LGBTQ Parents as Activists in Canada
Canada is a global leader in LGBTQ parenting equity issues – but we aren’t done. In this presentation, Andy Inkster draws connections to equity struggles based in reproductive justice originated by women of colour in the US.
In a context of global societal homophobia and transphobia, parenting is one of the flashpoints for homophobic repression.
Through intersectional analysis and work, LGBTQ family activists here in Canada can work with LGBTQ parents on a global level - whether in partnership with LGBTQ family activists and advocates globally, or with LGBTQ parents who are newcomers to Canada.
Andy Inkster (Toronto, Canada) is the Health Promoter for the LGBTQ Parenting Network and a trans parent to one child. Andy has been working on community initiatives to support queer and trans parents for over a decade.
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WorldPride Human Rights Conference
1. LGBTQ Parents as
Activists & Advocates in Canada
WorldPride Human Rights Conference
June 25 2014
Andy Inkster, MA
Health Promoter, LGBTQ Parenting Network
Sherbourne Health Centre, Toronto
333 Sherbourne Street, Toronto, Ontario M5A 2S5 • (416) 324-4100 ext. 5276 • ainkster@sherbourne.on.ca
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2. Overview
History of LGBTQ parenting in Canada
Where are we now?
Where are we going?
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3. Why this matters:
Canada is a global leader in LGBTQ parenting equity
issues – but we aren’t done
Drawing connections to equity struggles based in
reproductive justice
In a context of global societal homophobia and
transphobia, parenting is one of the flashpoints for
homophobic repression
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4. Global & Local Context
Toronto District School Board
Russia – restrictions and limitations placed on parents
United States
Activists and advocacy groups advocating for same sex
marriage on the basis of benefit to children
Opposition to same sex marriage on the same basis
*This Week* UN Human Rights Council Resolution
enshrining heteropatriarchal family
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5. History of LGBTQ Parenting
in Canada
Challenges for parents coming out
Lesbians and queer women often lost custody of their
kids
Trans people routinely lost custody and were
pathologized
Gay men struggled with coming out (or not to)
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7. Adoption
Children’s Aid Society – Toronto
1994: 20 years of having a lesbian and gay inclusion
policy
2014: open to working with trans families – and
continuing to develop expertise
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8. Assisted Human Reproduction
1980s LBQ cis women begin accessing donor
insemination
2000s GBQ cis men begin accessing donor egg and
surrogacy
2000s trans people begin accessing fertility
preservation and treatment options
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9. Gay Fathers of Toronto
Peer support group since 1978
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Run by and for gay/bi men who are fathers, this group meets every two
weeks.
The goal of the group is to support gay and bisexual men who are
fathers who may be coming out, or who may not be.
http://www.gayfathers-toronto.com/
info@gayfathers-toronto.com
10. The 519
Church Street Community Centre
Queer Parenting Programs
Toronto
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Since the 1980’s has provided family support programs and space for LGBTQ
children and families.
Queer Parenting Programs honours and celebrate our sexual orientations,
gender identities, gender expressions, family configurations, origin stories and
cultures.
More information:
http://www.the519.org/programsservices/familyandchildren/queerparentingprogra
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11. LGBTQ Parenting Network
Sherbourne Health Centre
Toronto
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The LGBTQ Parenting Network supports lesbian, gay,
bisexual, trans, and queer parents, prospective
parents, and their families through training, research,
resource development, and community organizing.
www.LGBTQParentingNetwork.ca
12. Ten Oaks Project
Ottawa
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The Ten Oaks Project engages and connects children and youth
from LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, two-spirit, queer)
communities through programs and activities rooted in play.
Camp Ten Oaks
sleep-away camp for children and youth ages 8-17.
Project Acorn
radical community-building space for youth aged 16-24.
More information: http://www.tenoaksproject.org/
13. Resources
Brochures, booklets, & info sheets from
LGBTQ Parenting Network:
LGBT Adoption in Ontario (booklet)
Assisted Human Reproduction Guidebook
lgbtqpn.ca/resources
Features resources from LGBTQ PN and other
organizations
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Joint programs of Queer Parenting Programs at
The 519 Church Street Community Centre and the
LGBTQ Parenting Network at Sherbourne Health Centre.
Dykes Planning Tykes
This course emphasizes donor insemination, adoption,
and co-parenting for lesbian, bi, and queer-identified
women.
12 week & Weekend Intensive
Daddies & Papas 2B
Emphasizes adoption, surrogacy, and co-parenting for
gay, bi, and queer-identified men.
12 week
Queer & Trans Family Planning(s)
Depends on participant interest and need.
Weekend
Family Planning Courses
16. Support
Still trying – LGBTQ Fertility Support Group
- LGBTQ people often inhabit a grey zone – neither
infertile, nor fertile
- Infertility is very stressful
- (in)fertility support groups and
resources tend to be heterocentric
and cisnormative
- This group meets monthly in Toronto
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17. Where are we going?
Reproductive Justice
Poly parents
Youth
Queer
Rural / Urban
Trans
Race
Class
Newcomers
Sex Workers
Kinky parents
Disability
Intersectionality
18. Reproductive Justice
The right to:
not have children
have children
to parent the children we have in
safe and healthy environments
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19. Abortion rights & Abortion access
Sex education & Contraception
Reproductive technology
Pregnancy & birth care
Adoption
Legal right to parent
Safe housing & neighbourhoods
Safety from police & social services
Intersectional
Reproductive Justice
20. Pregnancy involvement rates are
higher among LGBTQ youth than
among straight cisgender youth
How can we support LGBTQ youth parents?
