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2) It also discusses how past relationships that ended can motivate personal growth and help one become prepared for the type of healthy relationship they desire.
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The document discusses how unconscious emotional baggage from childhood experiences shape attitudes and behaviors in intimate relationships. Unresolved issues are repeatedly projected onto new partners, resulting in dysfunctional patterns. As the "love bubble" bursts over time, repressed feelings can emerge and old wounds are unconsciously triggered in one another. To build healthy relationships, one must gain self-awareness of their own emotional conditioning and become conscious of how their needs, fears and reactions impact their partner.
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1. People are made for relationships and have a choice in how they participate in them. Healthy relationships require work and responsibility.
2. Unhealthy relationships stem from fear and blaming others rather than taking responsibility for one's own actions and reactions.
3. Having a good relationship with God and oneself is key to having good relationships with others. All relationships must be balanced.
Save your marriage and stay connected forever with your partner. Know the basics of keeping your marriage intact. Enjoy life with your partner and not without it. God Bless.....
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2) It also discusses how past relationships that ended can motivate personal growth and help one become prepared for the type of healthy relationship they desire.
3) The recommendation is made to focus thoughts on the desired relationship rather than what is not wanted, and to write down relationship goals in order to attract a fulfilling partnership.
The document provides information on various resources for marriage including books by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrot on assessing love styles, a book by Hayley and Michael DiMarco for those who are single, married, or finding marriage isn't what they expected, and a book by Mike and Harriet McManus dispelling myths about living together before marriage. It also mentions a book by Dr. Les Parrot on enhancing sexual intimacy and biblical verses on understanding wives and not awakening love at the wrong time.
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Your capacity to love and accept yourself is the measure of your capacity to love and accept others. The same can be said for romance: your ability and willingness to create romance within is the measure of the romance you can help create in a committed loving relationship.
Holding hands is the most effective way to solve relationship conflicts. Start doing it, and experience the effects.
https://drsapnasharma.com
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11. ● Dopamine: to keep you feeling
wonderful about your loved one
● Norepinephrine: to keep your heart
aflutter
● Phenylethylamine: to give you
emotional and physical energy
● Oxytocin: the “bonding” hormone
12. These and other chemicals
manufactured by your body
had you believing that you had
fallen in love.
13. Once you make the decision
to form a committed
relationship, your body has
you where it wants you.
47. 1. List what you enjoyed most
about the early part of your
relationship and want to be
sure keeps happening.
48. 2. How has your relationship
changed as it has matured?
49. 3. What expectations do you
have about your partner that
may not be getting met?
50. 4. What expectations have
you noticed your partner may
have for you that you weren’t
expecting?
Editor's Notes
Welcome to the course, Keep the Fire Burning, and your first lesson:
From the Fire of Passion to ... What?
We hope you find the course to be enjoyable and that it inspires you to build a relationship that will last a lifetime!
Let’s get started!
Most committed relationships, except those of convenience, had a spark which caught fire and became unbridled passion.
Feelings were intense!
The couple spent as much time together as possible and had a difficult time keeping their hands off each other.
They decided to proceed to the next stage of the relationship and move in together or get married. Within a couple of months, they began to wonder what happened. Where did all the passion go?
Maybe this is you.
Let’s talk about what happened.
How Your Body Manipulated You
Yes, your body manipulated you into forming a relationship with the one you love.
It’s not that your body believed in love. No, your body wanted only one thing.
It wanted to ensure the human race continued and did everything it could to get you to fall in love.
To encourage the relationship, your body produced chemicals, such as…
● Dopamine, to keep you feeling wonderful about your loved one
● Norepinephrine, to keep your heart a flutter
● Phenylethylamine, which gave you emotional and physical energy.
● Oxytocin, which has become known as the “bonding” or “cuddle” hormone. (We’ll discuss ways to keep producing this fun hormone.)
These and other chemicals manufactured by your body had you believing that you had fallen in love.
Once you make the decision to form a committed relationship, your body has you where it wants you.
Where Did the Passion Go?
People often complain about passion missing in their relationship. They wistfully talk about the “old” days of when the fire was burning. Now the relationship seems so, well, ordinary.
Consider what happens when you get married or move in together...
1. You no longer have to arrange to see each other.
You’re already together in the home you share.
There isn’t the ritual of calling to arrange time to meet each other.
We’ll discuss ways to keep the excitement of being together going.
2. The routines of your daily life are shared.
The daily chores of keeping the house clean, making money, and other daily activities are no longer done out of sight of the other.
● Who does which chores? If these chores are going to get done, it’s important to make time for them and discover how to share the responsibility.
● These are the ordinary activities of life, which aren’t exciting, but they’re necessary.
3. You’re not always “up” for each other.
When you see each other every day, it’s difficult to hide from the other when you’re tired, stressed, or grumpy.
Before, your excitement about seeing each other overshadowed and even overcame your weariness.
4. You “forget” to do the special things you did for each other.
When life becomes routine, it’s common to skip the little things you used to do for each other.
This includes special gifts, saying how much you love each other, and giving compliments.
You begin to take each other for granted.
The specialness you once felt seems to recede into the background.
This can negatively affect your relationship if you allow it.
Hidden Expectations Emerge
When you’re dating each other, and the chemicals of passion are in control of your relationship, you’re excited by the newness of it all.
You’re open to things being different in your life.
When your relationship settles into a routine, subconscious forces begin to emerge.
From the moment you were born until now, your subconscious mind has gathered information on how you and your partner should interact.
The challenge is that each of you may have different “shoulds” which can conflict and be completely unknown to each other.
These “shoulds” set your relationship up for misunderstandings and hurt feelings if they aren’t discovered and addressed.
Keep the Fires Burning
Luckily, despite the routine of life which comes from work schedules, caring for the home, being part of each other’s families and, perhaps, establishing a family of your own, there are ways to keep the passion burning in your relationship.
The rest of this course will address common issues which arise in committed relationships and how to work through them.
Just reading about what happens in relationships lets you know that you and your partner aren’t alone in these challenges. Other couples go through these challenges as well.
You want to be different from many couples by recognizing potential difficulties and knowing how to resolve them. Be one of the couples who celebrates their 50th anniversary and not one who says with regret, “I wish I’d known.”
Summary
You’ve learned how your body conspired to have you fall in love by producing powerful chemicals which keep you attracted to each other.
Once you form a committed relationship, those same chemicals decrease.
In the next lesson, you'll learn strategies to keep your relationship special.
But first, please take a few minutes to reflect upon how what you’ve discovered applies to you.
Reflection
1. List what you enjoyed most about the early part of your relationship and want to be sure keeps happening.
2. How has your relationship changed as it has matured?
3. What expectations do you have about your partner that may not be getting met?
4. What expectations have you noticed your partner may have for you that you weren’t expecting?
That’s all for today’s lesson. See you next time!