The document is a self-assessment guide for fathers created by Tom Curtis, aimed at helping them evaluate their role and improve their relationships with their children. It outlines a model based on four key elements: Teach, Treat, Time, and Trust, along with reflective questions and action planning. The guide encourages fathers to identify gaps and make focused improvements to become better caregivers.

1. Father’s Self-Assessment
How am I doing as a Father?

2. Created by Tom Curtis 2011
Blog: www.onimproving.blogspot.com
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3. The Introduction

4. Intro-Why an assessment?
THIS STARTED AS A FATHER’S DAY PROJECT. ON FATHER’S
DAY WE USUALLY THINK ABOUT OUR FATHERS, VISIT THEM,
AND PAY THEM HONOR. I DID THIS THIS YEAR AS WELL,
BUT I ALSO GOT THINKING ABOUT HOW FATHER’S DAY
MIGHT GIVE ME AS A FATHER AN OPPORTUNITY TO ASSESS
HOW I AM DOING IN MY FATHER ROLE. THIS GOT ME
STARTED ON THIS SELF ASSESSMENT. THIS ASSESSMENT
USES A SIMPLE MODEL AND QUESTIONS TO HELP US FIND
WAYS TO IMPROVE. AS I PUT THIS TOGETHER, I THOUGHT
IT MIGHT BE USEFUL TO OTHER FATHERS, SO HERE IT IS.
WE CAN BECOME BETTER FATHERS AND IMPROVE OUR
RELATIONSHIPS. LET’S MAKE A START.
-TOM CURTIS 2011

5. The Model

6. The T Model
TEACH TREAT TIME
Measuring ourselves TRUST
in these 4 elements

7. The Questions

8. Date of Assessment:

9. Teach
How do I teach my children?
Am I teaching by example?
What am I teaching my children?
Am I equipping them to be good citizens, friends, people?
What should I be teaching more clearly?
How can I improve my teaching?

10. Treat
How do I treat my children? With love? With respect?
How do they see me treat others (including when they are
not present)?
Do I control my frustration or anger?
Do I help them see who they can become?
How can I improve how I treat them?
How do they treat their Mother? One another?

11. Time
Do I spend focused time with my children?
How do we spend time together? Is it uplifting?
What memories do they have of our time spending?
Do I spend enough time with them? Individually?
Do I know how they are doing? Worries? Wishes?
How would they change how we spend time?

12. Trust
Do my children trust me?
Have I created an environment where we can have
genuine conversations? Discuss concerns?
Do I keep all my promises to my children?
How can I enhance their trust?
What would help them feel safer and more secure?
Where do I want our relationship to be in a year?

13. My Learnings

14. Review your Answers
Where do you see gaps from needed levels?
What answers were surprising?
Are there patterns or themes in your answers?
What elements are most important to you?
What elements are most important to your
children?

15. WHERE CAN YOU MAKE THE LARGEST IMPACT?
WHERE CAN YOU MAKE QUICK CHANGES?
WHERE SHOULD YOU START FIRST?

16. My Plan

17. My plan-
What, When, & How
Date
What will I do?
When will I do it?
How will I do it?

18. My Record

19. My Record
DATE (S) WHAT I DID WHAT I LEARNED