This is from a talk given at the Faith Enrichment Conference of Savannah Presbytery, February 2019. The focus was early content from my upcoming book, "In Defense of Kindness" (2020).
6. Ruling, Teaching,
Deacon, Educator,
Music, Mission, Youth,
Facilities, Worship
Urban, Residential,
Suburban, Rural,
College, Retirement
Under 100, 90, 80, 70,
60, 50, 40, 30, 20
iPhone, Android, MS,
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FB, Twitter, IG, SC,
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WHO ARE YOU?
Hello my name is...
Bruce Reyes-Chow
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7. TODAY
What we are doing
Session 1
Introductions
What is Kindness
Living Kindness
BREAK
Session 2
Prophet
Priest
Pastor
Poet
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8. RULE #1: Butt in.
Ask questions IRL or at on
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RULE #2: Play with stuff.
Please use the all the stuff
while I’m talking.
RULE 3: You do you.
Take food, stretch, toilet
breaks as you need to.
Please.
RULE 4: Take notes.
Or don’t.
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RULES
Invitations to play
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10. There are three ways to
ultimate success:
The first way
— is to be kind.
The second way
— is to be kind.
The third way
— is to be kind.
Rev. Fred Rogers
In Defense of
Kindness
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12. Name the last 2-3 acts of kindness act that you last
witnessed, read, or watched on the internet.
Name the last 2-3 hurtful, hateful, or dehumanising acts
that you last witnessed, read, or or watched in the internet
21. as if you believe this
to be true.
Lens of complex and
created human to
complex and created
human.
To be KIND is...
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22. To be kind is to know that each
person is a created and complex
human being — and then treating
them as if you believe this to be true.
23. Take a moment to read
the questions without
writing anything down.
In silence answer the
following questions.
When Bruce gives the
cue, share in groups.
Report back interesting
ideas, thoughts, etc.Bruce Reyes-Chow
@breyeschow
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INTROVERT TIME
Five Minutes
24. What are the biggest obstacles to KINDNESS in the world?
How else do you define KINDNESS?
Where do you see KINDNESS most expressed in the world?
When is the last time someone has shown you KINDNESS?
26. Commodity
Competition
Privilege
Our Brains
Our Bodies
Our Faith
Conflict
Those Closest to UsT
The Public Square
The Everyday
Resistance
Walking Away
Forgiveness
Saviorism
The Internet
Social Commentary
When Kindness is Not Possible
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KINDNESS AS...
How it plays out
37. We must give up the
belief that there is only
one best way to be kind
one best strategy,
one best approach;
— mine.
MY WAY
OUR WAY
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38. We must embody the
idea that we need
multiple approaches in
order to overcome
hatred, conflict, and
brokeness.
GIFTS
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39. We must be more
deliberate and challenge
the “Jesus didn’t call us
to be successful, Jesus
calls us to be faithful.”
narrative when it comes
to fighting injustice.
40. “Feeling good, not engaging in violence, or being
willing to die, when you have not achieved the
goals of your struggle, does not change the fact
that you have failed.”
Gene Sharp (1928-2018)
41. From rigidly defined and bounded ways of
being and doing to fluid, overlapping, and
broad postures of engagement.
44. ACTIVIST
INSTIGATOR
TELLER OF TRUTH
...but, “too angry.”
One who speaks truth to
power despite the
discomfort created and
in order to cause
disruption.
PROPHET
Ways of jesus
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46. ACADEMIC
RITUALIST
TENDER OF THE SPIRIT
… but, “out of touch.”
The one who calls the
community to memory
and mindfulness.
PRIEST
Ways of jesus
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48. RELATER
CURATOR
CONVENER OF VOICES
...but, “too nice.”
The one who nurtures
community and calls it
into transformational
conversation.
PASTOR
Ways of jesus
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50. ARTIST
CREATOR
INSPIRER OF DREAMS
...but, “too out there.”
The one calls and
inspires the Spirit to be
active in the community.
POET
Ways of jesus
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53. Take a moment to read
the questions without
writing anything down.
In silence answer the
following questions.
When Bruce gives the
cue, share in groups.
Report back interesting
ideas, thoughts, etc.Bruce Reyes-Chow
@breyeschow
#pcusa
INTROVERT TIME
Ten Minutes
54. How does is your KINDNESS lived out through these lenses?
Who, in your life, has modeled KINDNESS through the lens
of: prophet, pastor, priest, or poet?
How might you be more intentionally KIND?
Which of the four Ps do you naturally gravitate towards?
55. What commonalities did
you hear: struggles,
successes, perspectives?
What do you want to
affirm that you heard in
your group?
Any “aha” moments?
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GROUP SHARING
What did you hear?