The document discusses the importance of communication at home, noting that communication can open and close doors, and make the possible impossible and vice versa. It emphasizes tolerating contrary views from spouses and others, and using sharp communication judiciously to correct ungodly habits in children. All communication, whether through actions or inactions, teaches children something, so parents must be intentional about communicating godly values and habits.

1. COMMUNICATIONS
AT HOME

2. COMMUNICATIONS AT HOME
• Communication had OPENED
many doors, and had CLOSED
many doors.
• Communication can make the
impossible possible and the
possible impossible.
• In the course of communication,
learn to tolerate insults from your
spouse & people (MAT.15:24-28).

3. COMMUNICATIONS AT HOME
• Many of us underrate the power of
prayers before communicating
physically with our spouse or
children.
• During communication, we should
be careful not to cause injury in
our spouse or other people.
• Sharp communication is
sometimes needed to correct or
help some people.

4. COMMUNICATIONS AT HOME
• When our children need to be
corrected with sharp
communication, it is dangerous to
shy away from it.
• Many Christian parents today
overlook their children’s ungodly
habits without any sharp rebuke
(communication); we should not be
like them.

5. • Titus 1:13(NIV)-:‘…Therefore rebuke
them SHARPLY, so that they may be
sound in the faith…”
• That sharp rebuke from your
pastor/spouse/parent/friend may be
from God.
• Be careful how you respond to it.
Take heed

6. Tolerance in Communication
• There are some people who do not like
opposing or contrary view either
from their spouses or other people.
• To them, opposing/contrary view
means you are not a submissive wife.
• To them, opposing/contrary view
means you are a bossy husband.

7. Tolerance in Communication
• To them, opposing/contrary view means
you are not supporting their dreams.
• To them, opposing/contrary view means
you are not loyal or that you are proud.
• As such, their spouses or their friends
refrain from telling them the truth in
order to avoid their anger.

8. Tolerance in Communication
• Nabal is such a wicked man that
no one can talk to him (1Sam.25:
2-35)”;
• As parents, as youths or children, U&I
should strive not to be like Nabal.

9. Tolerance in Communication
• Just like it did for Abigail (1Sam.25:2-
35), one contrary opinion from your
spouse can save your home and your
life from danger, if only you can
tolerate.
• Just like it did for Peter (Lk.5:3-5), one
contrary opinion from your spouse
can bring more money to your home if
only you can tolerate.

10. Tolerance in Communication
• Just like it did for the widow (1Kings
17:10-16), One contrary opinion
from your spouse can permanently
save your home from financial worries
if only you can tolerate.

11. The communication in our
ACTIONS & INACTIONS

12. Communicating to our children
• Most of the time, if not all the time,
our inactions also communicate,
just like our actions.
• Most of the time, every active and
inactive communication at home is a
teaching to the child in one way or the
other.

13. Communicating to our children
• Every teaching at home comes in form
of one communication or the other.
• It is then true to say that teaching and
communication go together.
• Most of the time when you don’t
communicate at home, you are already
communicating at home.

14. Communicating to our children
• When you talk a lot at home, you are
communicating (teaching) something;
• When you are too quiet at home, you
are also communicating.

15. Communicating to our children
• When you abuse people once in a while
or regularly, you are communicating
(teaching) something;
• Child: My mommy can lie!
• Q: What generated this sentence in the
mind of the child?
• When you overreact in all home issues,
you are already communicating (teaching)
something;

16. Communicating to our children
• When your spouse corrects the children,
and you oppose him/her before the
children, you are communicating
(teaching) something;
Q: In school, when the teacher corrects
your child and you oppose the teacher in
presence of the child, are you
communicating something to the child ?

17. Communicating to our children
• When you are stingy to your spouse
before the children, you are
communicating (teaching) something;
• When you are stingy to the children
themselves, you are communicating
(teaching) something to them.

18. Communicating to our children
Q: When you HAVE to borrow huge
money to give your child good
education, and the child is aware of it,
are you communicating something to
him/her?
Q: When you talk anyhow to your
spouse b4 your child, are you
communicating something to the child?

19. Something GOOD & Something ELSE!
• Most of the time when you don’t
communicate something good to your
child, you are already communicating
something else.
• Most of the time when you don’t teach
the children at home, you are already
teaching something else.

20. If U don’t teach, U are teaching
• If you don’t communicate to your child
how to respect people, you are already
teaching him/her how to disrespect.
• If you don’t communicate to your child
godly characters, automatically you
are already teaching him/her ungodly
characters.

21. If U don’t teach, U are teaching
• If you don’t communicate to your child
the HABIT of praying, you have
already started teaching him/her
something else (?).
• If you don’t communicate to your child
the HABIT of personal bible study,
you have already started teaching
him/her something else (?).

22. If U don’t teach, U are teaching
• If you don’t communicate to your child
the habit of Quiet Time With God,
you are automatically teaching him/her
how to easily mistake the voice of
God for the voice of Eli.
• You are teaching him/her how to be a
Stranger to the voice of God.

23. If U don’t teach, U are teaching
• You are automatically teaching him/her
how to easily mistake a mere thought
in the mind for the voice of God (just
like Samuel).
• He/she will later find it difficult to be
led of God in crucial matters of life
including who to marry.

24. If U don’t teach, U are teaching
• At every valley of decision in life,
she/he easily mistakes a ‘mere feeling’
for the voice of God;
• Because he/she was wrongly
communicated in this aspect.
• At every valley of decision in life,
she/he easily mistakes the desires of
his/her flesh for the voice of God.

25. the WAY…& other ways
• Teach your child THE WAY he should
go and when he grows up he will not
depart therefrom (Prov. 22:6).
• If you don’t communicate to your child
The Way he/she should go, you have
already started teaching him/her
something else (?).

26. the WAY…and other ways
• If you don’t teach your child THE way
he/she should go, you have already
started teaching him/her
OTHER ways to go.
• As far God is concerned, there are two
types of ways:
THE WAY and Other ways.

27. the WAY…and other ways
• Jn.14:6-: I am The Way…and the Life…
• Prov.12:28-: In the way of righteousness,
there is LIFE, and in its pathway there is
no death.
• This means the road-path of THE WAY
is decorated with LIFE; and there is no
single death in its pathway.

28. the WAY…and other ways
• It also means the road-paths of the
other ways are decorated with death
and there is no single life in its
pathway.
• It means everybody walking in this
other ways walks with death on a
daily basis.

29. the WAY…and other ways
Q-:Every Christian child that refuses
correction from parents is on which of
the ways?
Q-:Every Christian child that is full of
ungodly habits is on which of the
ways?
Q-: What kind of a Christian parent/child
are you.