1.Boost your self-esteem
Finding the Right Person?
• Fall in love and find the right person you must
first have confidence and love invested in
yourself. People with self-confidence tend to
have happier and longer lasting relationships
than those that don't. It might seem hard to
suddenly start loving yourself, but it's an
important component of a strong relationship.
There's no right answer for why you
want to fall in love, but there are some
reasons that aren't good and that
indicate a deeper problem. There's
nothing wrong with wanting to have a
loving relationship, but basing your self
worth on the success of such a
relationship will place too much pressure
on the other person and ultimately
No, don't make a list of exact specifications
detailing the hair color, job, schooling level,
and personality of your potential significant
other. You're not going to ever find an exact
match, but you should acknowledge the basics
of what you're looking for.
Of course, to be able to find someone with
whom to fall in love, you're going to need to go
out and meet people. This doesn't mean you
have to be a big part animal, or that you have
to do things that you're not entirely
comfortable with, but it's a good idea to at
least try and get out of your comfort zone a
Open yourself to new
Doing things that
you might not
done can help foster
a sense of
excitement for you,
as well as take you
comfort zone to
meet different kinds
Even if you've been going to parties and your
friends have been introducing you to plenty of
fun, attractive people, you should still expect
the process to take some time. Be patient. It
can take years to find the right person. Along
the way, you may find people that you think
are right for you, but turn out not to be. Use
these opportunities as learning experiences.
Eventually, you'll get a sense for the kind of
person you're looking for.
So after you've found someone you're interested
in and could see yourself falling in love, you'll need
to talk with them about this. In short, you'll need
to ask them out and see if the interest is returned.
It might be a little nerve-wracking, since you're
opening yourself up, but finding love means
taking emotional risks.
Falling in love means opening
yourself up to the other person
emotionally. It's about taking a risk
and being open and vulnerable
with another person. It can be
scary to lay yourself open like that,
but it's the only way to deepen a
Intimate compatibility is
incredibly important to
ensuring a loving
connection (and this
doesn't mean sex,
necessarily). Look at the
person you're with and
see how closely
connected the two of you
Trying to force yourself or another person to
fall in love won't work and will simply make
you or them resent the relationship,
eventually. Falling in love is, in a sense, letting
go of control. Be open what the other person
is feeling about the relationship, as well as
what you want from it.
Trusting your partner is one of the keys to
staying in love and staying in a relationship.
Without trust, the relationship becomes a ticking
time bomb and not something you want to be a
Don’t constantly second-guess them or question their
motives. Trust them and show them that you trust
them. Love can’t exist long-term in a relationship that
doesn’t have trust. Show your significant other that you
are a safe haven, where they can find and give trust
without having to worry that they will get hurt.
All relationships have conflict.
You aren't going to agree with
your significant other all the
time, but dealing with your
argument in the right manner
will mean that the relationship
is more likely to last.
There's no tried and true way to know
you're in love. People often say you'll just
'know' if you're love, but there are some
things that indicate you're heading that
direction, if not already there.
Honesty is often embarrassing or confronting. It requires
clarity of thought, very carefully chosen words of candor
and a commitment not to stray from the facts (keeping
away from the minefield of emotional interpretations).
Other reasons for lying include covering up your own
weaknesses, maintaining compromises that make life easier
to cope with and avoiding getting into trouble. And many
people have been raised to see honesty as too "blunt" or
"rude"; yet rather than being an issue of etiquette, this
stems from a misunderstanding as to how to put forward
honest messages compassionately. There is a world of
difference between being tactless and being considerately
and respectfully open.