This document summarizes strategies for developing confidence and overcoming insecurity. It discusses how insecurity can negatively impact ministry, work, relationships, one's walk with God, and joy. It then outlines several approaches to building faith and confidence, including researching and meditating on encouraging Bible verses, surrounding oneself with supportive people, reading books on confidence, and taking action even when feeling fear. The overall message is that developing confidence requires focusing on God and others rather than oneself.

1. Chapter
10
Exodus 6:9–
12

2. Exodus 6:9–12 (NIV2011)
9 Moses reported this to the
Israelites, but they did not
listen to him because of
discouragement and harsh
labor.
10 Then the LORD said to
Moses,
11 “Go, tell Pharaoh king of

3. 12 But Moses said to
the LORD, “If the
Israelites will not
listen to me, why
would Pharaoh
listen to me, since
speak with faltering

4. The thought
seems to be that
Moses considers
himself incapable
of acting as the
Lord’s
because he is
unable to speak
with sufficient
clarity to do
justice to the

5. Moses wasn’t
thinking of
God and His
power.

6. Moses wasn’t
thinking of
the people
and their
need.

7. 12 But Moses said to
the LORD, “If the
Israelites will not
listen to me, why
would Pharaoh
listen to me, since I
speak with faltering

8. 12 But Moses said to
the LORD, “If the
Israelites will not
listen to me, why
would Pharaoh
listen to me, since I
speak with faltering

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14. Exodus 6:28–30 (NIV2011)
Now when the LORD spoke
to Moses in Egypt, 29 he
said to him, “I am the
LORD. Tell Pharaoh king of
Egypt everything I tell
you.” 30 But Moses said to
the LORD, “Since I speak
with faltering lips, why

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16. Poor
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Old
Me

17. Exodus 3:11
(NIV2011)
But Moses said to
God, “Who am I
that I should go to
Pharaoh and bring
the Israelites out of

18. Poor
Little
Old
Me

19. The goal…
• Not to think highly of yourself.
• Romans 12:3 (NIV2011) For by the grace
given me I say to every one of you: Do not
think of yourself more highly than you
ought, but rather think of yourself with
sober judgment, in accordance with the
faith God has distributed to each of you.
• To be confident enough to forget about
yourself.
• To concentrate your attention on God
and others.

20. I have self-doubt. I have insecurity. I have fear of
failure. I have nights when I show up at the arena
and I'm like,
'My back hurts, my feet hurt, my knees hurt.
I don't have it. I just want to chill.’
We all have self-doubt.
You don't deny it, but you also
don't capitulate to it. You embrace it.
Kobe Bryant

21. Consequences of
insecurity•Ministry

22. OUR SUCCESS AT FRIENDSHIP,
business, sports, love-indeed,
at nearly every enterprise we
attempt-is largely determined
by our self-image. People who
have a confidence in their
personal worth seem to be
magnets for success and
happiness. Good things drop
into their laps regularly, their
relationships are long-lasting,
their projects are usually
carried to completion, and

23. On the other hand, some
people seem to be magnets
for failure and unhappiness.
Their plans go awry, they
have a way of torpedoing
their own successes, and
nothing seems to work out
for them. In the counseling
office where I work we see
many such persons. In most
instances my colleagues and
I find that their problems

24. Isaiah 32:17 (NIV2011)
The fruit of that
righteousness will be
peace; its effect will be
quietness and confidence
forever.

25. Consequences of
insecurity•Ministry
•Work

27. Perhaps most
striking of all,
we found that
success
correlates more
closely with
confidence
than it does

28. She found, in
studies with
business school
students, that men
initiate salary
negotiations four
times as often as
women, and that
when women do
negotiate, they ask

29. When Estes had the students, men
and women, solve a series of these
spatial puzzles, he found that the
women scored measurably worse
than the men. But when he looked
back at their actual answers, he
found the reason the women were
doing less well was that they didn’t
even attempt to answer a lot of the
questions. They simply ducked out
because they weren’t confident in
their abilities. He then told them
they had to at least try to solve all
the puzzles. And, guess what: The

30. Finally, Estes decided to
attempt a direct confidence
boost. He told some members
of the group, completely at
random, that they had done
very well on the previous test.
On the next test they took,
those men and women
improved their scores
dramatically. It was a clear
measure of what confidence
can do—fuel our action, and
substantially affect our

31. Hebrews 10:35 (NIV2011)
So do not throw away your
confidence; it will be richly
rewarded.

32. Consequences of
insecurity•Ministry
•Work
•Relationships

33. A man is infinitely
more attracted to a
secure woman than
to an emotional
wreck who insists he
could complete her.
As my friend Christy
Nockels says, “Men
are not drawn to
hysterical, needy

36. Consequences of
insecurity•Ministry
•Work
•Relationships
•Walk with God

37. I am convinced
now that virtually
every destructive
behavior and
addiction I battled
off and on for
years was rooted in
my (well-earned)
insecurity.

38. Hebrews 11:1 (NIV2011)
Now faith is confidence in
what we hope for and
assurance about what we
do not see.

39. Romans 1:17 (NIV2011)
The righteous will live by
faith.

40. 1 John 5:4–5 (NIV2011)
For everyone born of God overcomes the
world. This is the victory that has overcome
the world, even our faith. 5 Who is it that
overcomes the world? Only the one who
believes that Jesus is the Son of God.

41. Galatians 2:20 (NIV2011)
I have been crucified with Christ and I
no longer live, but Christ lives in me.
The life I now live in the body, I live by
faith in the Son of God, who loved me
gave himself for me.

42. Consequences of
insecurity•Ministry
•Work
•Relationships
•Walk with God
•Joy

43. Psalm 13:5 (NIV2011)
But I trust in your unfailing love;
my heart rejoices in your
salvation.

44. Psalm 21:6–7 (NIV2011)
Surely you have granted him unending
blessings and made him glad with the joy of
your presence. 7 For the king trusts in the
LORD; through the unfailing love of the Most
High he will not be shaken.

45. Psalm 33:21 (NIV2011)
In him our hearts rejoice,
for we trust in his holy
name.

46. Consequences of
insecurity•Ministry
•Work
•Relationships
•Walk with God
•Joy
•Tennis game

47. How to become a person of
faith and confidence
•Research, memorize and
meditate on key verses.
•Surround yourself with
people who will build you up,
not tear you down.
•Read a book.
•Feel the fear; do it anyway.

48. Research,
memorize and
meditate on key
verses.

53. Surround yourself with people
who will build you up, not tear
you down.• Ephesians 2:21 (NIV2011) In him the
whole building is joined together and
rises to become a holy temple in the
Lord.
• Ephesians 4:16 (NIV2011) From him the
whole body, joined and held together
by every supporting ligament, grows
and builds itself up in love, as each
part does its work.
• Romans 15:32 (NIV2011) so that I may
come to you with joy, by God’s will,

54. How to become a person of
faith and confidence
•Research, memorize and
meditate on key verses
•Surround yourself with
people who will build you up,
not tear you down.
•Read a book.

58. How to become a person of
faith and confidence
•Research, memorize and
meditate on key verses
•Surround yourself with
people who will build you up,
not tear you down.
•Read a book.
•Feel the fear; do it anyway.

59. Feel the fear; do it
anyway.
•Revelation 2:4–5 (NIV2011) Yet I
hold this against you: You have
forsaken the love you had at
first. 5 Consider how far you
have fallen! Repent and do the
things you did at first. If you do
not repent, I will come to you
and remove your lampstand
from its place.

61. 1 John 4:18
(NIV2011)
There is no fear
in love. But
perfect love