This document discusses communication theory and the author's personal experience with communication. The author shares that as a teenager she became pregnant and her family stopped talking to her. Over the next few years, through her actions and accomplishments, she was able to communicate her message to her family without words. This experience led her to realize that everything we do communicates a message, even without verbal language. She developed a theory called "Communication Indulgence" that understanding how unconsciously, everything we do is a form of communication and without it we would be lost.
We all use various means of communication, whether they be verbal.docxjessiehampson
We all use various means of communication, whether they be verbal or non-verbal. For the most part, I think that we as individuals apply certain filters when speaking to certain people. For example, when I’m interviewing for a new job, I may not speak the same way I would with my best friend of many years. I’d like to think I’m the same person in every aspect of my life, with everyone in my life, but the truth is, while my beliefs and values don’t change according to who I’m with, perhaps my way of expressing them, does. Growing up and finding myself has been an on-going process, and the way I want to be perceived seems to be more aligned with who I truly am as the years go by. I realized after some time, that the way these two align has less to do with how I communicate with others, but more to do with how I communicate with myself.
Intrapersonal communication is the process of using messages to create meaning within the self. It is the communication that occurs within your own mind (Pearson, Nelson, Titsworth, & Hosek, 2017). I have deemed this communication the most important for me because of the immense effect it has had on my communication with others. The instances that stand out to me the most, are of course, the deeply personal ones. The way I communicate with myself has always strongly affected my communication skills with family members, close friends, and lovers. There was a time when I would create an entire scenario in my head and let that scenario dictate an entire exchange of words. I would assume what the other person was thinking, doing, and feeling. By doing this, I realized I communicated in a way that was very defensive and insecure. I projected my own fears and notions onto other people.
This way of communicating left no room for listening, and even less room for understanding. Most importantly, the way I was communicating with myself was having a negative effect on my self-esteem, and the dialogue I shared with myself while looking into the mirror was never a pretty one. The truth is, I only realized there was another way of doing things when I changed the way I spoke to myself. I started to nurture the relationship with myself, the dialogue between my own two ears. I had no idea that I had to take this step before I would begin to improve the way I communicated with the people closest to me. I began giving myself positive affirmations. I steered clear from assumptions about what other people were thinking and feeling. I began to focus on what I was thinking and feeling.
As a result of careful communication with myself, of kind and loving dialogue in my head, my relationships began to flourish. Because I was no longer coming from a place of defensiveness, I was more open to what others had to say. I was more familiar with my own truth, and it left plenty of room to openly listen to the truth of others. There is proof in my life that intrapersonal communication has become a powerful resource for me, but o ...
We all use various means of communication, whether they be verbal.docxjessiehampson
We all use various means of communication, whether they be verbal or non-verbal. For the most part, I think that we as individuals apply certain filters when speaking to certain people. For example, when I’m interviewing for a new job, I may not speak the same way I would with my best friend of many years. I’d like to think I’m the same person in every aspect of my life, with everyone in my life, but the truth is, while my beliefs and values don’t change according to who I’m with, perhaps my way of expressing them, does. Growing up and finding myself has been an on-going process, and the way I want to be perceived seems to be more aligned with who I truly am as the years go by. I realized after some time, that the way these two align has less to do with how I communicate with others, but more to do with how I communicate with myself.
Intrapersonal communication is the process of using messages to create meaning within the self. It is the communication that occurs within your own mind (Pearson, Nelson, Titsworth, & Hosek, 2017). I have deemed this communication the most important for me because of the immense effect it has had on my communication with others. The instances that stand out to me the most, are of course, the deeply personal ones. The way I communicate with myself has always strongly affected my communication skills with family members, close friends, and lovers. There was a time when I would create an entire scenario in my head and let that scenario dictate an entire exchange of words. I would assume what the other person was thinking, doing, and feeling. By doing this, I realized I communicated in a way that was very defensive and insecure. I projected my own fears and notions onto other people.
This way of communicating left no room for listening, and even less room for understanding. Most importantly, the way I was communicating with myself was having a negative effect on my self-esteem, and the dialogue I shared with myself while looking into the mirror was never a pretty one. The truth is, I only realized there was another way of doing things when I changed the way I spoke to myself. I started to nurture the relationship with myself, the dialogue between my own two ears. I had no idea that I had to take this step before I would begin to improve the way I communicated with the people closest to me. I began giving myself positive affirmations. I steered clear from assumptions about what other people were thinking and feeling. I began to focus on what I was thinking and feeling.
