1) The author is a 36-year-old married man with three kids who has fallen in love with his ex-girlfriend Bola despite being married. 2) He dated Bola before leaving for his master's degree in the UK but she broke up with him due to the distance. He later married his wife who is caring but he still kept in touch with Bola. 3) The author has been secretly dating Bola for over two years and enjoys the time with her but feels guilty. His wife has left him twice due to his neglect and lack of attention towards her. He wants a divorce to marry Bola but is unsure how to tell his wife.