you.
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Pay attention to basic needs:
Do you want to drink
Do you want to eat?
Do you want to sleep?
Do you want to go for a walk? Are you warm/cold?
Would you like to take a shower?
Do you want to visit…?
Answers to these questions will help to
understand how safely a person
experiences grief.

Show love,care and support.
It’s worth saying:
Any of your
feelings are
normal and natural.
You have the right to
ask for help, both
home and
psychological.
You are going
through a very
important process for
your psyche and your
life.
Be attentive to
yourself.
I/we want you to do
it and we want to
help you. How can
we do this?

USEFUL PHRASES:
Yes, it’s really
hurt/hard/scary.
I want you to be
able to handle it.
I am ready
to listen to you.
Your feelings
are important.
I see/hear/feel that
it is important for
you.
I want to help you. I'm here for you. I’m not judging you.

USEFUL PHRASES:
I see and hear you. I accept everything
that happens to you.
I'm ready to hear
anything you
have to say.
You can relax.
You will manage it,
even if you
don't know how yet.
You can cry if you want.
You can be
yourself here.

Keep your expectations of yourself reasonable and
refrain from harsh self-criticism.
You must allow yourself time and space to heal during
the grieving process.
It is important to understand that grief is a process that does not end quickly.
Don't hesitate to reach out for help if you're struggling to cope with your loss.

DESTRUCTIVE THOUGHTS IN GRIEF
"If I stop grieving,
I will betray him/her/them"
"If I suddenly fall in love
again
I will have to go
through the same loss
and pain again"
"What will people
say/think if they
see
me happy?"
"I will not be able to enjoy
life"
To believe that it will
always be like this
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Suppressing emotions - you can
cry,express anger, you can be
happy/sad, - it is important to
give space to all those emotions.
Take sedatives/antidepressants for
months.
To refuse people and help.
Grief has always been lived
together - as a family or a village.
Choose those who are close to you
and the help you need.
Blame yourself. Death and life
are bigger than any of us. No
one knows when, why or for
what...
DESTRUCTIVE ACTIONS IN GRIEVING.

Death should not
be treated as:
Death is not evil
A complaint is
not bad/not
frightening
Grieving
is
a natural
process
Mourning is important and necessary.

WHAT CAN/SHOULD BE DONE?
Create place in your soul for grief, sufferings and other
emotions.
The active phase of pain will
eventually pass, and acceptance,
peace and joy from simple things
will come - good weather, birds
singing, the sound of water…

If you talk about your feelings and daily life, it will be
easier to relieve. See a physical therapist, bereavement
expert, naturopath, or psychologist.
It is a space where everyone can be
themselves freely, where they can
freely experience any emotion, express
any viewpoint, and feel that they are
not alone.

WHO SHOULD I SEND A MEMO?
Specialists in helping professions
Relatives, friends,people who
experience loss
This will help them understand
how to help themselves and
others in difficult periods of time.
Who wants to become of Death Doula

MULTIMODAL THERAPY FOR LIVING
WITH GRIEF
Includes the use of various approaches and methods: *psychotherapy, *body
therapy, *art therapy,*music therapy, *physical exercises, *spiritual
sessions,*breathing techniques, *acupuncture, etc.
Therapy can be carried out both individually and in a group session.
Goal: learn to cope with grief, express feelings and emotions, find support from
others and gradually return to life after the loss of a loved one.
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Books for the healing experience of grief and loss:
● "When Someone Dies: How to Help Children Cope with Grief" by David Clinton and Ellie Budge
● "The Long Way Out of Grief: The Experience of Recovery from Child Loss" by Kathryn Ingles
● "Grief music" by Kate Bowdich "Ghosts in Burning Houses" by Ian McEwan
● "Disaster for many years" by Katie Rudford
● "Poems for Grief" Poem by Judy Brown
● "Grief: Accepting and Coping with Loss" by Harold Ewing Smith
● "The Bitter Truth: How to Survive the Loss of a Loved One" by Tom GolinskiRecovery from Grief
by Laura Richter

● "The Way Through Grief" by Churchill M. - is a story about how the author
experienced deep grief after the death of his wife and how he found a way to
healing.
● "How to survive grief" Marshall K. - the author gives practical advice on how
to survive grief after the loss of a loved one and continue living.
● "Grief and sadness" Levi-Strauss K. - in this book, the author examines the
philosophical and psychological aspects of grief and sadness, helping the reader
to better understand them.
Books for the healing experience of grief and loss:

● Send a memo to social media, networks, email relatives, friends, colleagues.
● Send a donation to support more bereavement materials and sessions.
● Become a team member as a professional with us.
● Create materials together for those who are at the stage of grief or death
HOW CAN YOU SUPPORT OUR PROJECT?
For more information: https://laurabella.pro/
Email: therapylaurabella@gmail.com

If you want to get a new profession, learn how to
provide decent professional support for people who
have experienced grief or who are close to death,
then our online course "Death Doula" is for you!
During the course, you will learn everything you
need to know to become a Death Doula. You will
learn how to support the dying and their loved
ones, how to develop your skills for a career in this
field, and even how to start your own business.
Our courses has a set of groups as well as an
independent course, which you can use at your
own pace
INTERNATIONAL DEATH
DOULA CERTIFICATION
COURCE

- This may include rituals, spiritual practices, mantras, meditations,
- reading prayers, lighting candles, music,
- spiritual conversations, etc.
- Providing documentation and legal procedures related to death,
- such as making a will,
- funeral arrangements and other legal issues.
- Help in understanding and accepting death.
- This may include counseling about the acceptance
- of dying and support for spiritual development in the last days of
life.etc
- Support of family and loved ones before and after the
death of a loved one.
- This includes funeral planning assistance, bereavement
support, and assistance during mourning.
- Providing comfort and care for the dying. This includes
controlling pain, providing decent care,
- and supporting the spiritual realm of the dying.
- Respect and observance of important spiritual, religious
rites and traditions associated with passing away.
WHAT DOUSE DEATH DOULA DO?:

> We will provide you with materials, videos, and tutorials to
help you deepen your knowledge and skills.
> We provide personal assistance from a teacher to help you
complete the program successfully.
Course organizer Dr. Laura Bella, the first doula of death in
Ukraine, she is an experienced end-of-life specialist, with 8
years of experience in the USA, working in hospices, hospitals
and nursing homes, who will help you succeed on the course
and give advice that will help you in your career helping
profession.
Don't miss the opportunity to learn how to provide care for
people and get the doula profession at the end of your life.
For more details
Email: therapylaurabella@gmaail.com
WhatsApp: USA +1(786) 222-4612
UK +44 ( 741) 801-8800
2023 https://laurabella.pro/

REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT ALONE
WE ARE HERE FOR YOU
Dr. Laura Bella has been working as a Grief Counselor, Multimodal Therapist,
Family&Marriage Coach and Spiritual Mentor for over
15 years with thousands of clients in more than 30 countries
throughout Europe, Asia, the UK, and the United States.
Email: therapylaurabella@gmail.com
WhatsApp: USA +1(786) 222-4612
UK +44 ( 741) 801-8800
2023

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