As a result of careful communication with myself, of kind and loving dialogue in my head, my relationships began to flourish. Because I was no longer coming from a place of defensiveness, I was more open to what others had to say. I was more familiar with my own truth, and it left plenty of room to openly listen to the truth of others. There is proof in my life that intrapersonal communication has become a powerful resource for me, but o ...
Welcome to TechSoup New Member Orientation and Q&A (May 2024).pdfTechSoup
In this webinar you will learn how your organization can access TechSoup's wide variety of product discount and donation programs. From hardware to software, we'll give you a tour of the tools available to help your nonprofit with productivity, collaboration, financial management, donor tracking, security, and more.
2024.06.01 Introducing a competency framework for languag learning materials ...Sandy Millin
http://sandymillin.wordpress.com/iateflwebinar2024
Published classroom materials form the basis of syllabuses, drive teacher professional development, and have a potentially huge influence on learners, teachers and education systems. All teachers also create their own materials, whether a few sentences on a blackboard, a highly-structured fully-realised online course, or anything in between. Despite this, the knowledge and skills needed to create effective language learning materials are rarely part of teacher training, and are mostly learnt by trial and error.
Knowledge and skills frameworks, generally called competency frameworks, for ELT teachers, trainers and managers have existed for a few years now. However, until I created one for my MA dissertation, there wasn’t one drawing together what we need to know and do to be able to effectively produce language learning materials.
This webinar will introduce you to my framework, highlighting the key competencies I identified from my research. It will also show how anybody involved in language teaching (any language, not just English!), teacher training, managing schools or developing language learning materials can benefit from using the framework.
Macroeconomics- Movie Location
This will be used as part of your Personal Professional Portfolio once graded.
Objective:
Prepare a presentation or a paper using research, basic comparative analysis, data organization and application of economic information. You will make an informed assessment of an economic climate outside of the United States to accomplish an entertainment industry objective.
The French Revolution, which began in 1789, was a period of radical social and political upheaval in France. It marked the decline of absolute monarchies, the rise of secular and democratic republics, and the eventual rise of Napoleon Bonaparte. This revolutionary period is crucial in understanding the transition from feudalism to modernity in Europe.
For more information, visit-www.vavaclasses.com
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The Roman Empire A Historical Colossus.pdfkaushalkr1407
The Roman Empire, a vast and enduring power, stands as one of history's most remarkable civilizations, leaving an indelible imprint on the world. It emerged from the Roman Republic, transitioning into an imperial powerhouse under the leadership of Augustus Caesar in 27 BCE. This transformation marked the beginning of an era defined by unprecedented territorial expansion, architectural marvels, and profound cultural influence.
The empire's roots lie in the city of Rome, founded, according to legend, by Romulus in 753 BCE. Over centuries, Rome evolved from a small settlement to a formidable republic, characterized by a complex political system with elected officials and checks on power. However, internal strife, class conflicts, and military ambitions paved the way for the end of the Republic. Julius Caesar’s dictatorship and subsequent assassination in 44 BCE created a power vacuum, leading to a civil war. Octavian, later Augustus, emerged victorious, heralding the Roman Empire’s birth.
Under Augustus, the empire experienced the Pax Romana, a 200-year period of relative peace and stability. Augustus reformed the military, established efficient administrative systems, and initiated grand construction projects. The empire's borders expanded, encompassing territories from Britain to Egypt and from Spain to the Euphrates. Roman legions, renowned for their discipline and engineering prowess, secured and maintained these vast territories, building roads, fortifications, and cities that facilitated control and integration.
The Roman Empire’s society was hierarchical, with a rigid class system. At the top were the patricians, wealthy elites who held significant political power. Below them were the plebeians, free citizens with limited political influence, and the vast numbers of slaves who formed the backbone of the economy. The family unit was central, governed by the paterfamilias, the male head who held absolute authority.
Culturally, the Romans were eclectic, absorbing and adapting elements from the civilizations they encountered, particularly the Greeks. Roman art, literature, and philosophy reflected this synthesis, creating a rich cultural tapestry. Latin, the Roman language, became the lingua franca of the Western world, influencing numerous modern languages.
Roman architecture and engineering achievements were monumental. They perfected the arch, vault, and dome, constructing enduring structures like the Colosseum, Pantheon, and aqueducts. These engineering marvels not only showcased Roman ingenuity but also served practical purposes, from public entertainment to water supply.
Acetabularia Information For Class 9 .docxvaibhavrinwa19
Acetabularia acetabulum is a single-celled green alga that in its vegetative state is morphologically differentiated into a basal rhizoid and an axially elongated stalk, which bears whorls of branching hairs. The single diploid nucleus resides in the rhizoid.
