2. Family Life Cycle
• Pre marriage/Engagement
• Established
• A new couple
• A new parent/family with a new baby
• Family with pre school age child
• Family with shool age child
• Family with teenagers/adolescence
• Family as a launching centre/with adult children
• Aging family
3. Parenting life stages
• Infant and parents stage
- Parents functional pattern :
Nurturing,protecting, caring for infant
Infant’s functional pattern : total dependency on
parent
- Parents disfunctional pattern : child
rejection,negligence, or abuse
Infant’s disfunctional pattern : regression and
withdrawal from forming relationships with parents
4. Younger child and parents stage
• Parents functional pattern : Adjustment of triadic
relation to provision of behavior model for child to
imitate
Provision of appropriate restrictions and limitations
• Child’s funcional pattern: Achieving psychological
separation from parents Achieving autonomy
, mirrroring and imitating parents’
behavior, mastering omnipotent wish
5. Lanjutan Younger and .....
• Parents’ disfunctional patterns : Inability to let
child gradually separate from parents
• Child ‘s functional pattern : Prolonged
symbiotic relation with parents
6. Older child and parents’ stage
• Parents’ functional pattern : Sensitivity to
child’s gr owth needs, Provision of
opportunities for child to do things for self
within child’s abilities, Letting child go and
grow, Enjoying life through child’s experience.
• Child’s functional pattern: Search for
indivuduality.
7. Lanjutan older child and parent...
• Parents’ dysfunctional pattern s : Insensitive
to child’s growth, Inhibition or limitation of
child’s individuality,
• Child’s disfunctional patterns : Failure to seek
individuality.
8. Adolescent and parents’ stage
• Parents’ f unctional patterns : Provision of
assistance in establishment of role and
identity, Toleration and compromise of the
cultural gap that may exist between
generations
• Adolescent’s functional patterns :
Development of self image and identity
9. Lanjutan adolescent’s....
• Parents’ disfunctional patterns : Parents feel
their child undervalues them, Unwilling to
negotiate cultural gap with adolescent
• Adolescent’s dysfunctional patterns :
Adolescent believes that parents depreciate
him or her, Adolescent rebels against parents
10. Adult child and parents’ stage
• Parents’ functional patterns : Letting grown-up
child go and be independent, Accepting adult-to-
adult relationships with grown-up child, Standing
by with encouragement,reassurance, and
appreciation
• Child’s functional patterns : Relative
independence from parents, Develop adult- to-
adult relationship with parents, Seek guidance
and support from parents whenever they are
needed.
11. Lanjutan adult ...
• Parents’ dysfunctional patterns :
• Unable to let grown-up child go and be
independent
• Child’s dysfunctional patterns :
Fail to develop adult –to adult relationship
with parents
12. Adult child and aged parents’ stage
• Parents functional patterns :Reverse role to be
taken care of by child
Child’s functional patterns : Reverse role to
take care of age and incapacitated parents
• Parents’ dysfunctional patterns: Resistance to
giving up authoriative role toward grown-up
child, Refusal of help from adult child when
needed
13. Lanjutan adult ....
• Chid’s dysfunctional patterns :
Inabilityto take the reversed role, still
expecting parents to be omniponent,
Rejection and negligence of incapacitated
aged parents when they need help.
