I share the most common tarot cards that come up when reading for questions about relationships with issues of trust, respect, uncertainty, or power imbalances.

1. 5 Ways
He’s just not
that into you
the
Cards
can
tell
you...

2. “He’s Just Not That Into You”
This was the title of a 2004 book by Greg Behrendt, a
writer on the show Sex and the City
Lots of people who want tarot readings want to know: is
he (or she) really interested, or not?
When you’re wondering about that romantic partner of
yours, and why he/she isn’t calling, isn’t following up,
and when words aren’t matching actions ...

3. Cards Can’t Solve Your Problems, But...
They can point out for you some potential root causes,
factors, circumstances, and questions to look at
regarding your situation.
They can bring issues to light, and often they are
truths you already know, but are avoiding or
denying.
They can show you if he or she is just not that into
you.

4. What Cards Will Show Me That?
I’ve chosen the five that I see most often
Each of these tackles a subtle issue involved when a
partnership is more or less one-sided
If you see one of these cards in a reading, or if when
you look at these images something “clicks” for you,
it might be time to reconsider the balance in your
romantic relationship. READY?
LET’S GO!

5. 1)Heartbreak Hotel: The 3 of Swords
This card is nearly always like a blinking neon sign to
the querent, especially when it shows up in the
position of “What do I need to know about [insert
sketchy romantic partner here]”?
We see a heart being pierced. Your heart is being hurt.
This card comes up a lot when there’s another
person in the situation: the proverbial “other
woman,” or a love triangle (remember, three’s a
crowd)

6. 1)Heartbreak Hotel: The 3 of Swords
It doesn’t necessarily have to be a third person,
however; it can also represent a situation or a
challenge that is tearing a couple apart or standing
between them.
It’s a card that confirms that a matter of the heart
needs to be clarified.
Needless to say, it traditionally signals betrayal and
heartbreak.

7. 2) Winners and Losers: The 5 of Swords
Don’t be fooled into thinking this is necessarily a man.
The person taking action in any card could equally
be a man or a woman.
This card is about getting manipulated, taken
advantage of, or basically coming out of a situation
without having anything to show for it.
In the context of a relationship question, it points to a
selfishness that can create a serious imbalance in
the partnership.

8. 2) Winner and Losers: The 5 of Swords
If the 5 of Swords comes up in a spread position
representing the partner, they could even be a
smooth talker, a very charming person, but the
message of the card is to stay aware, because they
are likely to take what they want and need without
much regard to how they come by it.
This partner wants to win at any cost, and will even
step on feelings to get there.

9. 2) Winner and Losers: The 5 of Swords
If the 5 of Swords comes up in a spread position
representing the partner, they could even be a
smooth talker, a very charming person, but the
message of the card is to stay aware, because they
are likely to take what they want and need without
much regard to how they come by it.
This partner wants to win at any cost, and will even
step on feelings to get there.

10. 3) Getting Away With It: The 7 of Swords
We have someone trying to “get away with something”
and for all intents and purposes, at least in this
image, he or she seems to be succeeding.
When this relates to a romantic partner, watch out for
cheating or some sort of hidden deception, trickery,
or trying to pull the wool over your eyes.

11. 3) Getting Away With It: The 7 of Swords
This card in a relationship is a signpost telling you to
ask questions if you have doubts, and if your
suspicions continue, examine the reasons why you
have them, to try to trace whether or not they’re
valid.

12. 4) Giving and Taking: The 6 of Pentacles
While this can be a nice card of charity or generosity,
when it comes up in a questionable relationship
situation, it often refers to an imbalance in the
relationship between who’s doing the giving and
who’s taking.
When the querent identifies with the beggar getting
change, or the other beggar not getting anything,
we can ask them about the dynamics of the
relationship.

13. 4) Giving and Taking: The 6 of Pentacles
Is one partner doing all the giving in the relationship,
and then having to beg for whatever “crumbs” of
affection come their way? Do they feel “put down”
by their partner, or in a position of inferiority?
Can highlight questions of insecurity regarding money
and earning differentials among partners as well,
but most often seems to point to codependent-type
relationship situations.

14. 5a) Time to Move On: The 6 of Swords
This card shows when it’s time to be “moving on” in
the context of sorrowful retreat: perhaps there was
an intellectual or rational or mentality conflict that
couldn’t be overcome; perhaps there were excessive
disagreements and arguments
It’s time to move away from the situation to
something new, something better, something more
promising.

15. 5b) Time to Move On: The 8 of Cups
This card shows when it’s time to be “moving on” in
the context of having already tried everything else:
The 9th cup is missing. Something wasn’t there, and
there wasn’t any way to fix it.
You walk away full-well knowing that there was a lot
there to build upon, but that it wasn’t enough.
It involves our emotions on a deep level (Cups)
because we have to leave behind what we’ve
invested our heart in.

16. Remember … YOU choose your next move
These cards highlight the personal responsibility that
we always have in our lives: the ability to choose our
actions consciously
Forewarned is forearmed, as they say.

17. Remember … YOU choose your next move
These cards highlight the personal responsibility that
we always have in our lives: the ability to choose our
actions consciously
Forewarned is forearmed, as they say.

18. Cards can help us think
things through,
to determine if we really
want what we have.

19. And if we decide we don’t
want what we have, cards can
show us how to gracefully
move forward and take what
we’ve learned forward with
us.

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