Operation “Blue Star” is the only event in the history of Independent India where the state went into war with its own people. Even after about 40 years it is not clear if it was culmination of states anger over people of the region, a political game of power or start of dictatorial chapter in the democratic setup.
The people of Punjab felt alienated from main stream due to denial of their just demands during a long democratic struggle since independence. As it happen all over the word, it led to militant struggle with great loss of lives of military, police and civilian personnel. Killing of Indira Gandhi and massacre of innocent Sikhs in Delhi and other India cities was also associated with this movement.
2024 State of Marketing Report – by HubspotMarius Sescu
https://www.hubspot.com/state-of-marketing
· Scaling relationships and proving ROI
· Social media is the place for search, sales, and service
· Authentic influencer partnerships fuel brand growth
· The strongest connections happen via call, click, chat, and camera.
· Time saved with AI leads to more creative work
· Seeking: A single source of truth
· TLDR; Get on social, try AI, and align your systems.
· More human marketing, powered by robots
ChatGPT is a revolutionary addition to the world since its introduction in 2022. A big shift in the sector of information gathering and processing happened because of this chatbot. What is the story of ChatGPT? How is the bot responding to prompts and generating contents? Swipe through these slides prepared by Expeed Software, a web development company regarding the development and technical intricacies of ChatGPT!
Welcome to TechSoup New Member Orientation and Q&A (May 2024).pdfTechSoup
In this webinar you will learn how your organization can access TechSoup's wide variety of product discount and donation programs. From hardware to software, we'll give you a tour of the tools available to help your nonprofit with productivity, collaboration, financial management, donor tracking, security, and more.
2024.06.01 Introducing a competency framework for languag learning materials ...Sandy Millin
http://sandymillin.wordpress.com/iateflwebinar2024
Published classroom materials form the basis of syllabuses, drive teacher professional development, and have a potentially huge influence on learners, teachers and education systems. All teachers also create their own materials, whether a few sentences on a blackboard, a highly-structured fully-realised online course, or anything in between. Despite this, the knowledge and skills needed to create effective language learning materials are rarely part of teacher training, and are mostly learnt by trial and error.
Knowledge and skills frameworks, generally called competency frameworks, for ELT teachers, trainers and managers have existed for a few years now. However, until I created one for my MA dissertation, there wasn’t one drawing together what we need to know and do to be able to effectively produce language learning materials.
This webinar will introduce you to my framework, highlighting the key competencies I identified from my research. It will also show how anybody involved in language teaching (any language, not just English!), teacher training, managing schools or developing language learning materials can benefit from using the framework.
Macroeconomics- Movie Location
This will be used as part of your Personal Professional Portfolio once graded.
Objective:
Prepare a presentation or a paper using research, basic comparative analysis, data organization and application of economic information. You will make an informed assessment of an economic climate outside of the United States to accomplish an entertainment industry objective.
The French Revolution, which began in 1789, was a period of radical social and political upheaval in France. It marked the decline of absolute monarchies, the rise of secular and democratic republics, and the eventual rise of Napoleon Bonaparte. This revolutionary period is crucial in understanding the transition from feudalism to modernity in Europe.
For more information, visit-www.vavaclasses.com
Read| The latest issue of The Challenger is here! We are thrilled to announce that our school paper has qualified for the NATIONAL SCHOOLS PRESS CONFERENCE (NSPC) 2024. Thank you for your unwavering support and trust. Dive into the stories that made us stand out!
The Roman Empire A Historical Colossus.pdfkaushalkr1407
The Roman Empire, a vast and enduring power, stands as one of history's most remarkable civilizations, leaving an indelible imprint on the world. It emerged from the Roman Republic, transitioning into an imperial powerhouse under the leadership of Augustus Caesar in 27 BCE. This transformation marked the beginning of an era defined by unprecedented territorial expansion, architectural marvels, and profound cultural influence.
The empire's roots lie in the city of Rome, founded, according to legend, by Romulus in 753 BCE. Over centuries, Rome evolved from a small settlement to a formidable republic, characterized by a complex political system with elected officials and checks on power. However, internal strife, class conflicts, and military ambitions paved the way for the end of the Republic. Julius Caesar’s dictatorship and subsequent assassination in 44 BCE created a power vacuum, leading to a civil war. Octavian, later Augustus, emerged victorious, heralding the Roman Empire’s birth.
