The document discusses different perspectives on what love is. It questions whether love can be defined or measured. While some think a love scale could be meaningful, the document suggests love is better understood as an action rather than a feeling that involves attention, risk of rejection, independence over dependence, and commitment requiring self-discipline and hard work. Happy couples are thought to have deep knowledge of each other and use "repair attempts" to reduce negativity in their relationship.

1. What is Love?

2. LOVE
 What exactly is it ?
 An attitude ?
 A phenomenon ?
 Hard to define – can it be measured ?

3. Is the Love Scale meaningful ?
 Maybe, couples who scored
high spend more time
looking in each others eyes

4.  Love is…
 An action, not a feeling
 Attention
 A risk of rejection
 Independence, not dependence
 Commitment
 Self-disciplined
…hard work

5. Happy Couples
 Partner’s know each other’s
hopes, likes, dislikes
 Secret Weapon: ritualized “repair
attempts” to prevent increased negativity
 Shared, deep sense of meaning

7. Love Quotes
“I define love thus: The will to extend one’s self
for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or
another’s spiritual growth”
- M. Scott Peck
“Love is the subtlest force in the world”
- Mahatma Gandhi
“By accident of fortune a man may rule the world
for a time, but by virtue of love he may rule the
world forever”
- Lao-tzu
“Love is the only force capable of transforming an
enemy into a friend”
- Martin Luther King Jr.

8. Chonabel A. Amarille