The right way vs the wrong way to talk to your husband - And have him eat from the palm of your hand...

1. Communication Problems in
Marriage
The Right Way vs The Wrong Way to Talk to
Your Husband
By Lisa Penn
How-to-Save-Marriage.org

2.  The cold hard truth is this: The most loving
and adoring couple will NOT survive for long
without learning the art of communication.
Communication problems in marriage are
exactly like cancer. Left untreated, they WILL
eventually grow and kill your relationship.
 Communication problems in marriage are the
root cause of ALL troubled marriages.

3.  Do you fight a lot with your
husband? It’s caused by
communication problems.
 Do you feel like your
husband doesn’t listen to
you and doesn’t care about
issues that are important to
you? Do you feel like he
doesn’t “see you”? It’s
communication problems.
 Does your husband ignore
you? Is he mean to you?
Did he cheat on you? It’s
communication problems.

4. Irreconcilable differences
 Sadly, though lack of good communication is the
number 1 cause for ANY divorce, few people
have the knowledge and skills (yes, it’s a
skill!) to communicate with each other and
especially in marriage.
 Believe it or not, marriage doesn’t have to be
such hard “work” as it often feels, if you only
acquire the right knowledge and learn the right
way to communicate with your spouse.

5. The Right Way vs. The Wrong
Way to Talk to Your Partner
 I can assure you one
thing: Knowing (and
practicing) the right
way to talk to your
spouse will get him to
eat from the palm of
your hand.
 The wrong way will
push him away and
gradually extinguish
your relationship.

6. The Wrong Way
 If you want your partner to run away in the
opposite way, while taking his love for you with
him, insult his ability to provide and to help .
 Men have a deep, internal, evolutional drive to
provide. Yes, even if your husband is
unemployed for months, this drive exists in him.
 In the modern world, where men don’t have to
go hunt the next meal anymore, this translates in
the work they do and the ability to take care of
their family.

7.  When you things like “we
could go out much more if
you made more money“,
or “I do everything around
the house and you never
help me with anything“,
“you never spend time
with me, work always
comes first with you“, you
strike hard at his ability
to provide – Financially,
emotionally or
otherwise.

8.  This ultimately pushes him away and the
chances of him sharing his deepest thoughts
and feelings with you, about anything, are
reduced to zero.
 Don’t get me wrong here. You are RIGHT to
complain about all of these things, you are right
to bring it up and tell him these things that really
hurt you.
 But it’s THE WAY THAT YOU SAY IT that
shows if you know how to communicate with
your husband or not. It will determine the rise or
the fall of your marriage.

9. The Right Way
 If your husband is like
99.9% of human
beings, he will respond
to praise and positive
messages, right?
 If you want to pull him
closer to you, help him
feel successful by
emphasizing what he is
doing RIGHT,
especially in the
“providing” department.

10.  This will immediately open his heart and open
his ears to listen to what you really want to say.
 For example, instead of “you never spend time
with me, all you care about is your job”, you can
say – “I know that you work really hard to
provide for us. I know you spend a lot of time at
work because you want to take care of us as
much as you can. But sometimes I feel lonely
here. I miss you and would be so happy if we
could spend more time together”.

11. Do you see the difference?
You’ll be shocked by the results.
This is not manipulation. This is
communication knowledge, based on
understanding human nature. Compliment his
ability to provide. His ability to help. And he will
open his heart and finally listen to any OTHER
thing you have to say.
Help him feel successful and he will go out of his
way to please you MORE.

12.  This was just one
example of the right
way to talk to your
spouse. There are
certain skills you
must learn if you want
to save your marriage.
Yes, I’m talking about
saving your marriage
from a slow and painful
death.

13. To learn the basic rules for a great
marriage communication, I suggest
you start with this video by Licensed
therapist Randy E. Bennett. He
explains the fundamentals for a
healthy communication in a simple
and fun way.

14. He also gives you Step by step
instructions to melt the heart of any
man. Watch it Right Here – Right Now.
Just don’t ignore and neglect. Don’t let the
“marriage cancer” spread any further. You
can do this, one baby step at a time. I
promise.