Under Augustus, the empire experienced the Pax Romana, a 200-year period of relative peace and stability. Augustus reformed the military, established efficient administrative systems, and initiated grand construction projects. The empire's borders expanded, encompassing territories from Britain to Egypt and from Spain to the Euphrates. Roman legions, renowned for their discipline and engineering prowess, secured and maintained these vast territories, building roads, fortifications, and cities that facilitated control and integration.
The Roman Empire’s society was hierarchical, with a rigid class system. At the top were the patricians, wealthy elites who held significant political power. Below them were the plebeians, free citizens with limited political influence, and the vast numbers of slaves who formed the backbone of the economy. The family unit was central, governed by the paterfamilias, the male head who held absolute authority.
Culturally, the Romans were eclectic, absorbing and adapting elements from the civilizations they encountered, particularly the Greeks. Roman art, literature, and philosophy reflected this synthesis, creating a rich cultural tapestry. Latin, the Roman language, became the lingua franca of the Western world, influencing numerous modern languages.
Roman architecture and engineering achievements were monumental. They perfected the arch, vault, and dome, constructing enduring structures like the Colosseum, Pantheon, and aqueducts. These engineering marvels not only showcased Roman ingenuity but also served practical purposes, from public entertainment to water supply.
Acetabularia Information For Class 9 .docxvaibhavrinwa19
Acetabularia acetabulum is a single-celled green alga that in its vegetative state is morphologically differentiated into a basal rhizoid and an axially elongated stalk, which bears whorls of branching hairs. The single diploid nucleus resides in the rhizoid.
Operation “Blue Star” is the only event in the history of Independent India where the state went into war with its own people. Even after about 40 years it is not clear if it was culmination of states anger over people of the region, a political game of power or start of dictatorial chapter in the democratic setup.
The people of Punjab felt alienated from main stream due to denial of their just demands during a long democratic struggle since independence. As it happen all over the word, it led to militant struggle with great loss of lives of military, police and civilian personnel. Killing of Indira Gandhi and massacre of innocent Sikhs in Delhi and other India cities was also associated with this movement.
2024 State of Marketing Report – by HubspotMarius Sescu
https://www.hubspot.com/state-of-marketing
· Scaling relationships and proving ROI
· Social media is the place for search, sales, and service
· Authentic influencer partnerships fuel brand growth
· The strongest connections happen via call, click, chat, and camera.
· Time saved with AI leads to more creative work
· Seeking: A single source of truth
· TLDR; Get on social, try AI, and align your systems.
· More human marketing, powered by robots
ChatGPT is a revolutionary addition to the world since its introduction in 2022. A big shift in the sector of information gathering and processing happened because of this chatbot. What is the story of ChatGPT? How is the bot responding to prompts and generating contents? Swipe through these slides prepared by Expeed Software, a web development company regarding the development and technical intricacies of ChatGPT!
Product Design Trends in 2024 | Teenage EngineeringsPixeldarts
The realm of product design is a constantly changing environment where technology and style intersect. Every year introduces fresh challenges and exciting trends that mold the future of this captivating art form. In this piece, we delve into the significant trends set to influence the look and functionality of product design in the year 2024.
How Race, Age and Gender Shape Attitudes Towards Mental HealthThinkNow
Mental health has been in the news quite a bit lately. Dozens of U.S. states are currently suing Meta for contributing to the youth mental health crisis by inserting addictive features into their products, while the U.S. Surgeon General is touring the nation to bring awareness to the growing epidemic of loneliness and isolation. The country has endured periods of low national morale, such as in the 1970s when high inflation and the energy crisis worsened public sentiment following the Vietnam War. The current mood, however, feels different. Gallup recently reported that national mental health is at an all-time low, with few bright spots to lift spirits.
To better understand how Americans are feeling and their attitudes towards mental health in general, ThinkNow conducted a nationally representative quantitative survey of 1,500 respondents and found some interesting differences among ethnic, age and gender groups.
Technology
For example, 52% agree that technology and social media have a negative impact on mental health, but when broken out by race, 61% of Whites felt technology had a negative effect, and only 48% of Hispanics thought it did.
While technology has helped us keep in touch with friends and family in faraway places, it appears to have degraded our ability to connect in person. Staying connected online is a double-edged sword since the same news feed that brings us pictures of the grandkids and fluffy kittens also feeds us news about the wars in Israel and Ukraine, the dysfunction in Washington, the latest mass shooting and the climate crisis.
Hispanics may have a built-in defense against the isolation technology breeds, owing to their large, multigenerational households, strong social support systems, and tendency to use social media to stay connected with relatives abroad.
