Case Study Taming Tony the Tiger Anthony (Tony the Tiger) Tarantella is a conscientious and assertive man who has always liked working in groups. In addition to being a member of a large family and group of friends, he enjoys playing Tuesday night basketball games on a neighborhood team and making Saturday morning food deliveries for Meals on Wheels. At work, Tony manages the sales and advertising department for a small business. For the last 20 years, his group experiences have been positive and enjoyable. In the last few years, however, he has sensed a change in his feelings and commitment to several groups. The members of his basketball team often miss games, saying they're too tired, too busy, or too injured to play. His solo drives to deliver Meals on Wheels have become lonely. On the job, he seems to have less time to complete more work. His young and less experienced colleagues respect his expertise, but he no longer gets a boost from working with them. Tony understands that things have changed. His family has grown up, and he has less control over their lives. Some of his close friends have moved out of the neighborhood. Retirement has claimed several of his best coworkers. He also recognizes that his way of working may not be in sync with the work styles of others. He can tell that some staff members don't like his insistence on establishing clear schedules and meeting all deadlines. He knows he becomes aggravated and critical when a basketball game is cancelled, a Meals on Wheels schedule is changed, or someone makes a last-minute request for an advertisement. He finds himself losing patience with his wife and kids when they change plans without telling him. To make matters worse, everyone knows he's frustrated, but he can't seem to tone down his judgmental reactions. A few times, he's lost his temper over small issues and had to apologize for his behavior. Tony decides he needs to take a good look at himself to help figure out how to recapture his commitment to group work. Questions: 1) Which dialectic tensions help explain the problems Tony is experiencing as he works in groups? 2) How can Tony balance his interaction style and become more assertive than aggressive? Case Study Taming Tony the Tiger Anthony (Tony the Tiger) Tarantella is a conscientious and assertive man who has always liked working in groups. In addition to being a member of a large family and group of friends, he enjoys playing Tuesday night basketball games on a neighborhood team and making Saturday morning food deliveries for Meals on Wheels. At work, Tony manages the sales and advertising department for a small business. For the last 20 years, his group experiences have been positive and enjoyable. In the last few years, however, he has sensed a change in his feelings and commitment to several groups. The members of his basketball team often miss games, saying they're too tired, too busy, or too injured to play. His solo drives to deliver Meals on Wheels have .

1. Case Study
Taming Tony the Tiger
Anthony (Tony the Tiger) Tarantella is a conscientious and assertive man who has always
liked working in groups. In addition to being a member of a large family and group of
friends, he enjoys playing Tuesday night basketball games on a neighborhood team and
making Saturday morning food deliveries for Meals on Wheels. At work, Tony manages
the sales and advertising department for a small business. For the last 20 years, his
group experiences have been positive and enjoyable.
In the last few years, however, he has sensed a change in his feelings and commitment
to several groups. The members of his basketball team often miss games, saying they're
too tired, too busy, or too injured to play. His solo drives to deliver Meals on Wheels
have become lonely. On the job, he seems to have less time to complete more work. His
young and less experienced colleagues respect his expertise, but he no longer gets a
boost from working with them.
Tony understands that things have changed. His family has grown up, and he has less
control over their lives. Some of his close friends have moved out of the neighborhood.
Retirement has claimed several of his best coworkers. He also recognizes that his way of
working may not be in sync with the work styles of others. He can tell that some staff
members don't like his insistence on establishing clear schedules and meeting all
deadlines. He knows he becomes aggravated and critical when a basketball game is
cancelled, a Meals on Wheels schedule is changed, or someone makes a last-minute
request for an advertisement. He finds himself losing patience with his wife and kids
when they change plans without telling him. To make matters worse, everyone knows
he's frustrated, but he can't seem to tone down his judgmental reactions. A few times,
he's lost his temper over small issues and had to apologize for his behavior. Tony
decides he needs to take a good look at himself to help figure out how to recapture his
commitment to group work.
Questions:
1) Which dialectic tensions help explain the problems Tony is experiencing as he works
in groups?
2) How can Tony balance his interaction style and become more assertive than
aggressive?
Case Study
Taming Tony the Tiger
Anthony (Tony the Tiger) Tarantella is a conscientious and assertive man who has always
liked working in groups. In addition to being a member of a large family and group of
friends, he enjoys playing Tuesday night basketball games on a neighborhood team and
making Saturday morning food deliveries for Meals on Wheels. At work, Tony manages

2. the sales and advertising department for a small business. For the last 20 years, his
group experiences have been positive and enjoyable.
In the last few years, however, he has sensed a change in his feelings and commitment
to several groups. The members of his basketball team often miss games, saying they're
too tired, too busy, or too injured to play. His solo drives to deliver Meals on Wheels
have become lonely. On the job, he seems to have less time to complete more work. His
young and less experienced colleagues respect his expertise, but he no longer gets a
boost from working with them.
Tony understands that things have changed. His family has grown up, and he has less
control over their lives. Some of his close friends have moved out of the neighborhood.
Retirement has claimed several of his best coworkers. He also recognizes that his way of
working may not be in sync with the work styles of others. He can tell that some staff
members don't like his insistence on establishing clear schedules and meeting all
deadlines. He knows he becomes aggravated and critical when a basketball game is
cancelled, a Meals on Wheels schedule is changed, or someone makes a last-minute
request for an advertisement. He finds himself losing patience with his wife and kids
when they change plans without telling him. To make matters worse, everyone knows
he's frustrated, but he can't seem to tone down his judgmental reactions. A few times,
he's lost his temper over small issues and had to apologize for his behavior. Tony
decides he needs to take a good look at himself to help figure out how to recapture his
commitment to group work.
Questions:
1) Which dialectic tensions help explain the problems Tony is experiencing as he works
in groups?
2) How can Tony balance his interaction style and become more assertive than
aggressive?