Day 3 of my 31 day of Fearlessness Campaign. Find out how to live your life with integrity, be honest and put a halt to any lying you find yourself involved in.

1. FearlessHonesty
Today I wantto talkabout beinghonestandthatmeansineveryway,shape andform. My Bible verse of
choice isfoundinExodus20:19 “Thou shaltnot bearfalse witnessagainstthyneighbor.”Thisisthe
ninthcommandmentsothatmeansit’sof highimportance tohow youlive yourlife. Honestyisalways
the bestpolicybutsometimeswe cangeta little scaredabouttellingthe truth,the whole truthand
nothingbutthe truth, sohelpus God.Whenit comesto connectingwithpeopleandexpressingyourself
sometimesyoumaywanttoelaborate ondetails,ormake upstoriesthatare not true to lookbetter
than youthinkyouare. Sometimes,youwanttogetout of a situationandto youthe bestway to dothat
isto tell a little white lie.It’snormal,asIsaidinmy lastarticle,none of us are perfect.We make
mistakesandthat’sok because if youare wise youwill learnfromthose mistakes.Unfortunately,we live
ina worldfull of perfectionistswhocan’tstandto make a mistake orhave anyone findoutthat they
made a mistake or didsomethingwrongsotheylie aboutit.Iactuallylove hearingstoriesof frailties,
weaknesses,mistakes,mishaps,andfailuresbecause itletsme know Iam talkingtoa real personwhois
still growingandblossominginlife andtheyare still alive. Ican’twaitto see how thingsturnout for
themaftertheymade the mistakesoradmittedtheirweaknesses.Thisiscause forcelebrationbecause
youhave overcome. Whenyoumake a mistake,hopefullyyouhave learnedfromthatmistake and
won’tmake itagain and youhave enoughself-esteemandself-worthtoknow thatyouare still ok,you
are a decentpersonwithroomforgrowth.
I meanif you go to a jobinterview andthe interviewerasksyouif youhave any questions,don’tmostof
youask “Is there roomfor growth?” I hope yousaidyes,because youwantto grow inthe companyyou
workat. No one wantsto be boredat work,stayingstagnantanddoingmonotonoustasksthatdon’t
give youa sense of purpose inyourcareer;so you wantto worksomewhere youcangrow. If youwant
your jobto have roomfor growthwhynot make sure you yourself have roomforgrowth.Thatmeans
trial and error,right?Yes, indeed.Thatiswhatlife isall about,trial anderror,learningandgrowing.And
whenyougetold youcan lookback on yourlife andtell yourgrandchildren,“guesswhatIdidthat
wasn’tso smart.But my little one,Ilearnedalotfromthat situationorcircumstance.Iam a betterand
wiserperson.”Andyourlittle grandchildwill know,that,hey,it’soktomake a mistake here andthere
because Iwill learnalesson fromit. My grandpaor grandma did.
So,if I go throughlife tellingpeopleliesaboutwhoIam or what I have done inlife thenIcan’t possibly
grow fromthat. I won’tfeel verygoodaboutmyself.Infact,as youknow,whenyoulie youhave to
rememberthe lie tokeepitgoing andincase someone shouldaskyouaboutitlater.If youforgetyour
lie thenpeople won’ttrustyou,youcouldrepel peopleandtheywill avoidyou.Whenyouare honest
aboutsomethingandletgoof the fearof beinghonestabout it,youlifta heavyloadoff of your
shoulders.Yousleepeasy,andyougo throughlife knowing,hey,youmaynotlike thistruthIhave to tell
youor youmay notaccept me whenI tell yousomethingaboutwhatIdidor whoI am, but that’sok.

2. That meansyouwere not meantto be inthat person’slife andtheywere notmeanttobe in yours.It
alsomeansthat youknowhowto attract the rightpeople intoyourcircle andyou are satisfiedand
happywithyourrelationshipsbecause youcantrustthe people youinteractwithandtheyknow they
can trust youbecause youare an honestpersonforthe mostpart. If youhave done somethingthat
couldharm or has harmed anotherperson,whetheritisemotionally,physically,spiritually,ormentally,
I stronglysuggestyouletthemknowwhatyoudidso youcan letitgo, forgive yourself andallow the
otherpersonroomand time to forgive you.How inthe worldwill youknow if the people inyourlife are
worthspendingtime withandtheyare genuine peoplewhotrulylove youif youare nothonestwith
themand yourself? If youhave alreadytoldabigfat lie or continue tolive adishonestlife andyoujust
don’tknowhowto get outof it,ask God for help.Thatiswhat God isthere for,to helpyoudeal withlife
and do the rightthing.I don’tbelieve anyone wantstogothroughlife thinkingaboutthingstheyhave
done to hurt anotherpersonoverandoveragainto the pointof psychosisordepression,orsome crazy
addictiontoescape the internal painof whattheyhave done.So,make ityour businesstopractice
fearlesshonesty.Don’tworryaboutthe outcome,rememberyourreputationandyourcharacterare far
more importantthanwhat anyone couldeverthinkof you. That’syourintegrity,that’spriceless. What
youthinkof yourself ismore importantandif youare livingalie or live yourlife tellingliesoverandover
again,youmay not wantto live withyourselfanymore. Startthisbrand new yearoff rightwitha clean
and honestslate andbe real to the people youencounter,becausethatisbeautifulandattractive.You
won’tspenda life tryingtofigure outwhoyouare at 45 or 52 because youhave beentellingyourself
and otherpeople youare someone thatyouare not.If youhave said somethingtosomeoneabout
somethingyoudidanditwasn’ttrue,be boldandcontact themto setthe recordstraight.Yes,it could
endthe relationship andyoumayevengetintrouble,that’sreality,butyouwill feelbetterthatyou
were honestaboutitand youcan move forwardand remembernottoeverdo itto anyone new that
comesintoyour life again. The Bible saysinLuke 8:17 whatishiddenwill be revealedone day.That’s
God’struth, that’snot a joke.Doyou wantit to be revealedlaterandhave growingangstaboutit or
wouldyouratherget itoff your chestnow so youcan be free?Choose freedom! Be real,be bold,be
honest,be fearlessaboutwhoyouare.Itlooksgoodon youhoney!
Whenyouget a chance take a lookat thisarticle about versesinthe Bible regarding lyingandhonesty
https://www.biblestudytools.com/topical-verses/bible-verses-about-honesty-and-integrity/ Itwill
encourage youif youare struggling withthisfear.