Age and Gender
When asked how individuals rate their mental health, men rate it higher than women by 11 percentage points, and Baby Boomers rank it highest at 83%, saying it’s good or excellent vs. 57% of Gen Z saying the same.
Gen Z spends the most amount of time on social media, so the notion that social media negatively affects mental health appears to be correlated. Unfortunately, Gen Z is also the generation that’s least comfortable discussing mental health concerns with healthcare professionals. Only 40% of them state they’re comfortable discussing their issues with a professional compared to 60% of Millennials and 65% of Boomers.
Race Affects Attitudes
As seen in previous research conducted by ThinkNow, Asian Americans lag other groups when it comes to awareness of mental health issues. Twenty-four percent of Asian Americans believe that having a mental health issue is a sign of weakness compared to the 16% average for all groups. Asians are also considerably less likely to be aware of mental health services in their communities (42% vs. 55%) and most likely to seek out information on social media (51% vs. 35%).
AI Trends in Creative Operations 2024 by Artwork Flow.pdfmarketingartwork
This article is all about what AI trends will emerge in the field of creative operations in 2024. All the marketers and brand builders should be aware of these trends for their further use and save themselves some time!
A report by thenetworkone and Kurio.
The contributing experts and agencies are (in an alphabetical order): Sylwia Rytel, Social Media Supervisor, 180heartbeats + JUNG v MATT (PL), Sharlene Jenner, Vice President - Director of Engagement Strategy, Abelson Taylor (USA), Alex Casanovas, Digital Director, Atrevia (ES), Dora Beilin, Senior Social Strategist, Barrett Hoffher (USA), Min Seo, Campaign Director, Brand New Agency (KR), Deshé M. Gully, Associate Strategist, Day One Agency (USA), Francesca Trevisan, Strategist, Different (IT), Trevor Crossman, CX and Digital Transformation Director; Olivia Hussey, Strategic Planner; Simi Srinarula, Social Media Manager, The Hallway (AUS), James Hebbert, Managing Director, Hylink (CN / UK), Mundy Álvarez, Planning Director; Pedro Rojas, Social Media Manager; Pancho González, CCO, Inbrax (CH), Oana Oprea, Head of Digital Planning, Jam Session Agency (RO), Amy Bottrill, Social Account Director, Launch (UK), Gaby Arriaga, Founder, Leonardo1452 (MX), Shantesh S Row, Creative Director, Liwa (UAE), Rajesh Mehta, Chief Strategy Officer; Dhruv Gaur, Digital Planning Lead; Leonie Mergulhao, Account Supervisor - Social Media & PR, Medulla (IN), Aurelija Plioplytė, Head of Digital & Social, Not Perfect (LI), Daiana Khaidargaliyeva, Account Manager, Osaka Labs (UK / USA), Stefanie Söhnchen, Vice President Digital, PIABO Communications (DE), Elisabeth Winiartati, Managing Consultant, Head of Global Integrated Communications; Lydia Aprina, Account Manager, Integrated Marketing and Communications; Nita Prabowo, Account Manager, Integrated Marketing and Communications; Okhi, Web Developer, PNTR Group (ID), Kei Obusan, Insights Director; Daffi Ranandi, Insights Manager, Radarr (SG), Gautam Reghunath, Co-founder & CEO, Talented (IN), Donagh Humphreys, Head of Social and Digital Innovation, THINKHOUSE (IRE), Sarah Yim, Strategy Director, Zulu Alpha Kilo (CA).
Trends In Paid Search: Navigating The Digital Landscape In 2024Search Engine Journal
The search marketing landscape is evolving rapidly with new technologies, and professionals, like you, rely on innovative paid search strategies to meet changing demands.
It’s important that you’re ready to implement new strategies in 2024.
Check this out and learn the top trends in paid search advertising that are expected to gain traction, so you can drive higher ROI more efficiently in 2024.
You’ll learn:
- The latest trends in AI and automation, and what this means for an evolving paid search ecosystem.
- New developments in privacy and data regulation.
- Emerging ad formats that are expected to make an impact next year.
Watch Sreekant Lanka from iQuanti and Irina Klein from OneMain Financial as they dive into the future of paid search and explore the trends, strategies, and technologies that will shape the search marketing landscape.
If you’re looking to assess your paid search strategy and design an industry-aligned plan for 2024, then this webinar is for you.
5 Public speaking tips from TED - Visualized summarySpeakerHub
From their humble beginnings in 1984, TED has grown into the world’s most powerful amplifier for speakers and thought-leaders to share their ideas. They have over 2,400 filmed talks (not including the 30,000+ TEDx videos) freely available online, and have hosted over 17,500 events around the world.