How can we support those who choose not to
parent?
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Intersections - age
21. US: parenting rates are higher
among racialized LGBTQ people
than white LGBTQ people.
How can we mobilize around LGBTQ parenting
work around antiracism?
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Intersections - race
22. US: Parenting rates are higher
among same-sex couples in more
rural states.
How do we engage with those who live in
small towns or rural communities?
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Intersections - urbanity
23. US: LGBTQ families are more
likely to be poor than other
families.
How can we work across class?
How can we reduce inequality?
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Intersections - Class
24. In order to advocate for
themselves, LGBTQ people must
feel entitled to a better world.
How can we help LGBTQ people in feel
entitled?
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Entitlement
25. Andy Inkster
Health Promoter
LGBTQ Parenting Network
Sherbourne Health Centre
333 Sherbourne Street
Toronto, ON
M5A 2S5
www.LGBTQParentingNetwork.ca
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(416) 324-4100 ext. 5276
ainkster@sherbourne.on.ca
/LGBTQPN
@LGBTQPN
Editor's Notes
LGBTQ Parents as Activists in Canada This panel will draw together activists from around Canada to speak about how their activism and advocacy work is informed by their experiences as queer parents. The panel will focus on activism and advocacy issues related to LGBTQ parenting. Central to the conversation amongst LGBTQ family activists in Canada are issues around family formation and recent legislative changes. Recent changes to Canadian legislation that mandate and explicitly favour openness in adoption, and increased regulation of assisted human reproduction, have had and will continue to have broad implications for LGBTQ parents and our communities. Other issues faced by activists include ongoing support for the children of our communities, particularly outside of major urban centres. Parent activists are also engaging with schools as both the central site of socialization for our children, and as social structures that shape Canadian society and can play a pivotal role in eliminating homophobia, heterocentrism, and cissexism.
Andy Inkster (Toronto, Canada) is the Health Promoter for the LGBTQ Parenting Network and a trans parent to one child. Andy has been working on community initiatives to support queer and trans parents for over a decade.
Andy Inkster, MA is the Health Promoter for the LGBTQ Parenting Network, Sherbourne Health Centre. In his work, Andy creates resources and develops educational and community-building opportunities for LGBTQ parents and prospective parents. He is one of the co-facilitators of Queer & Trans Family Planning(s), a family planning course developed in partnership between The 519 Church Street Community Centre and the LGBTQ Parenting Network. A queer and trans parent himself, Andy has been involved in queer and trans family planning work since 2005 as a member of the Trans Fathers 2B working group.
Other ideas?
Other ideas?
History of LGBTQ parenting – despite media attention on the “new” LGBTQ families, our communities have always included parents.
Alison Wearing’s book “Confessions of a a Fairy’s Daughter” – growing up with a gay dad discusses many of these themes.
In the book, which is a memoir of Wearing’s 1980s childhood, the story is told from her perspective, that of her mother, and that of her father, her father is married to her mother and coming out in his own time and his own way.
Their family lives in Peterborough, Ontario, about a three hour drive from Toronto, and her father moves between the small-town of Peterborough life and the life of a gay man in Toronto.
His coming out journey is supported by Gay Fathers of Toronto – a group which is still in existence.
The changes at the level of policy and procedure at CAS have come about through activism and advocacy work by LGBTQ parenting organizations and individuals.
Pregnancy, assisted human reproduction, and fertility preservation remains controversial for trans people
A central issue with AHR has been and remains access – both financial since most AHR is not covered by public or private insurance, and rural/urban divides – in urban centres, people have many options, and those who live rurally may have none
This is an example of a grass roots organization – while GFT isn’t currently involved in activism or advocacy work, their main function is supporting their members, carrying out this work is itself an act of activism.
Based on principles of social justice
Handout for the family planning courses
We’ll move on now to where we are going and the value systems that our efforts //must// be based on.
RJ is fundamentally a movement begun by women of colour, in the United States, in the context of extensive discussion by white women about access to abortion.
All of these are part of reproductive justice – we must work intersectionally.In reproductive justice, intersectional work is not an added challenge or an extra complication – it is at the heart of the RJ framework
This is for a variety of complicated reasons, including:- Trans youth may not think of their sexual behaviour as putting them at risk of pregnancy
Lesbian or queer women who have sex with men may be less likely to use oral contraception or Nuvaring or similar
Gay/bi/queer male youth may be under pressure to prove their heterosexuality
Finally, heterosexual sexual behaviour may be about proving they aren’t LGBTQ
This is for a variety of complicated reasons, including:- Trans youth may not think of their sexual behaviour as putting them at risk of pregnancy
Lesbian or queer women who have sex with men may be less likely to use oral contraception or Nuvaring or similar
Gay/bi/queer male youth may be under pressure to prove their heterosexuality
Finally, heterosexual sexual behaviour may be about proving they aren’t LGBTQ
The reality is in smaller centres, the LGBTQ programming may be run by the local AIDS service organization or the local youth or women’s organization – there aren’t specific LGBTQ services.
One area that is emerging is access to webinars.
Organizing with individuals across urban/rural divides.