With over one billion views in a year, it’s no wonder that so many speakers are looking to TED for ideas on how to share their message more effectively.
The article “5 Public-Speaking Tips TED Gives Its Speakers”, by Carmine Gallo for Forbes, gives speakers five practical ways to connect with their audience, and effectively share their ideas on stage.
Whether you are gearing up to get on a TED stage yourself, or just want to master the skills that so many of their speakers possess, these tips and quotes from Chris Anderson, the TED Talks Curator, will encourage you to make the most impactful impression on your audience.
See the full article and more summaries like this on SpeakerHub here: https://speakerhub.com/blog/5-presentation-tips-ted-gives-its-speakers
See the original article on Forbes here:
http://www.forbes.com/forbes/welcome/?toURL=http://www.forbes.com/sites/carminegallo/2016/05/06/5-public-speaking-tips-ted-gives-its-speakers/&refURL=&referrer=#5c07a8221d9b
ChatGPT and the Future of Work - Clark Boyd Clark Boyd
Everyone is in agreement that ChatGPT (and other generative AI tools) will shape the future of work. Yet there is little consensus on exactly how, when, and to what extent this technology will change our world.
Businesses that extract maximum value from ChatGPT will use it as a collaborative tool for everything from brainstorming to technical maintenance.
For individuals, now is the time to pinpoint the skills the future professional will need to thrive in the AI age.
Check out this presentation to understand what ChatGPT is, how it will shape the future of work, and how you can prepare to take advantage.
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2. Communication Theory: “An umbrella term for all careful, systematic and self-conscious discussion and analysis of communication phenomena” --- Ernest Bormann
3. In other words, “communication” is: A trait that unconsciously has always been used by all living things and was later developed to what we have advanced today. Its difficult to understand, but it is the first trait learned from birth through contact, verbal, sound and visual language.
4. My Theory:“Communication Indulgence” Understanding how unconsciously, everything we do is a form of communication and without communication we would be completely lost.
5. What type of theory is this? Communication has two different approaches, but the interpretive approach sends a rhetorical message that influences people in countless ways.
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7. First, you must understand I come from a family of seven, where I was the youngest in my family. I was the child that never got in trouble, always did what asked and told. In other words, I was best defined as the “good girl” in my family with a future going for me compared to everyone else.
8. For me to be pregnant at 15, and with a child at 16, was not expected at all. So everyone questioned, where did we go wrong if I was almost perfect?
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10. There was no need for them to verbally state I had dishonored our family, because they visually sent the message.
11. My eldest brother, who was like a father to me, stopped talking to me the moment he learned about my pregnancy and refused any visual contact.
12. At no point did he express his real emotions towards me verbally, but it was not required because his message of disappointment was cleared through his actions.
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14. Then, I received counseling through school where they helped me express my feelings by sharing what was happening at home and what I should be preparing myself for in the major change I had coming in my near future.
15. I wanted to ask my brother, amongst the rest of my family, to forgive me for the mistake I had done, but that I would not let this stop me from finishing my education and doing something with my life.
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17. With my mother’s support, I managed to graduate high school, one year early from my original date of graduation, after my daughter was born.
18. I was the first in my family to attend college full time and had a decent job at Bank of America.
19. After 3 years, my actions came across my brother and he was beginning to understand what I once wanted to tell him when I first had gotten pregnant: Yes, I am pregnant and screwed up, but I am not quitting and will make something of my life, you watch and see.
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21. At this time, I had proved more than enough to my family that I was not the typical teenage mother that would not excel in life because I had a child. And finally, my message came across them.
22. Today, I have been living on my own the past 4 years, have an associates degree and have been successful with the majority of my goals .
23. I have done more than anyone in my family has, and without realizing it, I delivered my message without any verbal contact. I communicated to my brothers everything I wanted 9 years ago, through the actions I took and they finally understood.
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25. I was ashamed and knew I had let my entire family down, and their actions towards me were of no help.
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27. There was no need for any verbal communication, because our actions and body language spoke for itself.
28. As the years past, I began understanding more and more the phenomena of communication and its importance for understanding.
29. EVERYTHING reflects on communication. All type of relationships are affected by a communication process in one way or the other; work/school related, friendships, family and intimate relationships.
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31. “Communication Indulgence”Understanding how unconsciously, everything we do is a form of communication and without communication we would be completely lost. Symbolic Convergence Theory: Symbolic Interaction: In symbolic interaction we theorize that we deal with 3 core principles being: meaning, language and thought. They believe language is required for meaning, otherwise symbols are only arbitrary signs. We must talk to others in order to ascribe the meaning and develop a universe of discourse. As I do agree that talking to others will give us a better understanding of the meaning being delivered, my theory believes we can communicate without having to verbally speak our meaning. Because everything we do, whether is by body language or our actions taken, is a form of communication. In the symbolic convergence theory, Ernest Bormann discovered that the sharing of group fantasies builds a sense of community or a group consciousness. This theory is mainly concerned with the group’s response, where they may begin talking about themselves individually, but later venture into a group and include everyone. This theory relates to my theory in the aspect that in order to communicate, you must share your discussions for a sense of belongingness.
32. “Communication Indulgence”Understanding how unconsciously, everything we do is a form of communication and without communication we would be completely lost. Uncertainty Reduction Theory: Cognitive Dissonance: Focuses on how human communication is used to gain knowledge and create understanding. The main purpose of talking to people is to “make sense” out of our interpersonal world. Without this curiosity of wanting to learn more about another individual we would be lost at understanding who they are. Therefore, we read every sign, action, speech or body language they make where they are communicating, but we don’t realize it because its not verbal like we are costume to. Is the distressing mental state that people feel when they find themselves doing things that don’t fit with what they know or have opinions that are not the same as what other people’s opinions hold. You provide yourself an acceptable explanation for abandoning your efforts to reach whatever it is you wanted. In this theory, our mental guard is down when our purpose for being with others is enjoyment or pleasure. We seek acceptance from others by avoiding our own opinions in order to fit in and not feel lost in the crowd.
33. “Communication Indulgence”Understanding how unconsciously, everything we do is a form of communication and without communication we would be completely lost. The Rhetoric: Media Ecology: The searching study of audience psychology, where rhetoric is the discovery of the available means of persuasion. It makes truth seem more probable to an audience that isn't completely convinced through the way you present your message. Rhetoric, depending on how it is used, is interpretive. Based on the method you deliver your message, you persuade people to understand what you are trying to deliver or accomplish based on their communication through; dialog speech, character presentation and words used to emotionally connect your message. The study of different personal and social environments created by the use of different communication technologies. Changes in technology have alter the symbolic environment. The media has turned our perceptions, experiences, attitudes and behavior, resulting for us to not be able to view the message. We have build a different sense of communication where we communicate differently and as an outcome, we are missing the main idea.
34. Relationships: Looking back at my past relationships, I have learned that the reason things never worked out for me was due to my lack of communication. In all my past relationships, I have always failed to communicate what I really wanted and instead my actions took control. When it comes to relationships, I do not like talking about commitment. Therefore, I do not talk about the relationship I have build with that certain individual and I just let things be. Well, on my last relationship I assumed we both understood each other during the 8 months we were dating, but I was wrong. My actions stated that I enjoyed being with my partner, but I did not want a relationship at all. I never showed any emotions of how much I really did care about him, I assumed he should know because I was still talking to him. He tried discussing the issue a couple times, but I was not comfortable talking about the subject because it was not necessary in my point of view. So, after trying enough times, he never brought the subject up again. I let time pass and then realized we had completely lost the little communication we did have and the only physical communication we shared was no longer the one we started with. Unfortunately, I took too long to realize we needed to talk and our affection for each other began to drift away due to our self pride. He refused to be the first to say how much he really cared, and I refused to be the first to show any emotions. We both fell in this childish game where we assumed that if neither one of us cared enough, then why should we continue talking. We then somehow stopped contact completely, and it was then when I realized what I had done wrong, again. I really cared about my partner at the time, but I assumed it was not necessary for me to tell him because by me being with him was sufficient. I felt that the little things I did for him were enough for him to know I cared, but it was not until I had lost him that I realized my wrong actions. In public I never showed affection and was very distant, I never called him or did any of the things he did for me that showed me he did care for me. It was only inedible for him to get tiered of my “game” and understood the real mixed signals I unintentionally was communicating to him. Due to my actions and wrong communication, he understood the wrong message I was giving him subconsciously and moved on with his life, giving up on me.
35. Friendship: In 2008 through 2009, a friend and I volunteered to go on a 13 month deployment to Iraq. Being that he was the only real friend I had in deployment, our friendship grew strong during our time out there. On our 3rd month in Iraq, we joined a course that was being offered for us to gain a higher training belt, called “MCMAP”. Everyday we attended this course for about 3 months and had agreed the day we were ready to test out, we would both be partners to help one another out. One week prior to our test day, we got in a big argument over a misunderstanding. We stopped talking to each other and tried avoiding each other as much as we could. Finally, our test day finally came up and we both showed up for our last training session. However, since we had stopped talking, I took a different partner who would test out with me because I assumed he would have done the same as well, but he didn’t. I tested out first since I had a partner, then when his name came up the instructor said if he had no partner he would not be able to test out. It did not take much for me to read my friends body language and eye contact when he turned my direction and glanced at me. As soon as he looked my way, I understood his silent message where he asked if I would still be his partner. He did not have to speak for me to know what he was saying, and I did not have to answer for him to read my actions when I got up and stood in front of him to be his partner. After the test was finally over, we glanced at each other and made a simple eye contact where we understood how foolish we had been acting. My friend did not have to verbally apologize to me, nor did I have to verbally apologize to him, our body language and eye contact did all the talking necessary. Once the training session was over, we both grabbed all our gear and walked out together like the friends we were a week ago before our argument. There was no need to speak or explain what had happened, our actions spoke for themselves and we just new things had not changed between us, because we were still the same good friends from 3 months prior.
36. Family: Upon my return from deployment in 2009, I got myself in trouble with the law where the outcome almost ruined my whole career. I was arrested for a DUI and was punished by both, the State of California and the Marine Corps. The moment I was arrested I knew I had ruined my career. I knew I had thrown away everything I had worked so hard for in the Marine Corps. I was devastated at knowing what awaited me in my command. I lost my billet as an NCO, lost my rank, was put in 60 days of restriction and lost A LOT of money. All due to a stupid mistake I had done in one night. While I was pending all these charges, I was still standing tall and strong at work not showing any sign of weakness. However, deep down inside I was drowning in complete isolation, shamefulness, disappointment, anger, and the biggest depression I have ever been through. At the time I was living by myself because my daughter was finishing the school year down in San Diego, where she had being during my time in deployment. I had no one to talk to and I was still going through one of my biggest heartbreak of my lifetime. I did not tell anyone how depressed I really was and acted like nothing was wrong. In reality, I felt I was drowning inside and did not care much to see the day of tomorrow, which scared me because I had never felt that way before. One day, I drove home for the weekend on Father’s Day and without realizing it, I broke down in front of my mother. She did not know what was happening, nor did she understand how everything I had worked for was being taken away in the military. I did not tell her what I was feeling and how I was crying myself to sleep everyday for the past 3 months, but she understood. I did not ask my mother for nothing nor did I tell her how I was feeling. I simply walked out the house that day saying I was fine and came home. That night, as I was crying myself to sleep again, my doorbell ranged and to my surprise it was my mother at the door with a suite case. In the moment she had seen me break down, she said I did not have to tell her what was wrong with me because she already knew something was not right. My actions, body language and attitude were not the usual, so there was no need for me to tell her something was seriously wrong with me. I had commuted her the message prior to my accidental breakdown and she was there to help me from sinking in the depression I was drowning myself in to.
37. What I have I learned from “human communication” When I was first asked what defines communication, my answer was people having any type of conversation. I never really studied the real meaning of communication. When I first read Ernest Bormann’s definition of communication, I did not understand his meaning. However, as I continued to read the chapters, I can now honestly say I have a different understanding of what communication really is. Communication is a phenomena because every living thing in this world, unconsciously uses communication everyday. We do not have to speak to be heard and deliver a statement. Everything we do, our physical appearance, our attitudes, our actions, face expressions and eye contact are all different ways of communicating everyday. From the moment we are born, communication has played a huge role in our lives. A new born does not need to be told they are loved because they feel their mother’s love as an embryo. When a love one is upset at something you have done, it is not always necessary for them to tell you they are upset because you already know through their actions, face expressions or attitude. When you are not wanted somewhere, it is not necessary to have this stated to you, because the actions are clear. This are all different ways we communicate everyday without having to verbally make a statement. Looking back in our ancestors history, communication has always played a role in our culture. It’s the way we have learned to survive and have been able to advanced to where we stand today. However, our advancement has resulted for a new type of communication we live in today. We no longer communicate the way our ancestors did million of years ago. Today, we have new technologies that help us communicate better, but that has also caused us to loose the true message of communication. I have also learned the different approaches to communication and how is it that we are able to clearly understand and feel certain speeches by professional speakers, such as Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Communication is a trait we cannot live without and subconsciously use daily with every movement we do, every expression we make and every sign we deliver. Without communication there is no understanding and you are just isolated and lost.
38. Works Cited Griffin, E. (2009). A First Look at Communication Theory. 7th ed. New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.